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The July 19ers - All aboard the rollercoaster for a 3rd lucky thread

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Frazzlerock · 31/01/2019 10:32

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The July 19ers - All aboard the rollercoaster for a 3rd lucky thread
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BettySwoll0cks · 10/02/2019 14:56

should get something on a FRER at 11dpo shouldn't I? Not necessarily @rather, how long are your cycles usually?

You're all making me hungry with this talk of food, but I've put on a fair amount of weight over this year also. It's on my tummy and hips and a bit on my arms too (I'm an 'apple' at the best of times) and I think a lot of it has been down to not exercising, which I'm nervous of doing in any meaningful way. And the rollercoaster of being pregnant 3 times in 12 months, hormones and comfort eating.

Buggles1 · 10/02/2019 15:28

Struggling with weight here too. Was 56kg before the two mcs and Xmas, now at 61kg and hardly fitting in any clothes. Want to exercise and diet again but don’t want to do anything to risk a pregnancy either. Feel stuck in limbo just waiting to be pregnant again.
On that note, I seem to be getting good pregnancy signs but won’t be able to check until the end of the week. Almost feel scared of seeing a positive test.. as if just waiting for the inevitable mc. They really do suck all the joy and excitement out of it.

BettySwoll0cks · 10/02/2019 15:32

@Buggles1 I agree, I couldn't feel happy about being pg because 'getting pg' isn't my problem, it's staying the course. Big hugs I think everyone here knows how that feels xx

Im convinced that my broken sleep is causing me problems, this whole thing with low temps after Ov has made me even more convinced of it. To sort it out though DS will have to start sleeping though the night - he'll be 3 in May and it's rarely ever happened yet. Not a great deal I can do about that, at least, not quickly. Sad

BettySwoll0cks · 10/02/2019 15:38

Ps DH is hiding somewhere watching the rugby. He was meant to be working today but I'm certain it'll have been cancelled due to the weather. Trying not to get irritated but he seems to have turned his phone off as well. I'd rather he'd just said "work is canned, do you mind if I go and watch the rugby at x" (rather than coming home to be with the family) at which point I'd have said "no, go for it". Instead he's just snuck off which I find really bloody irritating. I'm not stupid. Unreasonable?

tigsyboo · 10/02/2019 15:48

Rose yeah mum has the big C. It's stage 4 metastatic breast cancer that came back in her brain after 12 years in remission. She doing ok tho... surgery, radiotherapy and chemo.... 9 months since diagnosis and still fighting.
One of the reasons our lost baby would have been so perfect as she definitely would have been here and well in June to enjoy being a nan... also the reason my MMC was a very lonely time as they never knew I was PG so I never told them I miscarried either. She needs to concentrate on her not me so I pretended I had flu for a week.

Roast was delicious!! Had home made rice pudding too!!
I'm one of those annoying types who loses my appetite and loses weight when stressed so despite eating what I wanted - I didn't want much so I've kept my weight down to the size 10 I've always been x

Rose68 · 10/02/2019 15:52

@Buggles1 how many dpo are you? It sounds promising x

edidxb · 10/02/2019 15:56

@betty - totally unreasonable (of him, not you). My DH is watching the rubgy (as am I, although it's half time now) but he's doing it here with me. I would be really annoyed if he said he was at work and then wasn't for whatever the reason.
@buggles - same. I was just about 60kg and now I'm up to 65kg. Urgghh. But hopefully @rather is right and it will all come off eventually. It's just been a difficult year. Especially after the miscarriage in December and then I went on holiday and haven't quite got it together since. But just had a healthy dinner with loads of veg so that's something.
@frazzle - enjoy the roast chicken and apple crumble - YUM! You really have had a restrictive diet. I'm no nutrionist so I don't know about weight gain but I am sure not eating so many things has to help your fertility somehow.
@buggles - you are right - hugs to you too. But fingers crossed - it will still be exciting!

I went to the doctor today after work. She really is lovely. After my mc I told her that if I got pg again I wouldn't come and see her until 10 weeks and I turned up today at 5! Because my DH said I would be stupid to wait. We decided not to do any blood tests but just to throw all the possible drugs at me as they can't do any harm. So I have the aspirin, duphaston, cyclogest and she is also giving me clexane which is what you get if you have the blood clotting issues. I never got mine tested as I due to go this month but she said just to take it anyway.

Anyway - sorry, not sure if it's OK to write about all that but I couldn't have got through the last few months without you guys and the next few months are going to be really tough too. I'm not going to go back for another few weeks unless there is a problem though.

edidxb · 10/02/2019 15:58

@tigsy - cross posted. I am so sorry about your Mum. what a difficult time for you and not being able to share. That's so selfish. You're both so brave. Much love xxxx

tigsyboo · 10/02/2019 16:16

@edidxb I think you mean selfless 😂😂
I'm glad the dr gave you stuff, I'm contemplating taking baby aspirin just in case if I get my bfp... I've read it can't hurt but can deffo help. Xx

edidxb · 10/02/2019 16:20

@tigsy - oh goodness me, I am so so sorry. What an awful thing to get wrong. Of course I meant selfless.......if only you could delete posts I would. I know you know I didn't mean it Blush xx

ratherbeshowjumping · 10/02/2019 16:24

Hugs @tigsy that's really shit. I'm sure she will be the most fantastic nan, and that will spur her on more than ever to keep fighting.
Glad you had a lovely dinner. Mums roasts always are the best!

@BettySwoll0cks my cycles were 26 days pre MC. I've had a 28, a 26 & a 31 since though so god knows. I got a BFP last time in the afternoon after my 10th wee of the day, 12dpo, so going by that, should see a line I think if I was now 🙁 we dtd on cd10&11, & I O'd on cd14 so the chances of it catching are minimal anyway.
Ps. You're certainly not being unreasonable! I'd be fuming! It's not hard to send a text.

That sounds promising @Buggles1, keeping everything crossed. Let's hope this time is different.

Glad you've got all the drugs @edidxb, I think your dh is right on that one. Get all the help you can. How are you feeling in yourself?

Dh & I went for a lovely pub roast, we had a good chat & he's promised me that he'll try harder over FW & I'm not going to go back on the pill. With FILs diagnosis, he's keener than ever to get cracking with a family. So fx'd we'll get something soon. It's so bloody frustrating 😩

Buggles1 · 10/02/2019 16:39

Thanks everyone. I’ve not been temp charting etc but AF should be due on Thursday. I was considering testing early but think I’d rather wait.

Sorry to hear about your Mum @tigsy. I lost my Mum 12 years ago now to breast cancer that eventually spread to her liver. Those were the hardest times. You’re being amazingly strong coping with that and mcs. Sending you a big hug.

I’m currently baking ginger cakes cause you’ve all made my hungry talking about roasts!

tigsyboo · 10/02/2019 17:04

@edidxb I know it was a typo! Please don't worry!

@ratherbeshowjumping I'm glad DH is onboard properly!!

Glad everyone is enjoying their Sunday's
Just on the way to collect the kids from twat-faces house... I'm practicing my smug look.....

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BettySwoll0cks · 10/02/2019 18:06

Ah @tigsy is this the first time since the hearing? Bloody marvellous...

@Buggles1 a huge hug to you, I lost my Mum to the same (breast cancer in the liver) 12yrs ago too. Wretched. Cancer is such a cruel disease.

DH can't understand why I'm miffed that he went awol this afternoon. I can't be bothered to explain properly so I'm just sulking (tres mature). Also upset because I read something this afternoon about broken sleep affecting implantation, growth and gestation so now I'm feeling hopeless about the baby stuff again. I'm trying so much - stoping breastfeeding, giving up booze, dietary stuff, supplementing, charting, lube-ing (😉) I'm like, why can some people just do it so easily, while I'm standing on my head surrounded by sperm friendly organic scented oils drinking wheatgrass shots listening to Himalayan chanting having literally no fun and it's still not happening 😩

tigsyboo · 10/02/2019 18:42

@BettySwoll0cks @Buggles1 cancer is so so cruel!!! I have no words to describe the devastation it brings.
What we are doing is making the most of everything.
We brought our wedding forward so mum was there and dancing 5 days prior to her operation, we've been to shows, for meals... we are going to see the royal Philharmonic Orchestra play pop classics in 2 weeks... which is more than we would usually have done together in years.
When She was diagnosed everyone was sending flowers and get well soon cards... I brought her a card that said 'Fuck you cancer - you picked the wrong woman to mess with!' Which still 9 months later is up next to the tv at her house! X

Rose68 · 10/02/2019 19:08

@Tigsy yes I do remember you telling us about it before now, I’m so sorry, and I’m so sorry to everyone else who has been through it. We recently lost my FIL to cancer.

Does anyone know anything or have any strong views for against taking clomid?

Rose68 · 10/02/2019 19:08

That was meant to be ‘for or against talking clomid’

BettySwoll0cks · 10/02/2019 19:25

@tigsy my Mum and I went through a phase of going out in London sightseeing when she was first diagnosed. We went all over the place, to galleries and restaurants, on the London eye, to the aquarium. We did a wine tasting at Vinopolis (now closed down I think) on the South Bank and it was nearing closing time, the guys kept giving us more tasting tickets and we got completely sloshed! And then she came back and crashed at my flat in Lancaster Gate. It was so much fun.

Kinsters · 10/02/2019 21:36

Sorry that you're going through that with your mum Tigsy. It's really tough. We went through it with DH's mum a couple of years ago. Cancer's the worst.

I made it to France! The plane journey was terrifying and everyone was very pleased that we managed to land! We then had an equally terrifying bus journey up to the resort, at one point the bus was sliding towards a tiny little fence at the edge of a sheer drop! The driver eventually conceded that he should probably put the snow chains on!

My period is still crap and light - I just don't see how I could get pregnant with such a thin lining. Fx for those in the tww! Hopefully some more bfps coming soon!

I'm enjoying my BFN status and taking full advantage of the inclusive wine and prosecco!!

Kinsters · 10/02/2019 21:43

Oh I meant to say that's really great your Dr is so helpful edidxb - surely something amongst that lot must help you!

TwittleBee · 11/02/2019 08:38

glad you made it there in one peice Kin ! Blimey! Enjoy yourself

ratherbeshowjumping · 11/02/2019 08:40

These cancer stories are awful 😢 sending lots of love to you all.

@Kinsters oh no, what happened on the plane? The journey up the mountain sounds awful! Glad you're enjoying all the Prosecco, have a fab time xx

while I'm standing on my head surrounded by sperm friendly organic scented oils drinking wheatgrass shots listening to Himalayan chanting having literally no fun and it's still not happening 😩

^ this made me laugh out loud. No truer words have ever been spoken.

DHs top tip is " don't stress" - fucking hell thanks for that one, I've never thought of that before...

Frazzlerock · 11/02/2019 09:04

Morning everyone.

How sad to read about cancer destructing so many of your lives. @Tigsy I remember you mentioned about your mum before, you guys sound so close. It's just so shit Flowers

I don't know how, but so far my family and I have dodged the Big C, actually I'm lying, my mum had skin cancer on her nose several years back but it was removed easily. I do wonder, as it is so so common, when (not if) it will hit us and it does worry me. It's a bit like a ticking time bomb isn't it Sad
I do think after all this crap that has hit us over the past few years, that this will be the next thing that will hit us. I think I am the only person I know who hasn't lost someone close or been affected by it so I am acutely aware it will be our turn soon enough.

@rather these symptoms are so frustrating aren't they! I think preg symptoms don't tend to kick in until about 6 weeks so, personally, everything I am getting which is nothing except constipation and the usual metal mouth, I am putting down to progesterone/TWW symptoms. Our bodies are so cruel to us Sad, still I really do hope yours amounts to good things!

@Betty I have also put on weight for the same reasons. I keep berating myself for it but three losses over 3 years can put a strain on the body. I had a great figure before I fell pregnant with Emily. Then I got a bit too comfy and ate what I felt like while preg. Then it was a downward spiral from there really. I'm a pear shape so I only put on weight below my waist which (I think) looks really odd. If I was more in proportion I don't think I'd mind so much - like fatter boobs might be nice rather than thunder thighs Grin

Interesting that @edidxb and @buggles are talking in kgs, are you from Oz? I can only work in stones. I used to be a svelte 8st8, now I am 10st5 and a half! (this morning) and I'm only 5ft4. It's not overweight but I feel so gross. It's not me. I've just worked out that is 66kgs Shock
@Buggles1 I know what you mean about being stuck in limbo waiting to be pregnant. I started exercising (30 Day Shred DVD) pre ovulation but stop as soon as ovulation is confirmed to avoid hurting anything that may be growing in there (ha! as if)

@edidxb I'm glad you got a load of drugs to help. I used Cyclogest and aspirin in my last preg but it didn't work for me sadly but I guess nothing will help with chromosome issues. I will enquire about the other things though.

@tigsy how was it at collection last night?

@Betty I totally relate to feeling hopeless. I am spending all my money on so many supplements that I rattle, and gluten free stuff and sodding oat milk. I have no money left to enjoy myself whatsoever. All DP has to do is have sex with me at the right time, but he doesn't even do that.
I can't even talk to him because it will be 'pressure'. God forbid I mention the SMEP thing. He won't have the same reaction as some of your DHs as I am the one with the higher sex drive. I think he'd rather have less sex tbh. Then you look at other people and they are falling pregnant all over the place like it is the easiest thing in the world.
I overheard a guy in the phone in sainsburys telling his mate they are having a night out as his GF is expecting and so is someone else.
I wanted to scream at him "Do you really think you will get a baby at the end if it you IDIOT!" - obviously I didn't as that would be mental Grin but it made me so sad and angry. Just because someone else is pregnant - I think I am probably not very well to be honest as I've had this jealousy for so long now.

@Rose How are you doing today? Re Clomid, I though it was just for women who didn't ovulate? I know a lot of women with PCOS are prescribed it (though it is hard to get it) because they aren't having periods/ovulating. I don't know of the benefits for someone like you who does ovulate. As for risks, it can cause multiples and I understand it screws with your hormones so you may become a bitch troll from hell Wink

@Kinsters Enjoy skiiing! (and the prosecco!)

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Frazzlerock · 11/02/2019 09:08

I meant to add. I feel really sad about this stupid bit of string on my wrist.

It came from a rainbow pack DP bought me when I was expecting our little boy. It was supposed to signify our rainbow baby. The note that is came with said that when it starts to fray it means a rainbow baby is on its way.
Well it fraying and almost about to snap, and no rainbow on the horizon 😢😢😢

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ratherbeshowjumping · 11/02/2019 10:45

@Frazzle it's not a stupid bit of string, I think that's really lovely. It looks like it has another week or so left, is that not when you'll be at the end of your TWW? Bd looks good. There's no reason whatsoever why you won't get a BFP this month xxx