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A whole load of “up yours” to ttc

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Chefwifelife · 24/09/2019 14:44

I saw a post like this on a non conception board and thought it was quite funny and cathartic so I thought I’d start one.

I’ve got a whole bag of “up yours” to the trying to conceive process. Who wants one?! I’ll start.

Up yours to 10 months of ttc #2 and everyone telling me it’s quicker the second time around as your body knows what to do.

Up yours to indent lines on one step tests and frer’s

Up yours to people telling me to “relax and it will happen”.

Up yours to the age gap which is quickly getting bigger and bigger between DS1 and potential DC2.

That’s me done.

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Dollywilde · 24/10/2019 20:02

Oh @mummabubs I’m so sorry Flowers

Sorry if I’m overstepping the thread but might it be worth posting in Relationships? That’s got to be hard to hear. (Unmumsnetty hug and xxx)

Bananaloaf88 · 24/10/2019 20:59

@MumMabubs that's not fair! He should've told you at the beginning. Flowers

mummabubs · 24/10/2019 21:04

Already have done earlier today @DollieWilde. Still processing it all and trying to keep a brave face. (but not doing very well).

mummabubs · 24/10/2019 21:08

Sorry, should have been @DollyWilde! Annoyingly the android app doesn't automatically link usernames so you have to remember them 🤦🏻‍♀️

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Chefwifelife · 25/10/2019 11:25

Up yours to the day AF is due and feeling on tenterhooks all day before she isn't here yet and you'd just rather know one was or another.

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tiggerifficmummy · 25/10/2019 13:04

Up yours to af arriving (with a vengeance) a whole 10 days later than ever before!

Up yours to all the symptoms my body 'thought' I had

Up yours to my mind getting totally carried away and planning how and when to tell people and everything else

waitingforarainbow · 25/10/2019 18:09

Up yours to finding out today that not one but TWO of my friends are due the month that my baby would have been due, if I hadn't lost it.

Up yours to them now being a constant reminder of what I nearly had.

Up yours to how perfect it would have been if we'd all had babies at the same time (we're all friends), living in the same small town. Up yours to that thought torturing me for the foreseeable.

Makeafamily19 · 25/10/2019 18:14

So sorry @waitingforarainbow that must be really hard Thanks

Banoffeepie91 · 25/10/2019 18:30

@waitingforarainbow I’m really sorry to hear that. Must be really really hard. Keep strong and come on here whenever you need to. Xx

waitingforarainbow · 25/10/2019 18:40

Thank you @Banoffeepie91 @Makeafamily19 xxx

Bananaloaf88 · 25/10/2019 18:49

@waitingforarainbow I feel you. I have a close friend and two acquaintances having babies the month mines would have been due.

It didn't hit me until I saw the third FB post. My close friend was kind enough to speak to me privately first.

Hang in there it will happen for us. Xx

MissBridgetJones · 25/10/2019 20:40

I'm back for some more up yours!

2 years ago today I had a hilarious night out with the OH, saw a fabulous comedian as I nursed a non alcoholic cider, stayed in a dodgy hotel and ate pot noodle for tea. We were both high on life, and excited for the 'little prawn' that no one but us knew about.

The next 24 hours can fuck right off from my memory forever...

Up yours miscarriage, turbo up yours. 2 years on, pushing 40 (Up yours to that to).

Up yours to taking the step kids away for a few nights and there being a bastarding cot in the room.

UP YOURS.

Soz for long post. Love to all x

MissBridgetJones · 25/10/2019 20:42

@waitingforarainbow

Me too lovely lady. My friends baby was born 2 days after my due date. It's really tough x

Sending love x

MissBridgetJones · 25/10/2019 20:47

Thank you OP for such a needed thread, so much better than the TTC ones.

Bananaloaf88 · 25/10/2019 21:49

Can I add...
Up yours to hating my newly engaged friend because she wants a baby before marriage and thinks it will happen within 12 months no questions asked. Hating myself because I feel so downtrodden over the whole thing.

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Chefwifelife · 26/10/2019 07:34

A massive super raging up yours to myself for just being an absolute ttc idiot. Who poas when their af has clearly arrived (granted my temp is still above coverline and I bled last month and then had bfp and then EMC) but still. I mean why am I bloody torturing myself.

This is a super charged up yours to ttc Saturday; so let em fly ladies.

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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 26/10/2019 08:25

Up yours to me supposedly taking a relaxed approach this month only to symptom spot from 5dpo. What is the matter with me?!?

SeahorseWilderness · 26/10/2019 08:46

Up yours to sticking my finger as far as I can up me 8DPO to check if the blood is on it’s way to save the heartache of not knowing, I’m 11DPO now and this is the day I usually guarantee to spot or violently cramp. Up yours to waiting all day for pain/blood as I can’t bare to imagine I’m pregnant now after 16 months, I’ve imagined due dates, holding her/him too many times for AF to then show to allow myself any joy in daydreaming anymore.

SeahorseWilderness · 26/10/2019 08:48

Oh and up yours to going to the toilet every half hour to wipe to check if there is blood

RK2019 · 28/10/2019 18:57

Great thread. Here are mine:

  1. Up yours to ttc for over 2 years.
  2. Up yours to the huge ovarian cyst found last year that destroyed my right ovary and fallopian tube.
  3. Up yours to the subsequent laparotomy that has left me with constant pain 18 months on.. and to all the doctors who I have seen before and after who told me nothing's wrong.
  4. Up yours to finding out I was pregnant in May and then having MMC at 12 weeks.
  5. Up yours to everyone that told me 'at least you can get pregnant' and 'it wasn't meant to be'.
  6. Up yours to having to walk past the playground near my house and crying every time as I remember the trips I had planned there with my baby.
  7. Up yours to smiley faces on cb digital but then af arriving every month since mmc.
  8. Finally up yours to turning 35 in 3 weeks and knowing my chances are lessening.
Thanks for the thread and good luck to everyone ttc..
Bananaloaf88 · 28/10/2019 19:34

@RK2019 sorry to hear you've had to go though all of that.

Out of curiosity did you have any symptoms regarding the cyst before hand? Xx

RK2019 · 28/10/2019 20:20

Thank you Bananaloaf88 :) feel better for writing it all down.
Looking back I had loads of symptoms such as bloating, stabbing pains after eating certain foods, constantly needing a wee, stomach grumbling, bleeding between periods and more. Saw different doctors over the years, things like ibs and colitis were suggested and tested for allergies etc but never for gynae problems. I should have gone to doc sooner about the bleeding but was scared x

HavelockVetinari · 28/10/2019 20:31

Up yours to trying to hide misery and crack on with work - after all, I've had 4 miscarriages, I should be used to the awfulness by now.

Up yours to spending over £30k on IVF, whereas friends manage to conceive after a couple of cycles.

Up yours to friends who took "AGES" to conceive (

zoomies1 · 28/10/2019 22:42

@HavelockVetinari there is nothing to say other than that is totally shit and I’m sorry you have had to go through all of that.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 29/10/2019 15:04

Up yours to taking a mid afternoon test on 8DPO. Of course it’s going to be negative. Firstly, because it’s way too early and secondly, it’s never positive!