TTC baby #1

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Hi ladies . I’ve just finished my period today and my husband and I are now going to start ttc our first baby after having my Mirena removed last week.
Is anyone else TTC this month ? I’ve ordered some ovulation tests after I said I wouldn’t because I’ve read so many success stories on them so I thought I might as well just so I have some in case !

I’d love for people to share their journey with me ! I’m 24, 25 in two weeks . So excited for our journey . I’m trying to figure out this whole lingo on here and stuff sorry! X

@Jonesbabynumber1 I'm feeling emotional tonight, not sure why. Maybe because DH is on a late at work and I'm by myself, but I just keep crying. Worrying I think. I have read people check their cervix and if it feels a certain way then you are possibly pregnant. It's made me panic etc but a lot of people have also said that it's not an accurate reading for a lot of women. Do you ever feel emotional?

@LH1987 please give us some tips lol x

@itsemily funny how you wrote that as I was just reading a thread where people have got their BFP some on their first try and I was feeling all emotional and sorry for myself on cycle 3. I held in the tears as my husband would be asking what’s wrong and he thinks I put to much pressure on myself as it is. I feel emotional for the whole TWW. People keep saying stop stressing and it will happen and that makes me stress more about how much I’m stressing. If you had to guess what dpo do you think you are?

@jonesbabynumber1 It's an awful feeling isn't it?

And I really couldn't even hazard a guess as I thought I ovulated a week ago, then got more EWCM, then a creamy stretchy CM, now back to just paste, so I could be 10DPO, 4DPO, I have no idea at all which is making me feel worse. I am going to test next week if AF doesn't arrive. My nipples are very sore, and I had dizziness today and as previously mentioned, my spots are awful. So it could either be AF or PG symptoms, I am all over the place :(

@itsemily
Aww, I've been up and down. It's crazy because I feel good within myself but bloated and heavy haha and sluggish physically. Yeah your right it's way to early, but I will try to hold on to hope that it's stuck lol.

Yeah I think we covered it, every other day around ovulation or sometimes every 3 days but
Yeah, after work and tiredness does seem to have its problems doesn't it. Like we dont want it to be a chore or add pressure but we need to time it right lol. He often wakes me in the middle of the night but I apparently get moody and have none of it but I am unaware 🙈😥lol!
How are you finding it with dtd often?
The spots is a good sign I've heard though!!! I have my fingers crossed for you. When would you be due to test?
The dreaded wait is sooo hard isnt it.

@Itemily yes much harder than I ever expected it too be, consumes your life. Why doesn’t anyone warn you about it. How long are your cycles I’d say if your regular half that it will roughly be about then I know some people are late and early but most will be in middle of cycle as body needs egg to mature before release. Yes aim for when you AF is due and you can’t go wrong.

@LH1987 congratulations!!! I bet your so excited. Please keep us posted on your progress! And any tips for spotting early signs 🙈 xx

I really wouldn't know how to check my cervix

@Jonesbabynumber1 I do it at the same time every day (except weekends if I don’t wake up naturally). I thought mine were fairly predictable but then this month I did OPKs and got a positive two days ago and a very clear negative yesterday, but my temperature still hasn’t gone up! I think even drinking water or going to the loo in the last hour or so affects it. But am sure I ovulated as I had EWCM and soft cervix as well as OPK. I might stop bothering next month if we don’t get PG and just stick to OPKs, CM and cervix.

Hey guys! Well I relented and used my first OPK of this cycle at cd9 and had a faint second line which is promising.

After my super long cycle last time I just want to make sure that I am actually ovulating! Trying not to put too much pressure on for DTD though as I just want to take is easy and see how long this cycle is going to be so I have more of an idea of my cycle lengths. If it happens then it happens!

Also, has anyone else been thinking about due dates if they conceive in November and have a baby in August? A due date from September onwards would be best for school etc. but I really want a baby and don't want to miss any chances! I know that this is definitely me worrying and massively overthinking things though!

@Konbanwa don’t get too obsessed like me otherwise it’ll make you miserable

And I’m so glad you said that because when I was walking to work this morn and saw the school kids I thought to myself ‘hmmm well if I don’t get pregnant til like March next year , we could have a Christmas baby’ and then it got me thinking about schools and not being the youngest in the class etc 😂😂😂

@Itsemily I know what you mean! I'm warring with how much I want to get in with TTC and also trying to time it right. But then I think that there is so little you can control in this process so it might be futile anyway!

Overall I'm just going to take it easy this month and just DTD when we fancy rather than scheduling it too much 🤞

I’m currently 8DPO my temping worked by doing the same time everyday. Even at weekends but I then go back to sleep. It dropped today after rising for 7 days. Been unusually hormonally moody this morning, stomach felt bloated and weird today, headache and nipples hurt even more. Completely shattered so lying on the sofa already with a hot water bottle on my belly. CM is very creamy and sticky like now. I also have no interest in DTD. I work with 5 to 7 year olds as I’m a teacher so can’t escape facing children every day. X

@Lea84TTC I’m trying to temp but Finding it hard as I’m not a great sleeper so end up waking at different times. How long did it take your tempt to rise after ovulation was it slow or straight away? I had the did but my rise hasn’t been that big I’m hoping it keeps rising.

@Jonesbabynumber1 my went up straight away really. To begin with I thought I’d have a shorter cycle but carried on with the OPK and ovulated late at the same time my temp dipped. Here is a picture.

Thanks that’s helpful yes mine as gone up but not dramatically which is similar to yours. This is first month temping so still getting used to seeing patterns

I think AF is on the way . Really sore breasts and bloating . Similar to last month. I’ve just gone a First Response as DH said it’ll be good to know where we are etc . It was negative 👎🏻 maybe next month ! Unless I’m ovulating super late 😂 had a discussion with DH this morning about our plan going forward with regards to DTD. He says he cannot perform every day , and treat every other day is hard for him too and he’d much prefer every three days . So he said maybe testing for ovulation is a good idea now !! 😖

@itsemily your not out until AF shows. Did you do first response first pee of day? Must be hard with DH not wanting to do it everyday. I do every other after AF the everyday for about 3days I think ovulation then every 3 days could this work for you. Mind it hasn’t worked for me yet either.i know some people manage twice a day but I’d rather keep it more relaxed.

@jones no way husband would do it that much , he’d do it but wouldn’t be able to finish. That is why I worry about OPK as he would go into panic mode knowing I was ovulating and would stress about not finishing . I’m hoping I have More signs of ovulation next month as this month my cervical mucus wasn’t like it normally is when I ovulate. Because at least I can manage that by myself and not have to announce it, whereas doing the pimore signs of ovulation next month as this month my cervical mucus wasn’t like it normally is when I ovulate. Because at least I can manage that by myself and not have to announce it, whereas doing the kits will make me more stressed I think.

You can tell I’m not thinking straight as that previous message made no sense. Sorry LOL

@Jonesbabynumber1 let me re-write what I previously posted above lol

So, no way DH would do it that much - well he’d do it but wouldn’t be able to finish. I know this from experience. we have done every other day before but he usually struggles to go at the end. That is why I worry about OPKing as he would go into panic mode knowing I was ovulating and would stress about not finishing and he'd end up not being able to. It is all well and good him saying it's a good idea to track but he'll soon be the first to moan about stress lol. I’m hoping I have More signs of ovulation after AF this month as this month my cervical mucus wasn’t like it normally is when I ovulate, not sure why but it deffo wasn't the usual EWCM that I usually get. I can manage tracking CM by myself and not have to announce it to DH, whereas doing the kits will make me more stressed I think because I will be like omg we have to do it today. And I will end up googling relentlessly about what it means to have static smiley, how long til I ovulate etc. And if DH is on a 14 hour shift he won't want to be DTD when he gets home and I will just naturally feel sad. It's hard, I'm not liking this lol. Joining MN was the best yet worst decision of my life as I see all these wonderful 'BFP' posts etc and I am so so broody, and then read about people TTC for like 3 years and ugh it's too much

Well you’ve tried not using opk maybe it is worth trying them as least you don’t have to stress about doing it all time just in case, it is more accurate but not totally precise. One month I got positive opk this month I think I must have missed it although I tested twice a day but my temps are showing I’ve ovulated. It’s all overwhelming and I agree I think I’d be better off without the internet. Im trying to see opks and temping as a way of understanding my body rather than relying on it for TTC if that makes sense but still having sleepless nights.

Oh I feel the pain of not wanting to feel like I'm pushing DH to DTD for the specific reason of ttc. It could take months or longer and I don't want us to feel like it's another chore on the life admin list.

I've wanted to be a mum for so long it's very difficult to not know how long it might take / if it might never happen. If it helps I'm trying to fill my life with other things like having a sort out, starting a new Pilates class, looking for training opportunities at work. Just little things, but they can help fill the void.

@Jonesbabynumber1 we tried OPK’s last month and the end of September (although end of September didn’t really count as I wasn’t having a proper cycle after my coil). The reason we stopped was because DH didn’t like the pressure even though I wasn’t saying anything , he just assumed every time I initiated sex he was like ‘are you ovulating’

@CurbsideProphet yeah I’ve started reading books more , having movie days and going out walking , work projects and we are having a spa day today - got a good code off groupon lol

That sounds a really lovely and relaxing way to spend your Sunday

@Itsemily I feel in exactly the same scenario as you. I’m 10dpo today and had a negative 1st response at 4am this morning. My boobs are really pretty sore (as in if I’m not pregnant they haven’t been this sore before AF for at least 2 years). They also feel a lot bigger, but I could be imagining that. I also feel pretty bloated and seeing as I’m probably only 4ish days off my expected period I could definitely just be patient and wait. I think this morning I’m going to go to Boots and get 2x first response tests, do one this afternoon and one tomorrow and if they’re both negative then I won’t be doing ANYMORE this cycle because I’ve clearly missed it. Also I know exactly what you mean about the pressure. I’ve had a previous partner who would have been the same as that!

I completely know what you all mean about OKPs. I now have to start thinking that this could take a year and the best thing for my mental health is probably best to just do it every other day from CD10-22 and then whenever else in the cycle the mood strikes.

I feel REALLY disheartened today as everything seemed to match up so I know it wasn’t a case of bad timing.