The Struggle Club

[LochNessMumster87]

Hello beautiful ladies. First of all, I have pcos....i was told I would have alot of trouble ttc... And boy were they right. Every month of a bfn rips another little piece of my heart out 😞 im desperate for another baby, and I constantly think about being pregnant and how exciting it will be and having a little baby in our lives. So I thought I would make a thread for all of us out there who feel this way and are struggling and just need some support and some friends. Let's support each other, because it's always nice to have other people in the same boat to talk to. So come join, and go on our difficult journeys together and hopefully this thread is going to be filled with the sweet sights of BIG FAT POSITIVES before too long 🤗😊♥️👶🎉

@LochNessMumster87 I think 8DPO is a pretty common time for implantation so hopefully that!

@TheStruggleisReal2705 hello! I also have PCOS, it's frustrating and can make things more difficult. I've had two children though so definitely possible. I hope the 2WW passed quickly for you!

No temp rise this morning, it actually dropped a little so looks like my body's attempt to ovulate wasn't successful. I'm gutted.

Sorry to hear that @NoseringGirl, but don't get too downbeat yet, it may still happen in the comimg days xx

Welcome @TheStruggleisReal2705, when are you due? I hope you don't have too much longer to wait. Hormones in the tww always get me! Xx

@londonkez not due until next Wednesday. So we will see what happens.

Evening ladies 😊 since the spotting last night I've had nothing. Praying it's a good sign. Very crampy and my backs sore today though..... Starting to think af might be round the corner. Hopefully not though 🤞x

@TheStruggleisReal2705 pcos does suck....i agree. Being more emotional than usual is a good sign... Fingers crossed for you 😊 x

@NoseringGirl I'm really hoping it was implantation, trying not to get my hopes up but arrrgh I can't help it 😂 stay away af!

@LochNessMumster87
I'm in the exact same boat as you!! No spotting since the other day, but I'm getting little niggles that could be either AF or pregnancy symptoms! Cd 29... I shall know by the weekend, one way or the other! ❤️❤️

Ooh can I join please? Been trying for a few years, wasn’t ovulating for the first couple, turned out to be hypothalamic amennorhea (I still can’t spell that - it meant no periods anyway!). Gave up exercising and put on 15kgs :| but my cycles did come back.

Have been trying a year and a half since getting my cycles back, one MMC at 10 weeks in July.

All my sympathies for anyone posting on this thread. TTC has properly wrecked my physical and mental health. I’m sure it’ll be worth it but it’s hard to stay positive sometimes.

FX for lots of Christmas BFPs.

@Clouddreamer Im feeling a weird pain right in my uterus area, it's not a crampy pain, just a dull throbbing kind of pain, just for the past hour or so. I'm 50/50 at this point. Doesn't feel like af but could be lol I'm going to test in a couple of days 🤞🤞 hope we both get our bfps 😊😊😊

@ronniemipperton of course you can join our little group ☺️ I agree, it absolutely drains you, it consumes you.... And anyone who says stop thinking about it and stop worrying and just relax and let it happen has no idea how hard that actually is to do. In theory yeh.... Great.... When you stop "trying it will happen" but how can you stop trying when you want it so badly. You can't just wake up one morning and think naaah I don't want a baby anymore, I completely give up. I don't care anymore. Practically impossible to do that 😔 the only thing that keeps us all going is the thought of finally getting that bfp and being so happy and excited to be holding a little baby at the end of it. Which is why I started this thread because I don't think people realise how it really affects you.... And to have support and comfort in people who are going through the same thing can be a wonderful thing. Welcome 😊 and I hope all our other little groupies are feeling good today. Thinking of you all 🤗😘 x

Lovely message, thanks @LochNessMumster87. Drains and consumes is absolutely right, but also definitely true that it’s easier when you don’t feel like you’re going through it alone, so thanks for starting the thread 🙂

Keeping my fingers crossed for you 🤞

@LochNessMumster87 And @clouddreamer without meaning to add to your hopes. I had spotting around the same time with DS2 then some awful cramping. I was convinced AF was about to arrive but it never showed!

@ronniemipperton I'm sorry for your loss, sounds like it's been a rough journey for you. I hope you get that BFP soon!

I've been getting some cramping today. I'm wondering if the increasing LH and EWCM that didn't result in ovulation have left me with a cyst and that's causing it? I analyse way too much. The thing I find hardest about this whole thing is not knowing what's going on inside my own body. I have all these tools to try and work it out but after years of OPKs, charting and all sorts of wacky tracking stuff I'm still clueless half the time.

@ronniemipperton thank you so much, all of us deserve our bfps and I truly hope this thread is bursting with them before too long 😊 x

Can I join? Don’t think I’ll even bother test over Xmas, the disappointment is just too crushing

@NoseringGirl I didn't notice your post last night sorry. I know how you feel. Overthinking everything... But I'm sure it's nothing what you think.

@TheGirlWhoLived of course you can 😊 you sound a bit fed up 😞 we can all relate. Big hugs.

I too.... Am very... Very... Disappointed. Af started last night before bed. Seen the blood and I could of cried. I phoned my gyno this morning though and she said I can start my clomid on day 3. We tried clomid for 3 months and then we had a break but she said if I feel ready then take it. So December.... Its our month... Right 😞 I hope 😭 I'm prepared. I've got my opks, my thermometer and I've written myself a little chart to write everything down. Come on December 🙁 be good to me! How's everyone else feeling? X

Sorry AF got you @LochNessMumster87 all the best for the clomid! My DS1 is a clomid baby. Will forever be grateful for that medication.

Hello @TheGirlWhoLived I can understand that!

More temp drops for me this morning. Still cramping as well. Only CD18 but have no hope for this cycle. Blah.

@NoseringGirl I really hope it works for me, I just find it so frustrating how simple ttc in theory is. Egg comes out, sperm meets egg, boom pregnant..... And yet for some of us it's literally the most difficult thing in the world 🙁 why does it have to be so hard! Women who get pregnant first try don't know how lucky they are. My whole family know we're trying for a baby and my dad yesterday.... without thinking or even realising how hurtful it was said "I don't know how it's so difficult for you, when me and your mum wanted kids she just came off the pill all 3 times and just got pregnant" well whoopty friggin doo for you and mum! How amazing it must of been to just say let's have a baby 3 times and have me and my brother and sister so easily but it's not that way for me 😞 I know he didn't mean to upset me, I think in his own "man not thinking" way just meant its a shame how you can be going through this when your mum didnt, and god I wish I was like her, and like my sister who has 4 but I'm not 😔 really feeling down today, a mixture of pms and disappointment I think. Very upset 😥 x

Hi ladies, sorry to hear what your all going through been over a year now for me there's a lovely thread full of supportive people called the yamfam on here might be worth a look. It's been going a while now and the ladies have a wealth of ttc backgrounds. Anyway I might catch up and stick around here too. Af expected tomorow 😒 x

@LochNessMumster87 I know exactly what you mean. I think people who've managed to get pregnant easily just don't get it. Sorry you're having such a rough day. I hope it gets better. Be kind to yourself ❤️

@ImpatientMammy I've stalked the yammers threads before. There's no way to put that without it sounding creepy 🤣 it reminds me of the threads I was on last time around. I've been tempted to join you all but didn't want to impose myself especially as I've been lucky enough to have two children despite my body not being very fertile!

Just caught up. Sorry for everyone who got AF. She's a witch.

I've had a meltdown at work this morning. Got pulled aside by my manager as people have noticed my fuse has been alot shorter recently and I broke. Flood gates open, all my stress of TTC spilled out! Half of me feels better, but I'm a compartmentalizer, so having that kind of TTC emotional outburst at work has messed me up a little! I only usually get that upset about it at home. Anyway, I'm in my fertile window so I'm desperately trying to find some sort of Zen so my crazy stress doesn't worry my little egg and it shows up on time!!

@NoseringGirl I have a little boy which I said when I joined I think a few of us do but current children aren't mentioned to often some people have been trying for there first for a very long time others like myself had a very lucky 'surprise' 1st then totally unexplainable crazy ttc journey for subsequent children. Please join away they're a lovely group. Either way I hope you get your BFP soon xx

I hope your ok @Mseddy hopefully you just needed to let it all out. X

@ZaraUhr maybe in the future you could be a little more sensitive about where you advertise

It says @ZaraUhr message was deleted. What did they say?

@Mseddy I've done that before, completely broke down in an important meeting and had to explain our situation to two senior managers  it can be helpful to have people at work who know about it though. It's a very stressful thing to go through and it can feel so lonely.

@ImpatientMammy I'll have to drop in and say hello

I didn't see the deleted message but I'm guessing it was maybe a psychic reading one? There's a few of those that pop up on the TTC threads

It was just a making money online type one. Mumsnet where very quick in removing it x

@LochNessMumster87
Sorry to hear about AF arriving 😥 but I guess it means you get to give clomid a chance 🤞🤞 I'm just waiting... she'll probably arrive on Saturday... just in time for the weekend!!

I work in the NHS and it so frustrating seeing colleagues getting preggers, going on maty leave, coming back from maty leave and then getting pregnant AGAIN and going on maty leave AGAIN!!! And I can't even get preggers with one.... 😭😭😭😭

@Clouddreamer thank you 😞 I start clomid tomorrow so I suppose I just need to wait and see what happens. I know how you feel, it's heartbreaking when it happens for everyone else, congratulating and putting on a brave face but inside your hurting so much. But it will happen, it will and you know what... Just imagine how much that little baby will be loved because youve wanted it for so long. My husband keeps saying the longer it takes the more special it will be when it happens because you'll know how difficult it's been to get there. And when I get my little baba... I'm not going to want to ever let go of it lol can I hold it... Nope... Mine 😂 big hugs cloud, it will happen for us 😘 x