Over 40's TTC loads of baby dust to all... 5

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Huge congrats @karryk, amazing news!
And congrats on your pregnancy @Realladymarmalade!

Gosh, so much happens on this thread in a day or two!

I re-tested with ClearBlue Weeks this morning and got my 3+ Weeks, THANK GOD. I should be 5+6. I think it was wrong on Friday because I hadn't used 1st urine of the day...
but seriously, my hormones are going mental. I spent most of yesterday convinced that my boobs had gone flat, my stomach had deflated, I was no longer pregnant and it was all going wrong... I was crying most of the day, convinced I'd lost it again. God, it is SO HARD to keep calm and positive. And my poor husband doesn't know what to think, as he's got no control whatsoever.
I think the anxiety is going to be the hardest to manage this time... I am a total nightmare to live with.

Just to add - have also opted for an early private scan which will be on Wednesday.... fingers crossed

@Starlight39 How are you doing? Is everything progressing OK..?

Congratulations on the 20w scan, @Cleozeta. That must feel like a great milestone!

Hi @debbs77 and welcome and lots of luck! Sorry to hear about your miscarriage.

Good luck @Russkispy!

Congratulations @Realladymarmalade! You, me and NicLondon1 are nearly due date buddies.

Congratulations on your little boy @karryk, that’s lovely news.

Glad the test finally jumped up to 3+ @NicLondon1. Lots of luck for your scan! Really hope it’s all looking OK.

I’ll be 6 weeks tomorrow (maybe a couple of days less as I ovulated CD16 rather than 14) and everything seems OK so far (fingers crossed). I think I’m a bit less symptom-y than previous pregnancies but trying not to worry. I did feel a bit sick yesterday. I’m trying to just tell myself each day “today, I’m pregnant” till I know otherwise and and take things one day at a time and not look too far ahead. I’m feeling quite grumpy and hormonal though so that’s a symptom at least! I’m going to get an early scan but thinking of ringing the EPU who dealt with my MMC first just to see if they’ll do it. Otherwise, I’ll book a private one for around 7 weeks. It’s hard to know what timing is for the best in terms of scans as with my last pregnancy, the baby was measuring 8 and a half weeks with no heartbeat at a private scan when I was around 9 weeks. I feel (completely irrationally) that I don’t want to go back to that private scan place but don’t mind going back to the EPU!

Hi anyone know whether it's worth a try to do one cycle of ivf with one follicle which she said is just there not growing or anything.or do you think I should get a second opinion? Thanking you ladies in advance

Thanks @Starlight39, I think that's a great attitude! Must try to relax now... likewise, not having huge symptoms, but boobs are very sensitive.
And mainly very emotional and grumpy! Fingers crossed for all of us... x

@Hopefully123 I would say no to be honest. I had the same dilemma last year. Sorry I don’t know much about your history but I’m 41 had 2 rounds of ivf last year and was a poor responder to stimulation on short protocol. 1st round abandoned as only 1 follicle, second round only 3, 2 were mature and one had only just matured. On egg collection the only just matured was no good. We got two that fertilised a grade 1 and grade 2 both implanted and both failed to take.

I was due to go back in August for my last round. However I found out 3 days before appointment t I was pregnant ( after a gin Week in Kefalonia having totally gone F**k it!) I’m now 25 weeks pregnant and 42 in two weeks 😬🤣🤣 . We weighed up the cost which at the time feels like a waste when I didn’t respond, but took lots of advice from people who had been there and decided to abandon first cycle. The next time I had a blood test before stiming to check FSH level. It was good so we went ahead and got our three follicles. At my age we always knew that the follicles were never going to be loads so that’s always something to consider.

@Hopefully123 also if the follicle is not growing chances are you won’t Even get an egg from it if it’s less than 20mm.

Thankyou for replying. @Realitysucks. And a huge congratulations to you. What did you do different this time? Have you been taking any supplements or using anything? She didn't say what size the follicle was.

@Hopefully123 I didn’t do anything except stop trying! We had been ttc for a year exactly. We went on holiday in July, I hadn’t drunk, gave up smoking and been eating healthy since the previous November. On holiday I went a bit wild as was fed up. Ate loads, drank loads and smoked 😬 came back and three weeks later I fell pregnant! Compete shock to be honest as we had given up. To be honest I think it was timing. I had been tracking my ovulation for a year and think we just got it right. I’m also a massive believer that sometimes after ivf it flicks a switch. You spend your whole 20s and 30s trying not to get pregnant and then when you get to 40 😬 I really do think the ivf did something and my body just chucked out one last good egg.

Fingers crossed for your scan Niclondon. How old are you and is this your first ? Same question to my other due date buddy starlight (feels a bit blind date ish, this )
Decided to not do a private scan till 9 weeks.

Congrats also reality !

Hi @Realladymarmalade I'm 41, have a DD who is almost 4 - she was conceived naturally, it's been much harder this time around. Have regretted waited so long! We started trying again when I was 39 and I had 2 chemicals/early miscarriages. Was found to have various Antibodies. I'm currently 6 Weeks which is the furthest I've managed to get yet....

Hi @Realladymarmalade, I'm 40 and it's my second (DS is 7 and I had him with my ex husband) but my DPs first. We started trying when I was 39 and had an early miscarriage last June then a missed miscarriage at 8/9 weeks in September. The upside is I seem to get pregnant quite easily, it's just the staying pregnant I need to get right! Having a scan at 9 week sounds a good idea.

I've had some cramping and a tiny bit of brown blood the last couple of days so feeling a bit anxious about that - I think I'm just going to wait and see what this week brings as a scan isn't going to change the outcome and might just lead to more worried waiting if they don't find a heartbeat!

Sorry she is almost 5! Was born in 2015

@Starlight39 I've had a tiny bit of brown spotting too - I think that is considered normal (just old period blood). Red blood would be more of a worry... fingers crossed xx

Thanks @NicLondon1, yeah - I'm not super worried as I did have brown spotting for a while with DS but also had it before my early MC (but I had awful painful cramps when the spotting started with that one, at the time I hoped it was a UTI). It's just an extra thing to think about and the cramping is slightly worrying although I know can also be totally normal. Fingers crossed I'll feel sick soon (have had the odd wave so far!) and that'll make me feel better! How are you feeling? Are you feeling OK about your scan tomorrow?

I'm quite happy to be back at work today and get the usual routine back and hopefully that'll take my mind off things a bit.

I'm feeling OK actually. Although I have still been obsessively testing to check the line progression!! Bit mental. But it keeps me sane.
My problem is that I'm a freelancer and currently waiting to hear on two jobs, whilst applying for others... so have far too much time on hands. I'd love the distraction on a job!
I've actually just booked in the pregnancy with local hospital team.. in the spirit of optimism! Here goes!

Glad you're feeling OK and it's good to book in and be optimistic! I need to book a midwife booking in appointment. Hope you get some of the freelance jobs to keep your mind busy!

I've just realised that I have a manic 3 days in London at an exhibition in 2 weeks time. I'm hoping that everything goes OK and I can go and that I'm not feeling too awful/knackered for it :/

Evening all :)
This will be my third. Never planned on a third in my wildest dreams. I have dd5 and ds9. However I never would have thought that I'd have the guts to ditch useless ex , become a single parent and then meet an amazing man willing to participate in my blended family madness! If this sticks , my two kids will have 4 half siblings as useless ex has another three from his first marriage.😬

It's not the straightforward married and 2 kids by 36 life I planned as a kid but I will embrace it. I'm also enjoying DPsexcitement. There was never any excitement from my ex. Just checking out of parenting and negativity ! I say the ex is on his way round. Must maintain facade of normality🤣 and cordiality on front of the kids.

Also, I'm 42, just eek

Starlight ive got a full on 3 day training event , 80 miles away in two weeks .
Oh yeah, plus , I've set up a side hustle business which technically starts taking on clients in February. This is in addition to 4 days a week in my normal job. Obviously I didnt foresee both developments occurring at the same time. #fml #byebyedayoff

Joining the group. I am 42 and mum of two DCs, one quite young. Thinking about DC3.

Hello and welcome to @FutureMum.

Just wanted to report that my scan went well yesterday, it was measuring 6+2 and there was a heartbeat! Am beyond thrilled.
Am going to relax now and stop worrying!

Hello everyone,

I've just had a faint positive test today and am terrified. I'm 40 and had a loss last year. I have two older children from a previous marriage.
Now I'm panicking about starting all over again. My husband has always said he is 50/50 about having one.
Sorry for the moaning

Congratulations and hugs Samk..
I'm a similar set up to you and am also panicking about the massive life change, if I'm honest , at a time with w school age kids and life is exhausting at the best of times but has been so much simpler since we got past the baby stage .. .