A whole load of “up yours” to ttc

[Chefwifelife]

I saw a post like this on a non conception board and thought it was quite funny and cathartic so I thought I’d start one.

I’ve got a whole bag of “up yours” to the trying to conceive process. Who wants one?! I’ll start.

Up yours to 10 months of ttc #2 and everyone telling me it’s quicker the second time around as your body knows what to do.

Up yours to indent lines on one step tests and frer’s

Up yours to people telling me to “relax and it will happen”.

Up yours to the age gap which is quickly getting bigger and bigger between DS1 and potential DC2.

That’s me done.

Another up yours to everyone who says you're super fertile after a miscarriage or you'll be pregnant again before you know it.

Up yours to not seeing your family for months because first you were pregnant and wanted to wait until it was safe to tell them, then because you were so broken after the miscarriage, then because every single cycle just might be the one.

Up yours to not yet having spoken to your friend who gave birth 9 days ago because you had been so excited to be having babies 3 months apart and you're too scared to meet her baby.

Up yours to feeling super positive about this cycle, only for DP to come back from a mad stag weekend and basically sleep through your fertile window . Up yours to then being stroppy with him when he will never really understand, then stroppy with myself for feeling like that and for getting stressed in case it affects the immaculate conception.

Oh and up yours to thinking that maybe this month will be the month because I'm so sure it can't be the month...then realising it won't be the month because I'm still thinking it could be the month.

Bloody hell does it feel better to let the ttc crazy out of my head 😂

I sort of know what you mean gemster. If I got pregnant this month it would be an end of August baby, which pre TTC I felt would be less than ideal and now I don’t give a damn! Except I sort of feel like I can make it happen by thinking ‘this wouldn’t be a great month to get pregnant’ - I’m trying to use negative psychology on my eggs it’s ridiculous...

Dollywilde

Me too!! I started TTC in December last year for my perfect September baby. That ended in an EMC. I no longer want the perfectly timed baby. I just want the baby.

@Dollywilde my thoughts exactly this month! Glad I’m not just the only one who thinks like that.

Up yours to nearing the end of a big pot of folic acid and thinking when I first bought them that I wouldn’t need more than 1 as I’d be pregnant by the time they were finished.

I’m so pleased it’s not just me !!

Up yours to a 4th person I know now announcing their pregnancy...

@Banoffeepie91 I know what you mean - I have my pregnacare conception on Amazon subscription and every month I skip them because I'm nearly at the end of the 2WW and think I'll need to move onto the pregnancy ones in a few days.

I stupidly also refuse to buy tampons as it feels like tempting fate so have a mad dash to Superdrug every month 🙄

I do the opposite Gemster. I buy sanitary products and ovulation sticks in the hope that it’s wasted money. That’s normally how my life works...

Hey ladies I'm new so only just seen this thread but after ttc for almost a year having a misscarrige in May I'd love to say up yours to it all so...

1, up yours for being 1 day late and negative

2, up yours for having a misscarrige and then no periods for 3 months

3, up yours to the people saying just relax, stop stressing over it, it will happen

4, up yours to the girl at work who's been with her bf 3 seconds and already pregnant

4, up yours for feeling like a failure and being so fed up

5, up yours to feeling so alone

Rant over lol

Hello fellow uytttc ers. For some reason this thread doesn't come up in my "I'm on list" anymore; maybe because they're so many posts lol.

Sunday's are a great time to get shit off your chest so here's mine:

Up yours to my nutty brain thinking I could still be preggo even though my temps have nose dived, bfn and light af because that actually happened to me with my EMC. Come on brain let's move on from that!

Up yours to the GP surgery for trying to get me to book a flu vaccination when my baby died in JULY.

LunchBoxPolice I’m so sorry to hear that.

Up yours to having an infected wisdom tooth and the only antibiotic is metronidazole which isn't ideal when TTC as can cause birth defects.. 3dpo and considering not taking them as if I am pregnant this will cause me to worry that I've caused birth defects!! X

God I need this thread today. I am sending a big huge UP YOURS to the fact that I'm sat on a stupid train because I have a work trip that I can't rearrange, and of course this is the week I'll be ovulating, so yet again it's a pointless wasted fecking month, but I can't get another job because I need the maternity pay I've built up.

BeingATwatItsABingThing thank you

Probably already said but I'm having a awful day, 3 pregnancy announcements from friends in 2 days, that added to the 15 (that have caught by accident or under 3 months) since I've been ttc 18 months almost. One a month as if AF isn't enough.

Up yours to feeling useless/worthless
Up yours to af
Up yours to bfn
Up yours ttw
Up yours to opk kits and 21 day bloods
Up yours to symptom spotting
Up yours dtd at right time

Anyone else just sat there a cry, wishing was you? Then feel like a horrible friend that your not over month for your friends. Reaching breaking point.

@waitingformytime
I am sat hear feeling sad as another friend has told me she’s pregnant within months of her marriage. I have two other friends pregnant with honeymoon babies.
I’m sat here; a failed ivf cycle and a DP back on anxiety meds as he feels like he’s failed.
Feeling sad as we aren’t doing any more ivf due to various things and we can’t afford it.
Having a year off to save and regroup and then start the adoption ball rolling. Although I’m already worrying about that!!

Same here...it's gut retrenching to sit on sidelines and watch everyone make TTC look so easy and effortless and then the guilt for not being happy enough is the shitty cherry on top.

Sometimes I feel like I'm having to use every fibre of my being to stay positive and keep my shit together....so I don't look back at my life and feel like I've wasted years yearning for something that wasn't meant to be.

So a massive up yours to keeping shit together.

*wrenching!

I’m new to mumsnet and reading through all your posts has made me feel a bit better in that I’m not alone. Been off the pill for six months and no period yet. Doctors saying it’s normal even though it doesn’t feel normal so

Up yours to no period yet
Up yours to a newborn baby in the family
Up yours to a family pregnancy announcement
Up yours to being questioned when will you have a baby
Up yours for shopping for sister in laws newborn and wishing it was for our own
Up yours to having to wait 12 months before my doctor will do any tests

@Minniemoo60 welcome to the bitter side, we have folic acid

Oh and today's

Up yours to the horse pills that are conception vitamins
Up yours to Xmas pudding jumper pregnancy announcements (I love Xmas pudding!)
Up yours to DH yet again claiming "it's bound to happen at this rate" WHEN WE HAVENT BEEN TTC IN MY FERTILE WEEK
Up yours to the aforementioned fertile week killing my sex life

Up yours to people saying you are 25 and of "no age" so stop worrying

Just up yours up yours up yours

Oh and up yours to my DM who says just get drunk and have fun and it will happen

Whilst I am abstaining from alcohol, doing yoga and considering acupuncture

OH SORRY and a massive up yours TO THIS!!!! EVERY FECKING MONTH!!!!!