TTC first baby 1 year + thread 2

[Mrs71]

@KatBeCool @FlapJackered @Broodyaf @bunhead34 @RosettaR @MotherOfShihTzus @starkid @Lina365

I thought I'd start a new thread as the other one is full. Sorry if I've missed anyone out.

Still, I'm so happy that there are more BFPs here! Miracles happen, we're proof of that no matter what happens!

I still can't process it. Had an hcg and progesterone blood test earlier, results tomorrow. I just need to hear it. I'm in complete twilight.

Ah great you could get a blood test done 👍

@Lina365 I am so sorry you're going through this, bleeding although not always a good sign is not always a bad sign either, my sister bled red blood throughout the first trimester and all was fine. It is a horrible time of limbo and I have everything crossed for you that it is not as it seems. ❤️

@KatBeCool it can't be clearer than that! Official congratulations lovely! 🎉🤩
You're pregnant!! X

@KatBeCool congratulations! That's so exciting to see!

@Lima365 sorry to hear what you're going through, but I'm glad the nurse was so positive. It seems like it can be hard to know what's normal, I'm sure I'll be a bag of nerve if I get to that stage. Fingers crossed it all works out!

I'm still waiting for AF, it's cycle day 29 and I've not made it past day 28 for over a year. But since I didn't get a positive opk this cycle, and didn't have much ewcm, I could just be having a weird cycle and I might not even have ovulated. So trying not to get my hopes up.

@RosettaR do you usually get any symptoms after you ovulate? Like extra hungry, or sore boobs, or hot flashes, or anything at all? And just because they're hasn't been much ewcm that you saw, doesn't mean there's none on the inside. Back when I did IUIs, I can't say there was a ton of ewcm, but they always commented that there was a lot inside of the cervix, which is where it's meant to be. They suggest you stick two fingers in and just kinda try to grab it off the cervix tip to see if there's any. So you're not necessarily out yet.

My bloods came back at hcg 34, which is neither here nor there so they want me to come back tomorrow. I'm really hoping it'll be higher. My progesterone was 16.6, which is normal but I'm taking the pill hormones so it's leading me to believe, as I suspected, that I didn't make enough on my own rather than not ovulating.

So I learned there is a progesterone test called Proov, Amazon has it. I did get it this cycle, it's a good peace of mind.

@KatBeCool Sorry tour hcg wasn't decisive. Have you got the results from yesterday's yet? I'm not sure they do hcgs on the nhs, from what I read they just rely on the home pregnancy test.

I did have all my usual symptoms this month, but the timings were all wrong. I might just have ovulated super late which would mean af isn't even due yet. I wish I was temping because I think then I'd have more of an idea what was going on. Even so I've got myself very hopeful because it's now day 31 and I have no spotting still. I'm going to test tomorrow - I only have a cb digital so I've delayed testing as long as I can bear. I really hope this isn't another month where I get my hopes up and get disappointed, it's happened so many times!

@RosettaR the results will be in on Monday. Usually it's the next day, but of course with my luck, it had to be Friday, so I have to wait until Monday. I'm losing it. My tests are all over. Cheapies go from light to semi-ok. I had two digitals, both said pregnant two days apart and they really bright and dark when I took them apart. Frer never changed, I used it for three days. Line never got lighter or darker. My boobs don't hurt anymore, I don't even know how to calm myself down.

Hi all. Hope you don’t mind me joining in...
Hope your all well and staying safe during this very stressful climate
Just wanted to join in and tell you my story...
So I’ve be TTC (trying to conceive) since February 19 I was previously on the implant which I had removed Feb 19. My periods were all over the place at first but since August 19 I have been having regular periods every month lasting between 31-33 days. I wasn’t ovulating at first but since November 19 I have started to ovulate every month (I check by using the ovulation sticks). Both myself and husband are normally fit and well, we have both had all the routine tests done.. blood tests and semen analysis which have all come back normal. I was due to see a gynaecologist on 1st April which got cancelled given the circumstances...
I’m currently 10 days late on my periods I’ve done 3 pregnancy tests which have all come back negative. I really don’t know what’s going on I’m not normally this late I definitely ovulated last month as I checked myself and we did the baby dance the few days around it. I have no symptoms other than lots of cream discharge (sorry if its tmi). I did a test 3 days after AF was due and another on 8 days. All BFN.
Don’t know what to think now? Whether I’m really late coming on or actually pregnant? And wondering whether it’s possible to skip a period even if you have ovulated that month? xxx

@KatBeCool I'm really sorry you're in that position but it's a really good sign that the digitals and the frer have all been positive. This link is very reassuring, it says there is huge variation in hcg levels and how fast they increase between women. It doesn't mean theres a problem if its a little slower than average. www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/ask-heidi/hcg-levels.aspx I really hope you get good news on Monday!

Hi @Sems26 I may be in a similar position if I get a bfn tomorrow, so I can well understand how stressful that would be! I'm sorry that I don't really have any advice, other than to try to speak to the GP over the phone, as they might do a blood test for you. There seem to be quite a few people on other threads with similar experiences. I wonder if it is the stress of covid 19 messing up all our cycles. Although on a personal level I've been trying 18 months and I'm desperate to believe there's a chance I'm now pregnant!

@Sems26 it is rare although still happens that your pee just doesn't have enough hcg. Normally, obviously, you'd get a blood test. You can't do anything else but sit and wait. The "good" news is that if you are pregnant, the wait won't change that. However, if it goes for over a month, I'd seek medical help. Especially if you are indeed pregnant. You'll need the scans, the blood tests, etc.

@RosettaR maybe you'll get a bfp tomorrow! Fingers crossed. If you're suspecting preggo, there's a good chance you are.

@Lina365 how are things with you?

@RosettaR Fingers crossed the long cycle is a good sign...!

As for me, I'm still waiting, but because the bleeding hasn't ended and none of my clear pregnancy symptoms have come back I feel like I've given up. I could go for an early scan with a midwife on Wednesday (at the earliest), and the following Monday I have a scan at the infertility clinic. I think I'll just wait until then - that's how firmly I believe that I've lost the pregnancy. Seeing a tiny thing without a heartbeat a few days earlier may not be a 100% answer either way, and it'll only harm the work that I have to get done next week.

I have a good cry every day when I get tired from thinking about all this, and every now and then I feel hopeful that it will happen for us again soon. It has to.

@Lina365 I'm really sorry that's happened to you. Do the fertility clinic know about the bfp?

So I got a bfn this morning, but I knew I would because I took my temperature when I woke up and it was really low. Plus my bombs have stopped hurting, they hurt for a good three or four days before today. I got a tiny bit of blood yesterday so hopefully af is now on her way. My biggest worry now is that I've stopped ovulating and it could take ages to start again.

@RosettaR Yes, they know about the BFP. They haven't removed us from the ivf queue yet, which makes me feel a little better, as I know that they're still taking people in to plan for ivf and adding them to the queue. I guess they're used to getting these good news and then the bad straight after...

Sorry about the BFN. It really sucks...

@Lina365 that's great you're in the queue for when the clinics re open. I've spent the morning ordering a basal thermometer and opks and some more pregnancy tests so I can figure out what's up with my cycle. Really going to struggle today. Lockdown makes it worse because there's nothing to take your mind off it.

@RosettaR I can't decide if this lockdown is good or bad. I'm so glad I don't have to go anywhere right now. However, I did book some extra work appointments for these couple of weeks - and I can't believe I'm going through this at the same time. I have to be on screen and be all smiley. But secretly, I'm glad I don't have to be around some of my friends and their growing pregnancy bellies and newborn babies. In the future, I'm going to make sure I don't have to hold other people's babies. I'm gradually learning how to say no thanks, but sometimes they just hand them to you like I have no choice. This is such a mindf*...

I hope your cycle gets back to normal. I know it makes everything more stressful when you're not sure your body is functioning.

@KatBeCool You've come a long way, I have my fingers crossed for you for more good news!

Looks like this was a chemical. Lines are all gone, frer is barely visible. I guess I shouldn't have let myself get happy or hopeful. Dreading the call tomorrow from the clinic, not gonna be any good news there.

@KatBeCool I'm so sorry this has happened, to both you and @Lina365, it's so sad and I don't really know what to say. I just really hope that eventually you will both get what you deserve.

@Lina365 I agree it's easier in some ways, I had some friends of my DH who had a baby recently. Somehow I find that worse than my friends and I am very glad I don't have to visit them! Also I have having AF start at work and trying not to cry in front of people is horrible. On the other hand I am finding it tough how the number one topic of conversation with work colleagues is how difficult it is home schooling while also working. Some of us would give a lot to have that problem!

Well af has arrived for me which this time is a relief, I was so worried my cycles had just stopped. I hope I get a normal cycle soon, my last cycle had a 10 say luteal phase so that's two messed up cycles now. I've ordered a new basal thermometer and a tonne of opks so at least I will know what's going on next cycle.

@KatBeCool I'm sorry - did you find out the results yet?

My bleeding seems to stop gradually, and I don't feel pregnant at all, so if I just get through this week, I'll let myself be miserable after the scan next week. I'll never forget these weeks, it's so strange I don't even know how to react...

@Lina365 the clinic confirmed it's a chemical. Starting to spot just a bit so AF is on her way. Seriously, how could this happen to both of us? The excitement surely didn't last long. But honestly, deep down I somehow knew this wasn't it, even when I was holding the clearly positive test. You're right, I have no idea how to react either. I know crying won't fix anything so I don't even bother. But I guess gotta keep going forward.

@KatBeCool - I'm so sorry, and with those clear positive tests too :( so sad for this to happen to both of you! Fingers crossed we'll all get there in the end. Look after yourself xx