A whole load of “up yours” to ttc

[Chefwifelife]

I saw a post like this on a non conception board and thought it was quite funny and cathartic so I thought I’d start one.

I’ve got a whole bag of “up yours” to the trying to conceive process. Who wants one?! I’ll start.

Up yours to 10 months of ttc #2 and everyone telling me it’s quicker the second time around as your body knows what to do.

Up yours to indent lines on one step tests and frer’s

Up yours to people telling me to “relax and it will happen”.

Up yours to the age gap which is quickly getting bigger and bigger between DS1 and potential DC2.

That’s me done.

Omg!!!!

Aww congratulations!

Thank you. Hopefully this thread is lucky!

Congratulations @BeingATwatItsABingThing !! Amazing for you. How many DPO did you take that yesterday? 10?

Thank you! That was 10dpo. Took another test last night and this morning. This morning’s was no darker but I’m trying to keep reminding myself that HCG doubles every 48-72 hours.

@beingatwatitsabingthing

Congratulations on your result, but not sure it's the place to be posting it. It's not really in the spirit of this particular thread.

Sulkypatsy

I’m sorry if I’ve upset you. I posted thinking that you lot would understand my shock and also my reluctance to feel anything other than nerves about it. I also like to hear the positives from people who have been TTC for a year+ as it gives me hope.

I won’t post anymore though as I don’t want to upset anyone.

@BeingATwatItsABingThing

You haven't upset me at all, and I don't think there's any need to apologise.

I was following this thread for a long time and got a comfort from ladies who were feeling a lot of what I was, I can't speak for anyone else but I just don't think this particular board is a great place to post something that all of these ladies are yearning for, in a place where they post to offload difficult emotions. Baby bombing happens a lot in real life and I think this particular space should be safe from it.
I'm absolutely delighted for you and hope you get all the support you can on mn. I really hope that I didn't upset you, if I did I'm sorry, I just wanted to make my point, hopefully in a kind way. Wishing you all the best with your pregnancy!

Up yours to another positive test and then failure. :( I think I’m going to wait a long time before doing any more tests

Feeling really shit today as I'm getting that horrible prickling feeling in my uterus which means it won't be long before there is blood on the toilet paper.

Nailed it with timings this months

So many pg announcements I am not avoiding Facebook. Why is it so easy for everyone except us?

Up yours to the 10 year and counting age gap between ds1 and the baby I'm coming to accept will never come.

I had been using this thread (posted under different name) to feel that I wasn't alone at 18 months ttc. It's not the place for announcements to a bunch of women who are desperately struggling. Going to hide it now. It's just more salt in the wound. I feel shit after seeing that. It's the first thread I e found where there hadn't been anything like that.☹️

@painintheholeSIL same it's made me feel a bit rubbish too.

Period pains are getting worse and I can't find anywhere to hide from pregnancy announcements.

@iswhois I've hidden so many threads on here and stopped following so many people on social media. It's so hard. It's not something I discuss in real life either and it's impossible to find an outlet.
It gets harder every month. How long has it been for you?

@iswhois

Exactly. The disappointment

Up yours to all the events starting to happen this year where I thought I’d already be pregnant.

Up yours to thinking about babies every time we DTD rather than just relaxing and enjoying the fun of it.

Up yours TTC... I don't know if I can keep going on this journey. I don't want to pressure the husband with DTD at certain times so I'm carrying that weight. Before TTC I was on the pill where I didn't have a period, so each month a negative test is hard enough but having AF is really dragging me down, along with the sore boobs, the grumpiness etc. I don't know how long I can keep trying for before I give up - I want to be me again ☹️

Up yours... best friend announced second pregnancy. Her second in the time we're still trying for number 1. 😭

Up yours to the random comments people make that hit a nerve and remind you of your inability to conceive!
We had a lady in work today wanting some baby food warming (we aren’t allowed to do it in the microwave because h&s blah blah) we give people a jug of hot water normally so I asked if that would be ok? She said “I don’t know, it’s my first baby”

(right, well I don’t know either because my baby died and I never really got the chance to worry about how to feed them and I’m not getting any closer to getting pregnant again to find out!)

Cue my brain massively overreacting, getting upset and not being able to explain what’s wrong without sounding mental. It’s really thrown me.

Up yours to what I think was a miscarriage this morning.

Up yours to being 41 and TTC and every month being a disappointment

Up yours to people saying "at least you already have a child"

Up yours to people who seem to get pregnant just by looking at a dick

Up yours to Clearable, FRER and Always Ultra

Up yours to not being able to make any life decisions (changing jobs, moving house, booking holidays)

Up yours to another month of waiting for FW and then having to go at it every night when all I want to do is sit on the sofa and watch tv unbothered

Anyone on this thread still TTC? Can I throw in up yours coronavirus for adding another shitty later to our TTC journeys

Mega up yours to covid-19! Thought all going well would have started treatment by this time next year, possibly already pregnant but not going to happen now. Also conflicted about still trying as would have to stop working if successful 🙈🤦🤷

🙋🏻‍♀️ Another up yours to Covid-19!! I know I am so bloody lucky that no-one I love has it, no-one I love has been taken because of it, my job is pretty secure and doesn’t put me at risk and this makes me the most selfish person on the planet but...blah blah fcking blah! Yesterday should have been my GP appt where they were actually going to do something about the fact that 10 cycles after my miscarriage my ‘period’ is still barely even spotting for 24hrs and now of course I can’t pursue that. My baby should have been born 6 weeks ago and yet here I am, no baby, still not even pregnant, now not in with a chance of a 2020 baby and surrounded by talk of a Covid-19 baby boom that will be just my sdding luck I’m not part of!!

This is exactly what I needed to read!

Up yours to guilt pangs that I should be somehow both trying harder AND not trying too hard 😬

Up yours to that Covid 19 baby boom story as me and my OH feel about as sexy as a pile of old bricks and I’ve just got my period

Up yours to my hormones for putting on a wonderful array of preggo symptoms only for my late period to start minutes after I pee on a very overpriced stick

Up yours to relatives telling me they got an ovulation twinge, dtd, and het presto - baby!

And up yours to the ‘friend’ who grabbed my hand and told me her palm reading granny had taught her ‘the art’ before declaring it can’t see any lines for children’. Five years ago. Still haunts my 3am moments, thanks, love...

This is so cathartic. Thank you OP! 😊

Love this!

Up yours 17 months ttc!

Up yours pcos and male subfertility!

Up yours "ooh maybe it's implantation"!

Up yours Facebook pregnancy announcements!

And finally, up yours one round funded nhs ivf! (But secretly thankful for something...)