Fecking TWW limbo torture

[Secretsquirrelisfedup]

We are currently TTC #3. DC are 7 and 4 going into Juniors and Reception this year. DP has always been on the fence about whether to have anymore until early this year and now he’s as enthusiastic as me that it’s the right thing for us.

Both DC took 12-18 months to conceive and we got our hopes up so many times each time only to feel rubbish when it wasn’t to be. We haven’t been trying half as long this time and yet I’m convinced this month is the month, not for no reason. I had what I think was possibly implantation spotting yesterday evening and I’m crampy but milder than with AF and I feel a bit sick and knackered today.

I know it will take a couple of days for HCG to build up enough for a BFP if this is the case (didn’t stop me POAS this morning and getting a BFN). The sensible part of me is trying to stop myself from getting my hopes up as I know it could just as easily be my body messing with me and the start of AF a few days early but I can’t stop convincing myself I’m pregnant. Arrrrggg

I feel like I'm going mad too. Me and dp have limited times when we can dtd when I'm ovulating because of his job. This month everything has lined up pretty much perfectly and he's been home the whole time. I'd really like us to have a child together but nothing has happened in the year + that we've not been using anything. I had an ectopic years back and I fear that might be what is causing issues now

Where about are you in your cycle this month @bigfatwiggle? It’s horrible dealing with all the things that go through your head when it’s not happening isn’t it.

Joining the torture brigade. Trying for our first child after getting married in May this yr.

I was convinced this was our month with tracking my Ov and following the sperm meets egg plan.

But I took a test on Monday and was a BFN... still could be early as I'm CD22 and due for Af on sat according to Ovia.

I am the most impatient person. I need a test you do a couple of days after BD which says "yep, you did it!" or "nope, not this time buddy"

two weeks is a long time to get your hopes up!!!

x

@Chops14 I’m due AF on Saturday too, I’m cd 27 though, my cycles are 31ish days. It feels like about a million years ago since the fun times of the fertile window. I just want to know now so I can either get excited or have a bottle of wine and get my head back in the game for next month.

I'm CD 18. Been having a really weird sensation in my lower abdo this morning like cramping but I have bowel issues so it could be to do with them.....probably trapped wind
I often confuse tummy trouble with pregnancy symptoms and get my hopes up!
Dp is very much let's take the chilled approach and see what happens even after a year....he's in his 40s so I don't want to leave it too much longer. I'm 31 so feel I should be ok age wise. Feels like such a long wait to see if anything has happened. I keep trying to see positives that if AF comes I can have a nice big glass of wine!

@bigfatwiggle - omg we must be twins lol!

I suffer with my tummy (inflammation / allergy issues) and am always thinking its preggo symptoms when its probably just how I always have been feeling except my senses are heightened to it because I am TTC.

How long have you been trying?

I'm 35 so feel time is against me, def need to stop reading articles about age as it scares me!

@Secretsquirrelisfedup my cycle is only 25 days so quite short.

It does feel like a never ending wait eh? Have you resisted the urge to test this cycle?

x

Chops I have been trying for over a year but due to dps job it can be quite tricky to dtd when I am fertile- he works away a lot.
I am going to get dp to see his gp if we don't have any luck this month- he's very reluctant.

Just would love it to happen. It's quite sad how desperate I am. I feel a little bit crazy!

Triplets 😂 I have IBD/IBS too although I think I have that mostly under control at the moment. I have not resisted the urge to test. I was doing so well too. I didn’t even have any in the house and planned to wait till at least Thursday. I caved and put in a same day amazon order when I started spotting yesterday though and tested this morning despite logic telling me that I need to wait at least another couple of days. I’m 32.

@Bigfatwiggle it might just have taken this long due to bad luck with timing from the sounds of it but no harm in getting things checked so you know whether there’s anything else going on.

I've had some tests already.....my progesterone levels were raised but gp wanted to repeat these to check as apparently it can spike for loads of reasons. I haven't managed to go back and repeat the test yet as work has beeb manic but I have been being really good health wise. Lost over a stone in weight and have been using Arbonne products which are apparently good for levelling out hormones, they've also massively helped my tummy issues.
Dp has mentioned that he thinks it's him and I think he's scared to go get checked because he will blame himself. We have had ALOT of sex this month so I'm hoping we have caught it but if not I'm going to march him up to the GP

Oh poor guy. I totally see where he’s coming from there but it could be something totally fixable if there is something going on like vitamin or mineral levels or something but you can’t fix it if you don’t know what’s going on. If all is well with his swimmers it will put both your minds at rest and take some of the stress out of it for you x

@bigfatwiggle congratulations on the weight loss too, that’s a massive achievement

I could still do with losing more but I will continue what I am doing now so hopefully more will come off.
Just desperate to do a test. I don't have any in the house which is probs for the best as it's way too early.
That's a good point about dp....I will try and use that in my argument to convince him to book an appointment. I have said to him if he does have a low sperm count I'm not worried, I'd just like to know one way or another. The not knowing stresses me and I already know my issues will hamper our efforts.

@bigfatwiggle when is AF due? I technically have enough tests now to test every day till Saturday when AF is due for me but I’m determined to hold out till Friday now at least so that I don’t knacker my eyes squinting to try and see a hint of a line that may or may not be faintly there. I stared so hard at the test this morning that I couldn’t see straight for an hour 😖

Af not due till 16th/17th. Gonna try and dtd again tonight in case I have ovulated late.

Good plan, and an excellent way of distracting yourself too

@secret I have one test left at home, could buy more but they are so expensive!! I will wait until Friday too I think.

I am so bloated at the moment, if this month is a no go I seriously have to go on a diet - right now I can blame it on a non-existent baby! lol

x

@chops14 let’s try and stay strong together. I’m still a bit crampy this afternoon and bloaty too. No more signs of spotting so I’m still really hopeful but driving myself nuts. My house is a lot cleaner though from trying to distract myself and me and the kids have done a treasure hunt which was fun 😁

aw! cute!! did you fall easily with your other kids?

I'm on a course tomorrow for a few days with work so that should keep me occupied... work is very quiet as most people are on hols.

No we tried for about 18 months with my eldest and just over 12 months with my youngest. My hormones have always given me issues but it was actually worse in my 20s than it is now. I have put a lot of effort into balancing them through diet and stuff though.

When are you both due on?

I’m due AF on Saturday I think going off my last few cycles and the Ovia app.

Hello!
Can I jump on here please?? I think I ovulated today or yesterday. (Been using opks. Had a positive on CD12 and ov twinges yesterday and today-days 13 and 14)
I had a short cycle last month (24 days. When I'm normally 28-29) and Flo says af due 21st August and Clue says due AF 19h August. I've no idea when to test 🤦🏼‍♀️ either way the tww has begun! And I'm crazy.

Hope you're all ok? Xx

Of course you can @Alice8688 the more the merrier. I don’t think the time to start testing is an exact science anyway. It depends how long after ovulation the egg takes to implant as well as the date you actually ovulate. Some people get faint positives as early as 8 days after ovulation, others don’t get a positive till they’ve missed their period. I reckon just hold off testing till as close to AF being due as you possibly can and make sure you use a high sensitivity test if you cave and test early but don’t count yourself out unless AF shows.

I feel properly rough right now so if I still don’t get a BFP in a couple of days I think I might have some sort of bug 😖

Also feeling rough this evening. Terrible gas and feeling so sick. Probs self inflicted......I have cut out loads of foods, gluten, dairy, soy etc and tonight devoured a chicken and bacon pasty. Not mynfinest hour