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The July 19ers - All aboard the rollercoaster for a 3rd lucky thread

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Frazzlerock · 31/01/2019 10:32

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The July 19ers - All aboard the rollercoaster for a 3rd lucky thread
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Frazzlerock · 05/02/2019 15:50

Hopefully the first piece of great news of many for us!

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Frazzlerock · 05/02/2019 15:55

I meant for all of us - what is wrong with my typing today! Hmm

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ratherbeshowjumping · 05/02/2019 16:02

Fab news Twittle, congrats 👏🏼⭐️

BettySwoll0cks · 05/02/2019 16:10

Negative OPK at lunchtime - so that's the LH surge complete! Fx for a temp rise tomorrow. We have DTD exactly 'right' this month, 4 days, 2 days and 1 day before Ov .... I will be so gutted if it doesn't happen this month. How can 2 little weeks feel like such an eternity away? Urgh.

Rose68 · 05/02/2019 16:11

Amazing news Twittle! Such a relief! x

ratherbeshowjumping · 05/02/2019 16:19

You've done everything you can Betty, it's completely out of your hands now says the person having a breakdown over poo on 6dpo 🙈😂
Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

edidxb · 05/02/2019 16:23

@twittlebee - YAY! I am so happy for you - how emotional! Congrats. You have given me hope.

@ratherbe - I feel fine. I'm not particularly tired, no nausea etc, no acne. Just sore boobs and have almost cried twice in the last days. Things might taste weird but I could be imagining it. But I'm only 4+1 today (I think). The cramping/spotting over the weekend has stopped.

@betty - I don't think you could have done any more - fingers crossed for you. Any news on your birthday outing?

TwittleBee · 05/02/2019 17:55

Thank you everyone. Trying hard to now stay positive! 4 weeks till the dating scan!

Betty good luck with the TWW!

Glad the cramping and spotting have stopped edidxb ! Hopefully nothing else will make you worry and all will be smooth

Really hope everyone gets BFP soon!

BettySwoll0cks · 05/02/2019 18:43

Thanks ladies. DH is very fortunate that his colleague has stepped in for him on Saturday. I am really proud of myself, I didn't get super cross I just asked him how he planned to sort it out and luckily for him there was an easy win. Can't wait for my facial and lunch! Yay 👏

InDreamland · 05/02/2019 19:10

That's great news @Twittlebee!

ratherbeshowjumping · 05/02/2019 19:43

Ah well done Betty 👏🏼 when is your actual bday? Glad you're going out.

Just went on my work Instagram & DHs ex's new DP (think I've mentioned before that we work in the same industry) has flooded it with pics of their new DS, born yesterday...

(Not pic on laptop ex/fling!)

Begrudgingly sent a congrats text then ordered myself a large pizza & wings from dominoes & let dh go to the gym by himself 👍🏼

Feeling really shit but hoping a nice treat will cheer me up 🤞🏼

Pegase · 05/02/2019 20:35

Lots to catch up on but just wanted to say - yay @TwittleBee so glad scan was good!!

InDreamland · 05/02/2019 20:55

Well this morning was mixed emotions. DHs semen analysis showed low count which he's upset about. So we're gonna get sperm DNA quality tests done too. Had bloods for AMH and should have results back by end of the week. I asked about NK cells testing but being discouraged from the tests as they said whilst they do it there is little evidence to back up effect on pregnancy, IVF and mc. I have been told to start taking Q10. I'm trying to process everything today. Feel like I've spent the past 6.5 months feeling like and believing the mc's were my fault and also the 5 years TTC before the first pregnancy were all my fault, like there must be something wrong with me. DH refused to take any responsibility, moaned about the mens pregnacare when I asked him to take them, refused to cut down on alcohol and basically said nothing wrong with him. The semen test he had a few years ago showed it was just within the normal range but on the lower end so I wanted to do everything to maximise our chances but he was adamant it meant he was fine and didn't need to do anything which has made me feel like the past (almost) 6 years and the 2 mc's have been all my fault and that he also was secretly blaming my body. That's why I went into the consultation today basically adamant I wanted NK cells testing but consultant said it is so rare, plus there's little evidence to support claims of testing for it and then treatment if found that I was being talked out of it. I need to try and process all this in my head. Sorry if I'm rambling. I just don't know what to think or feel anymore. Was also told that given how long we've been infertile (despite the 2 mc's last year - it's still infertility because there's been no live birth apparently) that IVF is really the only think that would be suggested.

tigsyboo · 05/02/2019 21:57

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tigsyboo · 05/02/2019 21:59

Oh my god ladies.... WE FUCKING WON!!
Dad has full custody of the kids and mum has contact 3 x per week!!
She got SLATED in the court by the judges and we got told we had provided a safe and stable home for the boys and were a credit

InDreamland · 05/02/2019 22:29

@tigsy that's brilliant news! Congratulations!

Kinsters · 05/02/2019 22:31

Tigsy that's wonderful news!! Massive congratulations to you and DH!!

And Twittle I'm so so happy that your scan went well and everything looks great!

Betty fx for ovulation tonight. That dtd timing sounds pretty perfect. That's great that DH managed to fix his screw up.

rather not surprised you're feeling shit about that, hope your pizza was nice.

InDreamland that's really tough news to hear. I guess it will take some time for your DH to process the news. Hopefully now he'll start taking more responsibility rather than sticking his head in the sand. There are loads of things he could do to improve sperm count though I'm not sure about dna fragmentation if the test shows that - when will you be able to get it done?

AFM my temp is still up today at 12dpo and FF is now saying I can take a test so the answer should be definitive. I took one last night though and it was negative so I don't hold out much hope for this morning. I think I must have ovulated later than the app says - but then why do I feel so sick? It's just like when I was pregnant, feeling sick which is relieved for a bit by burping (sorry tmi!). I've had slight nausea in the tww before but nothing like this.

Rose68 · 05/02/2019 22:36

@Tigsy that’s amazing news! You will give those boys a wonderful home. I am so glad the judge didn’t go for a 50/50 split.

@Indreamland, I’m so sorry. Why do all men have this attitude, or am I generalising massively here. I’m surprised what they said about ivf seeing as you have conceived twice in the last year, that doesn’t seem infertile to me. x

BettySwoll0cks · 05/02/2019 22:36

@InDreamland I really feel for you trying to make sense of all this, especially after the years of blaming yourself for the anguish of your infertility as a couple. This is going to be super tough on your relationship, I know how mad I am with my DH for missing 2 sample appointments and not taking his supplements and I would be in pieces if I were in your shoes. On that though, did the specialist suggest that you might have a better chance at a successful pregnancy if he could improve his sperm count/ quality? You mention ivf but I wasn't clear on whether maybe this could be something he could positively work on?

Also, I really hope that this will help you to let go of a bit of the self-blame. Infertility is rarely anyone's 'fault' but as you say there is a large dose of blame that goes along with repeated failure. This is not your fault.

BettySwoll0cks · 05/02/2019 22:37

Brilliant @tigsy!! Congratulations. That's really something to celebrate!!

Kinsters · 05/02/2019 22:59

As expected test was massively negative this morning. I used an ic and another cheap strip test I got yesterday. Not going to bother wasting the digital. I'm going to try and stop testing for a couple of days now. I'm sure AF will come along soon.

Kinsters · 05/02/2019 23:13

Reading around I'm wondering whether the pregnacare has lengthened my luteal phase. That probably wouldn't be a bad thing as it is usually 10 days which seems a bit short. I also usually have some luteal phase spotting at the end which I'm pleased not to have this time.

Kinsters · 06/02/2019 02:55

Sorry for the multiple posts! I just can't get over how flat my chart is... I usually have peaks and troughs all over the place. The only previous one it looks like is my pregnancy chart. I just want my period or a positive test to get me out of this limbo! Though whilst AF remains away I can still have some hope which is nice.

Just about to get into the car for the three hour journey home. Maybe if I don't put a pad in then my period will start! Though when I felt my cervix earlier it was quite high and there was no blood up there so it surely wouldn't start so quickly.

The July 19ers - All aboard the rollercoaster for a 3rd lucky thread
TwittleBee · 06/02/2019 05:57

Oh YES! I am so relieved for you and the kids tigsy ! Hope she doesn't cause too much hassle now it's been ruled.

Kin firstly, the ICs have never picked up a BFP for me till like 20dpo and even then they were faint. Really hope this ends in a BFP on a digi for you. Good luck with your long drive home! Bloomin hope AF doesn't show up on, although she does like rearing at particularly awkward times.

TwittleBee · 06/02/2019 06:27

You seen on the news about that couple that have been detained for swinging their 4 month old baby around by its legs as a Street Performance? Bloody sickening! Surely babies joints are delicate at this stage as their growing so rapidly?