TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 30 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's

[Lilimum7]

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Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This is a wonderful supportive group for anyone ttc after the loss of a pregnancy or baby. Together we can get through the ttc crazyness xx baby dust to everyone xx

@Avocuddles @MrsLBear I remember you both from the other board hugs to you both as well.

Just an epically crap day I think here! X

Thanks for checking on me @Frillyfarmer. I hope you have a better day today.

Sorry to see more new names here, you're in the right place though for amazing support as we go through this shit time.

Sorry I disappeared for a week when I got on the plane last week. Had a lovely short break, almost got sunburnt. Eaten way too much but had a really nice time away. Came back Sunday and CB OPK went static Sunday night, I also tested with an IC OPK and that also went blazing positive so at least they match. So for 2nd cycle in a row have ov'd a day earlier than usual, wonder why ............I've only had 2 acupuncture sessions, got another this weekend but the 2 sessions were last cycle. Anyway, now on CD15 and either 1 or 2 DPO. This bank holiday weekend was mixed emotions as whilst the break away was nice it was the late May bank holiday Monday last year we found out I was pregnant with our first, that baby should now be 4 months old also had work pregnancy bomb ............I need to escape from people who get pregnant so easily with a healthy uncomplicated pregnancy but complain a few months TTC "took ages". FFS I just need a break from people who have no idea what it's like to go through what we have.

DH hasn't chased private clinic for his SA and DNA fragmentation results to wee if the treatment worked ...........sometimes I wonder how serious he's taking it all.

@Russkispy sorry to read this loss has been so difficult. There are no words. It just really sucks.

@Lilimum7 how are you?

@KnitKitty fx little bean grows strong and healthy. Feeling anxious goes with the territory when you get a BFP after mc.

@boboelephant hope your pregnancy is progressing well and you're feeling well too.

@AliceRR fx this is your month for conceiving your rainbow.

@InDreamland hi hun I'm OK. FF app has decided that I can now have semi crosshairs because it's not sure. The day it's saying I ovulated is not great as its on day we didn't dtd typical. Sorry about the baby bomb hun xx you need to bully hubby into it probably men like to Bury their heads when things scare them. Xx

Just done a test since ERPC 3 weeks ago. I've attached the picture, so there's still a slight line there isn't there? So the OPK I did on Friday which was positive would have been leftover HCG wouldn't it?

I'd have thought so @Pop1234 although I know of someone on another thread who saw an ovulation in her temp chart while still having low levels of hcg from her mc showing up in her blood. It's not impossible to ovulate with a faint positive. Xx

@Pop1234 I definitely ovulated with hcg in my system (counting miscarriage as cd1). Was the opk on Friday definitely positive? My first period arrived 2 days later than my usual cycle.

@Catconfusion thank you I will wait and see. Got my appointment with Dr Shehata a week today so hoping to get some answers.

@VenusStarr I posted a picture a bit further down of the positive OPK, well I think it was positive. I'll just wait and see.

@Lilimum7 sorry but I'm not sure what semi crosshairs means. DH did contact them today and is now waiting for an email. Fx it will still happen good you this month.

@Pop1234 it is possible I believe for an OPK to pick up hcg so it might have been. Hopefully you start getting some answers next week.

Another baby bomb from one of my friends. Why is life so unfair 😣😢

@Pop1234 it is shit isn't it.

@InDreamland absolutely. Honestly I've had enough.

@Pop1234 me too. I can't take anymore. Coming up to 6 years since we first started TTC and all we've had is 5 years of unexplained infertility and then 2 mc's. WTF have we done to deserve this yet horrid, nasty and evil people can have babies. Then all those people who get pregnant and have all healthy pregnancies so easily and take it for granted.

I also feel like I'm muting everyone on my fb at the mo from baby bombs. I'm getting increasingly fucked off with TTC buses full of people "devastated" AF arrived in their first cycle of trying.

AF arrived today, bang on 29 days since MC. It was wishful thinking I would get knocked up in between as I was away with work during O, but I'm still sad, I always am when AF arrives!

@InDreamland you've been on this journey for so long, I really hope your DH pulls his finger out and chases his results up and that it has a positive outcome for you. I'm glad you managed to enjoy the break and babybombs are just suffocating in person. Look after yourself xx

Thanks @InDreamland I was thinking about you yesterday. I’m glad you had a nice break. I’m thinking back to last year a bit too as it was around this time last year that we found out we were having our little girl and my BIL came up with his partner the next day by chance... BIL is coming this evening (they only come about once a year) and it’s hard not to think about all we’ve been through since this time last year x

@InDreamland @Frillyfarmer it really is rubbish isn't it.

You know how your hubby got a not so good fragmentation test, has he been treated with Condensyl? So I've been speaking to a lady who has had success with Dr Shehata and she said that he also tests sperm dna fragmentation and if it doesn't come back good he treats it with Condensyl. Just been doing some research online and it's expensive but there's some good reviews of it helping improve fragmentation.

I took the list of blood tests that Shehata does to my gp last week and my gp has done the ones they could to save us some money. So I've had a full thrombophillia screening done and all normal and my full thyroid and antibodies checked all normal. Some other things too that I don't really understand. But I guess thats two ticked off the box that are the main ones. So now I think the main ones left are immune system, sperm dna fragmentation and chromosomes (my worst fear).

Hi all,
Well the moment I've feared has arrived - checked the underwear today to find pink spotting. I am 6+2.
Last time had brown spotting at 7 weeks so this is different, but obviously worrying just the same. I guess I'll phone up and see if I can get into EPU tomorrow. Keep your fingers crossed for me please.

My fingers are crossed for you @coconutlatte44

@Frillyfarmer I've been on Facebook once since mc#1 and that was to post my candle for international wave of light and baby loss awareness week. I have totally withdrawn from looking and engaging with it for self preservation. Sorry AF arrived, she's a witch. DH is now chasing to get hold of the results.

@AliceRR it really has been a dreadful year, well for me last 10 months. We really deserve some happiness now.

@Pop1234 we both had antibiotics for it, can't remember what they were called. Good you got some tests done on NHS.

@coconutlatte44 oh no! Fx that it's just bean getting more cosy and comfy in there. Hope EPU will see you tomorrow and that all will be okay.

Sorry if this is TMI ladies but after you've DTD how much of OHs deposit leaks out? I feel like most times after we've BD'd a fair amount comes out .......feels gross as well as worried it means nothing is getting up there to try meet egg.

@InDreamland I think that’s normal and I’ve read it’s just fluid and the sperm “swim” off to find an egg...

I do try to stay lying down for about 20 mins after, rather than getting up straight away, but I think the evidence on whether that helps us mixed to say the least

Hello.
Time to pull up my big girl pants and not deal with this alone. Finally went to the GP yesterday to start investigations. Had my 4th miscarriage in a year a few weeks ago. Now waiting on initial blood test results and a referral to gynecology.

My scan was delayed by one day so I had it this morning. We saw the heartbeat!! 💕 measuring 5+6 roughly and they were happy with what they saw. I was worried that baby seemed a little too small - only 1.9mm! But they were really happy with that 🤷‍♀️ Such a relief though. Now terrified for next scan 🤣

@coconutlatte44 I have my fingers crossed for you. Best of luck hun x

@InDreamland how are you finding the acupuncture so far? Do you think/feel like it's making a difference?

@coconutlatte44 keeping everything crossed for you! Hope it's nothing to worry about but definitely go to the EPU as soon as you can. My MC started with pink spotting at around 5 weeks.

@CodlingMoth sorry for another loss 💐 but good that you're starting investigating! Hope you can get some answers and 🌈 will come!

@hayleyfx that's wonderful news! So happy for you. Keep us posted on your journey and fx for a long and healthy pregnancy!

Can I join the moan about baby booms please. My mum is visiting and just decided to show me a picture of her friends (not close friend) children and point out that one is very similar age to DD1 and the other was born the day after DD2. I did not need to see that, I am very unlikely to come into contact with that friend so I really did not need to know. Supposed to be telling her about this pregnancy tonight but now I'm just quietly annoyed.