TTC FIRST BABY - Thread 13!

[TrashKitten10]

Hoping that thread number 13 turns out to be lucky! 🍀 Apologies if anybody has been missed off, please add or update your stats :)

cupcakesandglitter 23 Cycle 8
Jessikka 28 Cycle 1
starkid 29 Cycle 6
MrsAW2018 24 Cycle 8
AnnaMC214 32 Cycle 5
TTC34 34 Cycle 1
ttc12019 29 Cycle 1
19Bee2 27 Cycle 1
Ember25 34 Cycle 4
BlueArtemis 24 Cycle 7
MrsH497 32 Cycle 2
Tinag18 36 Cycle 2
MrsR16 25 Cycle 6
Random2468 28 Cycle 2
Jessikka 28 Cycle 1
BostonFern 34 Cycle 2
Thumper59 23 Cycle 2
Lola871 31 Cycle 2
ValidUser 28 Cycle 7
Lozzlepop 35 Cycle 1
DayDreamer1707 28 Cycle 4
Trashkitten10 27 Cycle 2
OhMarnie 28 Cycle 1
DuchessofPemberley 32 Cycle 6
KittieKath 34 Cycle 6
KatBeCool
MrsMcNtobe Cycle 6
BabySquid
PeacockingAbout 29 Cycle 3
Chanel05 29 Cycle 7
Sleepyquest 28 Cycle 1
Granddesigns 32 cycle 2
Pinkfizz19 33 cycle 2
Kennyholiday 32 cycle 10
Catlady31 31 cycle 1

TTC#1 Grads......
EltzBee Cycle 6
Delilah7 Cycle 3
SullyWifey Cycle 11
MrsEG Cycle 6
MrsLBear Cycle ?
GemmaJen Cycle ?
Crossfitgirl Cycle 8
Fivexfive Cycle?
Dogmum24 Cycle?
Scottslass55 38 Cycle 4
FlapJackered 30 Cycle 8
Bettythecat 30 Cycle 8
stormtrooperjulian 31 Cycle 6
Nextchapter19 Cycle 1

I am holding onto cycle 1 by the skin of my teeth 😂😬

I had a small amount of pinky blood this morning when I wiped. Obviously not wanting it to be AF i kept wiping and wiping and there wasn't much there!

Now 12hours later there's not been any more.

For those who spot before AF how long do you go between spots? If that makes sense.

Will see what tomorrow brings but since temp went up this morning I'm refusing to bow out yet.

The witch will have to fight me 😂

Welcome @LikeTheFruit and @Jooloo11 ! @Jooloo11 I know what you mean about dates, although I think I was worse last month in my first cycle.

@DayDreamer1707 CD17 and I've already started wondering if random things are symptoms. Achey boobs yesterday, and I actually woke myself up hiccuping in the night! The logical part of me says it's far too early for symptoms even if I were pregnant, but I know I'll keep symptom spotting for another 11 days at least!

@MrsR16 how many dpo are you?

@Lemonysherbet well done you!! Haha. Fitness feb has slipped away from me 😂

Halfway through my first TWW, it feels very long doesn't it?! AF due on Sunday (Friday according to app but Sunday based on last 2 cycles) so I'll be waiting at least until Monday to test. Kind of a boring period of time really!

Just took an OPK. Negative again but my body is giving me every other sign of ovulation. Lots of cramping pain, feeling wet below and loads of EWCM 🤔 could my wee just be to diluted?

@Jessikka I spotted for 3 days last AF but I sometimes think...would I even notice the spotting if I wasn't so obsessed with checking.

@BostonFern my whole lower half is aching but I think that's because I had a drink at weekend and my body just can't cope anymore.

@thumper59 try your best to test early afternoon tomorrow maybe, mine just goes positive all at once

@MrsR16 Do what is right for you 😘

@Lola871So unfortunately the TWE doesn't get anymore funner (is that even a word) fingers crossed for you being one of the lucky ones and get your BFP first cycle x

@thumper59 Are you holding off having a drink and wee for a few hours before? And are you testing once a day or a few times? It sounds from all your symptoms that you're very close x

Aw so nice to see people getting their bfp. I haven’t been on here in a while, currently on cycle day 112 I’ve been on metformin for a month now but just a bit fed up. I’ve got 2 months until my fertility appt so just plodding along until then.

@DayDreamer1707 I can't make it early afternoon with being at work 😫 there's no way I could swan off secretly enough in a small office.

@TrashKitten10 I don't think I have done enough today. I might try about 10? Then it'll be 3 ish hours with no drink? I feel ovulatey though? 😂

@DayDreamer1707 you're so right. 15 years time I'm not going to be sat here thinking "I'm so glad I put off TTC because someone else was pregnant and it would be inconvenient for work". Hope you have your own little secret when the shower comes around x

@MrsH497 sorry for the BFN - fingers crossed for you, it ain't over till the red witch sings

@Jooloo11 welcome! We're all in this insane journey together! Its definitely helping me keep track of days that's for sure.

@Jessikka fingers crossed for you, keep hanging in there! I think this process makes us so much more aware of every little thing, it makes them all worse. Definitely look at a multi-vit or something though, you don't want to go into this run down or anemic. x

@thumper59 glad to hear it, can't have a roast without parsnips! Fingers crossed ovulation is imminent but you've got the important bit you can control covered it seems. I think it is probably really easy to dilute it too much, I'm finding the OPKs very temperamental.

@MrsAW2018 we have all done it! I think I went through 5 HPTs in Cycle 1, starting from about 3 DPO . Thank goodness for the Wilkos 2 for a pound boxes!

@PinkFizz19 you have to do what's right for you -they won't have put you in the course if you weren't right for it (they're not there to do you favours) so pregnant or not you're the right person for them to send. And you have to do what's best for you as no one else will. 2 years is a long time!

@TrashKitten10 I think the same is true for you - if another job is best for you then you have to look after yourself, people will forget over the course of a career! Some people will be pissed if you were there 10 years then fell pregnant, you cant live by what's best for other people.

The have to BD part is hard, I'm trying to keep the BD to every 2 days to lower the pressure - still had the 'oh bugger we have to tonight don't we' conversation yesterday which does dampen the mood! It's not that I'm not keen, it's the effort to start sometimes DH is definitely still enjoying the novelty, I work looooong hours in a stressful job and so am usually the one wanting to just zonk out. And did a yoga class today so nothing is happening tonight, exhausted and very sore. I'm so unfit and inflexible, I'm basically a slightly overweight wooden board.

Tried my first work OPK - faffy and negative as it was so dilute it was almost colourless, I drink so much fluid at work so think I'll do them at home after work from now on. Had a negative but with a pink line yesterday so think it's coming, and CM is definitely different to yesterday.

Is anyone else struggling with the sense of being a failure? I'm trying to hide from DH how much its bothering me that it's taking a while but tbh failing. I was hoping that this at least would be something that would just slot into place and it's not, and honestly, I'm finding that quite hard.

Omg @Delilah7 how are you doing?? How many weeks are you now?

@TrashKitten10 I've so glad I went for the new job.

@PinkFizz19 when I MC in sept I'd only been at my new work about 7 weeks, and my manager was so nice about everything, she asked if we'd been trying for long so I just told her a little white lie and said almost a year, which is why I took the job coz I couldn't put my life on hold any longer.

@MrsMcNtobe - Mine's predicting Ov on the 19th, so got a few days yet, but we've started regular BDing and I've started with the OPKs already, nothing yet though :) Fx this is our month!
@Delilah7 - Haha yep there's still plenty of us in here! (sadly...) Hope everything is going good for you xx

@PeacockingAbout I feel just the same, trying not to let DH know how much of a failure I feel each and every time AF turns up... cycle 10 and counting isn't making it any easier though. I haven't been on any kind of BC since sept 17, and that was only the coil which doesn't change your hormones apparently.
I did have a bit of a meltdown and a cry to DH the other week after my completely abnormal AF and 3 BFNs. He was good but then kept saying that thinking there's something wrong with me is all added pressure and not doing any good!

@BostonFern I have absolutely no idea! Flo says I ovulated last Thursday, but Glow reckons I'll ovulate tomorrow! I think it's thrown out a bit because I haven't had a positive OPK yet... I'm still spotting, so much so that I'll have to wear a pad I think! This is very strange!

@PeacockingAbout I feel like a failure every time AF hits!

Scrap that, just done an OPK (obviously negative) and Glow's pushed my O date back to Wednesday! 🤦‍♀️ I don't know what's going on

@PeacockingAbout it's ok. It will be ok. I'm still only 29. I should still be able to have the 3 children we want. And maybe even adopt later too.

Thanks all for keeping me included. ❤️

@BabySquid @starkid sorry you're all here still 😔 it'll happen remember?!
I'm getting better. On meds for a month as have hyperemesis so had to go hospital etc. I'm 18 weeks 3 day's!! Very surreal still hahaha xx

@thumper59 - do you use the Amazon one step ones? I find it hard to get a positive on them, I think they need really concentrated wee and surely it isn't good for you to get that dehydrated? I still use them of course because they come in packs of one million and I can't bear to throw anything away. I just get negatives on them when my clear blue digitals have the peak smiley so I don't know what to trust.

Re : opk's at work - I pretend to drop a pen, shove an opk in my shoe then waddle to the loos! Bit risky I suppose, would die of embarrassment if one ever comes flying out.

@Jooloo11 opk in the shoe is hilarious!!! I don't think I could do one at work, my boots ones say to read between 3-10 mins... I keep looking at it till 10 mins is over! I'd have to have it on my desk to keep peeping at haha 🙈 I'll stick to 5:15 when I get home.

@Jooloo11 yeah I do! I am yet to get a positive on it but my body appears to be ovulating or close with all the other signs so who knows!

@MrsR16 that is strange.

@Jooloo11 shoving an OPK in your shoe 😂
No way I could do one at work- the toilet lights are on a timer, so I reckon if I were to spend ten minutes in the cubicle I'd be doing an OPK in the dark 😂

@PeacockingAbout it's so difficult to not be tempted isn't it? I just do internet cheapies but yesterday was a FRER and it feels like such a waste of money because they aren't cheap. I'm addicted though!!

Guys, I miss the soya isoflavones 😂 I'm so tired now. Can see why people get addicted to drinking coffee!
How is everyone else? :)

@Lemonysherbet I have the gym booked for lunchtime and I am dreading it as I feel like i'm getting a cold, good on you going for a run, I have used that app before and found it good!

@thumper59 my OH is exactly the same, was explaining to him the other night that theres only a very small window of time that you can get pregnant and he seemed shocked, think he also thinks you know straight away without waiting 😂men!!

@Lola871 I'm halfway through the TWW too, it is a boring time huh!

@Jessikka I had about 3 days of spotting before proper AF which was still fairly light but I think thats just because it was the first month off BC.

@Jooloo11 an OPK in the shoe thats brilliant - I'm fairly lucky that we have to share lunch cover and we have a smoker in the office so I can usually nip to the loo when they are both away but I can imagine it can be awkward in a busy office.

@starkid morning! I am snoozy too but thats due to the OH snoring like a beast all night 😒how did you find the Isoflavones?