TTC 1st Baby - Thread 17!

[MrsEG]

Hi everyone! I’ve started a new thread as we are dangerously close to 1000 posts in the last one! I’ll add a link to it now :) Here’s hoping it’s a lucky one!

Morning ladies! Thanks to you all, I love reading hear - always so supportive 😘😘 I had a good cry to DH Saturday night and then filled up with junk food at my friends dinner and again yesterday, so I'm feeling a lot better.
On CD3 already, cycle 7. I think the reason I get so frustrated is that my cycles are so long so it seems like an age until my ovulation day gets here! Think I'll be temping and buying some CB digitals for this cycle.
This cycle we'll be on our holiday in the middle of a game reserve when AF is due, so really hope she doesn't show up!!

@starkid sorry it's been so difficult :( I hope your scan comes soon with some answers! ❤️

@Lozzlepop looks positive to me! Glad you had a great night away - it sounded lovely!

Sorry I haven't caught up from this weekend, it moves so fast! I hope you're all well and have a lovely Monday xx

Morning ladies, my feed is being terrible at refreshing and then I come back on and have missed loads of messages

@LauraLoop1516 congratulations on your bfp lovely news!!!

@ValidUser glad to hear that your injections are going well, things are happening fast your gynaecologist really sounds amazing!

@starkid sorry to hear you are feeling a bit down! Do you have a date for your scan?

I am very snoozy this morning, hoping it’s an easy day! Waiting till tonight to do another OPK as that’s when I get my surge so will see what it says, currently CD24 🤞🏻 How was everyone’s weekends?

Thanks everyone, scan is in 2 and a half weeks. Keep having thoughts that there will be nothing to do except IVF, even though I don't even know if there's any blockage or damage yet. And am now worried if I do get pregnant I'll miscarry. Think I'm getting a bit paranoid :(
I might try and stay off here for a bit, sorry, hope everyone has a good couple of weeks

Whoops posted too soon! Hope everyone has good couple of weeks and maybe some BFPs xx

@ LokiCat thanks it was a really great weekend so much so the OH was looking to book to go away this weekend 😂 oh o really hope AF doesn’t show up when you are in a game reserve 🙈

@starkid take all the time you need, we will be here when you are ready to come back I hope everything goes well! Xx

Morning all! I got a positive OPK on Saturday so I am officially 1 DPO. Roll on the TWW. This is the first cycle all year that I've felt optimistic, I have been very down in the dumps since Christmas so it's nice to feel positive for a change.

DP took his duties very, err, seriously, this weekend so I am bloody knackered 🙈

Morning all! My temp dipped yesterday and is back up today so I’m trying not to get my hopes up, but secretly hoping it’s a good thing :)

@PaintingOwls - really pleased you’re feeling positive! If there’s one thing men can take seriously...haha!

@Starkid - sorry that you’re feeling rubbish about things. We’re all here for you, and will keep everything crossed for you xx

Morning all! Miserable as I’ve managed to pick up a bout of cystitis, probably from dtd and then not seeing straight after 😞 luckily fw ended on Friday so I’m swerving sex for a while. Apologised to DH for using him during fw and then needing a break and he said he was a bit relieved for the time off!

Good news about your temps @elw85, fingers crossed!

Great news on the positive thinking @paintingowls and well done to your DH for being so committed

@cupcakesandglitter oh wow that sounds like such a stressful week - how are you holding up?

@Lozzlepop your weekend sounds so lovely! I think a night away is a great way to reset and also get lucky without thinking about TTC. Hotels are just so damn sexy! And I think your OPK is a positive.

@Lauraloop1516 congratulations! Excellent news!

@ELW85 sounds like a productive weekend - are you happy with your wedding pics? And HP studios sounds like THE BEST WEEKEND EVER tbh. Also just seen your point about caffeine. What. The Fuck. AGHHRRR!! Do you have a link to the research!?!? I drink about two ground cups a day which is probs more like 400mg. I tried to stop cold turkey a month ago and it was hell on earth. Might have to rethink...

@Tashdreams Have you read 'Taking Control of you Fertility'? It's an excellent resource and a very empowering read. One thing she mentions is that if you're stressed, ovulation can be delayed and hence you can have a really long cycle. And I think a MMC definitely counts as severe stress. I am sorry it's taking so long though, it's incredibly frustrating.

@starkid big hugs and go easy on yourself, it's no small thing this TTC malarkey. 2 and a half weeks will fly by hopefully, and do whatever you need to get through. I've certainly taken a step back from this forum and it can help.

@LokiCat a weep and a chat with your partner is such a good way to deal with it. As is junk food with friends for that matter! I totally hear you on the long cycles, I sometimes get an extra week to the 'standard' 28 day cycle. It can drag.

@PaintingOwls hahaha well at least your exhausted for a positive reason! Fingers crossed this is your cycle .

@Dollywilde I'm sorry to hear that, cystitis is an absolute nightmare. Do you have a treatment that works?

Happy Monday everyone!! So it looks like the ridiculous temp spike on Day 12 was actually from alcohol/waking up the night before, as I've been back down to the usual temps since.

I'm kind of relieved really, as hadn't had much EWCM and as I've learned in 'Taking Charge of your Fertility' that really is one of the best indicators you're fertile. Definitely getting more now though, so my plan is to continue temping and - if I can be arsed - OPK for a few days. I'm away Sat - Tuesday, so really hoping my fertile days are before then otherwise we'll be out this cycle.

In other news, I've kept up with the fertility smoothies since I started and I can 10/10 recommend them for dealing with a hangover too

Speaking of which, if we don't conceive this cycle we'll be going into cycle 10, so I'm going to seriously think about cutting out caffeine (will be blaming @ELW85 for that ) and cutting right back on alcohol. I don't have more than two ground coffees a day and a few glasses of wine on the weekend, but it's got to be worth a go.

@Purplefig - SO happy with wedding pics, thanks! Just need DH to stop working every single day so we can pick the album entries, haha!

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news on the caffeine front - I’ll dig out the links for you now, brb! Xx

health.usnews.com/health-news/articles/2012/06/06/trouble-trying-to-conceive-this-may-be-why

This link explains the affect of caffeine on fallopian contractions ^

www.avawomen.com/avaworld/avoid-during-implantation/

This link doesn’t mention the Fallopian tube thing, but limits caffeine to 200mg too and also references being half as likely to conceive with a high caffeine intake.

The shit thing is that there is around 43mg of caffeine in Diet Coke and 6mg in chocolate, so along with coffee, those are my 3 primary food groups obliterated 😂

@ELW85 "Another study showed that women who drank more than 200mg of caffeine per day were half as likely to become pregnant per cycle as women who consumed less." Oh fuckity fuck. Sorry for my poor language today everyone! I'm going to have to sodding give it up aren't it?! I drink 1 - 2 big cups of ground coffee a day. Thanks for digging out the links, I really do appreciate it!

Morning everyone! So af has been and gone this month so now we can officially start TTC. I’ve been looking forward to this for months but now it’s here I’m sooo scared.

@purplefig if it helps, ive lowered my intake over the last 6months to one coffee a day and then caffeine free tea and coffee.... and I'm still not pregnant! 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Jessikka Ahh that's so frustrating!! It's so hard to know what to do, and like everything I'm sure different things work for different people. I'm on cycle 9, so think I'll definitely try next month and see.

@XjustagirlX how exciting! As someone who is 9 months in and wish I'd done it sooner, I really recommend reading something like 'Taking charge of your fertility' (I swear I'm not a commission for this book!!).

P.S. @ELW85 also, I'm so glad you're happy with your wedding pics. It'll be so fun picking them out together. We still haven't sorted out an album and it's been multiple years .

@Purplefig - it’s awful isn’t it?! It’s such a big percentage (the 50%) that I'd rather just cut back the intake to cover all bases.

The good news is, caffeine has a half life of 12 hours, so you can get it out of your system quickly!!

@ELW85 it's so awful did you cut it out cold turkey or cut down gradually? Last time I tried cold turkey I felt so rough, tired and got no work done.

Morning everyone.

Catching up and im devastated to hear about the caffeine!! I rarely drink coffee but have at least 5 cups of tea a day, and normally a glass of Pepsi max a day too 😱😱 will read the link at lunch time... I think 😂

@PaintingOwls hope its a quick TWW for you, glad to hear the DP rose to the occasion 😉

@Dollywilde fingers crossed for a speedy recovery, I have never had cystitis but I know it can be really painful.

@purplefig it was exactly what was needed, feeling like we are back to "us" now which is nice!

In terms of caffeine I have max 2 cups of tea per day then either a decaf or fruit tea at night and hardly have coffee (I did have one this morning as was super snoozy) This weekend was the first weekend I have had a drink in 10 weeks and that will be me until the holiday and then ill be back off it again in preparation for trying again - I honestly didn't miss it but then wasn't a big drinker anyway.

I knew caffeine wasn't great for you but I had no idea it had such a hideous impact! I was coffee free for about 8-10 months but started drinking it again at the start of this year as I was just shattered and unproductive at work.

After reading all that I've had 2 cups of Earl Grey tea today and will have one green tea this afternoon and leave coffee alone again. Not ready to give up caffeine entirely though...

Lozzlepop thank you!

@Lottiepink @PaintingOwls I'm so genuinely sad I'm going to have to cut down / cut it out!! One of my few vices. Might try green tea too, which I know has some caffeine but a lot less.

What is TTC turning is into, eh? Teetotal-caffeine-free-nymphomaniac-neon-weeing-timed-pineapple-enthusiasts.

Haha @purplefig I know 🙈🤣 defo going for the pineapple and Brazil's this cycle 😂

I'm gonna stop off on my way home to get some de-caff tea bags. I cannot cope without a cuppa! And I hate fruit teas etc too 🙄🙄

@Lottiepink Good for you - I think I'll do the same. I do like fruit teas etc. but I freaking LOVE my morning cup of black coffee. I'm going to be so grouchy

If anyone wants to further depress themselves / reinforce the above caffeine rhetoric, this makes a pretty startling read: www.tomakeamommy.com/how-caffeine-affects-fertility-and-why-you-should-give-it-up-if-ttc-for-female-and-male-fertility/ (warning this post veers on the sanctimonious side...so avoid if you're not in the mood for that)