Over 40's TTC loads of baby dust to all... 5

[Chatbash72]

Hope this works as we lots the thread

Oh and good luck to everyone!

I heard that leaving sperm 48 hrs can be better if he has an issue with sperm count but if numbers are OK, sex every day is fine. And that having sex often (or ejaculating at least!) can increase testosterone which also helps sperm.

@PetraRabbit thanks for the luck and that helps to know you were 42 and 44.

Thanks Ruby.

@twinkledag I had an AMH test at 40 - came back at 10.4 and they told me that was really good (bearing in mind I guess fertility clinics are used to seeing people with AMH on the low side!) I think it's only useful though if you're planning on ivf treatment as it is used to gauge how you will respond to treatment and how many eggs you're likely to produce.

Thanks @CritterTamer. I had my AMH measured last August and it was 10. I was 40. Have had 4 failed IVF cycles though :(

@twinkledag 4 failed cycles is tough - i'm really sorry. How many eggs /embryos were you getting? Whilst AMH is useful to predict how many eggs they're likely to retrieve, sadly it's no guarantee of their quality or successful implantation.
Will you have another try once the clinics reopen? We're waiting on a FET that should have been happening right about now.

Hi Ladies I hope you are all well. Just to let you know Baby Jake Reuben was born on 16/04/20 weighing a healthy 8lb 5 oz ! It’s been a tough week ( I had forgotten how hard those initial few days are !) After a difficult start with the breastfeeding because he had tongue tie which was sorted the day after he was born, last night we seemed to have turned a corner !

@twinkledag I’m sorry that you have gone through so many ivf cycles. I am 42 and just had our beautiful baby boy. My AMH was 4 at aged 40 in November 2018 and last year we went through 2 failed IVF cycles only to fall pregnant naturally in July last year. It definitely is a harder road once we get older.

I couldn’t have got through the past 18 months without all the support on here. There are some really truly strong ladies on here who have a wealth of knowledge and are amazing support even though they have or are going through really difficulty times themselves.

I just wanted to say thank you to all of you. X x

Ooh @Realitysucks he's gorgeous congratulations 💕💕💕💕💕💕

Congratulations @Realitysucks! He's beautiful and love the name!

Congratulations @Realitysucks, he is beautiful!

Congratulations @Realitysucks - he's lovely 😃 I've been thinking of you and hoping you were both doing well xxx

@Cleozeta
I haven’t looked on here for ages, something today made me check and I am devastated to learn about the loss of your baby boy.
I cannot imagine how you feel right now.
You had persevered and fought for that child. I have tears in my eyes as I write this. I echo what others have said, you didn’t push anything, you followed your heart.

Hello everyone else. @Chatbash72 I was also sorry to hear about your losses. You always inspired me with your positivity and I just pray you get that child you are following your heart for too.

As for me, it just all got too much. My periods were getting erratic and I was having peri symptoms. I couldn’t even plan to ‘try’ as I have lost any sense of a pattern in my cycle. Which is why I left the group. I couldn’t just keep coming on moaning about nothing happening!

I have generally been ok with it all. I’ve been focusing on my two DC and my work, and trying to let go of the control and the overwhelming desire for another child. I’m not over it by any stretch of the imagination but I can see a way forward now. Ironically as I’ve relaxed a bit my cycles have settled a bit and most of the time I’m not getting any peri symptoms to speak of. We continue not to use contraception in the hope of a happy outcome but I’m not grasping the idea of a baby so tightly any more. I have HAD to release it for my sanity. Sending much love to all you lovely ladies. For what it’s worth I don’t think anyone is too old in their forties, I don’t think anyone is ‘pushing it’, I just think you’re all mummies who want to hold their children

Congrats reality. I'd like to say I'm not jealous, but clearly I am. My baby boy was beautiful too, but he was not alive.
Treasure him.

Mimosa, good to hear from you. Maybe the stress of 'trying' messed up your cycles and now you have a more relaxed approach things will continue to straighten out.

As for me, it's been 3 weeks since the birth, still bleeding but starting to prepare to have some natural trying cycles (pointless but at least I'll feel like I'm doing something) before the clinic's open and we can do our donor egg cycle. No idea when that will be. Hopefully sooner than later.
Had a look in my TTC drawer today, still got loads of opk's etc. Looked at it with dispair as thought I was done with all that shit and the thought of going through all that again fills me with doom. All the stressing, waiting, failures etc. Urgh. Need to get the clinic's open quick sharp so I don't have to do too many months of natural which I don't stand much hope of success anyway! Still indescribably gutted that Harley did not make it. We have the funeral next week. Not sure I can take much more heartache. Results from the post mortem are not due until July so we still don't know why this happened. My husband thinks it was covid-19, I think it was my old haggered eggs & body

@Realitysucks congratulations, he’s a treasure! Hopefully things settle down for you, the first few weeks are tough.

@cleozeta, I can’t tag you for some reason. Try not to be hard on yourself. You are going through a total nightmare, please don’t blame yourself.

@cleozeta - if it helps, my clinic is hoping to reopen mid May 🤞

@littlemimosa that's good news your cycle has settled a little. Hoping for a happy surprise for you. I agree, I don't think any of us are too old .

@Cleozeta I'm so sorry, I'm thinknig of you. Having to wait so long for the post mortem results is really hard. I can't imagine how tough this is. Hope the clinics open quick .

Oh that's interesting critter! That would be amazing. Is yours in the UK?

Foz - I try not to be, but it adds up. Too coincidental that I've had 2 MC and a stillbirth in my 40's but 2 healthy uncomplicated births in my 30's. Can't have just been bad luck

@Cleozeta @Chatbash72 I debated whether to post or not. I really do feel for you all. You have all been so supportive to me over past 18 months. I really am devastated for you x

@Realitysucks ooh I'm glad you did, so gorgeous and we have all better together on this group for so long.. 💕💕💕💕

@Starlight39.. Thanks for the link to the article. I remember reading something similar. My guilt is to do with the future and not being able to provide any siblings for ds. I reckon even now i'm still ovulating but it's like my body is finding this more difficult and i get hellish mid month pmt type hormones. The gp prescribed antidepressants but it's prob HRT i need.

@Realitysucks.. Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful son

@Cleozeta yes it's in Wales.

@CritterTamer which clinic in wales if you don't mind me asking?

@lucieloos CRGW Cardiff