University and TTC

[pinkflower22]

Hi guys. I guess I need some advice please.

I'm finishing of my last year of university and I would really like to have a child with my partner.

A part of me keeps hesitating and thinking maybe I should do my teacher training year but then I keep going back to thinking no I definitely want my own baby as a year seems so long to wait and then start trying.

I will go back to work once the child is old enough after a couple of years or even do my teacher training year then.

I will make do on any help government provides for the next few years plus my partners income.

I'm not sure what to do. My in-laws would have a heart attack and say your both two young and we both are not financially stable enough, but I think that will be able to bring up children in a cost effective way, by not buying the most priciest things.

Good decision OP; good luck with it all.

I’m sure you will anyway but when you finish your application make sure you proofread closely for spelling/grammar - there are some dodgy bits of both in your posts which is fine for quick forum messages but will let you down in an application (not trying to be a nob, but as an art teacher lots of us are dyslexic and so need to be conscious of extra checking!)

I hope I don't sound patronising because on this (very sensitive) board of TTC, we are all in the same position. However, I have to say that at 21 you sound very young, immature, innocent and like you have no idea about the real world. You say you want a child because you are lonely? Actually? Have you any idea how that sounds? You need to build a solid relationship with your boyfriend and if this is as solid as you say, then you should not be lonely. Assuming he is around the same age as you, will he be working his nuts off, working every hour God sends to keep you at home with a baby? And not buying expensive things? Have you made a list of things and how much they actally cost?
As a side note, please, please, if you are going on to train as a teacher, sort out the grammar and spelling! I am in that profession and application forms with such errors are not looked on kindly. I wish you all the best with whatever decision you make.

@Verbena87 thanks very much. I'll double check for my application. I hope I get in!

@Presh12345
We actually do spend a lot of time together, but in the daytime I get bored studying with a lack of human interaction and no one to see

@Presh12345 yes we did make a list and we can afford it on his wage.

The only reason I've changed my mind is because of later down the line. I don't know if I will end up doing teacher training in five years time so I think it's best to do it now

Work in the library? Kids on my course used to book one of those study rooms and work together. It caused us to become friends...

You have a whole university full of peers, it really isn't going to get better than that in terms of opportunities. Are you not socialising with your peers at all?
Maybe because you go home to a partner you have been missing out on that part of uni life? Its so huge, and I can't believe you are not Bart of it in some way?
Do you belong to societies? If you don't you really need to develop some of your own interests through them.
There are so so many activities clubs and societies to get involved in at uni. You are young, go out there and live!