TTC Baby number 1 - Looking for buddies

[Hewie30]

Hi Ladies 🙋,

I'm new to the forum so thought I'd look for some TTC buddies.
I'm 30 and TTC baby number 1, I came off the pill beginning of May and had a withdrawal bleed a few days later then got my first AF 4 weeks after that. Last month I sadly had a chemical it was gutting seeing the faint line go but I guess it wasn't my time!
AF arrived on time Sunday so looks like my cycle ranges from 34-35 days.
I'm currently taking pregnacare and using the Ovia app for ovulation, I'm thinking if I don't concieve by month 6 I'll try ovulation sticks. Onward to month 4 I go 🤣

@Hewie30 that's it, I knew we were round about the same. Flo says AF due Monday but I'm saying it would be Sunday. I'm having all sorts of twinges on and off too. It's crazy how much you tune in to your body so much more in the dreaded TWW! 40 days - would that be the longest it's been? I'm hoping so. Eeek! Yes 100% I can hold out. All of these BFNs for early testing freaks me out and I think it is what it is already, so I'm giving myself the chance by waiting. I'm even worrying Saturday will be too early 🤣 but I'm going to do it! If I had a FR here it may be another story. Stupid CBs 😂🙈 Only one POAS-less morning wee for you and then it's go-time baby!!!

@Gigi318 Yeah were only a day or so apart which is nice 😊. Are yoooou, where are you getting them? Is it by your overies too? It's such a odd feeling! Yeah 40 day cycle would be my longest by far. I've had so far a 32, 34 and 35 day cycle 🤦. Haha that's a great mindset to have! Also if you start testing early it's going to make you even more tempted to do it more often which ends up costing a bomb!!
Eeeek not long!! If I don't get a positive I'm not going to be upset cos I could easily be 3dpo today if the other day was ovulation

@Hewie30 It's got to mean something though! When are you testing?

@Gigi318 How interesting, hopefully the symptoms mean something and aren't just psychosomatic!

Fingers crossed for when you test ladies!

I'm on CD12 and still blank OPKs, I would have thought I'd already get a flashing one but apparently not. Hopefully that means I'm not one of the people that get a week of flashing smileys at least. Don't think I will be doing OPKs after this cycle though as I don't like how they make me think (things like "no point having sex today" - which is just wrong)

@Hewie30 what do you mean gone dark?? Someone on my previous thread had this and I told her to POAS and she got her BFP!!

@Gigi318 haha I know! I don't know how some of these women remember it all 😅😅

@Raizelrea I'm hoping so! I'm going to test Wednesday but if it's negative I'm going to retest if I have ovulated late.
How long are your cycles normally? Me and a friend compared our opks and I seem to be a gradual one where it slowly increases but hers definatly surge quickly.
Yeah I completely agree with that, and when you get a positive you feel you have to dtd to cover yourself. It has good and bad thoughts with it. Try and think rational as long as your covered dtd whenever your in the mood too, try and not let the opks take over. I refused to let it and just enjoyed myself 😂

@Hewie30 yes! Always handy to have buddies around the same time. It has been a bit yes, but also in the middle. Right now the only way to explain it is like butterflies. Kinda tingly? Odd, I know! Definitely long, but like you said it could have been the pregnacare - Oohhhh I for my folic today btw! Forget to say. Feel like I'm part of the prepared club now! Oh goodness, if you are 3dpo then this is going to be a looong wait 🤣🙈 but we'll get there. I agree with Rai, I think it means something!

@Raizelrea oh my goodness, I know - somedays I keep questioning myself and wonder if I'm going mad. I've never experienced anything like this before and if it is all in my head, I am not tracking anything next month, I'm just going to go with it. As I couldn't handle this every month. I'd be in an insane asylum before long!!!

Totally agree with you re opks - obviously I've not used them but I don't think I could handle the mindfuckery that seems to come with them. As you can tell, I'm prone to obsessing over things - and I feel like that's one more obsession I could do without 🙈 I still say go for it, DTD! Swimmers can live up to 5 days anyway and if you got a smiley tomorrow then you're still on track and could DTD again on Weds 👌🏻👏🏻

@flossy12 It's gone quite dark and looks like a positive opk 😲. Ive posted it on here along with my opk chart, you might need to scroll down a bit for it 😂. Really?? That's what Gigi and Raizelrea are saying too! It gives me hope but I don't want to get too excited just yet haha

@gigi318 Yaaaay!! Welcome to the folic acid club 😊😂. Yeah this is true it could easily be the pregnacare! I've stopped taking it now so if it comes to me still trying next month it'll be interesting to see if the cycles shorter!
Yeaaaah I get what you mean! It's a odd feeling isn't it. I'm finding it hard to describe. Wouldn't it be amazing if we all got our positives close together!

@Raizelrea I am now on CD11, been testing with opk twice a day since day 5 (just in case) and every single one had been negative till yesterday afternoon when I got a positive and a solid non flashing smiley. I'd had no flashing smiles at all

I'm now wondering when to test 2 ish weeks after yesterday or when my period would be due which is the week later.
Added dilemma of going on holiday on 28th (2 weeks), period due (according to app) on 5th October so do I test before I go, take a test with me or wait till I get home (ha yeah right like that's going to happen😂😂)

@Hewie30 it's so not hard to be excited for you, but totally see why you want to keep it cool. I'm so bad at this, I'm like BFPs for everyoneeeee 💫 It would be the best thing. We're 100% starting a thread in the pregnancy section regardless of how long it takes us all!!! We shall all graduate together!

@claireb707 oh look at that lovely spike! Hmm, a toughie. I'd usually say test when AF due but one lovely lady said that if you ovulate early then AF is effectively due earlier too - meaning 2 weeks after your peak od! So perhaps two weeks time, then if a BFN but still no AF I'd be tempted to take some tests with me. Wow, this is all so strategic isn't it 🤣👏🏻

@Hewie30 I admire your patience, I'd be testing already! Fingers crossed for you!!!

My cycles range between 29 and 32 days, they seem to alternate, so if I'm right and there is a pattern this cycle will be a longer one - 31-32 days. Last cycle was 29 days and on CD12 I already had watery CM and crazy sex drive. Though I was also taking evening primrose oil so maybe that contributed to that!

You're right about the OPKs, I need to find a balance between being informed and having them dictate my sex life...

@Gigi318 I also have a somewhat obsessive personality 😆 So just trying to find a way to make me obsess about TTC the least possible. Last month I didn't do any OPKs and just went by my body, but I got so hyper-focused and studies my CM all the time it was ridiculous... So trying to put my mind at ease with OPK (and to a degree it's worked as I don't stare at my underwear now haha).

Not too sure what the best approach is for me, I probably need to find a new TV show to get addicted to forget about it all, but then I'd never DTD as I'd end up binge-watching it till 2am 😂

@Claireb707 What a jump, how interesting! Your cycle dates seem similar to mine actually, I got AF on the 5th and expecting AF on the 5th October (Flo seems to suggest the 3rd but I disagree haha). Though my AF lasts around 6 days so double yours - which is probably why there's no smileys in sight. I'm still getting spots which normally clears up for me after AF, so I need that estrogen to kick in for sure! Guess I will ovulate a bit later this month.

I think if you got a static yesterday you're likely to ovulate today or tomorrow, so maybe test two weeks from tomorrow as a compromise? I reckon 28th would still be too early to get a positive but I know what you mean about the holiday - I went to a wedding at 9DPO last cycle so of course I was testing stupidly early to know for the event!

@claireb707 Also the wedding was abroad, I was away for a week in total and took 2FRERs and 1 CB digital with me, AND went to a local pharmacy and bought 2 tests there But that's insane, so don't be me 😆😆😆 I only ended up using one while away so I came back with loads of tests in my luggage - and AF...

@Hewie30 yeah I've just seen it! I'd get a test! Maybe wait till AF due if you don't want to chance it but I would 😅 xx

@Raizelrea it's so hard to find a balance isn't it. Shame we can't just dtd when we feel like it and then oops, there's a baby 🤣 I find that I don't overly obsess over the CM I'm just more conscious of when I'm feeling wetter and dryer throughout the day, if that makes sense? 🙈 hahaha it's so hard!!!

Also, in your post to @claireb707 - 'don't be me' 😂🙊

@Hewie30 ROLL ON WEDNESDAY 🥂🥂🥂 One more wee to go!!!!!!!!!

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Raizelrea Haha thank you 😂, I'm proud of myself too! I've got cheapies so I'm worried they won't pick it up if I test too early haha. It's positive so far so hoping it means something!

@flossy12 Haha! I've only got cheapies so worried it might not pick it up especially if I ovulated the other day it would only make me 3dpo 🤦😂. I'll definitely take one Wednesday and if that's negative I'll test abit later 😊. But fingers crossed! 🤞🤞.

@Gigi318 Not long!! Fingers crossed 🤞🤞

@Hewie30 ooohhh I'm excited for you! 😁😁 xx

Finally got a flashing smiley! 😊 I kind of thought I would as well, because last night I felt oddly energised for a Monday evening so figured that had to be the estrogen surge. I guess that should mean peak will come within the next 4 days, hopefully. I've got to say it is reassuring to see a confirmation of my body doing what it's supposed to be doing 😊

Morning ladiesssss 🥂 baby dust to you all today 💫

@Raizelrea hurrah!!! And that sounds absolutely perfect to me - listening to your body too. Amazing how we can just sort of tell, isn't it. I am so, so pleased for you. Now go and get busy just in case 🙊 nothing wrong with trying to catch early hehehe! Practice makes perfect 👌🏻

@Hewie30 yay for the last POASless wee for you this morn. One more morn to go!!!! How are you chick?

How are you feeling today @flossy12?

@Gigi318 You are so lovely ☺️ Thank you for cheering us all on! Hope you have a nice sunny day - one day closer to test day! 🌞

@Raizelrea oh bless you 😂🙈 I'm sure some will be sick of my positivity but you shan't change me 🙊 Can't help it. If you can't be positive, what can you be? Hehehe! Thanks chick, I actually have a really good day - good work, good dinner to make, and a nice pampering bath. Shame the weather is rubbish here! Hope you have a fab day too!! And yay to that smiley face woohoo!!! X

@Raizelrea yay! Get DTD 😉😉

@Gigi318 morning 😆😁😁 I personally love the positivity!! I'm fine today still no nausea 🤞🏻 got a shopping day today and cinema tonight so busy day for me!! Sun is shining where I am (for now)

@Raizelea Yaaaay!!! Get dtd hun!! 😁😁😁😁. Your peak is here!!!

@Gigi318 I'm not bad thanks hun! Feeling a bit negative this morning so I need your positivity! I feel heavy and like AF is on her way, I caved and tested, there's something there but I reckon it was a indent 🤔🤪

@flossy12 thank you, that's kind. I say it never hurts to be positive - it makes me feel good all of the time and if it makes others feel good too, then I've done my job 👏🏻🥂we all need a little hope in our lives. This sounds like a fantastic day. Just take it slow and have breaks so you're not too tired! See, so many lovely little things to look forward to in the day 👌🏻🥰