The July 19ers - All aboard the rollercoaster for a 3rd lucky thread

[Frazzlerock]

What do I do?? Pretend I'm not freaking the fuck out firstly!! Ha ha!!!
I put on my most scary police lady voice and tell her how much trouble she will be in if I ever have to come and deal with her again... then turn to the social worker and say 'good luck with that then!!' As I put my coat on and run!! 😂😂

Holy fuck Tigsy that's terrifying. I wouldn't know what to do in that situation. What were here parents like? Awful thing for them to be going through...!
Can you imagine going through months and months of ttc, a miscarriage, more months, finally having a LO and them doing things like that through no fault of your own.

Agreed with Twittle! A hot destination would be lovely idea for a meet up.

See you all in Malaysia then!! It's always hot there! We always come back at Christmas and sometimes at other random times.

Tigsy that child sounds terrifying! Really weird behaviour.

Was just thinking this... if we did all meet up, I'd find it so bizarre calling everyone by their normal, given name... I think I'd have to refer to you all by your MN usernames 😂

It took some getting used to with my other MN lot @rather but now I can't even remember their MN names!

Thanks ladies for all your replies - that is reassuring .......I think ......ok so I'm still anxious.

@Tigsy goodness me! What a scary job! My DH is a DC but before then the things he told me he was dealing with was just scary beyond all reason. Some kids just do awful stuff.

Sorry, I'm so busy at work I can't keep up during the day. Feel a bit like an imposter sometimes here as I just can't comment aa much, plus I wasn't on the AN thread or pregnancy due thread because after the first mc I was too scared to join anything until like 6 months pregnant. Meeting up sounds good, somewhere warm even better, a trip to see the rellies in Malaysia would work for me or if you want somewhere warm then I can host and jack the heating up 🤣

So have we all bought FRERs on boots 3 for 2?

My days go manic at 3pm, that’s when my day starts really 🙄
Anyway, now I have 5 mins to myself (finally)... it would be lovely if we did all keep in touch... but as for meeting up with our babies... I feel I would be being somewhat over optimistic if I agreed to that. I would like to keep in touch with everyone though, and I have been wondering if we should have a secret fb group rather than keeping in touch on MN. I think there were a few others that asked to join at the beginning, but they didn’t stick around for long. I definitely remember a proseccobee.

I have not been anywhere near the July thread for a long time, in fact it make me feel sick just thinking about it.

@Tigsy that girl sounds horrendous, it’s such a shame, her poor parents! I hope they get her the help she clearly needs.

I definitely have not bought any frers and I don’t intend to. I think I’m on the verge of giving up, but then I’m not sure I can handle giving up just yet. This whole thing is filling me with a sense of dread one way or the other.

@Pegase how are you getting on today? x

@InDreamland I bought '6 for 4' 🙈

No more bleeding @Rose68 but feel quite heavy in the pelvis/bit crampy like when AF is going to arrive iykwim. DH being supportive but obviously as we have had one pg with bleeding that resulted in a child and one that resulted in a mc, he is keeping his hopes up that it is the positive outcome this time. I'm struggling to but work super busy today so managed to push anxiety to the back of my mind. Thank you for everyone's support- I really appreciate it and it is so helpful having people who understand to stress with!

I would love a meet up eventually- Malaysia is one of my favourite countries. Had some great nasi lemak in Chinatown at the weekend vaguely in honour of CNY!

@tigsyboo that child sounds so so terrifying. Only 8 as well?!

@Betty lol! That's good smart financial planning! Saves money 😉

@Pegase I hope this is still a sticky bean! Where in China town did you go? Or was it not the London one? Conscious there are China towns outside London.

@Rose68 I hope you don't give up just yet and still get your rainbow!

@InDreamland it is called Rasa Sayang I think, by De Hems bar. Cheap but tasty!

@Pegase I love Rasa Saying. It's a Malaysian restaurant/cafe. Mmmmmmm. I haven't been for a while but think I need to pay a visit soon.

@Rose68 study didn't answer your question earlier. Pretty sure she said AMH was 16.1 on the phone (or was it 60.1?).

The downward trend continues to prove itself.
Not even a Valentines Day tease this morning.

See, I'm right about just shagging the day before ovulation isn't enough
I should have put that bet on 😉

Bye bye baby, baby goodbye....

Morning everyone,
I feel really bad posting this after reading your message Frazzle but I tested this morning and it is positive. I feel so thankful but so full of trepidation. I haven’t even told my husband yet! I’m trying to be positive and keep telling myself this is attempt number three so, even if it is another MC, at least we will get the nhs tests this time.
Hang in their Frazzle... we’re all on this rollercoaster together...
Glad to hear the bleeding has subsided @Pegase... fx you (we all) have a sticky one this time

Oh Frazzle was really holding out hope. Downward trends are never good only slight possibility is that you'll implant today and shoot up but... you know

buggles oh wow, that is bloomin brilliant though. Really hope this is it, your rainbow baby. But that is good way of thinking, you'll get the testing and some answers if this one does sadly end. FX though.

Amazing news @Buggles1 !! I hope this is it for you! And with any luck we will all follow behind you

@Twittle yeah, I have had this gut feeling since ovulation that this would be hopeless.
Trying not to feel like shit.
Obviously, once again, this is not my turn.
Three years is fucking tiresome though 😢
Fuck knows when I'll ovulate again.

I feel like I desperately need to speak to DP but terrified whatever I say will be "pressure"
What's the point in having such regular sex throughout my cycle if the one time I am actually fertile, we don't?
I feel like today is going to be a shit day 😢

Sending hugs Frazzle, that's so bloody shit. You never know, it could dip up xxxx

Fab news Buggles huge congrats! Fx for a sticky little bean! X

@rather thank you but it won't.
This is almost identical to last cycle's temps.
I'm going to fuck off now for a bit as I feel completely shit about it (despite knowing full well it was hopeless) and I'm ruining @Buggles' special day
I hope you all have a lovely day xxx

Congratulations @Buggles1 fab news!

@Frazzle it’s not over until it’s over. Sending you hugs

@frazzle how disappointing 😔 I'm really sorry.

@buggles that's awesome news, congrats! I'm with you 100% on the mixed emotions, but I remember the mantra from a previous thread... "today, I am pregnant" ... and that's good enough for now. xx

You’re not spoiling it at all Frazzle. We all understand how frustrating and upsetting this whole ttc business is.
It really doesn’t help with the DH situation. I was amazed at how little men really know about ttc. I’ve had to educate mine but, like you say, you start to feel guilty for putting the pressure on and they just don’t realise the amount of anxiety and stress that comes with knowing how small a window of opportunity there is. Sigh, I really never thought this would be so hard.

Absolutely @Betty, I recall reading that too and it really did stick in my head. I’ll be repeating it again each morning now.

I loved that mantra. How are you feeling in yourself Buggles?

@Frazzlerock this is the space to feel shit in, you're not ruining anyone's day.

I was really anxious about Valentines, sounds stupid but every year my grandad would send me a card signed "?" In his big scrawly handwriting. I'm not into v day at all, completely not my thing, but was a little tradition that he did every year. My DH got up early before me this morning & laid a card down by the front door, signed "?". Not much at all, but made me smile...

AF has finally arrived too, thank god!