Over 40's TTC loads of baby dust to all... 5

[Chatbash72]

Hope this works as we lots the thread

@twinkledag about a dozen, but we tend to not just do it on Ov days.. don't want it to be just about making a baby x

I think I'll definitely up the ubiquinol if this isn't our month. And I'm going to look up Emma Cannon. At the moment, I'm just generally trying to eat healthily and a portion of full fat dairy each day.

@twinkledag in terms of ttc we aim for sperm meets egg plan which is basically every other day till a positive OPK then 3 days in a row then back to every other day. But we do have times where DP is working away and we don't see eachother so much. I guess it works out around 15ish times a month.

I got a v nearly positive OPK yesterday (2pm ish) and told DP to stay where he was working as coming home would have been a 3 hr drive each way and a 4.30am start (which he had already done Mon eve/Tues morning!) and he was exhausted. I thought I might get a strong positive today but it wasn't so I'm not sure what happened. Maybe I just missed the full surge as i hear it can be only a few hours so maybe I should do 2 OPKs per day. I'll have to hustle him into bed ASAP tonight and hope we haven't missed it or that the sperm from Tuesday night have hung around long enough. I occasionally get EWCM but haven't had any yet this month so that's no help. I'm wishing I was temping now. I'll keep doing OPKs anyway in case it just hasn't happened yet.

Omg much more than me then 😂

Since my mmc I haven’t really been seeing any ewcm. I know that could mean I’m possibly not ovulating properly yet. I was thinking of trying pre seed this month just incase I am ovulating but have no ewcm to help things to stay where they should be. Has anyone here been using it? Is it worth the money? X

Thank you @twinkledag 🥰
😊 nearly every night but not when AF shows up! We’ve only been together just over 2 years and married within 3 months of our relationship beginning. I guess we are still in the honeymoon phase 😊

We've been together for 17 years, married for 9 and have suffered 4 failed ivf cycles over the past 3 years so the passion isn't what it was ☹️

Well no smear for me, nurse says because of miscarriage need to wait 3 months but had my last one 3 years ago she was impressed with my promptness.. can't say I am sorry.. am in I'm the ov zone so didn't need to throw that out.. xx

That's good you can wait a bit for a smear @Chatbash72 and not disturb ov!

@twinkledag, I think it's the timing rather than the frequency that's most important so I wouldn't worry. I definitely find it less sexy when we're like "we HAVE to have sex tonight"! Sorry to hear about your failed IVF cycles, that must be incredibly sad and stressful.

@Liissaa I have preseed but have just ocasionally used it as a general lubricant so not much help. I think fertile CM can also be watery so doesn't have to be EW. i didn't have any EWCM this cycle (second after MMC) but don't normally get much - just to say you aren't alone with it!

Welcome @Starlight39 and Congratulations @KediKat! Amazing news.

I'm out this month. 11dpo, BFN and no pregnancy symptoms. So just waiting for AF to arrive... then have decided to try Superovulation IUI starting next week.

Has anyone done this, or know any success stories...?

Hi ladies, i am joining up to this thread as i need a bit of support. I am 40, had my first pregnancy in August and then missed miscarriage discovered at 7 week scan at EPU after spotting. Physically i am better. But i am now struggling emotionally, i am desperate to be pregnant and i ovulated 2 weeks after the miscarriage but my partner wanted to wait a month to make sure i was better which was so frustrating and he doesn't understand how i feel, time is running out on my egg quality. My period came on time and i was devastated and he didn't understand why. We are about to hit the fertile window for this month now and i am tracking ovulation, but i am so scared it wont happen and i have left it too late at my age. I had a fertility MOT 2 years ago when i was single and thinking about IVF alone and my results were all great but eggs age and its 2 years on and i feel some comfort that my partner has agreed to go to that clinic if we haven't conceived by Feb when i will be 41 - this means we only have 2 shots (my cycle is 31 days). I feel like the only thing that will make me feel better is falling pregnant again, it is all i can think about. I have been tearful, snappy and irritable, twice to strangers in public, then i feel guilty for days. I'm struggling but i'm not dipping into anxiety which i do sometimes suffer from so i know the signs and how to seek help. I am still exercising and diet is moderately ok.
Has anyone else been here, any stories to share? I am sure i am not alone, it just feels like it.

@calmcat hi lovely, I think I recognise you from the May board? I'm so so sorry about your loss and all that has followed. I miscarried in early October and am now on the TTW for first cycle since but am really not feeling that hopeful to be honest. I am 43 so a few years older than you and know the clock is ticking but it's not impossible. Hold on to the fact that you fell pregnant in the first place that is such a positive and we are supposed to be extra fertile after a MMC so fingers crossed for both of us. I know how it feels to be all consumed by it, it really is all I've thought about since the day of my D&C but if af turns up this week I'm really going to try and take a different approach for the next cycle. Minimal tracking and no early testing! Hopefully with all the distractions over the Christmas period it will be easier to put to the back of my mind. I really feel for you, I know exactly how you are feeling! Sending virtual hugs 🤗

@Mystie you are right about the May board, i remember you too. Thank you for the kind words, it means an awful lot and I am sorry to hear about your loss too. I need to pull myself together as all this sadness cant be good for my hormones and ovulation. You are right we both conceived and that is a great sign, we know our endometrial linings are good enough for implantation, which is fab. The consultant I saw 2 years ago for my fertility MOT told me that egg quality matters most not age (although obviously age comes into it) and it only takes 1 healthy egg and your body does its best to ovulate a good one each time. Here's to this one being a good one for both of us.

@calmcat you absolutely don't have to pull yourself together. You are entitled to grief and be upset for as long as it takes. Going through a loss and then going straight back into TTC is hugely emotional. Be kind to yourself and try not to put too much pressure on yourself, maybe book a nice weekend away so you have something to look forward too. I'm here whenever you feel like you're having a wobble or just want to vent x

Hi @calmcat
Sending so much love to you. I had a mmc in May, also at 40, also with my first pregnancy. I met my partner late in life but would love to have a family with him. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. I’m now 41 and still trying. I had a bit of a bumpy ride afterwards in that my body didn’t settle for ages and have only had 3 periods since then but hopefully now back on track. Some days I feel strong and other days I just don’t. I’m also about to hit a fertile window this month and like you, know that the only thing that will help me to feel better is to be able to get pregnant. My own mam had a mmc at 40 and went on to have a healthy baby at 41 who is now 24 and beautiful. I hope that I can achieve it as she did. My worry is that it won’t happen and I’ll feel this way forever. It’s sort of comforting to know I’m not in my own with this xx

@calmcat you do bit need to pull yourself together... allow yourself to go grouch all those emotions, that is far better for your body than holding it all in... so sorry for your loss... try not to put the time constraints on yourself... as it only leaves you 2 cycles.... are you taking a good lot of vits to aid egg quality? Sending lots of hugs and welcome back.. sorry under rubbish circumstances but 💕💕💕💕

OMG took me a week to find you all 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Thank you @Starlight39 😔

Hey ladies so couldn’t work out what happened to last thread but im blaming @BooseysMom 🤣🤣🤣 who was the last to post and broke it 😉

Hope you are all well and hi to all the newbies! So I am officially 18 weeks today ! Have felt the baby move every day for the last couple of days too! Only some slight fluttering, but definitely bubs! DH felt it on Friday night too although he was getting frustrated last night as bubs not playing and I could feel but he couldn’t 🤣🤣🤣

I’ve read through all the new posts. @Russkispy I hope you’re as ok as you can be x you too @Chatbash72

@calmcat hi, I’m 41, 42 in January and currently 18 weeks. I have 1 DS (17.5) and had 2 mcs. In November 2018 I was exactly where you are now. I had first round of ivf in jan 2019 and second in March 2019. Both failed. In August we were due to go back for final round and 3 days before I found out I was 2 weeks pregnant! This was after a gin infueled 2 week holiday in Kefalonia! Don’t panic ! Is what I’m trying to say you have time even now. And it can happen on its own it may just take a bit longer that’s all. Ours took 1 year exactly l!

Ohhh @Realitysucks I thought I had tagged you but ha e just seen that I didn't sorry.. so pleased all is ok..

@Realitysucks can you think of anyone else we need to tag ?

Hope all you ladies are doing well. Having a really long cycle and have stopped testing so no clue where I am. Hugs to everyone xx

@Realitysucks.. omg was it me who broke the thread?!! just typical!! I don't post here much anymore and when i do, i go and break it. Lol

Hi to all and welcome to the new ladies. Congratulations @KediKat

Now i hope this doesn't break the thread again!

@BooseysMom ha ha they its nice you’re still here though! How are you all ok? X

@Chatbash72 I think we are all here now lol.

@Cleozeta are you here ? Hope all is ok with you? How are you feeling ?

@Realitysucks.. ah thanks! It's sad i know but i can't quite let go. It's like leaving a little family! Even if i can't conceive, i can hopefully be of help to some on here.
Love to all x

@calmcat so sorry for your loss. It's really really hard, I think you just have to allow yourself to go through patches of sadness and grouchiness and all of it after a MC (I'm also 40 and have had 2 MC in the last few months). I try and just accept the feelings and not push myself too much to feel better/happy/OK etc. I agree with Mystie, it's good to book something nice in or plan treats, not that they'll make it all better but it just gives something to distract you from TTC becoming all consuming. I also couldn't TTC the first month after the MC as DP was working away a lot and understand how hard that is when part of you wants to throw yourself back into it and not lose any time.

Congratulations @Realitysucks!

@NicLondon1 sorry you're out this month. I don't know anything about the superovulation IUI I'm afraid.

I'm 5dpo (I think!) so trying not to symptom spot too much.