TTC number 2

[Explorers10]

Is it me or does number 2 seem to take longer to conceive?

Thank you @MummyBearBoo this gives me hope! I got pregnant before so fingers crossed I can again. My periods are regular usually every 29 days but now seem to be every 35 days. When I temp or use opks it says I ovulate around day 22-23 which is quite late.

I’m a good weight 10 stones although was 9 stone when I got pregnant first time. I have tried to cut down on sugars and carbs since I found out about possible having pcos.

I just hope clomid is the right thing to do and not a step in the wrong direction

My ovulation day was around CD28 it was frustrating coz we tried for 4 cycles before getting pregnant and each time it didn't work we had to wait 4 weeks then ovulation then wait a further 2 weeks before AF came -because of this also if it hadn't have worked in April I wouldn't have ovulated at all in June!
I'm 8st 8lbs atm but I am only 5ft 3" so for my height I needed to weigh less than 9st 13lbs as I started as 10st 10lbs losing weight I think helped my symptoms more so it's good that you're a healthy weight this will help keep your cycles regular! Xx

@MummyBearBoo I know how frustrating the long wait is especially when it goes over 30 days, feels like a long wait till the next cycle. I also get worn out dtd as start really early on day 10 then do every other day until my temp goes up around day 24.

Will try to lose more weight. Your weight is really good!!

Thanks for your advice, makes me feel so much better

You might not need to lose weight - do you take vit D? I was taking it anyway but I heard this could regulate your cycle too -I always ovulated around CD 28 but never had 2 cycles in a row in a row where ov was the same day it turns it in April I ovulated 4 days earlier! I used OPKs too so I'd know coz they were almost regular but not to the day -fingers crossed this is your month hun xxx

I take vitamin D which are included in the proceive max vitamins I take. Will see if AF turns up next week, thanks for fingers crossed, really hope I get a BFP soon

explorers, it won’t be a step in the wrong direction. Major side affects are really rare with it. Ok, minor ones are quite common (as you say, mood swings etc), but I know you’ll be able to put up with that to get your DC2, it won’t be so bad. It certainly won’t do your chances any harm, so it’s definitely a positive step. The fact that you got pregnant before is surely a big sign in your favour, maybe your hormones just need a little nudge to get them back on track and the clomid will do the trick?

Not 100% sure when AF is due as my cycles aren’t completely regular. My positive OPK was a week ago, so I think that means AF is due towards the end of next week. Last cycle it turned up really early though, so who knows! I caved and got myself some internet cheapies so I could test early and not break the bank.... I hate the two week wait. At least work is really busy so hopefully I won’t notice the time dragging too much. Fingers crossed she doesn’t turn up for you next week!

Glad you finally got some good advice explorers, and it's really good news that you've been prescribed clomid, although I can understand why the though of taking it is provoking some anxiety.

Good luck to you and chemist next week, will be crossing everything for you both.

@crazychemist thanks for your positivity and advice about the clomid, it really helps. I must sound like such a worrier, my brain needs to switch off from overthinking too much. I don’t blame you getting the internet cheapies. Really hope you get your BFP. That’s good your busy at work to take your mind off the TWW. I think I get too exhausted from dtd every other day that the TWW goes quickly for me!

@Chips4dinneragain thank you for the good luck & for understanding the anxiety. I do definitely need to be more relaxed and just go ahead with the clomid

Fingers crossed there's no AF for the right reasons for you guys!! Xx

Hi all hope you don't mind me joining this thread, I may have posted already but I am so tired and can't remember! TTC number 2 have a 3 year old and have pcos too, not sure what month of trying I'm on now about month 8 I think!

Welcome wriggleys, although actually I do think you might have posted here before, either way sorry to hear you're still TTC. Where are you at in this cycle?

Thanks Chips, on day 10 so far so might try OPK's this month as I've not had any success so far!

I heard OPKs can be unreliable for women with pcos as I believe you can get a couple of LH surges throughout a cycle without it necessarily meaning you are about to ovulate.

I used OPKs while trying but the month I got my BFP I had ovulated on day 8/9, and despite using OPKs since day 7 I didn't get a positive.

Either way, good luck! Although they didn't work for me I found using them strangely enjoyable, tragic I know!

They worked for me AF always came 2 weeks to the day after positive OPK - tho the month I conceived I had to opposite problem I didn't get a positive result but every other month they worked. I have PCOS I think it depends if you're having regular periods or not as I was xx

Funny enough I only tried them one month when I fell pregnant with my daughter and that was the month I conceived too. My periods are regular too so I guess it's worth a shot!

We all seem to have regular periods even though we have pcos! Welcome wrigleys123 hope you get your BFP soon.

Thanks Explorers seems a lot of us have pcos on here! I think the longer I don't conceive the more daunting it seems having a newborn again, the baby days seem so far away now!

@Wrigleys123 I know the newborn days do seem so long ago, I’ve also kept all the stuff, a constant reminder will it or won’t it happen. I hope I can use it all again and not part with it.

Welcome (back?) wrigleys!

Same here, Explorers. All boxed up in the spare room wardrobe, because I didn’t want the faff of putting it up in the attic and then taking it all back down again “so soon” . Of course, that room wasn’t really intended to BE the spare room this long either! Oh well, I suppose it’s been handy having the extra space, but I’d rather it had the little person in it that it was intended for!

Coming to terms with the fact that age gap is now at best going to be closer to 4 years than 3. Feeling silly to mourn that, but there are 3 years between me and my sister, and originally I’d planned on having a smaller gap rather than a larger one. Obviously there are plenty of advantages, but it’s not what I’d pictured. Also feeling completely ridiculous because I feel like this is the end of the possibility of eventually having 3, because I can’t see that that would work if spacing is going to be this big every time....

Sorry, feeling a bit sorry for myself today. Terribly bloated and uncomfortable, and feel like I have spots about to break out everywhere. Suspect AF is round the corner, in which case where on earth has my luteal phase gone the last two cycles???

On the bright side, have been working on nightweaning this week and it’s going ten million times better than I’d have thought. DD was disturbed by the alarm this morning and wanted a feed, and when I said no I just got a very grumpy “CUDDLE” with my arm pulled round her, followed by the return of snores . My aim of weaning by September no longer seems impossible.

Don’t know if I have PCOS or not. Most of my family do, and I’m not all that regular (and was way way more irregular before DD) so I assume I probably do. I wonder about it occasionally.

I'm guessing having 2 under 5 is tricky anyways but at least an almost 4 year old is much more likely to help - my SIL has a just turned 3 year old and an almost 1 year old and the 3 year constantly pushes his younger sister over so she can't leave them in the same room - If she gives the little one a toy so she doesn't play with her DS toys he decides he wants that baby toy and snatches it off the younger one!! He is really bad at sharing that's the bad thing about a smaller age gap they don't really understand! All being well my DC should be almost 4 when this one is born! Xx

There's a 4 year gap between me and my sister, and according to my mum I was a doting older sister from the start, I think that is more likely with an bigger age gap. I do also remember reading something written by a clinical psychologist that said 4 years is the perfect gap for allowing DC1 to feel secure enough in the relationship with their parents that chances of jealousy are minimised while still close enough in age to play together. Granted, it was just her opinion rather than being evidence based, and I'm sure there are a million other factors involved, but as there is going to be a 4 year gap between mine I am clinging onto that article!

Yes I don't worry too much about age gaps! There is 3 years between me and my brother and he still gets on my nerves

Thanks guys. More signs of imminent AF (early again, I think), so it’s probably partly PMS making me feel crap. I’m sure there are lots of reasons why. 4 year age gap can be great, initially I would have like 2 -2.5 years, but I now realise that would have been horrifically hard for us, so this is probably better.

I think at 3-4 they do feel more secure coz my DD goes to Prr-school 2.5 days a week and she's fine gives me a cuddle and kiss and goes no problem coz she know I'll always come back for her - it's the same with her ballet, tap and music class she know I'm waiting for her just outside the door chatting to the other mums -she's more independent now coz she is secure so if this baby is ok I'm sure she'll be fine!! Xx

@crazychemist sorry you were feeling down today. TTC is so tough especially when your ready for number two and want it to happen more than anything. It’s ok to mourn the age gap, none of us knew this would be the case and all we can do is just to keep trying each month. Hope you get your BFP soon X