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TTC FIRST BABY - Thread 13!

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TrashKitten10 · 10/02/2019 14:33

Hoping that thread number 13 turns out to be lucky! 🍀 Apologies if anybody has been missed off, please add or update your stats :)

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LuckyPenguin · 26/02/2019 10:21

@starkid what are soya isoflavones?

sunshinedaisy248 · 26/02/2019 10:26

Hey ladies,

I am here TTC #1

Are any of you in the same situation? I've had some spotting these last couple of days but hoping it's not AF Sad

Me and my partner are really hoping to see those positive lines soon enough, although I really want to surprise him when it does happen. Do you have any cute ideas of how to surprise him?

Lozzlepop · 26/02/2019 10:28

@LuckyPenguin close enough I'm the tail end of '83 Awww amazing, glad you had the best day. I didn't meet my OH until I was 32, he has been married before and as much as I would love to do things "the right way" I'm not 100% sure he would want to get married again which does make me sad but I know that we can do that at any time but we can't have a baby at any time! I was desperately trying not to have a Christmas baby because I am one, but now I couldn't care less lol!

starkid · 26/02/2019 10:40

@LuckyPenguin - they're tablets with natural estrogen which among other things are meant to help regulate cycles and boost eggs, which you take for 5 days near beginning of your cycle. I took them last cycle just for something new to try tbh. Would look into it beforehand/talk to a doc if you want to try them as can mess your cycle about a bit and clash with other meds!
I'm just trying them for something to do while waiting to be allowed to the docs for a scan, pretty certain they're useless for me as my cycles are fine but feel like 'oh what the hell, why not' at this point 😂 they have side effects like being really giddy/hyper for a few hours, which is fun...
Some info here:
www.babycenter.com/404_can-soy-isoflavones-help-me-get-pregnant_10364266.bc

I also held back properly trying for a couple of months middle of last year, trying to avoid being pregnant for a holiday. And am currently thinking 'oh no, it'll be such miserable weather for their birthday if I get pregnant in the next couple of months', then just think oh like it matters in the end! Sad

LuckyPenguin · 26/02/2019 11:13

@Lozzlepop - same school year then 😊 is there a 'right way' these days? Think it falls to preference and circumstances. My younger brother and his gf bought a house then had a baby (she's 10 years younger than me!). I honestly don't think I could have had a baby at 24. At that point I was throwing myself head first into my career & was dating an absolute idiot!

@starkid - my periods are pretty regular 26/27 day cycles. Apart from this month which was 28 and got me all excited! 😤 I've invested in a basal thermometer this month - my husband thinks I'm nuts.

I'm similar re when I wanted to conceive. I didn't want to be off on minimal maternity pay over the summer (that would frustrate me!) and wanted an autumn term baby, now I'm like, ah, what if they're born at Christmas? but I realise what I'm saying is just silly in the grand scheme of things! All I want is a healthy baby. It's just my need to be in control & for things to be 'just right'....

@sunshinedaisy248 - I'm TTC my first. On my 3rd cycle now. Welcome to the club. Not sure in surprises. My husband is keen to do tests together and wants to very much be a part of it all (which I quite like!) so not really thought How I would surprise him (he HATES surprises!) perhaps look on YouTube? I'm sure someone would have filmed a reaction or something cute like that! ❤️

Lozzlepop · 26/02/2019 11:29

@LuckyPenguin I totally agree, I would love to get married and it doesn't need to be something huge, I was the same in my 20s I was with an absolute twat haha. I feel 100% secure in my current relationship and we did buy a house last year close to his family in preparation to start TTC so I am so ready to have a bay!

orangeloo · 26/02/2019 11:29

@sunshinedaisy248 hi, I also had spotting hoping it was implantation but after FRER BFN yesterday at 10dpo I think it's AF telling me she's round the corner. FX for you it doesn't come. I agree, think YouTube would be full of ideas.

The lack of control over ttc is definitely the worst thing matched with the tracking and planning DTD and wanting something so much. Ppl who never had to 'try' will never know how lucky they really are.

I also have anxiety and my symptoms were through the roof last week - really horrible which then gives you the added worry is this stress hindering conception. Think I'm going to try some meditation like someone suggested last week.

starkid · 26/02/2019 12:20

AF hasn't really amped up since this morning except pinkish cm, and now I'm stupidly hoping it was just spotting. The cramps from last night make me think differently, but I can't help it :(

I also hate the lack of control and planning with TTC!

BabySquid · 26/02/2019 12:28

@orangeloo it was me who suggested meditation but I've not yet tried any.
I believe AF is well on her way, had pick cm at about 9:30 before my meeting, then just come out a bit more and a bit darker. She can fuck right off being 3 days early! All these signs I've had!! What's a girl to do!!??!!! I feel like I can't keep disappointing myself like this but then feeling that way is putting more pressure on. I'm defo going to get that meditation done to chill a bit.
Going to phone the drs at lunch time and get an appointment for Friday on my day off, hopefully they'll believe my little white lie, I'm moving on to C11 but going to tell them it's a year. Also going to make hubs go too as I'd hate to go through all this then find out it's his jabs making his swimmers slow or something. Oh what a rant! Soz guys.

BabySquid · 26/02/2019 12:32

Oh yeah so @DayDreamer1707 the pre-seed didn't work for us this month :(
I'm going to go back to my bbt as well as the few OPKs I have left. And the pre-seed... and I've just ordered the soy iso's. see what the drs say about them on Friday before I take them though.

orangeloo · 26/02/2019 12:36

@BabySquid deffo go with your white lie, you as near a year as damn it anyway and if you suspect jabs could be an issue I think you are definitely doing the right thing. They won't know unless you've mentioned something before.

starkid · 26/02/2019 12:38

@BabySquid - aw sorry to hear that :( Good luck with your appointment and let us know what they say about the soy iso's too as I'm intrigued what they think... fx for you

granddesigns · 26/02/2019 14:07

Well it was looking hopeful as usually come on af mid morning but seems she was just running behind. Pink cm just now..... suspect that's me out.

BabySquid · 26/02/2019 14:39

@granddesigns isn't she a massive bitch that AF!! Wish she'd just realise we have bigger plans than her!

DayDreamer1707 · 26/02/2019 14:46

@BabySquid it's pretty expensive too isn't it. Sorry AF has shown but I would definitely say a white lie isn't going to harm anyone.

@granddesigns sorry she has shown, it's horrible when we allow ourselves that tiny glimmer of hope but then if we don't have that we would go mad.

@starkid I don't mind this next part because like you said it's the only bit we have some form of control. I will be starting the SMEP again. After that I just want hide away and try not to go too crazy x

@Lozzlepop my OH is younger than me and we aren't married but definitely want to be one day. A wedding is something that can wait and be planned but TTC is so unpredictable. Plus after our MMC we know we want a little one more than anything. To me having a baby together is the best and biggest commitment to each other like you said x

LuckyPenguin · 26/02/2019 15:24

So...this morning started off quite well. Tidied spare room & was sorting through bits I had kept putting off. Friend then messaged me about lunch on Thursday. Turns out it was actually today I was supposed to meet her...frantically got dressed & went to get into my car. Wouldn’t respond to my fob. Called aled for my other fob. No response. Turned the key. Alarm didn’t go off. Tried to start it and it was dead. Husband checked the camera - i left the internal light on over night. I cried. Neighbour jump started the car & it seemed fine. Couldn’t go for a long run as only 1 cell of petrol left. Pressed the button for Wing mirror - it didn’t open. Cue more tears. It would not budge. Cancelled lunch. Friend was miffed. Drove to the garage with one wing mirror. He was baffled, oiled it & shocked it and it worked. Asked him to check the battery. He turned the car on and off and nothing. Battery is screwed. But accordingly they last 5 years and I’ve had it for 7. Cue more tears. Walked to Waitrose and had a coffee and cried again, probably looking light a right loon. Bill came to £87.60. After out plumbing issue yesterday, AF arriving a day late and my husband getting a nail in his tyre I'm not sure what else could go wrong?! 😫

Lozzlepop · 26/02/2019 15:33

@BabySquid deffo go with the white lie, if its anything like my doctors you can never get an appointment so who knows how long you may have to wait so best to get the ball rolling.

@DayDreamer1707 exactly, plus it would be nice to have your little one at your big day too. He didn't want to have kids with his ex so I feel that speaks volumes for us!

Lozzlepop · 26/02/2019 15:53

@LuckyPenguin so sorry to hear this, hopefully things will pick up for you soon after this run of bad luck, sending lots of love your way! xx

KatBeCool · 26/02/2019 15:55

@LuckyPenguin your day sounds like a movie, so many misfortunes. Maybe it's getting you ready for something exciting!

BabySquid · 26/02/2019 16:06

@Lozzlepop I've got an appointment on Friday morning at 9am... glad I've got the day off I'll probs end up crying all over the poor lady Dr. Confused

Lozzlepop · 26/02/2019 16:26

@babySquid thats good that you managed to get an appointment so quickly and good that you have the rest of the day to process it all!

BostonFern · 26/02/2019 17:17

@LuckyPenguin another teacher here that was hoping to make best use of maternity leave and 6 weeks holiday 😂 if only we could control conception!

@DayDreamer1707 same here, DP is younger and we aren't married, but having a child together seems like the biggest commitment we can make to each other.

@BabySquid glad you've got your appointment.

CD2 here. Already fed up of AF!

LuckyPenguin · 26/02/2019 17:29

@Lozzlepop - determined to make it a positive! I have NEVER had such a bad run of luck!

@KatBeCool - tell me about it! Calmed myself down now, the only way is up!

@BostonFern - cycle buddies, job buddies, the same age and with great minds that think alike! Exactly - If only we could control conception! 🤣

The good news is starting to come my way...barratts have agreed to pay for the repair works! Woohoo!

LuckyPenguin · 26/02/2019 17:47

@BostonFern - my partner is 2.5 years younger than me!

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