A whole load of “up yours” to ttc

[Chefwifelife]

I saw a post like this on a non conception board and thought it was quite funny and cathartic so I thought I’d start one.

I’ve got a whole bag of “up yours” to the trying to conceive process. Who wants one?! I’ll start.

Up yours to 10 months of ttc #2 and everyone telling me it’s quicker the second time around as your body knows what to do.

Up yours to indent lines on one step tests and frer’s

Up yours to people telling me to “relax and it will happen”.

Up yours to the age gap which is quickly getting bigger and bigger between DS1 and potential DC2.

That’s me done.

I’ve a few to add for sure. Great thread, very stress relieving. Baby dust to everyone here no matter where you are in your journey.

Up yours to the education system which leads you to believe you will fall pregnant if you so much as look at a penis.

Up yours to AF turning up whenever she pleases it seems.

Up yours to walking past baby clothes in the shops and knowing you can’t buy any yet and soon those cute things you’ve looked at will be out of the shop soon enough but then the thing starts all over again with the new seasons clothes.

Up yours to stalling your career in the hopes it wont matter as you’ll be pregnant soon surely.

Up yours to the multiple boxes of pregnancy tests in my cupboard that I’ve never even had a moments whiff of a need for so far.

I’m sure this month will bring me more up yours to TTC.

Up yours to supposedly being in the fertile window but so not being in the mood to DTD.

Oh my god, how have I only just seen this!
So much love for you ladies.

Up yours for being in hospital having a cyst removed the same week I was meant to be giving birth.

Up yours to the consultant who after 2 years and despite my DH having major issues with his SA results refuses to acknowledge there's a problem and says we will get pregnant because I had a miscarriage 10 months ago.

Up yours to friends who complain about the newborn stage the day of my due date.

Up yours to my stupid hopeful brain making me hoard cute baby grows and hide them around the house.

Up yours to that nagging feeling it is never going to happen, and what then?

I love this threat. Half in tears thinking about how everyone feels, half laughing because I've experienced a few of the up yours people have commented!

Up yours to the friend that told me 'maybe it was the wrong gender' as a reason for me miscarrying.

Up yours to the midwives that told me there was no sign of pregnancy twice, even though I know it's their job and it's not their fault at all.

Up yours to no explanation of why I miscarried twice at 7 weeks.

Up yours to now being scared to try again because I never want to feel how I felt the first two times.

Up yours to my first pregnancy being due on my birthday.

Up yours to the friends that are now pregnant but won't tell you because they know what you've been through and don't want to hurt you. When actually it would be easier to hear it from them than someone you barely know.

Up yours to the signs my period is about to start making me so emotional I almost cried in the middle of a shopping centre today because I kept seeing babies and pregnant bellies everywhere, not to mention how angry I feel this month about how unfair it all is!

Up yours for everyone around you getting pregnant (especially those for who it's a 'happy accident')

Up yours to being stressed so needing a holiday, but no able to book one in case your heavily preggo next summer

Up yours to wanting to plan a trip to visit your poorly grandmother abroad, but being unable to arrange in case you actually finally do get preggo!

Up yours to having your baby names picked out with no baby to give them to

Up yours to all the well meaning people saying "I've heard you're super fertile after a MC" and watching your temps dip, and knowing in your heart of hearts that you're not one of those people.

Amen to the up yours to accidental pregnancies and happy surprises. Absolutely UP YOU.

Up you to day dreaming about the positive test, due date, names, little bundle, and then AF shows up with a vengeance 😭

Up you to the swinging optimism and pessimism

Up yours to the news story I've just read about the woman who's now expecting her 22nd baby! TWENTY SECOND!!!

@waitingforarainbow I hear you. I was waiting for someone to mention that.

UP YOU BABY BOMBS! And that horrible feeling you get in your stomach like you’ve been punched but you have to smile and say ‘that’s great news ’ when you feel . Only lasts a few minutes though - esp when the other person has had a sh*t time too.

Up yours to the fact I am being a total grump about:

• lovely friend having twins this week
• other really lovely friend announcing she's pregnant and due in May
• lovely colleague bringing in her baby to the office

Up yours to starting mornings peeing on my hand

Up yours to 'just relax and it will happen'

Up yours to my mother who doesn't think that it's 'productive to talk about it'

Up yours to my sheer bloody naivety in assuming that I'd be pregnant by Christmas when we started this year

Up yours to the fact that I want to grumpily drink and smoke, then I think I shouldn't in case it stops me getting pregnant

Up yours to my mother in law who spent approximately 43 of the 48 hours I spent in her presence this weekend banging on about grandchildren. Not our children, precisely, but seeing as DH is an only child what the hell else am I meant to imply?!

Up yours to all the advice is to be healthy all the time and have no unealthy habits, when sometimes feels the unhealthiest people are the ones who have accidents and surprises.

Up yours to my favourite cousin telling us she’s pregnant again and me starting to hate her.

Up yours to the class of children who seemed to be desperately trying to break me today. Why do their parents get to have children when they can’t control them and I don’t?

Up yours to being in the fertile window and not in the mood at all.

Yes yes yes keep em coming and lighten the load.

Up yours to the very lovely Gynae registrar who was doing so well until she uttered the words "it's only been 10 months"...... 🤬

@Chefwifelife yes to this! Up yours to being 'super fertile after mc' well mine was 6 months ago and I'm not pregnant!

Up yours to having messed up cycles after mc. Cd19 now and no ovulation yet.

Oh @whatdayisit7 I feel your pain. I have 35 day cycles (‘just about’ normal from what I can surmise although that’s not exactly reassuring) with a 14 day LP. As a result my weeks are

Week 1: Ragey with AF
Week 2: Ragey with impotence that NOTHING IS HAPPENING
Week 3: STILL WAITING then frenzy of DTD
Week 4: Start of 2ww
Week 5: Continuation of 2ww

Cycle days 5 - 20 when I’m waiting for ovulation just feel like wasted time. I hate them so so much. TWW is sooo preferable, at least I can symptom spot and do something

So yeah, up yours long cycles! (Guess who’s on CD11 ?)

Up yours to getting upset because I can feel AF on its way and taking it all out on OH even though he’s done nothing wrong.

Up yours to looking at buying a new house and checking all the primary school catchment areas for the new house to make sure we’d still be near the good schools but then deep down asking myself why I’m even bothering as never had even a sniff of a positive yet.

Quite, @banoffeepie91

Up yours to househunting and worrying a 2 bed isn’t practical for when we have our second when I’ve not even had a BFP for #1, but knowing we couldn’t afford to move after #1 even if we were that lucky...

@Dollywilde used to ovulate on cd18 which felt late enough but after mc it's been cd31, 25, 22 and 21. Hoping it happens next couple of days!! Ditto to the hideous time of just WAITING AROUND, literally drives me insane.

Totally ridiculous too but feeling an up yours to yet another baby bomb of the Radford baby 22. Second one since they've announced/having since I started ttc and I can't even get sodding one. One!

I'd like to join please! So many sad but helpful insights from you all!!

I'd like to say

Up yours to 17 month of ttc and nothing

Up hours to the mc I had at 6 weeks the first time we were ttc then waited for a year before trying again!!

Up yours to being a week late but still getting bfn after bfn

Up yours to all the symptoms I think I have every month 😡

Up yours to all the people that ask me every time I see them - would you want children together though? At your age?

And up yours to oh slow swimmers and dwindling libido which always seems to dwindle around the fw 😭

I want to apologise to you all as a mum of a ‘happy accident’. DD was not planned at all and I conceived her within 2 months of being with DH. Now that I am struggling to conceive, I understand how much you want to punch those people. I am also remembering some of the insensitive things I did without thinking about it.

Up yours to myself for thinking TTC DC2 would be just as easy as DD.

@BeingATwatItsABingThing to be honest I had no idea it was going to be like this this time last year. I’m trying to exercise patience as I’d have probably said the same things! I just tend to be pleased that people have been lucky and try and remember me being jealous doesn’t get me anywhere.

A slightly more lighthearted one as I’m trying to cut down my caffeine intake... up yours to all the shops which don’t sell caffeine free Diet Coke

Loving this thread, so had to join!

Up yours to everyone asking if you're trying for a baby now married (yes, but it is not as easy as it is for some people!!)

Up yours to my best friend falling pregnant straight after coming off the pill, when I started trying before her! (so happy for her but so jealous!)

Up yours to the MIL for saying the present she wants for Christmas doesn't cost a thing (hinting at a Grandchild!)

Up yours to everything baby that seems to be EVERYWHERE since trying!!!

Up yours to getting no pregnancy symptoms in this TWW so knowing full well that AF is probably on its way!

Up you to doing a test at 8DPO even though you know it’ll be negative because there’s a tiny bit of hope. And up you to the disappointment

I needed this today.

• Up yours to seeing all the pregnancy announcements on FB from people who conceived around the same time as my miscarried pregnancy.
• Up yours to mid-cycle bleeding & irregular cycle post miscarriage.
• Up yours to being 15 DPO with no sign of AF & a BFN test.
• Up yours to my sister who has fallen pregnant super quicky 3 times but told me after my miscarriage that i'm better of without kids
• Up yours to the man who said "Isn't it about time you thought about kids" two weeks after my miscarriage.
• Up yours to DH feeling pressured by "scheduled" sex and failing to finish the deed.
• Up yours to having sore breasts & nipples for two weeks now 🙄
• Up yours to people telling you "Forget about it and it will happen"