TTC First Baby Thread 18 Already!

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@cupcakesandglitter I know how you feel lovely. I'm exactly the same feeling like it's all on hold. I've always wanted a family that's really been the one constant I've known for sure my whole life. I did it all "right" to get myself into a place where I'm ready and can support a baby and now it just won't happen and it feels so empty.

@LikeTheFruit Sorry about your BFN 😟. Im also annoyed with myself for testing too. 9DPO but only have a 11 day LP generally so would have thought it would have caught it for me if I was pg. I'm also feeling so emotional the last few days. Have been short with DH all day, cried yesterday and feel so so flat and knackered today it feels like it must be af. I'm never normally this bad though so don't know what to think about it all. 😭

Sorry for the BFN @LikeTheFruit maybe wait a few days xxx

@Bettythecat oh god I get that definitely!! We got married, and saved bloody damn hard to be able to get our family home. I was actually on Mn before we bought a house because I was ready to start TTC then, but DH was adamant we needed our own house first (sensible and I'm glad we did, but I almost wished we just started trying then 😂) everything in my life has been sorted so that I could be in the position to have kids. God I know exactly how you feel, so thankful to have you all here x

@Bettythecat - you’re more than welcome, and I totally hear you about the nervousness for going to the docs if they aren’t able to address things.

We all put ourselves through so, so much; from the anxiety of POAS to never ending internet research and (I’m speaking for myself here) convincing ourselves we’re broken. I did about 3 hours of reading this morning and I’ve convinced myself I’ve got low progesterone.
It would be so nice to just relax and enjoy it but honestly, that’s the hardest thing to do.

I’ve got nothing but love and respect for you ladies and what you balance on a daily basis.

I don’t think this stuff will necessarily get easier, but we WILL get there.

@LikeTheFruit - sorry to hear about your BFN but this pregnancy test calc shows that (from what I remember) about 80% of people who tested on 9DPO got a false negative. I’m sure you can tailor it to your cycle too for a more accurate view :)

www.countdowntopregnancy.com/tools/pregnancy-test-calculator.php

@LikeTheFruit been there. You're still in. X

Lefty now has 2 big follicles! Neither ready for trigger, but 2 increases my chances! Re scan Wednesday. Glad I'm off work this week!

Thanks @Bettythecat @cupcakesandglitter @ELW85 and @ValidUser for being so kind. If I'm honest I'm more annoyed at myself for testing than disappointed it was BFN. Especially after using that website about - less than 50% change of a true negative.

@ValidUser oooh could be twins!!

@LikeTheFruit - be kind to yourself, we all do it :) and I think that calculator is helpful; it keeps me grounded.

@ValidUser - great news on 2 x follicles!! And for the week off :)

Can I join??

TTC #1
Age 29 nearing 30
Cycle 4
DPO 2 (according to my app - I forgot to start back temping last month)
MC 2 years ago when we weren't TTC - makes me so worried about future pregnancies.

DTD Friday, Saturday and Sunday as DP works away from home so we needed to make the most of it. Knowing me I am going to start symptom spotting now during my TTW. It is such a pain TTC.

Fingers crossed for BFP for everyone soon.

Welcome @ImMeantToBeWorking!

@ELW85, thank you for sharing that calculator, i certainly tested a bit too early at least the first test i took last cycle so will try to follow that calculator this time. Although i've got 15 cheapy sticks hidden in a drawer so it'll be difficult.

@1990shopefulftm - no worries at all! I think it’s a good resource, especially as it’s tailored to your cycles instead of the generic 28 days!
I’ve made a pact with myself that I’m only going to test on the day AF is due (if I get that far!)

@ELW85, i've been a bit stuck on what to put as my average, my cycle just gone was 30 days, before that was 25 but before deciding to ttc it was always 27/28 days so just going to assume 30 days again and test according to that.
Not sure i'll make it till the day i'm assuming AF is due, will try to make it to a couple of days before, not 5 days before like last cycle.

Thanks @validuser.

I am so bad for testing early!! I have taken a FR 5 days early so I get it @1990shopefultum.

Hiya - I think you take the lowest of the last 3 when it comes to calculators like that, but maybe put your old 27/28 day cycle in as an average?
Sorry - I’m not much help am I?!

@cupcakesandglitter if you wanted to you could get a print out of your DHs results, you just have to ask the gp receptionist? They legally have to give it to you if you ask. It might help your DH if he can see the numbers. I do understand if you would rather wait for the next test though.
I am quite interested to see if they test my DH again. I have given up everything fun for ttc but he has hardly changed his lifestyle except for hot baths, so if there is an issue he is definitely going to have to cut back on the booze!

@Bettythecat I literally could have written what you wrote. It's exactly the same with me. I just feel like it is taking over my mind so much. I even feel like I don't laugh as much any more. It's so hard. I don't know what I would do without you girls to vent to.
When I do try and relax I just end up feeling guilty for drinking or eating badly and worrying I will ruin my chances. I never realised what a horrible time ttc would be. I just can't wait until it is all just a bad memory!
With IVF would you not be able to get it on the NHS?

@Kiza fingers crossed your home GP is more sympathetic and proactive!

@cupcakesandglitter sorry to hear that DH has been feeling so down, hopefully now that you have had an open and frank discussion everything will be better! I think other people forget how tough these situations can be for men and focus all their advice etc towards us women. I have said to DP that anytime he wants to talk about it with me he can and not to bottle things up!

@LikeTheFruit sorry that it was a BFN but its still early so not out yet!

@ValidUser sorry totally naive but what are the follicles? I hope its a good week off for you!

@ImMeantToBeWorking welcome to the group!

Welcome @ImMeantToBeWorking 😀

@ValidUser good news on the follicles! What happens next?

@cupcakesandglitter, @bettythecat sorry you're having a tough time at the moment, it's a naturally emotive subject and when you want something badly it can be hard to think of anything else!

I've been for an 18 mile walk today, great exercise but my legs are now so sore!! And on top of that I had a spot of brown blood so I think that means AF will be starting tonight or tomorrow. Which will put this cycle at 33 days.

Hello all, my first post on mumsnet hope it’s ok!

I’m 27, cycle 3, currently 10 days late, and had one MC last year.

The MC really knocked me at the time and was too scared to try again so we had a big gap between but finally feel ready to start again. So fingers crossed something good happens soon once my stupid period shows up.

I’ve been a regular 28 day cycle for the past year until we started to try again and all of a sudden they are completely messed up. Have taken two negative tests at a week late so I’m sure I’m not pregnant I don’t have any symptoms it’s just so frustrating because now next month I really don’t have a clue when my period would be due.

I’ve found it comforting reading all of your stories good luck to everyone!

What a rollercoaster of a day - bfn then Villa promoted... shout to all the girls from the last thread who I know were AV fans

Feeing all weird at the moment so will catch up with the thread later. Lots of love to everyone else who’s had crappy news today x

@Dollywilde - enjoy celebrating the promotion :D x

Thank you @FlapJackered at least we know someone else out there is feeling exactly the same as us right now and it affects us all similarly 💜. I know what you mean about it all being a distant dream too- I keep writing about it in my diary imagining that I'll look back in a few years time and think how far away it seems with my children close to me. I'm sure I could get IVF on the NHS but I had thought that they generally make you wait 2 years (maybe totally wrong?) and then you only get one cycle? Also I think I would be tempted to jump the queues by paying for it as I know how the waiting game kills me.

Thanks @Lola871 - I've been so emotional the last few days I think it's another sure sign I'm about to get af. Your walk sounds crazy- I think the longest I've ever done is 12 miles and I was definitely exhausted after that!!

@Lozzlepop the follicles are like little blisters on the ovary that release eggs.

@Lola871 I get scanned on Wednesday, trigger shot of hCG and hope for a baby!

So sorry to hear so many are having a tough time. Love to you all!!

@cupcakesandglitter, bless you and your dh, but it sounds like getting everything out in the open has helped a little xx

I won't tag everyone because my phone will probably just have a flid half way through, but to everyone having a crappy day and feeling down... You are all amazing, strong, kind ladies who deserve a happy ending and I'm sure, one way or another, will get there! There are so many options available, so don't give up hope XXX But if ttc is getting you down, don't feel guilty for having a little break! Drink the wine, eat the brie, dance on a table, laugh at the stupid cat video... I honestly think if it's getting you down too much, it can't be good for anyone. I do get the need to power through though so sorry if that sounded a bit tone deaf. I'm rambling now, so will stop! Love you all though! Xx

@Dollywilde... Up the Villa!! I honestly think I heard my bro cheering all the way from Wembley when they won!! Xx

@fivebyfive2 thank you! And I completely agree with what you’re saying. It’ll happen, it just wasn’t our month.