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35+ TTC#1 Thread 6

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BambiOnIce80 · 28/02/2019 07:44

Spring is in the air and it's time for a new thread!

Basically: a wonderful bunch of ladies supporting each other through the TTC journey when trying for a first baby after 35.

Here's hoping we get some spring BFP luck for all of us!! 🍀🐣🍀🐣

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birdbybird · 03/04/2019 14:26

@Weathergirl1 are you nauseous/tired? Have you tried to up the intake of protein? Just read somewhere that it helps...

Kescilly · 03/04/2019 17:55

Congrats on all the BFPs! I hope no one minds, but I had thought about making a “graduates” thread for a while now so that we don’t clog up this thread. I’ve started one in the antenatal clubs forum, here.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3550247-35-TTC-1-Graduates

Feel free to join at whatever stage of pregnancy you are at.

Pinkywoo · 03/04/2019 18:38

I'm good thanks @VenusStarr, the sickness has mostly gone now I'm almost 11 weeks, and those shoes are lovely! Don't ever worry about bringing the thread down, that's what we're here for Flowers

Congratulations @birdbybird @SunStruck and @Ferii!

@Kescilly just spotted your thread on active, I've been thinking about starting one for weeks but was too lazy Blush

VenusStarr · 03/04/2019 22:08

Thanks @Pinkywoo 😊 I'm really pleased you're well. Have you got your 12 week scan soon? I think it's over for me, think the miscarriage is starting. I feel a sense of relief that I might be out of this limbo nightmare and I can grieve properly for our little one ❤️

Pinkywoo · 03/04/2019 23:08

Yes it's next Thursday, I'm so sorry but can totally understand not wanting to be in limbo anymore, look after yourself.

SunStruck · 04/04/2019 02:16

Confirmed this morning... I'm speechless, didn't think it would happen so quickly due to age! Still early days though, need to think of when and how to tell DH 😳

You've all been so supportive and I hope that you'll get your BFP very soon 🥰 I'll hang out in the graduate thread to not take up space here.

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BambiOnIce80 · 04/04/2019 07:33

Crikey- take a couple of days off to do research and miss a plethora of BFP's!! Congratulations ladies! 🎉💐 🎊

And thanks for the grad thread @Kescilly ❤️ Good to know I can surreptitiously keep an eye on how you're all getting on! 🤪😉

@VenusStarr, I really have no words other than you're very much in my thoughts 💙 Sending you lots of cyber love and support. Please don't stop sharing when you want to. You never, ever bring this safe place down.xx

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Kescilly · 04/04/2019 07:34

Oh VenusStarr, I’m so sorry. Please take care of yourself, you’ve been through so much.

CNizzle · 04/04/2019 07:40

@venusstar take care of yourself, sending love & hugs your way. 💕💕

To all the recent bfps, congratulations, wishing you happy & healthy pregnancies xx

PixieN · 04/04/2019 07:46

Congratulations on all the Bfps ladies 🎉😊

So sorry to hear your news @VenusStarr - sending you hugs and positive thoughts 💕

Nothing to report for me and work has been manic, so been a little quiet on here. Still waiting for DH’s SA results, my blood test results and an appointment for tube flushing (can’t remember the technical term this early in the morning!) I think i’ll need to start chasing soon. Af is due in 2 days and no signs/symptoms to get excited about - just a bit of camping which is normal before Af.

PixieN · 04/04/2019 07:47

Oops cramping Grin

VenusStarr · 04/04/2019 08:29

Thank you all so much 💕❤️ it's means a lot @Pinkywoo @BambiOnIce80 @Kescilly @CNizzle @PixieN xx

Russkispy · 04/04/2019 08:49

@SunStruck congratulations!
@VenusStarr son sorry to read this! Look after yourself 
@QuantumGirl haven't heard from you. How are you getting on?
AFM, booked a reassurance scan in a couple of weeks. Midwife and dating scan are through the post too. I won't be joining any antenatal or pregnancy threads and just stick with you guys as rooting for you all and still early days for me. Will keep you posted on my scans etc if you want but otherwise won't bore you with how I'm feeling on a daily basis. Suffice to say this pregnancy already feels different from my first. Anxiously waiting for my early scan after MMC and CP last and this year respectively. Scan falls a day before my 43rd birthday. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 it goes well!

VenusStarr · 04/04/2019 11:18

Thank you @Russkispy, I'm going OK. I don't think I congratulated you :) when is your scan?

Russkispy · 04/04/2019 11:24

@VenusStarr thank you. Booked on 16th April. Just a day before my 43rd birthday Grin😱😱🤞🏻🤞🏻

tisonlymeagain · 04/04/2019 12:20

AF arrived today, and I am over the moon as it's the first one since stopping the pill 4 weeks ago. I feel I can really start in earnest now! Will be testing with OPKs from CD10 which is a week on Saturday. Just hoping I have a normal cycle.

birdbybird · 04/04/2019 12:32

@VenusStarr sorry for your loss :(

Weathergirl1 · 04/04/2019 13:25

@VenusStarr just caught up with your latest update. Thinking of you and hoping you get properly looked after 💐💐

Carley32 · 04/04/2019 17:20

I’m so sorry @VenusStar thinking of you and sending lots of virtual hugs. 💐 xxx

Congratulations to all the bfp’s Lovely news for you all xxx

birdbybird · 04/04/2019 18:44

I don't know if its early pregnancy hormones kicking in... just had a bit of a cry... I think your post @Carley32 that triggered it. Nothing specific you said... just made me realise that this thread consists of a group of lovely women. @VenusStarr hugs and I hope your body heals itself very soon. @CNizzle @BambiOnIce80 @79andnotout @PixieN @Carley32 @beverlymarsh @Laney79 @Catconfusion @WrexhamBuxom will be keeping everything crossed for good news from you all! I've had pangs of envy when others have had BFP's and now am experiencing BFP guilt...!
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@BambiOnIce80 will do the OPK test and post the result. Stupidly forgot to do it a couple of hours ago, even though minutes earlier had reminded myself about doing it.

Catconfusion · 04/04/2019 19:37

Arh thank you @birdbybird and congratulations to you. I remember feeling like this when I was pregnant. So many lovely ladies on here who deserve their bfps too. We'll all get there! Hope you have a very happy and healthy pregnancy! Xx

Carley32 · 04/04/2019 19:39

It is a lovely thread @birdybird I don’t know how I’d cope without all you lovely ladies 💕.

You must never feel bfp guilt...it’s lovely to see others get their bfp, gives us all hope I’m sure. it’s amazing news and you should feel no guilt just happiness 💐 xx

birdbybird · 04/04/2019 19:54

Thank you @Catconfusion and @Carley32 .

@BambiOnIce80 Just realised you suggested using a IC OPK for the experiment. Anyhow, I've just tested using a Clear Blue Digital OPK as that's all I had. Got a solid smiley.

birdbybird · 04/04/2019 19:59

Just thought I'd share a tip I'd read on FertilityFriend.
If your partner does not have significant sperm count issues then you can DTD in fertile week more frequently than every other day as every time increases the chances.

Laney79 · 05/04/2019 07:24

Hey ladies. Apologies for my silence but the past few days have been a bit full on. Thanks for all the support.

And congrats on the BFPs @birdbybird @Ferii @SunStruck

@VenusStarr Huge hugs. It's cruel and wrong and you do whatever you need to to survive. Xxx

Great news all is going well @Russkispy

Sorry not to reply to all individually.

As for me... ready for an essay? So obviously I’ve been feeling let down and lost after being told it was either the pill or pay to see a private dr. I was umming and ahhing about the private guy, partially because I was worried about being fobbed off and paying for the privilege, but also what would happen if he recommended tests-would I have to pay for those too or could I have them on the nhs...so I emailed my ccg. I explained that I knew I wasn’t eligible for fertility treatment as the policy was clear you had to have not conceived for a year, but would I be eligible for fertility testing of any kind. Ended up speaking to someone pretty high up who told me that in fact we are eligible for treatment as well testing!!!...but only until my 40th birthday...which is July 24th. So I need the fastest gp referral I can get. My gp was awesome and it was all done by weds morning. Apparently my fella needs to request a semen analysis test and I need a day three blood test but then we are under the fertility centres care.

She recommended I still go to see the private guy as he may be able to suggest tests or treatment that she would be able to action and it may help us catch naturally again or at least speed the process up.

Then weds night we went to the open evening at the fertility centre-got nearly half hour with the man in charge! He’s an embryologist and was so helpful. Reckons our chance of conception each month at my age is prob only 10% and ivf would make that more like 20-25%. He said he’d inform his team to keep an eye out for my referral and that he’d ask them to expedite it too!

So I’ve gone from feeling quite alone and no plan to having suddenly lots of medical support and a possibility of fertility help, and possibly even ivf if we want it and I can cope with it...and that’s the big if. Can I, with my horrid medical phobia really handle ivf? Arghhhhh. Any one who’s been there and had ivf, I really could do with details of exactly what it entails (injections, scans, treatments, investigations etc that I have to have. ) to go through...I need the brutal truth people! Prob best to DM I guess?

I've got the acupuncture on Sunday, private consultation on Tuesday.

Oh and I had more bloods yesterday, vitamin D and progesterone...only vitamin D is back. Sadly not what I wanted to see-I'm taking more than double the standard 10micrograms a day (25) and my level is actually worse than it was before Christmas! I'm now at 55 nmol/l and I was 58 nmol/l. My target is 75nmol/l as that appears to be optimal for pregnancy. Annoying as I did a private test about 5 weeks ago and that showed level of 76 nmol/l so who knows what's going on there.

My brain is all over the place.

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