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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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PaintingOwls · 11/12/2018 19:51

Our new year's resolution is to get a BFP!

I fell off the December bus today after a 34 day cycle. AF turned up this afternoon. I will be ovulating on Christmas Day by the looks of things! Hoping this means I can enjoy mulled wine etc this Christmas.

So here we go again.

Age: 26
TTC: #1
CD: #1
Cycle: 5

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boodles101 · 26/12/2018 20:27

What app do you use wildflower? I'm using Ovia but I like the sound of the chances in %

SadieSue29 · 26/12/2018 20:38

Thanks for the advice! I didn't realise the chances were as low as that!

WildFlower2018 · 26/12/2018 21:14

Its Glow! It also photographs OPKs and lets you record the results. Free too 😁

WildFlower2018 · 26/12/2018 21:19

Thought I'd add a few screenshots, cus I do really like the app.

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SadieSue29 · 26/12/2018 21:21

Wildflower will have a look at glow.

I got a new Fitbit for Christmas which tracks cycles and gives you an ovulation date. I only stopped the pill in early November so not sure if my cycle would be regular yet but by ovulating today it seems like I am on a 28 day cycle.

Will do another ovulation test tomorrow.

thosethreewords · 26/12/2018 22:34

@WildFlower2018 sounds positive!!! Which tests will you be using? I don't know whether to order some from amazon for next week...

@SadieSue29 I use the Fitbit app too but I would recommend using another one as it's not very comprehensive. (If you are into that sort of thing!)

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PaintingOwls · 26/12/2018 22:36

@veeboo Oooh I think ovulation happens after the surge - so hormones go nuts then the egg is released. FX for you, at least you're in with a chance!!

I am not naturally optimistic and I had a really rubbish Christmas - I was ill , the food was undercooked, the tree never went up - so I kind of stupidly pinned my hopes on a Christmas miracle baby. Then of course I missed my FW and that's just the devastating cherry on an already shitty month.

DP only has one working testicle so we are already at a huge disadvantage, although he did get a girlfriend pregnant a lifetime ago. I am on cycle 5 and there have been FOUR pregnancy announcements in my life in that time!! Each one feels like a blow, I never expected to feel this dreadful and cry like a jealous psychopath. My SIL is talking about coming off BC in January and trying for yet another baby and asking when I'm going to get a move on. I don't want to tell her what's going on because she's one of those people who blinks and they're pregnant. I just can't deal with being told "oh it'll happen, just relax" etc by anyone at this stage, let alone her.

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PaintingOwls · 26/12/2018 22:39

WOW sorry for that huge diary entry, everyone. I am sitting alone in my living room, feeling sorry for myself. DP is asleep.

@wildflower that definitely sounds like you're in with a chance! FX for you lovely, I hope you had a nice Christmas as well.

Glow looks good, I may add it to my repertoire of cycle tracking apps...

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MummyBearBoo · 26/12/2018 22:52

Can I join? Got a positive OPK on 19th (2 days short of being a week late)! We DTD that evening and the evening after but then we were too busy with Xmas. I feel quite positive but my AF is due 2nd Jan and am trying my hardest not to test before then! TTC#2 I've read a lot about implantation bleeding but with both my pregnancies (one ended at 12 weeks due to TFMR) i never experienced it - has anyone got any more info about it? Wishing us all the best of luck for the new year!!

MummyBearBoo · 26/12/2018 23:11

I am now literally the only person out of all my friends and family to be struggling to have a second baby- I got pregnant again before most of them but ended in TFMR - I've now found out that my only childless friends are having twins so they too will have two children!
I feel so ungrateful coz I know for various reasons I'm so lucky to have my DD but I would really like her to have a sibling!
I'm really not ungrateful it's just so hard when other people seem to get pregnant so easily and it might take us loads more attempts as we only have a 50/50 chance of having a healthy baby and we can't afford PGD!

thosethreewords · 26/12/2018 23:15

@PaintingOwls that is a totally shitty month. You have every right to feel the way you do right now. I'm sorry about your DH and him only having one functioning testicle - the thought that that could affect everything must be a worry.
As for your insensitive SIL, no advice just sympathy really. I haven't had any of these comments yet although will probably have some when I see my DH's family this weekend. I might practise a stock answer of "not sure yet, but this is just a mince pie tummy" or something of that degree. I could say something much more horrible but I have a hopeless case of conflict aversion!
Huge hugs to you. You can chat to us anytime xxx

thosethreewords · 26/12/2018 23:20

@MummyBearBoo welcome to the club! If it's any consolation, just taking a look at these boards, you will see that a lot of people don't just get pregnant like that, and many struggle through months and years to get their baby, if at all. This isn't to say "you should just be grateful for what you have" at all!
More just empathy, and knowing that others are struggling can make you feel less lonely sometimes.
(By the way I'm cycle 1 TTC#1 so I'm drawing off other circumstances in my life where I've felt like I was the only one struggling)

MummyBearBoo · 26/12/2018 23:36

I know I've been reading the boards and I've been off contraception for 7 months now starting to lose hope a little bit I don't have time, genetics, or a regular cycle on my side either (I also have PVOS) and today I just had a really bad day as my DD was rushed to hospital in an ambulance she's back home now think - so I was just struggling a bit thanks for responding!

Best wishes to everyone! Just remember the maternity wards are always busiest in September coz a lot of people conceive Dec/Jan

MummyBearBoo · 26/12/2018 23:51

Meant have PCOS not PVOS and that she is back home 'thankfully' not 'think'!

Kay2705 · 27/12/2018 01:09

Can I join? !

Age : 27
TTC #
CD 9
Cycle 2 post miscarriage (took 9 cycle before Mc)

ohio91 · 27/12/2018 01:09

Hey everyone! Hope you all had a lovely Christmas. Woke up to a real kick in the teeth - brother had text to announce that they are pregnant. 10 weeks along and only got married 8 weeks ago so clearly conceived around the wedding! I know I should be super excited for them but can't help feeling a little bummed by it all because I had really been hoping we would be having the first grandchild and announcing on Christmas day! It's our 2 year wedding anniversary on Friday and my fertile window is opening up as of tomorrow so we're getting on the DTD train, I've bought preseed and multivitamins lol. Giving this the best shot possible! I didn't expect to be so upset by my brothers announcement. Just feeling real broody! it would be lovely if we could also feel the excitement and joy that they're currently experiencing! My poor parents if we do succeed in conceiving! Two first grand babies in one year haha that's going to be a little overwhelming

veeboo · 27/12/2018 06:20

@Paintingowls I'm sorry to hear you are so stressed but reading your post it's understandable. TTC is a whole new world of anxiety! Have you been to your gp? DP and I went as I was convinced he would have an issue but they gave him an all clear and it made me realise I was working myself up a bit. We are going back in the new year as I've been having long cycles and not sure I'm actually ovulating when I get a positive opk. Sending you hug Flowers

boodles101 · 27/12/2018 07:03

Thanks wildflower I've downloaded Glow and will try that one.
sadie I'd recommend getting a fertility app, I have used fitbit one too as it's not really geared to ttc. That's it you want to symptom track obviously.
paintingowls sorry you've had such a shitty month. The pregnancy announcements are hard to deal with. Although we've only just started ttc #2 I've been ready since Jan but my DH wasn't as didn't agree to it. I've had to wait all year until he was ready - not knowing if he would ever be ready. The longer i waited the broodier I got and pregnancy announcements started to get me down as I thought I'd just never get the chance to try for another. Thankfully he is now ready.
Welcome to the newbies!

MummyBearBoo · 27/12/2018 08:04

I downloaded glow yesterday unlike it I think it's better than FF!

thosethreewords · 27/12/2018 09:29

@MummyBearBoo hope your DD is better now, what a horrible way to spend Boxing Day.
@ohio91 yes I can see how that would be annoying! FX you can both go through this together and you get your BFP soon!
@Kay2705 welcome! Sorry for your MC; hope you get a lovely BFP soon x

MummyBearBoo · 27/12/2018 10:03

Thanks @thosethreewords - She seems ok she just went really white and floppy and was in and out of consciousness, she stopped responding and her lips went blue - luckily she was a bit better when the ambulance got there but they" hospital did loads of tests but dunno what caused it and said it could happen again!
Fingers crossed for those still that Christmas magic helps!!

WildFlower2018 · 27/12/2018 11:35

@thosethreewords I have a bunch of internet cheapies that measure at 10miu/ml.

FRERs are the most sensitive at 6miu/ml I think.

But then, I got a few funny results with FRERs last month so I'm unsure whether to get any more. I probably will though. I ended up buying 6 last month after getting verrrry faint lines on 2 or 3 of them depending on the angle, how close you held them up to the light etc. Obviously they were indents or I had a very slight CP as AF came days later. if I'd had just waited I could have saved £20! (I wouldn't normally buy that many but I ordered some extras on Amazon Prime a after the first faint line!)

So, I'm not sure now....

On the other hand, i am a terrible human being with no self control so I want to test on New Year's Eve even though I'll only be around 6-7 dpo. So I'd need FRERs for that I guess? But my period wouldn't be due for 8-9 days after that so they probably wouldn't even work that early anyway. A waste of money then! But ... it's New Year's Eve! NYE baby! I'm insane. Maybe I'll hold off. Maybe not 🤔 Can somebody change the password to my amazon account until at least the 3rd jan for me?? 😁😁😁

@PaintingOwls sounds like you had a really crap Christmas, I'm sorry Thanks. Do you think there's even a sight chance you managed to get one within "your window"? x x x our Christmas was ok thank you. Very quiet, just us here. In years past it's been very chaotic and stressful, so this has been a pleasant change.

Welcome @MummyBearBoo sorry to read about your TFMR. I sadly had one after my 12w scan too, just a few months ago. I had implantation bleeding with that baby. It was just a few tiny brown spots when I wiped after going to the loo. I don't think everybody gets it. and I just read about your DD 😱 omg so scary, I am glad she's on now x x

@ohio91 arghhh I can really sympathise with you! Last year, my younger brother announced his engagement days after mine, then their baby a few weeks after that. I was a little upset at first, I will admit. Then, we got married a week or so after Prince Harry and Meghan but they announced their baby news just after I went through my TFMR which hurt more than anything, especially as I keep seeing how big her bump is all the time! So it's like a constant reminder of what I lost.

Oh and I have the most sneakiest sneaking suspicion that my SIL is either pg again or they want to try again soon. Just intuition from something my DB said ... I might be totally on the wrong track but if they were and announced it at the same time as us again, or I STILL wasn't pg and they had their 2nd on the way, I think I'd be a little miffed for about all of 5 minutes 😂

Welcome to all the other newcomers too x

WildFlower2018 · 27/12/2018 11:37

Glad she's "OK NOW" (not on now) x x x

MummyBearBoo · 27/12/2018 12:03

@WildFlower2018 - Thanks- sorry to hear about your TFMR too - mine was October 2017 my SIL got pg same time and was due a day after me but her baby was fine (which I am happy about) it just makes it a bit harder - I think June was the hardest when it was my due date but it does get easier and time does help heal do you have good support around you? Xx

boodles101 · 27/12/2018 12:39

wildflower I will definitely end up caving and ordering some ICs, although NYD is a bit early for me to be testing. Last time I bought Opks they came with about 5 hpts too but the ones I bought this time didn't. I'm feeling a few niggles today but think it's far too early for anything to be implanting yet, maybe it's just all the Xmas food and sex!