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TTC FIRST BABY - Thread 13!

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TrashKitten10 · 10/02/2019 14:33

Hoping that thread number 13 turns out to be lucky! 🍀 Apologies if anybody has been missed off, please add or update your stats :)

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thumper59 · 11/02/2019 12:47

@Jooloo11 definitely. Sometimes I feel like I put out and don't get much back then when ever I mention it he's like no I'm always game etc etc but I don't think he is! I've not got to the point of putting on him when I'm ovulating etc yet we are .'seeing how it goes' ha! I make out I'm so much more chill to him then I am in my head 😂. He feels pressure real easy though so I'd rather keep it on myself if you know what I mean. His job is so much more physically demanding than mine. Sometimes I read far to much into things rather then just appreciating what a lovely and caring man I do have 😂

MrsR16 · 11/02/2019 13:45

@DayDreamer1707 @Lozzlepop the sodding thing is that she leaves at the end of the month! 😂 I'm going to be doing the job that 4 of us used to do! Apparently I'm the only one stupid enough to stick around...

@PeacockingAbout thank you lovely lady!

@sunshine1987 good to see you! Xx

@Jooloo11 welcome! This is absolutely the best thread ever 😊

@MrsH497 you're not out till AF arrives!!

DayDreamer1707 · 11/02/2019 14:31

@MrsR16 they will have to sort something when the time comes. You do no owe your job your life.

@Jooloo11 and @thumper59 I think I am ok for the OH wanting to DTD as he is a couple of years younger than me and has actually really enjoyed in being a part of the SMEP. Plus he can be quite laid back which is always good, very much unlike me. He constantly told me when we was to BD 😂 we shall see how this changes. I do think it is different for every couple and you have got see what work best for you but I do love the Girl Power, if you want to have sexy time...go get your man attitude you guys have. Like you said Thumper if you have a loving OH then that's the main thing x

So I am already annoying myself with the stupid symptom spotting which is probably all in my crazy head. I have been looking into the cervix side of things and says it should be all dry up there...well I definitely ain't dry. Plus I have been having slight cramps and twinges but I don't know if that's just because I'm tired. Also it is far to early for any of this.....Someone give me a virtual slap!!

thumper59 · 11/02/2019 14:51

@DayDreamer1707 yeah I know what you mean. If I sat down and said to him well we need to BD then then and then to try make sure we catch it he would, but I don't want to do that to him (just yet!) because I know he doesn't like added pressure and stress about anything, it just turns a mountain out of a molehill for him bless him, where as I can handle pressure and stress quite well. I sorta thrive on it 😬 ( in work situations more then baby making ones!). We usually dtd every other- every 3 days and it varies who makes the initial move or is a joint thing so I suppose I can't really complain. It's because it's consuming me with the apps etc where as as far as he is concerned we are just going with the flow and it'll happen when it happens and I've not told him
Any more then that 😂

DayDreamer1707 · 11/02/2019 15:14

@thumper59 you don't want to suck the enjoyment out of it for either of you and if you add pressure he will probably feel uncomfortable...I am sure he will still like doing it ha but it's pressure that's not needed. I am quite rubbish at instigating thing so if the other half knows when we need to DTD then happy days, helps me a lot. Guys have no idea everything that goes on while you are TTC. To be fair I didn't have clue until these past few months and I still learn new things x

thumper59 · 11/02/2019 15:40

@DayDreamer1707 oh I completely agree! I had no idea I thought I'd just come off the pill, fall pregnant. Happy days! Apparently not so easy 😂 I'm not bad at instigating 🙄 some days I have a confidence flop but I'm usually pretty confident in my err abilities 😂

Jessikka · 11/02/2019 15:50

Hey @Lozzlepop - just saw your post on thread 12.

Hope this helps find us. ☺️

daisiesandpeonies · 11/02/2019 15:54

May I come back in after ducking out again?
I'm on cycle 9 in the tww - not feeling hopeful at all though, if I'm honest I've started counting the months to 1 year of TTC and going for testing as I just can't see it happening!

MrsH497 · 11/02/2019 16:15

Thanks ladies. Not optimistic this month for some reason and if AF arrives that puts a dampener on valentines BD! X

KatBeCool · 11/02/2019 16:19

@daisiesandpeonies I have to agree that a countdown to medication and testing certainly brings a good feeling. I just started Clomid and, for a change, it feels like I'm doing something. On the other hand, @FlapJackered got pregnant her a couple of months shy of the one year mark.

@Jooloo11 it does seem to become like a chore to DTD for men. My DH gets mentally drained as he is expected to perform on command and on the schedule, and he knows he would upset me if he doesn't. I try to let him know ahead of time, it helps.

thumper59 · 11/02/2019 17:31

Haven't took an OPK yet ladies, but I did come straight in from work and hop on OH so the deed is done for tonight 💪🏼 no messing about!

PinkFizz19 · 11/02/2019 17:43

Hey ladies..thanks for the add @TrashKitten10 Here's hoping thread 13 is lucky for us 😊

I got my first flashing smiley this morning..cd11. Last month I got my static on cd12 so I'm thinking I'll be a few days later this month as I had low fertility yesterday but last month cd10 I had high/flashing. Hoping for static smiley on Valentine's Day - perfect excuse for a romantic night in and plenty of dancing. Hehe. That'll be nice to conceive a Valentines baby. I bet November is a very busy month on maternity after September and all those Christmas babies 😉

Can anyone offer any words of wisdom to help my conscience please? I've started a qualification through (and paid for by) work. It's going to run for approx 18 months to 2 years. I didn't want to say no to the opportunity for the qualification but equally feeling bad about me hopefully getting pregnant and going on mat leave. Alot of the work i can still continue to do at home..understandably this will be harder with a little one..but some of it is "on the job experience". I know this must happen all the time so hopefully if we are lucky to conceive they will give me an extension if i need it but should I feel bad for taking it up in the first place? Please be honest? I don't want to tell them we're TTC and you never know if you can or how long it could take so shouldn't I be carrying on as normal until something changes that? Blush

thumper59 · 11/02/2019 17:55

@PinkFizz19 go for it! We've all just been discussing this afternoon how you can't put your life on hold 😊 hopefully it'll occupy your mind too!

Me and my brother are November babies 🤔

MrsMcNtobe · 11/02/2019 18:09

@starkid how are you feeling? Any positive OPKs or feelings yet? X

PinkFizz19 · 11/02/2019 18:14

@thumper59 Thanks 😊 I keep creating little scenarios in my mind where I'm telling my boss. Keep thinking can they ask me if we wete trying or not? I wouldn't want them to be disappointed if i said we were actively ttc even though I'm enrolled to do this qualification but then equally i don't want to create a lie of a pill mishap which i will then have to pursue forever. Am i over thinking things? I'm such a worrier of what people think of me and don't want them thinking bad of me 😕

starkid · 11/02/2019 18:20

@MrsMcNtobe - Nah not yet, I don't usually ovulate for another week yet :) you?

MrsMcNtobe · 11/02/2019 18:22

@starkid Ovia says I’m in my fertile window due to ovulate on the 16th so I’ve started them just to be sure

Jooloo11 · 11/02/2019 18:23

@KatBeCool - that's exactly it, as much as he wants a baby too, I think he does see it as a bit of a chore, the truth is we'd never normally DTD nearly this much if we weren't TTC - so the difference is a bit striking! I get that it makes men feel stressed and under pressure to perform when they get told when they need to do it, but without some sort of schedule, just left to when he'd feel like it, I'd never get pregnant!

@thumper59 - I'm the same re thinking it would happen instantly, i wonder if everyone does - I remember the first time we did it unprotected, I worked out what my due date would be and thought "well that's sorted then". HA what a knob I was.

@PinkFizz19 - you shouldn't feel bad at all, of course you should take the opportunity. As you say, you never know how long TTC might take and it sounds like you are a pretty conscientious employee, talking about doing bits from home etc, so it sounds like they are lucky to have you, whether or not you end up going on mat leave during the qualification.

Jooloo11 · 11/02/2019 18:34

@PinkFizz19 - I understand the worry but extremely doubt they will ask you if you were TTC, if nothing else they will prob be too uncomfortable/worried about being sued. It may be because I work for about company, but i see them make people redundant all the time, so I know that if things were the other way round they would always do what's best for the company, so you should 100% do what's best for you!

TrashKitten10 · 11/02/2019 18:41

@BabySquid your colleague probably has the best idea. I bet you're glad you took the plunge and went for the new job

@DayDreamer1707 Oh lovely! A home cooked roast is definitely hard to beat but then eating out means no washing up 

@MrsR16 Happy birthday! At least you got to enjoy the Prosecco even if you have to work today 🥂

@PeacockingAbout I'm a teacher so employed by the county council and maternity allowance will transfer to any new school if it's within the county. Mind you it's hardly the most generous maternity pay to start with 🤔 So that's not a concern, it's more making a bad impression. I'm a complete worrier and it would really stress me out thinking I'd annoyed people, even though I know it must happen all the time. I'm probably being ridiculous haha.

@Jooloo11 Welcome!

@KatBeCool do you want your stats on the list? I'm trying to update as people post and will repost it again so it's easier when we have a new thread to find the updated stats

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PinkFizz19 · 11/02/2019 18:49

@Jooloo11 Thank you..I really appreciate that. I do think we only get once chance so I have to do what's best for me/us. I work to live not live to work but equally don't want to let anyone down. The tutor who enrolled ua explained they will be flexible as they understand alot can happen in 2 years. People can go off sick..leave the company etc. I don't know how that would work if you left but that's another story. I'll try to stop worrying 😊

MrsR16 · 11/02/2019 18:49

@DayDreamer1707 you're absolutely right! My boss is being super sweet to me at the moment (absolutely unheard of) but I know if I left tomorrow they'd cope!

@TrashKitten10 thanks Hun! 🎉🎉

So ladies, I started spotting last night (noticed after DTD) and it's carried on into today. Not enough to worry about I don't think, but much more than I've ever had mid cycle... I'm cd18 today. Any thoughts/help before I drive myself crazy?!?

thumper59 · 11/02/2019 18:52

@Jooloo11 they must do! It was a whole new world when I come on here 😂 I remember over Christmas when we decided that I would come off the pill and we'd 'see what happens' I was ready for an September baby 😂 then coming on here opened my eyes. I told OH that it can take months when you come off the pill but I still was super disheartened when I didn't get pregnant that first month haha. Spend so many years trying not to get pregnant, worrying like mad if I was sick or my period was a day late and now I'm like arghhh insides please bloody work 😂😂 come on my love make sure it goes right up don't come out till it's all in 🙄😂😂

Delilah7 · 11/02/2019 19:10

Loving my threads have been kept alive 😘 hope you're all well!!

Lemonysherbet · 11/02/2019 19:15

@thumper 😂😂😂 until it all comes out.

I'm not sure what's happened to me, I'm late to the Feb fitness party but I just started the couch to 5k app. And by start I mean I did 6 30 second 'runs' amongst a lot of walking and ended up with bad shin pain. Better than sitting on my arse in front of the TV stuffing my face though right

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