TTC First Baby Thread 18 Already!

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So AF due today but no sign so far! Although had a BFN on an IC yesterday morning so just a waiting game now 🙄

Thanks @FlapJackered @ELW85 @Jooloo11 I'll have a look at those!

@Jooloo11 sorry to hear AF arrived. I know what you mean re having a baby. When I watch shows like One Born Every Minute I desperately want that to be me, but I can't actually imagine being pregnant and having a baby myself. I agree it seems so distant and unlikely.
Hopefully we'll get our bfps and make it a reality 😊

@MrsLBear welcome back. Sorry to hear about your mc but glad you're feeling better to start TTC again.

I've been feeling so off last few days. I keep going back and looking at photos I've kept of the BFP I got in March. I can't seem to delete them but I know it's not healthy to keep looking at them!
DH has been unbelievably sweet, eventhough I haven't mentioned how I'm feeling. Just feel so lucky to have him.

Hope you all have a lovely day ❤️

@Jooloo11 @FlapJackered I definitely feel like it's a pipe dream- like something so unattainable and far away from me right now. But neither of you should ever feel you don't deserve it because you do, you deserve everything the world has to offer so try and tell yourself that.

I've woken up today to another high temp. I am 11DPO. Either means I am (a) pregnant (unlikely as got a BFN Monday and don't have any symptoms) or (b) my hormones are back to normal after mc/my progesterone boosters are working. I normally have an 11/12 (sometimes even 10) day LP so the temps being still high today is good for me. Either way I guess it's a good thing right?! @flossy12 I'm also due today or tomorrow. After being so upset by my BFN Monday I'm not going to test until Friday earliest if af stays away. I predict she arrives tomorrow for me. When are you going to test?

@Bettythecat I think I'll just hang on till Monday, I have 4 night shifts starting tomorrow so FMU is hard to pinpoint as my sleeping is all messed up, a good week should also give AF time to show 🙅🏼‍♀️ (hoping it doesn't)

Just checking in on anticipation of checking out this month. We are still here but close friends suffered a miscarriage over the last week which seems to have tarred our ability to track and do all the testing over the fw which somewhat crept up this time. Managed to dtd a few times as knew it was coming but did opk yesterday (negative but a line) and today (no line) so will be something of a miracle if our spontaneous bd'ing caught it! Got our first consultation for fertility mot in 2 weeks so will hopefully know more then and be ready for June cycle!

Happy Hump Day ladies

Sorry, I was so tired last night so just catching up on last nights posts now, I feel a bit sniffly today 😒which is not ideal before going on holiday!

@MrsH497Im so sorry to hear that its so bad and they need to sort our errors like that, I hope you are ok! I think things seem to vary greatly by district etc @Bettythecat I'm sorry to hear you were made to sit in the general waiting room, we got put in a side room and at all times a conscious effort was made to keep us separate from ladies waiting for (good) scans which I was thankful for- I guess to the staff it's just sometimes thought of as very clinical.

@ValidUser good luck for the scan - thinking lots of follicily thoughts for you!

@MrsEG sounds like an absolutely fantastic day!!

Hi @Jooloo11 sorry to hear AF got you and that you are feeling down the TTC journey is tough and we go through all the emotions, I know exactly where you are coming from it seems like a finish line that just gets further and further away!

Hope everyone has a fab day!

Morning all.

I caved this morning (10 DPO) and did an IC test, it was a BFN, naturally.

Saw this article on Facebook this morning, trying to see some kind of bright side? I don't know, I'm terrible at being positive, I tend to wallow and assume the worst. I totally understand what you all mean about it feeling like a pipe dream.

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Sorry to hear about your friend hoping your appointments go well and FX for the June bus!

@LokiCat - so sorry to hear you’re feeling like that; I’d find it hard to delete the photos too. It’s great to hear that DH is being so sweet and supportive though!
They’ve definitely got a knack for picking up on these things :)

I had a bit of a low day yesterday in that it felt like every post I’d seen in other threads were BFPs...but today I’ve woken up thinking; that just means that it’s going to be our turn soon, ladies!

Lots of positive vibes to you all today - have a great one :)

@PaintingOwls - sorry to hear about your BFN, but you’re still in until AF!! :)

ELW85

I had a bit of a low day yesterday in that it felt like every post I’d seen in other threads were BFPs...

Oh my God, yesterday I saw maybe half a dozen newborns or pregnancy announcements in various Facebook hobby groups that I am in! Groups that I joined to take my mind off TTC!! What is going on? Perhaps tis the season

And thank you, I know. I'm so annoyed at myself for testing early, but I think between finding out a friend was expecting last week and yesterday's assault of babies on Facebook I was hoping against hope that I could have some positive news myself, but I think I just made the situation worse!

@PaintingOwls - Oh god we all do that to ourselves :)
I do the reverse psychology thing in my head of: “might as well test, since I know what the answer is” and then get annoyed at myself!!

We can be our own worst enemy sometimes so I’m really pleased we have this group!!

I hope you have a lovely day today :)

@LokiCat I have my photos all on a hidden folder on my phone, so they are there if I want to look but wont see them if I'm swiping through pics....i do still have the little babygro along with the tests in my bedside drawer 😢

@LokiCat @Lozzlepop I also still have all my tests and the photos saved on my phone. Don't have the heart to delete them/throw them away and almost feels like it never actually happened if I was to get rid of them. 😟

Happy Wednesday everyone! I've read back a few pages to catch-up and I'm sorry everyone is feeling a big down. Big hugs to all!

@Bettythecat sorry to hear about your BFN and feeling hopeless. I started trying just before you, in August/September last year. I'm not sure there is a one-size-fits-all answer for how you keep going...I've definitely had my down months but what's working for me is just focusing on other areas of my life and not allowing my mind to take over and become hyper focused on TTC because, quite frankly, it makes me feel like shit. For me that means starting up a new exercise plan, focusing on my relationship with my husband, nurturing friendships, getting out in nature as much as possible (it's hard to be mad when you're feeling awe), progressing my business, reading lots of books and trying new things / planning fun activities. I came to the relisation that finding my life unfulfilling or lacking purpose without a BFP/baby isn't a good place for me to be, mentally...so I'm trying to focusing on loving my life as it is right now. I'm also trying to see the upside, or lessons, in this journey (e.g. I'm closer than ever with DH, my knowledge of female anatomy is SO much better, my diet is pretty on point which makes me feel amazing etc.). Some days are easier than others. Big hugs.

@cupcakesandglitter I know it must have been tough at the time, but it sounds like you are your DH are only becoming stronger and closer. What a revelation for him to know he is that loved by someone.

@MrsEG @MrsH497 I'm so sorry to hear about the crappy communication you've both had to deal with. It must have really made what was already a heartbreaking time all the more painful. @MrsEG Love the bucket list idea.

@ELW85 Ooo when will you start temping!?

@ValidUser all the best for the scan.

@PaintingOwls Sorry to hear about the BFN - 10dpo is quite fairly early, so you're not out yet! That article did make me smile.

As for me...I'm back from the festival and feeling very chilled out and zen. I got a + OPK last Friday morning, DTD Thursday PM + Fri AM and later that night had stabby pains in left ovary side Friday night so I'm guessing I ovulated around then. Wasn't able to temp to confirm, but FF agrees with me, putting me at 3DPO. And so the wait begins! Off to acupuncture tonight.

4DPO eye roll*

Good morning all!

Nervous about my scan. Hoping my 2 little follicles are still in the game!

@ValidUser good luck to you and the 2 follicles! X

@purplefig what a lovely, kind and thoughtful message that was 💜. Thank you for your tips and for taking the time to respond to me so kindly and to the other ladies too. I agree with you on having other distractions too and focusing on them- one of the meditations I did the other day asked me to make three positive things that came out of the journey so far. I was easily able to name three as the mc and the whole process has brought me closer to my DH and my friends And you're quite right on the other lifestyle factors too. I thought my DH and I were a team before but we certainly are one now. When I was crying on Monday (which made him cry too) he said "I will celebrate when we win and commiserate when we lose" which is a quote from his wedding speech and was so lovely. I hope you enjoy your accupuncture tonight (I love mine!) and continue to feel zen and happy. Fingers crossed this TWW goes quickly for you.

@ValidUser good luck with today, let us all know how you get on. X

@Bettythecat No problem at all - I love the support in this thread! What a lovely thing to say in his speech, and so true too. Glad to hear you like acupuncture...so do I...it's oddly relaxing and makes me sleep like a baby. xx

Thanks @Bettythecat and @MrsH497

Hello! I know you guys have been chatting for a while but was hoping I might be able to join in? I almost don't feel like I've been ttc for long enough to contribute to these threads but equally no one in real life even knows we're trying so I'd love a bit of moral support (am very happy to give some too!)

@Larrydavid welcome!

Hi all,
Welcome @Larrydavid we never turn away a ttc er in need.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels like having a baby is a pipe dream because I really do and it made me feel like I was odd or destined to never have a baby because I felt that way.

Had x2 21 days bloods come back - both normal so that's good but also frustrating as me and Gp still left scratching head as to why I spot a week before af!? Don't think gp's care too much now anything serious or obvious is ruled out. FX it doesn't matter and I can still get a BFP regardless.

We are due some BFP's on here soon! Fx and love and care and baby dust to all xx

We are so due some

Hi ladies, just wanted to pop in and say hello, I've caught up on the messages & felt a tad guilty for not joining in more lately.

I'm currently CD61, still waiting for AF & feel somewhat hopeless. I don't want to keep moaning about the same thing, hence keeping quiet - I've got a telephone appt with my GP Friday to discuss some tests to see why AF hasn't arrived post MMC in March.

It's lovely to see how we're all supporting each other & id love to go back and tag each and every one of you, but it would take a long while haha.

Loving the support & the positive attitudes - we all have down days where we struggle to imagine ever getting the BFP or that beautiful family we've dreamed of, but I'm taking some of your advice and concentrating on how good life is already.
Sending happy, healthy wishes to you all x

Hi all sorry I've been absent. AF came 4 days late (first time I've ever been late). Was the worst period I've ever had but only lasted 3 days. Not really sure I'm going to try this cycle as my body just feels not quite right so I think I'm going to focus on getting myself feeling as well as possible before continuing ttc. Hope everyone's well x