The July 19ers - STILL never beaten, and rocking our FJs for a lucky thread

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Here it is! Our lucky one 🤞

@Pegase interesting, thank you. I will definitely have a look and consider switching too.

Frazzle yeah the spotting is annyoing. Haven't had so many days since I first got my coil out and my lining was all messed up. Hoping it doesn't take so long to get back to normal after erpc. Also hoping my lining hasn't been damaged by the surgery. Argh, I don't think I've ever wanted my period so badly!

My DH fixed my crosstrainer machine today so now I've no excuse not to exercise. Well he almost fixed it, it's currently in pieces on the floor.

Rose some people love the moon cup, my sister loves hers. I should try mine again but the thought makes me feel ill!

@Frazzle, I know, it’s shit isn’t it. It seems everything is bad for egg quality. I am really struggling not to eat chocolate, and we still have half a Christmas cake left. I am really trying, but each day so far I have had a little nibble on some chocolate and / or some cake 😩

@Rose I just eat super dark choc now. It covers my craving and makes me realise how sickly sweet other choc is. I try just to have a couple of squares a night. It's the only sugar I really have. I think dark choc is actually supposed to be good for everything so surely that means eggs too (hopefully!)

I just ate Christmas cake 😩

I think everything seems to be bad for egg quality in some way or another.... obviously caffeine, alcohol, you need to steer clear from... Frazzle you've said before that cutting out gluten and sugar helped you conceive.. but I'm a great believer in happiness. And if a few squares of chocolate or a spoonful of sugar in your one tea a day is going to make you happy and make these awful months more bearable, then go for it. I do believe the benefits of happiness and a good mindset outweigh food groups that may or may not influence egg quality.

@ratherbe I agree! For me it is also about PCOS though sadly and I know that sugar, dairy, and wheat gluten are the worst for that. My cycles are far better when I cut that stuff out, especially sugar and dairy. And I can live with it knowing it isn't forever, unless making a baby takes forever of course!
I think if it were just for egg quality I wouldn't be quite so militant. Plus I'm not bothered that much. I'm not a huge foody person. I mean I love food but happy to eat boring stuff so long as I get a healthy baby at the end of it. Now and again I will treat myself if alternatives are awful.

I also find that if I start eating things with sugar in I end up craving it all day. I find it's best to avoid it if possible!

I think I need to try and be more militant in what I eat. I am usually pretty healthy but since my first miscarriage in March last year I have slowly put on lots of weight in comfort eating.
I need to get a grip and was doing pretty well until this crazy week of work has started and I am eating badly and drinking alcohol. I need to really get a grip.
I am taking supplements to try and improve egg equality though and also eating spinach, pumpkin seeds etc to be good. I am jst eating cake, crisps, pizza and wine as well........

Anyway, in other news, and this is actually really really sad. I've just had a whatsapp message from my work chat to say that a lady at work's husband has just died tonight. She is 8 months pregnant and is due to give birth in the next week or two...........he went in for heart surgery and it went wrong, ended up in ICU today and died tonight. I just feel so sad for her. Especially in Dubai where you are far from home. She isn't British but most of her family are in a different country. Truly awful for her. And now she will have to give birth and grieve all at the same time.

Sorry to share the news, and I know you don't know her but just had to share.

@edidxb just awful 😢

Oh gosh @edidxb that's completely tragic 😔

Oh @edidxb that's devastating. I hope she gets the support she needs. Is there much in the way of that in Dubai?
I was genuinely going to post about how my DH has pissed me off today but stories like that make you realise just how precious life is and to be grateful for everyday. I've just text him to tell him I love him instead

It's just awful. The healthcare here is pretty good as a whole but things can happen at any time.
I am sure more details will come out tomorrow. Sorry to bring the mood down but I love how you decided to text your husband @ratherbe to say you love him. I am home alone tonight and will do the same!

Stories like this terrify me.
My dad was passed away very suddenly, he had a nap on a hot sunny day, had a heart attack in his sleep & never woke up, aged 52. In my teen angst, the last time we spoke I slammed the phone down on him. Anything like this really scares me. You just never know what's around the corner.

Feeling very jealous of your evening alone @edidxb - I always let the dogs on the sofa, order in Thai & spend the evening reading my book completely uninterrupted when Dh goes out/away. Absolute bliss 😍

@edidxb that’s horrid, the poor poor lady.

And @ratherbe, to lose your Dad at age 52, that is so awful. It’s wrong that people can die so young.

It does really make make you think doesn’t it.

xx

Oh that's so heart breaking edidxb reminds me about my family friend, something similar. She was pregnant and her DP passed away in his sleep unexpectedly (only in their 20s). She named their daughter after him

Oh my what a sad sad thing!!
Makes me so sad

Had a bloody awful night with social workers coming to see the kids before the final court hearing... even though it’s not me that caused this it’s their crazy mother I hate having bloody social workers in my house!! Makes me so angry she brought this on us!!!!

Hope you are all ok ladies
Much love!!

Oh is anyone using pregnacare conception.... have around 45 tabs I’m not going to use I’m happy to post to any of you save them going in the bin??

Hi ladies. Not been on MN for around 10 days as AF arriving hit me hard with it being our last chance now lost to be pregnant by the time due date of first baby confess around. Dreading Friday next week. Finally took the plunge and contacted a private clinic for testing as after second loss in November I really need answers now. Does anyone know how long it takes for NHS to provide copies of all test results I have had related to fertility? Do I ask my GP for them even when the tests were ordered through gynae clinic? The private clinic say to bring to initial consultation.

I'm going to try and catch up on here.

Hope everyone is well and riding this crazy journey better than I am x

Welcome back @InDreamland

Sorry I don't know much about fertility testing but I'm sure someone more knowledgeable will have the answer.

Am getting v annoyed with DH- as I suspected would happen, he is over all the extra DTD and now can't be bothered/is too tired. But I don't know if I have ov'ed yet or not so could end up rendering this cycle completely wasted if I can't convince him to get on with it soon !'

edidxb that's such an awful thing to happen. Can she even fly back home or is she too far along? Hopefully she has some support around her.

Tigsy that's a kind offer, I take pregnacare conception but live in Malaysia so the postage would be uneconomical! Sorry about the social workers, that must be hard.

InDreamland I have no idea re the NHS timescales. Sorry you've been feeling down, I think the significant dates must be so much harder. We were going to announce our pregnancy at Chinese New year so I'm not looking forward to that.

Pegase Would he just do a quick baby making shag?

Argh- peak this morning! Knew we should have DTD last night. So tempting to not go to work and have important baby-making shag!

Don't worry Pegase you have between another 12 and 48 hours before you ovulate anyway, DTD tonight?

@edidxb that’s such a sad and awful story! I hope she has lots of lovely friends to help her during this horrendous time. The poor thing can’t even imagine how you would cope with that.

@ratherbe 52 is no age! So sorry and so sad.

I found out yesterday that one of my friends at work her husband had a stroke at the weekend and apparently his speech is badly effected. He’s only 53 and he’s really healthy in himself. I could cry for her because it’s their first grandchild first birthday next week and this will put a right dampener on it. It does just go to show you that you can’t take anything for granted.

@tigsyboo what a rubbish situation. Considering your job, I'm sure they're equally embarrassed to be visiting you. Sounds like it should be resolved soon?

@InDreamland welcome back. I have no knowledge or experience with fertility testing I'm afraid. I'm sorry that you haven't conceived by your dd yet - that's one of my biggest fears - sending lots of love xx

@Pegase you still have time tonight!!!! 😬

I did another test this morning & I'm pretty sure the one I did yesterday was an evap line or a faulty test as this one is a very clear BFN. I'm 9dpo so should get something on a FRER shouldn't I, if I was pg? 😫

ratherbe I think a FRER is considered definitive at 12dpo by most of the TTC communities I've seen so you still have a few days. For what it's worth I've found ics to be insanely sensitive and got really early positives (though one was a chemical). If you've had more than one line on an ic I'd be inclined to think its a positive but wouldn't rule out the possibility of a chemical.

Really hoping its a positive for you.

Rather that bloomin sucks. You might not have implanted yet though. Most implantation happens at 9dpo! Although I got a BFP at 9dpo recently, my previous BFP wasn't until 12dpo!