SMEP - feel free to join! :)

[danielasummer]

Hi everyone, just making this thread as it seems a few of us will be trying SMEP to TTC! Adding these lovely ladies in from another thread but I hope everyone feels free to join! All welcome :)

@Devgirl31 @fayy123 @NCON @MrsKJW19

Some stats about me:

TTC #1
27 years old, DH is 28 years old
Missed miscarriage in October 2019 at 7+2 weeks
Still in that cycle (no AF yet)
Long and irregular cycles, some anovulatory
Suspected low progesterone/hypothyroidism (I think this based on symptoms, not diagnosed yet!)

Hope we can all provide support for each other in this crazy TTC journey.

Feel free to introduce yourselves :)

@paintfairy Thank you!

@Lucy5546 i know its actually not that faint! How far are you now x

@Shazzzzz congratulations! Tell us about your relaxed approach...I'd happily never do another opk again, am sick of the things!!

@Shazzzzz no it looks very strong. How many DPO are you now? The relaxed approach seems to work best. I did that in dwcember and it worked for me too. Im so thrilled for you. Im nearly 11 weeks now. Just waiting on my scan to confirm dates though. Longest wait of my life!!

@Lucy5546 to be honest i dont know! I didnt do any O tests, ive not been checking CM or symptom spotting. The only thing that i thought was weird is my boobs have been sore for over a week and normally that happens a couple of days before AF but i waited and shes not here, then remembered im going out tomorrow so i thought it couldnt hurt to do a test just incase 🤷🏽‍♀️

@Lnix i basically just stopped over thinking it, and had regular sex🤣 didn't do any ovulation test as they stressed me out last month so scrapped them not good for my health it was putting me down never getting a positive!! And last month i was obsessing over pregnancy tests and did around 10 before i accepted it was negative. I just relaxed and let nature do its thing and looks like it did 🙊

I think it can get so stressful and that cant be good for your body, time has gone quicker too when i let go and thought what will be will be xx

@Shazzzzz i was the exact same the month i conceived. Took a step back from symptom spotting and researching everything. Its mad how the body and mind work. Hope it all works out for you this month. Keep us updated

@Lucy5546 it is! Thank you 🤞 and i will do 😄

OMG @Shazzzzz I realise I'm late to the party but WOOOOOOHOO congratulations lovely!!!!!! Eeeeek so happy for you and an amazing line! Ahh that's made my Friday - brings so much hope to this thread. How are you feeling? xx

@JoesM12 hi lovely, how are you getting on? Have you tried the soft cups and preseed? I've used preseed a few times but we don't normally use lube so I'm not sure how much of a different it'll make for us really. I guess I don't have much cm so it might help in that way. Sorry you weren't successful last month, fingers crossed for this month - a few of us seem to be taking the relaxed approach and it's paying off with all of the BFPs lately! Exciting that we'll be testing around the same time! I'll be testing when my period is a day late, so either the 28th or 29th :)

@ChampooPapi bless you, you are so bloody lovely. You too are extremely brave. I'm so glad you're feeling back to normal. There is no time-stamp for what we have been through. We're on this journey together, wherever this journey may take us. P.S. I don't feel overly brave at the minute though - unfortunately I have developed a phobia for ultrasound scans and I have to have one in a few weeks (I've found a lump under my armpit so my gp wants me to have a scan just in case, but I'm not worried) so trying to muster up my emotional strength for that.

@Lnix 2 or 3 times a day is about right. The follicular phase (days before ovulation) can vary cycle to cycle based on stress, illness, lots of factors, so don't worry if your O date is a few days later than normal. Hope you got lots of DTD in! I certainly have haha, trying to cover all bases. Have seen a marginal temp rise so hoping I did actually O. Did you look into the Natural Cycles app? Also I'm loving the more relaxed posts too! :)

@paintfairy have you got a picture of your chart? That sounds confusing about your OPK, although you may have ovulated in a short window after the positive OPK?

@danielasummer i dont feel like its real🙈 it will probably sink in in a few weeks, im testing everyday to see the line get darker 🤞 how are you doing? Xx

@danielasummer Here it is. I'm furious i woke at 4am today. So I'm none the wiser. It was 36.38 at 4am and 36.68 at 6.35am but I'd only been asleep an hour! Same thing happened on that missed day on my chart. So it makes it difficult.
I've also attached my opks.

@Shazzzzz ahh bless you. I'm really so so happy for you 😁 are you planning on telling people or waiting? I'm good thank you. Just happy I've got a static smiley to be honest haha x

@paintfairy had you had more than 3 hours solid sleep at 4am? If so, count that one as normal. I never go by wake up times and have tracked for years. I always go by the longest stretch of sleep, as long as it's 3 or more hours. That should still allow you to find and follow your temp pattern x

@danielasummer yes I think I had. Thir dsy I didn't input cd10 was 36.56. Which looks pretty much correct. However that would make 36.38 low for today because it should be going up now? Rarely/never do I ovulate after day 13 (today). So I can't work out if it's today or happened the other day or what. 😂 Been DTD anyway.

@danielasummer im waiting until 12 weeks but i couldnt make everyone on here wait that long 🤣 im dying to tell people to be honest so at least on here its taken away some of the urge to shout it out 😂 oh good, baby dust to you and everyone on here hopefully this is your month 🤞🍀

@paintfairy I would still input it as FF should be able to find a pattern at some point. It will discard it by itself (I think?) if it's super out the ordinary. Don't quote me on that though, but I'm sure I've read that. Just keep DTD I guess until there are 3 high temps. x

@Shazzzzz I'm so glad you told us - I can imagine you're bursting! Really great news. Keep us updated x

@Shazzzzz congratulations lovely news 😁. Nice to see some more bfp sending lots of baby dust to those still waiting 😘 xx

@danielasummer i will do, ill be following this thread for all the BFP to come 🍀

@HE88 Thank you 🤩 x

@Shazzzzz awwwww congratulations!!! You must be over the moon!!! Did you do anything different this month? I just bought preeseed to try this cycle, as I normally use oil as a lube! how often did you DTD? x

@fayy123 Thank you!! I just relaxed i think that played a big part just being calm and not stressed, we did it every other day/ever day like we did before we started trying but we havent actually dtd for nearly 2 weeks now 🤣 ive enjoyed the break to be honest🤦🏽‍♀️😂

@danielasummer ff is now saying Wednesday. With my crazy temps. Got no periods of sleep last night with more than 2 hours. Annoying.

But it means smep went wrong because I only got my peak OPK Wednesday morning. Hence we didn't do it the day before because I ovulated too quickly after the surge.

@paintfairy how is your chart looking today? Can you post an updated photo of it?

Mine is saying I ovulated Thursday now. My sleeping has been erratic too but luckily I got at least 3 hours. x

@danielasummer I think I'm too stressed to sleep! Never got more than 2 hours in one go all night. So still no accurate temp. Usually it's about 36.80 by now. It's still saying Wednesday though.

@paintfairy try not to go by what it normally is. For example this month my post ov temps are so low (36.1 - 36.2) when usually they are 36.4 - 36.6. I think they can change cycle to cycle. I would say that your CM and OPK showed you did ovulate on the Wednesday but even if you did ovulate on the Friday (as may be indicated by higher temps) you have covered yourself enough with DTD x

@danielasummer True. Next month I think I'm not going to obsess over it. Just get on with DTD around the right time. Otherwise my brain goes into meltdown!

Omg. Even more confused now. Still not sleeping. And I spotted last night? So now I'm wondering if that was ovulation? I'm which case, I'm confused. Lol. Peak OPK was wed. Temp today is slightly lower than yesterday.

@danielasummer how are you doing? I have lost track of your AF due date, but I know your cycles have been a bit all over the place. I'm due on Sunday/Monday. I havnt done any sex now for a week, just couldn't be bothered to do smep this month. Managed a couple of times before when my ovulation could have been, and did do some sexy stuff post period the previous weekend.

I know it only takes once so hopes are getting higher as each day passes, when my period shows up early I'll be glad to have you and the after miscarriage thread. I'll probably take another break for a couple of weeks then log back on for the two week wait , Im finding that's really worked for me this cycle, and has done my mental health the world of good.