The Hut of Gl/Doom Part V- for the unapologetically despondent

[duchesse]

The new hut. Ta-da!

This one is a snug little basement World War 2 type nightclub, with dim lighting, snug velvet sofas, red walls and certainly no politically correct smoking bans. Occasionally certain selected men may be admitted at our convenience.

Sit down, make yourselves at home, and never, ever apologise for feeling like shit. That's about it.

Oh popsy. You're great. I too am going to stick my fingers up, in single and double formation, at being nice, tolerant and understanding about other people's farking pregnancies. Not our responsibility!

I reckon if we combined all our horror stories, we could start a campaign for better treatment of miscarrying women. It seems that while your baby is alive, the medical profession hardly leave you alone, but once it's died they couldn't give a toss. We're just the vessel, and they want us to keep quiet and not make too much mess.

Herbaceaous, I am trying to draft a letter to Health minister to find out why we all get such bad treatment and also why each hospital has different protocols. Is it postcode lottery or real incompetance?
If anyone has any ideas send them my way and I shall crack on with a strongly worded letter.

I am not insane I'll have you know. I am crazy mind you! Its all this baby crap.

It's even within hospitals. At homerton, MC no 3, the sonographers, EPAU nurses, nursey over in surgery were all fantastic. Lovely and caring and just great. Then, when I came round from the surgery, somewhere else where I'd never been, I was just turfed out into the cold. No-one followed up, spoke to me, anything.

F*ERS. Excuse my french but really it is too much.

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Excellent idea to write to the health minister. Sometimes I feel as if we are battery hens and when our eggs fail they are discarded and we are sent back to try again. I wonder if animals mourne their young if they m/c. Probably. Maybe not hens though

I feel really scared that if I ever do get pregnant again I will have to leave this thread and I really like it here. Am I nuts?

not at all ronshar. i prefer the hut too!

Hello ladies, please help me as I think I am losing the plot. AF turned up and there was a part of me that was relieved. Is this normal after a mc?

no such thing as normal i'm afraid, but it is understandable!

HI All

Sorry AF arrived, together with confusion, Asgoodas.

Lissie - very true about 'no such thing as normal' esp in the f'd up world of desperately ttc. DH and I are strictly not supposed to be ttc this month because we have booked skiing trip and he went away this morning (taking clients skiing - ok for some) until wednesday so probably missing the most likely time but a combination of too much wine and him about to go away meant we got a little carried away last night - on CD12 of a c. 29/30 day cycle. So, now for the first time in 18 months I'm thinking 'oh no, what if its finally worked this time' AAAARRRGHHH (and of course a part of me is hoping it has !).

Doesn't help it was dd's 3rd birthday party yesterday (birthday is actually on thurs) which is a bit poignant.

oh wheely, i hear you! tomorrow is my birthday, its also a year since i got my ep's bfp but i still go doolally mid cycle!

Wheely - would be typical wouldn't it? Glad that the confusion is not just mine. Happy birthday for tomorrow Lissie - I hope it is a happy one.

Lissielou happy birthday (well it's half an hour away from your bday) and hope you get your birthday wish this year (I think I can guess what it is!)

Hello all

Not sure if this is the right thread to obsess over symptoms, but it seems to have become my home.

Now on cd27, of 28-day cycle, and that symptom-spotting insanity has struck. Quite bad cramps on cd 24-26, making me thinking AF had come early. But nothing. Really sore boobs - feel like bags of water, with lots of pressure in the nips when I get up - just like last time I was pg. Cramps now on and off - when they're on I think 'oh no AF coming', and when they're off I think 'oh no, no more pg-type cramps'. Feel mildly hungover, as i did when pg, but then poss also because I had some wine last night. Slight backache, but I did vaguely strenuous yoga yesterday.

Keep prodding boobs to see if they're still sore (last month they were sore until a couple of days before AF, then deflated).

When AF rears her inevitable head, I'm going to be gutted. Why cant our brains be more pragmatic? More 'come on love, you're not pg'? GGNNNNNNN.

Happy Birthday lissie, its not too early in the day for some virtual champagne....

thanks for the birthday wishes girls. cant believe thats the year over. never thought I'd be so relieved to see the back of 12 months. onward and up..

nah, fuck it, in keeping with the hut:

I want a baby. dh asked me how it feels to be 30 and i realised that i was convinced that wer would at least have our child in our sights by now, but nope. and even ds has joined the "still no baby" crew by asking repeatedly for a baby brother (or sister, he doesnt care)

AAAAAAARRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH

lissie I know how you feel - I'm approaching 30 in a few weeks and feel really fed up - there's just this overwhelming sense of "this isn't where I thought my life would be by now" Just feel physically and emotionally worn out by the whole ftc thing. Getting totally fed up of people around me getting pg just by being in the same room as a man who sneezed (once)

Happy Birthday Lissie !

Fingers crossed for you herby...

Hugs to nomoremagnolia...

Happy birthday Lissie - may all your dreams come true

Fingers crossed herby

Happpy birthday to you, Happy birthday to you, happy birthday dear Lissie, happy birthday to yoooooooooooooooouuuuuuuuuuuuuu.

CD22 and am crazy!

Thanks wheely Sorry to moan on lissie's birthday, but it is the hut after all...
Have just had to clear up some cat sick too - nothing like kicking a girl when she's down

Happy Birthday, Lissie! January birthdays are the best.

No they're not duchesse - but they belong to the best