TTC baby #1

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Hi ladies . I’ve just finished my period today and my husband and I are now going to start ttc our first baby after having my Mirena removed last week.
Is anyone else TTC this month ? I’ve ordered some ovulation tests after I said I wouldn’t because I’ve read so many success stories on them so I thought I might as well just so I have some in case !

I’d love for people to share their journey with me ! I’m 24, 25 in two weeks . So excited for our journey . I’m trying to figure out this whole lingo on here and stuff sorry! X

I’m so impatient too - last month I was quite chilled but I think that’s because AF came so early (CD22) I didn’t have time to get hopeful! I’m CD24 today and 11dpo. Will test on Wednesday morning when/if AF is a day late. Just keep thinking how perfect it would be in time for Christmas and so we can plan next year with work and holidays etc.

I think that's the worst part @notalwaysalondoner the hope for a Christmas BFP!!! I'm due Wednesday so I'm in the same boat x

Ladies my boobs have started to hurt today and my nipples for the last two day’s . I’m only 4-5dpo I think , could it be AF or early signs ?? 😭

That sounds positive @Itsemily!! Sounds a bit soon to be AF. Mine have been hurting last day or two but AF due in two days so not positive...

Hi ladies. I hope you won’t mind me joining in this thread.

I stopped taking the pill back in May although my husband was away over the summer for work so we are only on our third month of ttc.

My first cycle was something silly like 54 days but since then have been regular 38 days apart from my last cycle which was 36 days.

Have ditched all the apps and opks as I was getting a bit obsessed with it all! I also struggle to notice any changes in cm. it always seems to be the same colour, Texture and amount.

Here’s the thing, I was expecting my period to come last Monday - Wednesday (Not sure if I was going to have another 36 day cycle or my usual 38 days) however, my period still hasn’t arrived. I have no symptoms apart from maybe a little dizziness. I took a test on Friday which was negative.

This might sound silly but I’m feeling really frustrated and let down by my body. I could accept the fact I’m not pregnant if I would just get my period if you know what I mean? I’m annoyed at this being in limbo!! I plan to take another test on Tuesday or Wednesday this week coming and go from there. I fully expect it to be negative as I really believe if I was pregnant then the test on Friday would have been positive. If I’m not pregnant then god only knows what my cycle is playing at!

Hi @Maddy0405

I've never taken the pill, but I believe it can take 12 months for your cycle to settle down. There are some other posters more knowledgeable about the pill, so I'm sure they'll be along later. I think @itsemily has longer cycles if that makes you feel any better.

I'm on month 2 of ttc and I'm fed up already

@CurbsideProphet I don’t mind having a longer cycle but it’s been regularly 38 days for 5 months so that’s why I’m so confused now 🤷🏼‍♀️ Will test tomorrow and see. Expect it to be negative and will just have to wait and see when my period decides to come!

@Itsemily fingers crossed for you!

@Maddy0405 hi, completely get it. It’s like your own body is messing with your hope and emotions. I have roughly 30-35 day cycles and I eagerly tested early in Dec and when I got the negative I just wanted AF so I could try again. I just think we’re a little hard on ourselves. We can’t (unfortunately) control when it happens. It can take a while after using the pill to settle down.

@CurbsideProphet also month two I’m finding it all a bit militant operation at the moment. I know I need to relax, but it’s hard. Currently waiting for AF to take her leave and will start the opk. How about you?

I’m in month three and AF is due tomorrow so I am soooooo tempted to test, but also scared as have no symptoms at all so not feeling positive. Am going to try and hold out to Wednesday - the not knowing is so awful though, and if we’re not lucky again this month it will be so hard to stay positive. Like, what if we’re one of the statistics that takes years or never manages...?

@notalwaysalondoner I worry that as well! Even my husband said a the other week ‘how do you know you’re not firing blanks when you’ve spent this long trying NOT to have a baby’ and he’s got a point. I’d love to have a scan to see how my ovaries and eggs are!! I guess they won’t do any of that until you’ve been trying for a certain amount of time and then they’d just refer you to fertility clinic.

A girl who I’m currently on a course with said that she deleted all her apps, stopped checking for ovulation and then got pregnant the next month. So I definitely think that taking a step back is the way forward. It’s so hard though! It’s all you can think about!

I’m still going to test again tomorrow as still no AF and I’ll see what happens. I haven’t got any expectations but I know I’m going to be annoyed still 😂

I’m grateful for this thread though. It’s nice that we’ve got each other as I sometimes think my friends must get bored to death of me talking about cycles/pregnancy/babies!!

@Littlepea90 I only track my period and use the Flo app to guesstimate when I'll ovulate. This weekend I did have to nicely say "I'm ovulating imminently" even though DH was out v late (driving, so not drunk) and we were both tired. No OPKs yet. I'm putting that off until month 4. That's my agreement with myself! I was 34 earlier this month and my broody alarm has been sounding for a few years now

@notalwaysalondoner yep I know how you feel about the not knowing and worrying that it will never happen.

Keeping my fingers crossed for you lovely ladies 💕

BFN as expected. Suppose I will carry on DTD as normal until my period comes then?!

Bad luck @Maddy0405 -what cycle day are you on?

AF is due today - my temperature dropped this morning so am expecting it to arrive but it’s not over till it’s over! So still hoping! I had some very mild cramps for about five minutes yesterday evening (13 dpo) which I thought was AF starting but 17 hours later still no sign so not sure if that’s positive or not. Think I’ll wait until Thursday to test as just can’t handle getting a BFN if AF is just late.

It’s such a rollercoaster - I keep swinging from being really convinced that it’s not happened and being quite depressed (like when I had the cramps or my temp result this morning) to thinking that there’s still hope and maybe this month is the month.

@notalwaysalondoner I'm the exact same my hope levels have swung so much this past few days. From hopeful to depressed in a day lol!

I'm due AF tomorrow all tests have been negative but I just feel like crap today had cramps last few days nothing today just feel bloated and a bit sickly.
Waiting until Thursday to test with a decent test if AF doesn't show up. IC today was starkers.

Fingers crossed she stays away for you today! Xx

It’s a big mental challenge it’s horrible isn’t it ? But we will get there.
My boobs are still sore , like actually unbearable ! But I don’t know how to feel ,is it AF? Is it pregnancy ?? 😭

@itsemily I'm the same except my boobs aren't sore and they were always sore before AF when in the pill (as I still had normal periods - ish!) and I'm over here now like... is this normal for me now I'm off the pill OR is it a sign of pregnancy!?

I solemnly swear that next cycle I will not be so obsessive and will not buy any tests until I'm due AF.

Hi everyone hope all is well... all has been very quiet on the baby front but for a reason i am seeking advise on. Apologies in advance for this long winded essay but I feel like im going to have a mental breakdown!! So only been actively trying about 2 months now. This month was set to be our third but my husband is having issues down below.

He has never had a crazy sex drive but at the same time neither had i, he always needs a bit of help to finish - the help being my hand which is fine (sorry for TMI) so this past week he has not been able to actually come inside me? I use my hand and hes very close so it goes in again and he completely looses the feeling.... we repeat with my hand again and the exact same situation!!!

I honestly dont know what to do im sorry for the dramatics but i am soooo fustrated iv cried myself to sleep the last couple of nights im so upset and distracted and i feel so much anger towards him. Iv asked him to go to a doctor. Hes also uncircumsised which im thinking doesnt help.

We are 7 years together and this is a first. His form is good etc so i dont think its depression and hes annoyed its happening to him too he said he cant think of why this is suddenly happening

I cant speak to anyone as i find it so awkward.
And the anger i have in me is crazy 😭😭😭

@Cheyanne101 I wonder if it's the pressure of it all? I know blokes don't have much to do in the whole process so it might feel like a lot of pressure to do his one part...

You could try him finishing in a cup or someone and turkey baster? I know it's not very glam!! Sorry!

Somebody suggested a moon cup as a good way of improving conception chances where you put it in after he finishes inside you... I also read where he finish in the cup and then you put it inside you. Gosh it's weird talking about this stuff so openly haha!!

Or something NOT someone!!!! Sorry what an unfortunate typo

@notalwaysalondoner day 45 now 😂

Oh @Cheyanne101 that sounds like a horribly stressful situation for you both. I wonder if the pressure of ttc has gotten to him a bit? Are you able to talk to him about it without getting annoyed or upset? I wonder if simply talking about it together might help?

@Cheyanne101 I should add that whilst I totally understand your feelings here so no judgment at all, you being angry at him will not help if it is pressure that's causing him to struggle. I agree with @Maddy0405, talk to him, support each other it's a very difficult situation for you both and think of solutions together, keep trying, try to relax a bit about it so the pressures off a little xx

@Maddy0405 hey thanks for your reply, i guess that could be a factor.. the thing is we waited for a year after we got married to start trying and i would have rathered trying 6 months ago but i said fine as he wanted to wait to the year so now im completey fustrated with him i know im not being very fair and i need to calm down but i dont think iv been this cross before or crazy... i think deep down i wanted to start way sooner but he didnt until 2 months ago but i should be holding grudges but i feel like im going nuts!!! I must sound like a bitch but honestly iv been patient 😩