TWW. AF DUE 30/11 ANYONE ELSE IN THE TWW

[Mothertoone2]

Hey all!

AF is due for me on 30th November, I don't plan on testing early unless there is obvious signs or symptoms. I'm currently 3dpo. Even though I probably won't be able to help myself haha.

Anyone else in the same boat?

welcome @ElizabethBennet3rd! I am currently 6dpo and have had very similar to you - heartburn since 2-3dpo, lost of crampy pressure, backache, and feeling a bit sick. Trying to convince myself its just a bit of a bug so I don't get my hopes up too much! I can't really help with advice other than def too early for a test and you'll only fret about squinting to see lines so try and hold off a few more days, its definitely not all over for the month for you yet!

@Snowberry4 lots of scouring the internet and forums! I'm also trying to exercise/go to the gym more, as when my BFP arrives a bit of extra strength and fitness will probably be really helpful when basically carrying around a giant watermelon for months haha. And trying to clear out some stuff/tidy up at home so that I have room for baby furniture as it's a bit messy at the moment.

As far as keeping things informal/SMEP goes - depends who you ask! My DH would tell you it's informal whereas he doesn't know how precisely i'm tracking it . I think I will give SMEP a go on the next cycle though it does sound exhausting - every other day from CD8 - ovulation day, then 3 days in a row, miss a day, then one more try. It's hardly a revolutionary concept, it's basically just lots of sex really isn't it. But lots of people on here say it worked for them, I ovulated on CD17 this month though so might start a bit later than CD8, that sounds exceptionally early x

Hey @Shuckle thanks for explaining SMEP... I may have to do a bit of investigating if this isn't my month.... gives me something to do during my 2WW so thank you!! X

@nuttypea 🤣 it certainly does make the rodgering more comfortable! I bought preseed about 8 months ago, lost it! And bought fertility check this month which is basically the same thing (I think). This would hopefully be our 3rd DC but second pregnancy, have dtwins.

@ElizabethBennet3rd (love the name!) you have basically describe my symptoms for the last few days, fingers crossed it is actual pregnancy symptoms for both of us!

@ScaredFlamingo well guess who poas after telling you to step away from the tests earlier! And yes you guessed it, bfn of course, what else would you expect at 8dpo

Am thinking if this month is a no go of trying the smep next month, it surely can’t hurt.

Thanks for the welcome ladies! This is all so nerve wracking I feel like it’s such a relief to read everyone’s stories and not feel alone in everything.
We are trying for my 3rd, DHs first, but my DD is 17 and DS 15 so it’s been a long time. I remember nothing! Never thought I’d be here again but something flipped and now it’s all I dream of!
Hope you all get your answers soon. This bit is so hard!
How long have you all been trying?

@ElizabethBennet3rd this will be our 3rd also if we ever manage to get pregnant.

We started trying early in the year but only tried properly for 2 or so months and then got waylaid for a while, this is technically our first proper month trying again although we haven’t been using any protection for the last few months.
We will also have a big age gap (10 years) honestly thought we were done and all of a sudden here we are back into the TTC madness. We struggled to conceive the twins ( 4 years and 6 rounds of clomid ). Want to try just ourselves for a few months first before we go down the route of bloods and scans and all sorts

How stressful knowing you may have a long road. Though I suppose we all might! So jealous of your twins. I would love to have twins. I’m a twin myself, as are my mother and grandmother but so far myself and sister only had singletons.
Do you have any idea when you’ll test? I really hate waiting but also can’t handle the disappointment of BFN over again! We used no protection for the last 3 months and I’ve not been able to track ovulation after coming off DEPO, been all over the place! So obviously driven myself crazy thinking I could be pg any given moment!
This is the first cycle I’m certain I ovulated so I have actual dates to go on, but I know I have to wait!

@ElizabethBennet3rd I'm gonna try my absolute hardest not to test until AF due on 1st December. It's really hard resisting, particularly when I know I have tests upstairs and my hands are itching to get hold of something to pee on - why is the 2WW turning me into an animal wanting to pee on stuff 😂

😂😂totally feel your pain! I’ve caved once already and knew even FRER would be BFN at CD23! Duh! Just want confirmation that these symptoms aren’t in my head! To make matters more interesting, tonight I’ve had a very light pink tinge to the CM. Never had this much CM at this point in a cycle, I just know my body is doing something!
Wish this were easier! Tempting to reach for the wine 🍷!

I’m trying to keep things as light and stress free as possible, myself and DH reckon if no bfp within 6 months then we will get bloods etc done. Definitely don’t want to get as stressed about it as we did before

As for testing, did one today just because it was there 🤦‍♀️ If I got my dates right for ovulation AF is due on the 28th

@Shuckle I’m going to have to follow your example and sit on my hands until the 28th

@ElizabethBennet3rd pink tinge is good, could be implantation 😁 I feel you on the wine, haven't got any at the moment though! Of course you should do what you're comfortable with but I've heard a lot about "drink til it's pink" - until the placenta is forming you can't pass on alcohol to baby so a glass of wine shouldn't do any harm 🍷

@Wackadoodle84 Hahaha! It’s so easy to say “stay away from the tests” and so hard to actually do it lol!

Me and my partner said we’d keep it relaxed... he has no idea how much I think about it haha!

Yes I think if DH knew how much I think about it he would worry for my sanity 🤣

Right so, no more testing until at least AF due date, I may need to lock away the tests !

@ElizabethBennet3rd pink tinged cm sounds very promising !

@wackadoodle84 I’ll get on that plan with you! I can test after Thursday and not before!

Ok so, if you can last then Thursday then so can I ! Will have an array of sticks ready for weeing Thursday morning, that’s if AF doesn’t show up in the mean time

I’m so excited for you ladies! I feel like I’m getting over excited as I’m still only 6 months post DEPO and know that means I could still be pretty all over the place. Just wishful thinking but the boobies are so so sore tonight. Only thing I remember from my other two pregnancies (over 15 years ago 🙈) is the very frequent peeing...which I don’t have at all right now!
How on earth you all manage to resist testing is so beyond me. I’m far too easily swayed! I just hope these symptoms, along with the pinky CM are all good things!
Anyone experience these before only to find AF and not BFP?

Ps...sorry, for some reason I can’t tag those that I’m replying to like the rest of you are! Maybe because I’m using my phone and not the Mac? It’s just only coming up with a few names when I put @ and not those I’m looking for. 🙈 clearly my inexperience at using these forums!

@Wackadoodle84 Yes! Let’s try and hold out...!!! And fingers crossed AF is taking a 9 month holiday!!!

@ElizabethBennet3rd Fingers crossed for you too! And it is sooo hard not to continually test but trying to keep reminding myself of reasons not to; too early, disappointments and £10 a time!! Haha!!
Also sometimes the name doesn’t come up on mine either, I just put @ and then write the name if it’s not in the list!

@ElizabethBennet3rd it doesn't work for me either so I have to memorize the names and spellings and just type it in. Are you using the mums net app? I used the website on one occasion and that seemed to work bit not on the app

Today I'm CD31, 14 days past ovulation confined by CB opk and ultrasound. Pregnancy test Negative this morning so will retest in three days time time. I'm not out until AF shows right?!
Obviously a little gutted but just relieved to not be guessing and symptom spotting for the first day in weeks! I'm more gutted that i may have to go through all this again in a months time and another 2WW close to Christmas, the most stressful time of the year!! It's just physically and emotionally draining agh..

Anyone got any nice plans for the weekend?
Continuing to wish each and everyone of you the very best of luck for some positive results next week. Exciting times hey? Xxxxx

@VaggieMight you have just as much right to be part of this group as everyone else...
I should probs be in the infertility groups but im here trying tl be positive.
I will just say that you hcg levels are consistent with good news.... I found this online "An hCG level of less than 5 mIU/mL is considered negative for pregnancy, and anything above 25 mIU/mL is considered positive for pregnancy. An hCG level between 6 and 24 mIU/mL is considered a grey area, and you'll likely need to be retested to see if your levels rise to confirm a pregnancy"

When I MC at 5 weeks my levels dropped down to around 5mlu 4ish days later...

At least with scans and blood work you know where you stand and it doesnt take long for results to come back. If always found it more reassuring personally.. but perhaps if this isnt our month we can restart a December ttc tread?
We don't always know the right thing to say or the correct answers but we're all here for you.
I'm here if you wanna off load and just vent, PM me x

@VaggieMight that's a really good sign. Got my fingers crossed for you!! Make sure you have some "you" time and try not to worry as hard as it is. Aug/Sep 2020 babies group would be lovely wouldn't it? X x

@VaggieMight you absolutely belong on this thread! I think the single hcg level won’t tell you much on its own but will provide a baseline at least, are they repeating in a few days? Hopefully it will rise nicely and no more spotting, fingers firmly crossed for you. I love the idea of an August thread 😍

@ScaredFlamingo well work is most definitely not distracting me today! Part of my job involves testing other people throughout the day, and I seem to be doing that all day today, on break at the moment and my coffee tastes off which of course I have taken to be a symptom of pregnancy (in reality it prob means we need to change the filter in coffee machine). On a positive note, I have not tested!

@ElizabethBennet3rd the names never come up for me either, I have to keep scrolling back to make sure I’m spelling the names right

Hope everyone else is getting through the 2 we okay

@wackadoodle84 I’m feeling very nauseous today.. almost threw up over my lunch with my Mum (who was eyeing me up suspiciously as I gagged slightly haha!) no one said anything but you could see what she was thinking. I’m trying hard to hold out on testing though!!