SMEP - feel free to join! :)

[danielasummer]

Hi everyone, just making this thread as it seems a few of us will be trying SMEP to TTC! Adding these lovely ladies in from another thread but I hope everyone feels free to join! All welcome :)

@Devgirl31 @fayy123 @NCON @MrsKJW19

Some stats about me:

TTC #1
27 years old, DH is 28 years old
Missed miscarriage in October 2019 at 7+2 weeks
Still in that cycle (no AF yet)
Long and irregular cycles, some anovulatory
Suspected low progesterone/hypothyroidism (I think this based on symptoms, not diagnosed yet!)

Hope we can all provide support for each other in this crazy TTC journey.

Feel free to introduce yourselves :)

@danielasummer thanks so much. That would be great. I'm going to chalk this one up to maybe just missing the surge as this is the best possibility for my head!! We have been dtd every other day so MAY have caught it. Aw man it must be so frustrating having mad cycles...I feel bad for complaining. Glad you can temp and get confirmation that way. I know I have lots to be grateful for in terms of regular cycles. I haven't tried CB properly. I got a set this month when I got a random result on Monday and it said no surge detected...a sad little empty face. They didn't have the flashing ones available. I didn't do any more of them because it actually made me feel extra rubbish seeing the empty face! When I took the stick out of the thingy the line was def there but it wasn't positive. Anyway...tww begins. I hope! Thanks for chatting with me, really helpful x

@HE88 that's great news. Wishing you luck for your 12 week scan, please do keep us updated! Will you be finding our baby's gender? x

@Lnix no problem at all, will send it over now :) How often did you use the OPKs? As you may have missed your surge if only testing once a day? And what time did you test too? So many variables with those things! Honestly I think you're fine if you've DTD every other day, that's what I'm going for this cycle anyway and if I get flashing smileys on the CB then I will attempt to do every day but I won't push it if DH is too tired or we can't be bothered! I must admit I'm getting a bit annoyed with the empty face (had it for 7 days now) but I just keep thinking, one more day closer to becoming a mum. x

PRAISE THE FREAKING LORD...... 🙌🏻 went from blank circle for 7 days to now static smiley. Is this ok? I pray it is!!

@danielasummer I'm using them for the first time so can't help with that. But I've had my static this morning too!

@paintfairy ooh matching ov days - that would be great! :) How long is your luteal phase? We might be able to match up testing dates (I only ever test when AF is due though) x

@danielasummer 29 feb I reckon I'm due? I won't test though unless AF is late.

Hey @danielasummer, so glad your keeping this thread going as took a few weeks break from mumsnet and got a very warm feeling when I saw it in the conception chat scroll bar.

Hello to all new smep members and all the old hands as well 🙄

I have stopped smep after having sex no less then twenty times last month and not becoming pregnant , I mean what the actual f*#k

And ladies that is with the same male of the species that I have two children with so goes to show that there is a lot of luck involved in it.

So after that insanity we have just been doing it as and when we feel, total relaxed approach and been feeling so much less stressed or worried about becoming pregnant.

Now I'm in the two week wait, though will keep doing that baby dance untill my af when we feel, I can slowly feel the conception desparation creeping in so I'm back for the wonderful support of you all.

To bonfire night or Christmas babies ladies 🌈♥️👣

@paintfairy if I do indeed ovulate (which I'm certain now I will - woohoo!!) then I will be testing around the same time as well. Fingers and toes crossed for us! We'll have to keep each other sane in the TWW!

@ChampooPapi oh this thread is the only thing keeping me going in this journey.. there's no way I'm letting it go haha! Bless you, that was the same as me last cycle - so much sex it was unreal. We were both fed up by the end of it I reckon. So yes, I agree with you that an element of it comes down to luck. I'm really glad you're feeling more relaxed this month and just doing it as and when you feel like it. I think conception desperation ebbs and flows doesn't it? Sometimes I think 'oh I have so much to look forward to in the next few months that it's ok if I don't get pregnant', other times I feel like my womb aches of longing whenever I think of babies. I'm just desperate to be a mum! When is your AF due? Bonfire night or Christmas babies sounds perfect :) x

@ChampooPapi i have done the more relaxed approach this month and feel so much better, i havent done an OPK or anything and everytime its come in my mind ive tried to think about something else. Im in the TTW and AF is due Monday for me so not long 😩😳

@Shazzzzz good for you, it really makes the time go a lot more slower in my opinion checking everything constantly, whether that's checking physical factors or mentally checking. You should be proud and let's stay on this track for March if we don't catch this month.

My period is due around the 23rd/24th of feb, but it has taken the last 4 cycles for my period to kind of function in the normal way. I honestly can't believe I was on here last October after my miscarriage looking for support and wanting to try again. It shows that time passes pretty dam fast, I do look forward to re visiting a lot of the threads I've been on once I'm pregnant again, because it is kind of like a diary in a lot of ways and it'll be pretty incredible to read each stage of the journey.

Good luck to everyone this month, I can probably test in ten days but I'm ok with trying in March, I've found some real inner peace and serenity at last but it has taken 4 months so anyone who has been through the same thing, give yourself a break, it takes a lot longer to get over a miscarriage then I ever thought

@ChampooPapi that is such a great way of looking at it. I remember us talking late last year and we sound like totally different people, don't we? My fingers, as always, as crossed for you though and I do think of you often. Again, as always, lashings of baby dust your way.

Also, I second that - be kind to yourself and give yourself a break. As much as I want a baby, I have recently found who I am again after a traumatising few months and that in itself is priceless. x

Hi ladies 😊
Sorry for not keeping up with the chat! I have enjoyed catching up today and seeing how everyone is getting on.
We weren’t successful last month but to be honest we didn’t manage to keep up to smep! My husband was unwell and I think he felt the pressure to perform so neither of us were really feeling it.
We both have been a lot more relaxed this month. We’ve been quite busy and had a weekend away with friends so it’s totally taken my mind off it and I hadn’t taken a single opk until yesterday on CD16. Its much nicer being a lot more relaxed and not stressing about it but it’s certainly easier said than done if you dint have much distraction 🙈

I took another this morning and I got the static smiley same as @danielasummer & @paintfairy 😊 so we are for sure in the two week wait together ladies!! AF is due the 26th and my luteal phase is usually pretty spot on so I’m hoping to hold out to test until at least the 24th!
Fingers crossed for those bonfire night babies ladies ❤️

Is anyone trying anything different this month? I bought some soft cups & some preseed!xx

@ChampooPapi this is a very admirable approach to ttc after a loss ❤️ You should be very proud.
I hope you get your bfp this month lovely ❤️

@danielasummer @JoesM12 so I'm now weeping in bed of course, god you women are just so incredible and just so bloody brave. I am the one who is admiring you all , trust me, I am very fortunate and I just lost my head, and myself, the last few months and I'm now being vaguely normal.

Love to you all ♥️🌈

@danielasummer I had been testing 2 or 3 times a day...but as turns out I got a surge this morning, day 16. I'm usually spot on day 12 so who knows what's going on down there. Glad to see you got your static smily! Go go go! This is a nice thread, I'm enjoying the more relaxed posts! X

Guys!!!! I got my BFP this morning 😭😭😭

My temp (and pains last night) show I might have already ovulated. Which means I missed DTD the day before ovulation as I didn't do it that day! Only got my peak OPK yesterday morning though?

Whatever, I'll carry on and do tonight (did last night). Frustrating though!

@Shazzzzz amazing!!!! Congratulations!!!

@bluemoon2468 Thank you!!!!

@Shazzzzz oh my god!! Amazing news 💜

@Shazzzzz show us the test woman! Boom, the relaxed approach got you there in the end. So happy for you lovely

@ChampooPapi thank you!! I only tested early as im suppost be going for a drink tomorrow 🙈

@Shazzzzz that's a good line, huge congratulations 🙌

@Shazzzzz Congratulations!

@Shazzzzz wow i can never usually see those faint lines. But i can see that one. Major congrats and welcome to the club!!