A whole load of “up yours” to ttc

[Chefwifelife]

I saw a post like this on a non conception board and thought it was quite funny and cathartic so I thought I’d start one.

I’ve got a whole bag of “up yours” to the trying to conceive process. Who wants one?! I’ll start.

Up yours to 10 months of ttc #2 and everyone telling me it’s quicker the second time around as your body knows what to do.

Up yours to indent lines on one step tests and frer’s

Up yours to people telling me to “relax and it will happen”.

Up yours to the age gap which is quickly getting bigger and bigger between DS1 and potential DC2.

That’s me done.

I want to add some more!

• Up yours to putting life on hold "incase your pregnant" not applying for jobs, not booking holidays, not splurging on clothes (in case they won't fit long!)
• Up yours to people who say "at least you know you can get pregnant" after a miscarriage
• Up yours to PMS symptoms tricking you into thinking your pregnant.
• Up yours to not feeling like "you" anymore because "you" are someone who was pregnant and looking forward to being a mum & now Life feels false.
• Up yours to teaching kids whose parents don't deserve the kids they have

Oh boy did I need this thread! It's only been 7 months so I feel like I have no right to rage, but I am just so frustrated and sad with the whole process.

Up yours to waiting so long to ttc, thinking 'oh but statistically its likely it'll be easy. Might as well wait for the ideal time'.

Up yours to being in the stage where your not sure if it's just normal 'it might take a while' or if this is the start of years of infertility and heartbreak

Up yours to being 34 1/2 and having to wait 12 months not 6 to start checking if this is actually a medical issue

Up yours the indecision of whether to just go privately for tests.... if this is just normal what a waste of time and money

Up yours to treating my stupid body like a temple so I can feel like I am doing everything in my power to make it work

Up yours to missing out of fun because my body is meant to be a f**king temple

Up yours to the taint of heartbreak I feel when I cuddle my best friends newborn

Up yours to sex being tainted with sadness!

Up yours to turning down an awesome work project because I thought I'd be on maternity leave when it happened

Up yours to feeling like I am holding my breath with my career until I know if/when I need to take time off

Up yours to this process sending my depression and anxiety into a tail spin after a decade of having it under control

Up yours to the fear that infertility might topple my mental health over the precipice again

Up yours to not telling anyone about ttc because you don't want to feel the pressure of them waiting too, but then not having anyone to talk to

Up yours to being at the age where everyone in your life is having babies

Up yours to everyone constantly asking why you aren't having one yet since you seem to love babies so much!

@NeuroMama big hugs for you. Welcome to the thread where no one is ever alone. I don't know why I wanted to write "chin up cupcake" but then realised I'd be putting it on here as an "up yours" twatty comments

Oh and I need to add my own up yours today.

Up yours to "spotting". I mean what kind of a cruel bloody (literally) game is that?! Is it implantation.... oh no wait... it's just AF creeping up on you like a sadistic red ninja!

@chefwifelife I feel you.

Up yours also to Aunt Flo taking her god damn time when you know she's a coming. CD39 and fed up...

I'm just thinking too on ovulation tracker apps there should be a symptom listed as:
"Feeling like a dirty bag of sh*t"
For when Aunt Flo is due....

Up yours to PMT symptoms being beguilingly similar to early pg symptoms.

Up yours to the shameful feeling of jealousy on seeing a friend's lovely newborn.

Up yours to unfollowing said friend on FB, plus anyone else who might have a whiff of pregnancy about them.

Ugh.

Up yours to being 9 days PO and being an absolute bi*ch and snapping at everyone because I'm stuck in limbo waiting for AF to turn up next week and knowing that if she does I'll feel like my heart has been stamped on for yet another month.

Up yours to 16 fucking months ttc dc2

Up yours to the gap that's getting bigger and bigger

Up yours to SIL for asking if I'm pregnant every fucking time I see her. She doesn't even know we're trying

Up yours to every fucking prick who tells me it's time for another one

Up yours to everyone who gets pregnant by accident

Up yours to my shitty cycle that's anywhere from 27-35 days

Up yours to the absolute heartbreak ever time my period starts.

Thanks OP. Good to get it all out.

@LorelaiRoryEmily I feel you on the DC2. 10 months here and everyone going "at least your body knows what to do!"

@Chefwifelife it's awful isn't it? I don't tell people that we're trying, dc1 took 2years 7 months to happen for us with no intervention. I thought I'd be one of those people who after struggling the first time just got pregnant first try the second time.

@LorelaiRoryEmily it took us 10 months with DS (now 27months). Didn't think i would be going through this again either. Glad you've joined the thread. Keep the up yours coming xxx

Up yours to the fact we had to decide on our menu choices for the work Xmas dinner today and I had to pick soup as my starter just in case I get pregnant this cycle and can't have the chicken terrine or the tuna carpaccio....

I am already fully grumpy about the fact that I won't get pregnant this cycle and I will be sitting there sipping my motherf*cking soup while jealously staring at everyone else's starters and hating TTC.

Up yours to my friend who conceived even though her husband works in a different country during the week.

Up yours to getting my period this morning.

Up yours to thinking I might be pregnant this cycle because I had really bad gas. No I just had really bad gas.

Up yours to it being 10 months since my miscarriage and wondering if that was my only chance.

Up yours to stupid delayed ovulation and getting EWCM just after DP goes away for three nights

@Rhubarbe Oh that's so shitty... up yours to your delayed ovulation!

Up yours to talking to friends last night about a trip we are taking and knowing that I will get my period during it and not be able to take to my bed and be sad.

Up yours to cd39 and STILL no bfp 😭 even though I've never been this late

And up yours to the fact I'm now petrified there's something wrong with me 😞

@TigGerifficmummy CD41 here. No bfp or period. Feeling the same as you

Ffs @Dbrook I'm going to double your up yours to that person who got knocked up while her husband works away!! 🙄

I'm sorry about your mc too

It's the not knowing isn't it @Bananaloaf88

@tiggerifficmummy I am at the point I just want AF to show up. I have had quite a stressful year already and starting a new job very soon. Maybe if I hadn't everything else ontop of this I wouldn't be feeling as anxious.

Up yours to AF Eve (the poorer bloodier sister of Christmas Eve). Up yours for letting me think that these "symptoms" may be preggo symptoms, when in fact you are exactly the same as AF symptoms.

I've got to stay I'm still hoping for the bfp but if af showed instead at least I'd know one way of the other! Hope you get some news either way soon @Bananaloaf88

Up yours TTC#2 for 6 months only for your husband to announce he doesn't want any more children and only went along with the previous 6 cycles to keep you happy.