The caravan of crap! for those of us who are browned off but not to the extent of those over there in the hut

[Thelittlesoldiersmummy]

Well welcome to the caravan sat on the top of a hill somewhere in Dorset some days its good here the weather is fine and all is happy other days the weather is crap and so is everything else!

Feel free to come in be happy, sad or just moody - Just no counting dates or charting or temping just us girls having a chat over a cupper looking out the window through the orange (yes orange) curtain x

Hi,

Enters caravan to sympathise with Lucy re aborted HSG and with Anniemac re her sister.

I sometimes feel kind off bad about my sister as she was always the one with the maternal instincts and was a nanny for awhile whereas I wasn't interested in kids for a long long time and was mad keen on dogs instead.

Now she is the one with the dog and no sign of being in a position to have kids and with a ticking biological clock.

I think that having my son is the best thing ever and really want another but would also really like to be an Aunty as she has been a lovely Aunty to my son. But i would also really like her to have the privilege and joy of being a mum and i worry she isn't going to get there ever because of her circumstances. I can't talk to her either about it as she won't open up to me about her true feelings and i guess i feel awkward about trying to push up to open up.

Lucy, i so know what you mean about being relieved when they did not do the HSG. I left it till day 2 of my last period to ring up and they said they could not fit me in and i was really relieved.

Now I have got my day 3 test back and hubby got his sperm test back and they are both ok so i do want to get the hsg done to rule out anything else and get shiny tubes!

Hi,
Now on cd11 but today my back has gone again so spent an agonising hour at the Drs to be told I probably had another prolapse. Just as I thought I was getting over the operation and looking forward to going back to work, I am laid up again. Have managed to get an appointment with my consultant for Wednesday evening. Worst thing is now is supposed to be my fertile time and the last thing I want is to be bd'ing. Had to get the Drs to prescribe some different painkillers as I explained I have been trying to get pregnant and don't want to take anything that could affect a foetus or ttc. Was on diclofenac and tramadol before and neither are good to take during preganacy. So now on good old codeine and paracetamol. They are only just taking the edge off the pain. Talk about being p*ed off!

oh libra how crap for you sorry babe! I know how it is we have been ttc for 6 months and the last 3 DH always seems to be ill or other crap happens!

I am CD23 sure I cant be PG but my hormones are going metal beware! I am snapping at everyone and being a right cow and I know I am but cant stop myself!

Also I found out today my 36 year old cousin who I know has been ttc behind her BF back had an abortion at 9 weeks because she told her BF she was PG and he told her to get rid so she did I told my mum I have no sympathy for the cow my mum said she felt sorry for her !

right I am off to bed night nite everyone x

libra you poor thing and what a nightmare. and codeine and paracetomol - might as well take a smartie iykwim!

tlsm i know what you mean - dh always seems to manage to be working and not getting home till really late or out or i am sick, certainly for the past couple of months. and i'm with you on your cousin!

I'm only on cycle 1 of ttc so can't justify being browned off as such (apart from the annoying symptoms that have driven me mad....and probably others on the threads I'm on ) but I came in here to have a nose as I'd heard about the hut - what's that all about?!!

Anyway, reason for my post is to reassure anniemac that although it's a lovely thought, I would carry on ttc. You've been trying for long enough, don't stop now. I had a MC before ds and was devasted, had a month off work with spotting then proper MC then ERPC and when I got back to work, on my first day someone announced they were pg. Yes, it upset me a bit but if I ever found out anyone had stopped ttc because of my feelings, I'd feel awful, especially if someone had been trying as long as you. Yes, can cause lots of tears etc but I think it helps get the greiving out of the way faster. Does that make sense? Anyway, it's up to you, just wanted to give my pov

looneytune my cycle buddy both CD24!

Anyone is welcome in the caravan no matter how long you have been trying come on in and take a pew be carful not to sit on the spring sticking out of the lovely orange bench seat!

Well my (.)(.) are aching so much I have had to take some paracetamol I am having shi*ty mood swings and I had to get up in the night for a wee but BFN this morning also have a backache and my temps up ohhhhh

Hi TLSM, sorry about your BFN, maybe too early to test?

hideous story re your cousin, stupid stupid thing to do, but maybe she is just too much in the sway of a BF who is not right for her?

Thanks for the warning about the dodgy spring!

I'm feeling a bit bewildered today. My period was due on Saturday but hasn't arrived. Two tests have given a BFN (the first one I took could possibly have had the faintest of faint - like almpst indetectable - BFP but I took a second and it had a definite BFN...). I have a raging headcold and feel rotten, so not sure if I am premenstrual or not? Thought I was, but now dont know if its just the cold making me feel crappy. I am having a few abdominal twinges which suggest AF is on its way. I'm not normally late - rarely than 3 days late - so if it hasnt come by tomorrow I'll test again. Dont want to get my hopes up :-(

Thelittlesoldiersmummy - thanks cycle buddy, I wasn't sure if I'd be allowed just yet although I have been very unlucky with having soooo many symptoms that it was driving me mad. Dull ache worse now so pretty sure it's AF on the way . Not quite sure when due as only 1st cycle since coming off the pill. If it's the same as it was then I'm due on Sunday although I don't normally feel this dull ache til day or 2 before so as it's getting stronger now, it could be sooner. Anyway, keep us posted, when are you due on? And agree about your cousin I'm keeping everything crossed for you that you just tested too early!

LoveAngel - sorry you're having to wait it out, it's the pits isn't it. I think some people just don't produce enough hormones to show up on tests to start with. Fingers crossed it's not AF on it's way but I agree, don't get your hopes up - I make that mistake!

Right, best go again as I've got 2 different kiddies today and baby just woken up and needs lots of reassurance (so hard looking after babies when you are just DESPERATE for one/another of your own!!)

Byeeeee and thanks for letting me in xx

my last cycle was 28 days then one before was 31 so i now have no idea when I am due! I am sure its all in my head although my boobs do really hurt so much i feel like having them removed and i have been so moody but then quite weepy but i would put money on it that its in my head

sometimes it seems so unfair people getting pregnant who dont want it or were not even trying 'oh can i join the lead i have just found out I am 8 weeks PG' what is that about

tell me about it tlsm my cycles are 28, 29 or 31 days. it's just not fair is it!!! the maths is hard enough as it is

forgot to say the chocolate digestives are over there by the kettle and the chipped enamel mugs that i thought we needed

ahh i feel like crying i really do did another test this morninf and another BFN why do i do this to myself then you have people posting ohh I had sex for one minute once this month could i be pregnant!?! what the fuck sorry am stressed and feel pregnant but am not so just waiting for AF which could be anytime from Sunday my boobs have doubled in size whats that about!

I saw that post too tlsm . I'm scared I'm becoming bitter and twisted!

i feel the same as you all ,btw!

TLSM-are you ok?

That's so funny cycle buddy . I came on here to shout WTF, WHY DID I DO ANOTHER BLOODY TEST WHEN I PROMISED MYSELF I WOULDN'T!!! and you've made me feel better about it. Mine was also BFFN. But your (.)(.) have doubled in size - OMG!! Nightmare having to wait, hope you get a BFP soon, I really do. I know period is on it's way, I can just tell!

TSLM - I like your reply to that thread

Yes, I also like TSLM'S posts on that thread! She may have been more sensitive to the feelings of those on the conception threads if she had posted her question on the antenatal threads instead!

Though to be fair to her I guess it is a conception question if rather a stupid one!

Has libralady come into the caravan yet? if so hi to her as we are both facing the joy of turning 38 in Oct whilst TTC no 2.

scorpio i have not said congrats to you yet, not v.good at doing the congrats as too consumed with [envy envy]It is a nasty streak in me as you can bet if i ever do get a BFP i will be posting about it! Anyway well done scorpio kind knew it was just a matter of time for you as you are only 22 and have had 2 other kids with no probs but just shows people get stressed about it no matter what their circumstances. First time i feel i did not know about mumsnet and starting to think that was a good thing as i have become addicted to posting/lurking on here to the detriment of my work!

oops should preview threads before posting

that was supposed to be and my last sentence was meant to read that the first time i conceived i did not know about mumsnet and was not stressed at all unlike this time round!!

Hi Bobbydazzler,
Yes I am here in the caravan of crap. What date in October do you turn 38? Mine is the 2nd, the same day we celebrate our 8th wedding anniversary as we got married on my 30th. Thought it would save on a party! Got really embarrassed at the church when the vicar told everyone and they all sang happy birthday to me before the ceremony started.
Feeling really s**y today as make back is so painful. Have given up ttc this month as there is no point whatsoever. Hopefully I'll find out what the prognosis is later this evening when I see my consultant. Hope I don't have to have another operation.

Hi Libralady

That was a lovely way to celebrate your 30th!

Mine is 21st oct and my hubby proposed to me on that day 8 years ago! he booked 2 days off work for me without telling me, then whisked me away to a lovely hotel on the pretext of celebrating my 30th. He proposed to me that night over a lovely dinner and then we went out with a group of friends to celebrate both events 2 nights later!

Wonder what they have got planned for our 40th birthdays!?

Hope we have both got another sprog by then!

really sorry to hear about your troubles with your back. Hope you can get that sorted soon and you don't need another op.

I am a lurker...can I join you? I hope you don't think I am intruding. I used to post under a different name, but I opted out for a while becausue the BFP's on the TTC's were too bitter sweet. Don't get me wrong, I am so pleased for everyone who gets pg, I really am, but a little bit of me is still stuck in a "why not me??!!" zone. I took some time out of MN, but you are all so lovely I couldn't keep away ! I'm not so gloomy really, but could do with hanging out with the mildly peeved, if you'll have me? I am not ready for the Hut of Doom, but AF turned up this morning . I am regular as clockwork, so I thought/made pacts with the unknown thingy out there that after 6 months of BD'ing at supposedly all the right times that this would be it. But....no, not me this month.

Well went to see the consultant tonight and after much prodding and poking and x-rays (after he'd called the radiologist in from home) he has diagnosed just a mechanical muscle sprain. Luckily the implant doesn't appear to have shifted and he is predicting it is just a muscle spasm that can occur when you are just walking (doesn't always occur when lifting or bending). He has said this can also occur post operative and since it has only been 10 weeks since my surgery it is not unexpected!. Wish he'd warned me of that before. It should clear up within a few weeks but if I am still in pain when he returns from holiday on 6th September I should go back to him immediately. So have now officially given up ttc this month as I don't feel like trying in any case. Plus after having had x-rays, you don't know what damage could be done if I was to conceive this month. Am surprised that the radiologist didn't ask if I was pg before going ahead. Plus, I didn't have to wear one of those aprons. Do you think the lack of this could cause any problems in the future ttc? At least if I am pissed off now I can see light at the end of the tunnel which doesn't result in surgery at this moment in time. Sorry I have gone on a bit.

Good news Libralady and welcome griffingirl

sorry you have had to come back to the conception board on mn, GG, but the caravan with the lovely views is a great place to be, tho obviously moving to the antenatal threads would be even better!!

Hopefully we will all be caravan graduates sooner or later

Morning all just opening the door as there is a slight smell of sleeping sweaty people

Well i went to the races yesterday afternoon it was brilliant came away £40 up

Glad its not too serious Libra although still not needed sorry for you!

GG welcome come in take a seat

Looney when are you testing next? Also dont know if you have already put but what No DC would it be? I tested again this morning I dont even know why I have tested earlier as I am due on Sunday so only 4 days today tested with a clearblue this morning and another BFN why do we do this to ourselves!

Bobby what a lovely DH you have

Well as i said I tested again this morning and another BFN but I am so confused!

Symptoms:

Boobs are hard and swollen and hurt - dont usually get this when AF is due

I opened the fridge this morning and there was such strong smells it made me feel sick! my DH then smelt it and said there wasnt a stong smell at all

I have had real bad PMT monster sylielast week why to early for AF and now I am just really emotional!

can all these symptoms really be in my head if so that is so unfair and why is this the first time in 6 months that I have had all of these things

Think I am going to buy some first response at lunchtime and test again tomorrow morning if it persists really should just wait until Sunday but why kid myself i know i cant

TLSM

DON'T BUY ANYMORE TESTS. YOU ARE JUST TORTURING YOURSELF! SPEND THE MONEY ON A TREAT INSTEAD!

If you are pregnant then test when you are late, or at the very least when you are due, and enjoy the BFP. If you are not pregnant then no amount of tests is going to change that.

Sorry if I sound harsh but you know it makes sense. If you keep testing before your AF is due you will just keep kicking yourself when you get a BFN and you will still have that seed of doubt in your head that you are testing too early and maybe the tests are wrong. The only way to know for sure is to wait!

Also re the symptoms, I spent ages looking on the internet in the early stages of TTC about what symptoms you get when pregnant and I understand that the first one you get is a missed period, the sore boobs and other stuff doesn't kick in until at least 6 weeks pregnant, so sorry to say but I think it might be in your head. You can have the last laugh if i am wrong .

Ok lecture over! Yes my DH is lush .