TTC baby #1

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Hi ladies . I’ve just finished my period today and my husband and I are now going to start ttc our first baby after having my Mirena removed last week.
Is anyone else TTC this month ? I’ve ordered some ovulation tests after I said I wouldn’t because I’ve read so many success stories on them so I thought I might as well just so I have some in case !

I’d love for people to share their journey with me ! I’m 24, 25 in two weeks . So excited for our journey . I’m trying to figure out this whole lingo on here and stuff sorry! X

@Blondeandbroody thanks! Lol that does sound like a good idea and maybe the only option. I need to take a chill pill. I think im feeling hopless as to how to this can improve and how can we DTD once let alone a few times.but you are right being angry at him wont help!

Oh @Cheyanne101 what a difficult time. I agree that men can feel pressured and don't say anything, but obviously it shows in other ways. It's a stressful month with all the Christmas pressure and all the adverts everywhere showing couples with babies and children. Perhaps suggest a bit of an amnesty where he can tell you how he's feeling, even if he does it via a WhatsApp and doesn't say it out loud?

@Cheyanne101 it's totally understandable lovely id feel the exact same, we can't help how we feel. The first time me and my OH dtd after discussing TTC he pulled out and I was annoyed but we hadn't expressly said we were going to actively TTC at that point so I had to take a chill pill haha! We talked about it after and since then all systems go haha

You'll figure it out and get there it sounds like having to DTD more is a big adjustment for both of you if you haven't got the biggest sex drives so it's probably putting pressure on you both x

Good luck ❤️

@itsemily when is AF due? Do you have any idea? I agree with earlier advice to only POAS a week after AF is expected.

@Itsemily my boobs are SO sore too!! We are on a similar cycle so fingers crossed it’s a positive sign! When are you planning to test? I’m thinking the 23rd.
@Cheyanne101 my partner can get a bit like that too and I think it’s the pressure. I think it sounds like you need a month of relaxing and just enjoying time together. Take the pressure off a bit and the try again next month. Try not too stress yourself too much xx

@Cheyanne101 your anger is completely understandable - even if he feels fine psychologically, if this is a new problem or it’s got worse it is probably psychologically (even if subconsciously) linked to the idea of TTC. I guess there are two ways you could approach it.

Either back off and chill out for a month or two, finish however works for you as a couple, let him lead it whenever you DTD and see if it recovers by itself. For this to work though you’d need to fully also commit to not guilt tripping him or being resentful in any way he can detect as that would defeat the purpose!

The other is to go all out “let’s treat this thing” and he gets himself to a GP and also definitely a therapist at the same time as this is so likely to be psychologically linked to feelings he has of pressure, maybe deep seated fears about having children or not being ready that he’s never fully engaged with. But your DH has to make the call if he’s willing to do this.

@CurbsideProphet I can’t wait a week!!! I’m trying to wait two days until Thursday! But may cave tomorrow...

I’ve been logging my cycles since April 2015 and have only had three 28 day cycles in that time (all others have been shorter) so hopefully Thursday which will be day 28 will be ok to test - here’s hoping I make it that long!

@notalwaysalondoner I'm usually 25 or so days too. Fingers very tightly crossed for you 🤞🏻🤞🏻

Thanks so much guys for all of your advise i really appreciate it!

Its great to come here and get it off my chest with no judgement its not exactly something id be telling my friends lol.

Yeah something has to change and yeah i defo agree it must be something psychological xx

@Cheyanne101 I agree it’s psychological , my husband was starting to struggle so we made the agreement that he makes the first move so I know he’s deffo up for it and not feeling pressured . It’s helped !

@LeaBri yay cycle buddies ! I’m testing quite late I think. I want guarantee that AF isn’t arriving , so might even leave it a whole week after I predict she’s due because I don’t want a false negative .
@CurbsideProphet my app says 30th going by last cycle but going by ovulation it’s due 25th December - so I don’t think I’m going to test til new year , I’m going to be strong and hold off !

AF is due for me on Monday 30th, so I'll be hanging on over Christmas to see if I've been lucky this month. It's only month 2 of ttc so I'm trying to be realistic...

Anyone going to be having a Christmas tipple? I’m due to ovulate sometime over Boxing Day and NY so would feel guilty. I fancied a drunken rant on Christmas at how ttc is driving me crazy

I can't drink anyway which makes things easier! I'm sure a few won't hurt. I'm booked for a massage on 27th Dec and the irrational part of my brain keeps saying "but what if I'm in the super early stages of pregnancy?"

@CurbsideProphet why aren’t you allowed to have a massage if you’re pregnant ?? I never knew that 🤭

In the first 12 weeks. I remember reading it. I think it's to do with blood pressure 🤔

Still no sign of AF - let’s hope it continues to hold off!

Hi ladies, I'm new on here and also ttc for our first baby. I'm 33 and have been on the pill for years. My cycle seems to have kicked back into action since coming off the pill (mid October) and I'm now 9dpo. The o amazon strips have been very useful but I'm similar to all of you and finding the TWW to take a test very tricky. AF due Christmas Eve!

@CurbsideProphet I didn’t know that either, gosh it’s so hard to know what to do when you’ve got the possibility you’ve conceived hanging over you. Could you test a day or two before just to be sure.

@notalwaysalondoner 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 for you.

@Littlepea90 AF isn't due until 30 Dec, so 26 Dec would feel far too soon to test I'm having my nails done by the same beauty therapist before then as a Christmas treat for myself so I'll speak to her and see what she says.

How are you @han2291 and @itsheapsswell?

AF just arrived 😭 so third month unlucky for us. And DH is going to be away visiting his parents in fertile period next month so that’s probably out too.

God I hate how you just have no control over this, or when it will finally happen - I’m just so ready. It’s such a rollercoaster, getting your hopes up when AF is even a day late then having them crushed again.

@LouLou0406 welcome to the thread ! Fingers crossed for you , have you any symptoms yet ? I’m worried that these sore boobs and slight stomach cramps are signs AF is on the way 😭 but I just feel different to normal .
@notalwaysalondoner oh no !! But remember @Konbanwa thought she was out due to work travels but still caught the egg so you might too!

@notalwaysalondoner Oh I know what you mean about the roller-coaster. Do you have some nice treats in? I'm on tenterhooks until 30th Dec, even though I know month 2 of trying would be very lucky. I can't help the hope, but gosh the disappointment is tough.

@CurbsideProphet good thank you! Now booked in to see the midwife on 2nd Jan which means I can take a day holiday to not arose suspicion and all is well! Did some more tests and definitely pregnant! I am definitely more paranoid about it sticking than I even was about getting pregnant in the first place- which was very!

Good luck to all you girls. Hope you all enjoy a drink this Christmas (if you can)- I truly believe it was my laidbackness when being constantly hungover that helped me get the BFP, if that even makes sense! Symptoms wise- I had NOTHING so don’t worry if you don’t either. It wasn’t until after my BFP that my boobs started to get really sore, but I woke up yesterday and they’re far less painful. Oh and I’m thirsty 24/7, so much so my partner gives me 24oz of water to take to bed with me every night :)