The Struggle Club

[LochNessMumster87]

Hello beautiful ladies. First of all, I have pcos....i was told I would have alot of trouble ttc... And boy were they right. Every month of a bfn rips another little piece of my heart out 😞 im desperate for another baby, and I constantly think about being pregnant and how exciting it will be and having a little baby in our lives. So I thought I would make a thread for all of us out there who feel this way and are struggling and just need some support and some friends. Let's support each other, because it's always nice to have other people in the same boat to talk to. So come join, and go on our difficult journeys together and hopefully this thread is going to be filled with the sweet sights of BIG FAT POSITIVES before too long 🤗😊♥️👶🎉

NoseringGirl you could have peaked in between testing. Not everyone has a long surge. It's absolutely possible to get a negative and another negative and actually have peaked in between. My sister used opks every morning and for a whole month had negatives but ovulation was confirmed by bloods. So she just completely missed it. They aren't the most reliable way to detect ovulation. Temping is better x

I definitely agree LochNess I've rarely had a completely positive OPK but I have had temp rises after nearly positive ones. Hoping that's what is happening this time and I'll see a temp rise tomorrow. It's not unusual for me to get little LH surges and then not ovulate though so it's a waiting game.

Oooooh I hope so 🤗 I'm so desperate to test but my positive opk was only 7 days ago so I would definitely have a bfn and kick myself for doing it lol x

Step away from the pee sticks 🤣 I'm terrible for testing early though, it's too tempting!

I'm trying so hard. I've got a whole bag of ic tests and it's such an effort to resist the temptation 😂 x

@Mseddy welcome! And like the other lovelies have said, it doesn't matter how long you've been TTC it's still really difficult when you want something so bad! ❤️❤️

@NoseringGirl have you ever tried the digital clear blue OPKs? I've used the once before and found them really easy and simple to use... not that it made any difference to the end result 🤣🤣

Well, I've had a shitty Monday AND I've just started spotting so I know AF is in her way 🤬🤬 So came home and lit the fire and I'll likely have a pig out session, even though I'm meant to be on a diet for IVF! I really need to find my mojo again and get the weight off!!

Thanks for making me feel so welcome guys!

@clouddreamer I'm so with you on the diet for IVF thing, the struggle is real! It's so hard to be positive and not pig out when your feeling crappy, I'm such an emotional eater!

@lochness IC's are dangerous because they are so cheap I have no reserves about peeing on them left right a centre! Stay strong!

That sounds promising and intriguing at the very least @LochNessMumster87! How much longer have you got to wait? x

@sal1987 how are you getting on? Fingers crossed for you x

@NoseringGirl I'm going to speak to my actual GP and see if she'll run the tests. I asked to speak to the specialist in the hope it may fast track things, but I guess she's perhaps a bit more cynical about testing earlier?

Welcome @Mseddy x

I'm now waiting for natural cycles to confirm that I ovulated today... need to stay a little grounded and not get my hopes up this month, but very unlikely to happen!

Completely missed this entire conversation!

@NoseringGirl I gave up with OPKs, in 4 months I only got 1 positive result and it really stressed me out, but my bbt picked it up each month, so just sticking with that. The only problem is that it picks it up retrospectively!

I'm also a comfort eater @Clouddreamer, but I'm also a snacker - at my desk, while reading, while watching TV. My problem is that exercise has proven to be my only reliable weight loss method, but I'm just too lazy 🤣 this weather doesn't help either!

@Clouddreamer sorry for the spotting! Hope you have a nice, cosy evening in front of the fire. I used the clear blue digital ones last time around when trying for DS2 and I did get a positive on those but they're so expensive which isn't great when my cycles can be unpredictable! I use an Ava bracelet which in theory should predict things anyway and is fairly good at it when I have a normal cycle. I just like peeing on sticks to be honest 🤷🏼‍♀️🤣

@LondonKez hope you get your ovulation confirmation! I've heard a few people mention natural cycles but never used it. Is it like fertility friend?

It's so nice to not feel so alone in the times of peeing on sticks and TWW.

I'm so afraid to pee on a stick to get the big answer I'm waiting for. I know it should be so easy to just do it and get the answer either way but I just can't do it! I have stood with the test in my hand but not gone through with it! I'm so scared that all the symptoms I'm feeling are all in my head and I'm not going to get the result I want. I know I probably sound like the most stupid person in the world but I guess if I can't be honest here then I can't be anywhere!!

I completely get AF and just heading straight for the junk food, I too am an emotional eater but stay strong, tomorrow is a brand new day!! Xx

Evening lovely ladies ☺️ @Clouddreamer poor you, an evening pigging out I front of the fire sounds exactly what you need right now. Are you sure the spotting is af coming? hugs

@Mseddy yes they are dangerous lol but I would rather spend £5 for 20 than £5 for one frer 😁

@LondonKez I have no idea... If I'm 7dpo today when would you say I should test? I really don't know how long to leave it.

@sal1987 were all here for each other sweetie 🤗 the way your feeling is completely natural. Your not the only one, we all feel that way. Hoping the symptoms were having are real and overthinking every little twinge or pain.... Its normal. You test whenever you feel ready and we will all be here for you either way. Good luck sweetie 😘 just try and relax... Dont get too stressed 😊 x

Hi everyone! Hope I can join as I certainly feel like part of the struggle club although my partner would not agree. Whilst I appear to be ovulating (going by OPK's) I have issues with weird periods at the moment (lots of spotting) and a short LP of 9-10 days. GP has done blood tests which came back normal (but were not done on quite the right days so who knows). She has referred me to gynae and I have an appointment with them in Jan.

I am worried that there is something wrong although still quite hopeful and optimistic during fertile window and 2ww. But I can get quite down during these super long periods (hormones are probably not helping). Currently CD5 and expecting period to continue for next few days if pattern holds. Anyway today I found out on social media that a friend of the family is pregnant. I just started crying. She is very young (18) and in my opinion, not in the right circumstances to be rushing to have a baby but that doesn't really explain my emotional reaction. It just feels so unfair which I know is irrational but those feelings of jealousy and sadness just overwhelmed me. Don't really have anyone I can talk to about this as I don't want to come across as bitter- my DP was comforting but he is absolutely adamant that there is nothing wrong with us so doesn't understand my reaction.

Anyway, sorry for the word vomit, just really needed to vent.

@sal1987 that makes sense, it's nice to still have the hope and a BFN just takes all that away. I really hope when you do test that you get that amazing second line.

Hello @goldflakepaint 👋 sorry to hear about the baby bomb! I think social media is the worst way to find out in a way because there's no lead up, you just get hit in the face with an announcement and it can feel a bit like a gut punch. I reckon most people who are struggling with TTC will recognise that feeling. You're definitely not alone!
Sounds like you've got a good, proactive GP. Hope that gynae appointment goes well, or even better that you're already pregnant by then!

@goldflakepaint I agree with @NoseringGirl when all you want is a baby pregnant women and new babies seem to just be everywhere. You look. At them and think why not me 🙁 we all feel that way, so don't worry...... I see people with like 5 kids and a baby bump and my heart sinks. It's a horrible feeling. But what we need to do is just stay strong, stay hopeful and wait for the day we can say I don't care that other people are pregnant, because I am too 😊 a few years ago before I had my son I really wanted a baby... And it wasn't happening, I knew it would be difficult because of my very irregular periods. My sister came to my mums house and announced she was pregnant for the 3rd time and I could feel the tears, I held them back and said congratulations and then went outside and cried. I was happy for her, but I couldn't help being jealous. And then..... The day she had my niece..... I announced I was pregnant. It was finally my time 😊 and I will have that feeling again.... And so will all of us ❤️ welcome to the group sweetie x

How everyone doing today?
My temp went up a tiny bit. OPK is completely blank now so hoping my temp continues to rise. I seem to get slow rises these days rather than big spikes.

Ah, me too @noseringgirl. My temp has just started to rise.

@goldflakepaint, welcome lovely. Try not to worry about your LP too much, I think 10 days is still considered within the 'normal' range.

How is everyone? Xx

So today has been pretty shit. Tonight my AF came, I had a feeling all day it might be coming, I had very little patience for the kids I teach and just had that feeling you get just before you start. It pretty much broke my heart and absolutely devastated but I got in the shower to cry so no one knew I was crying. I think I'm going to be kind to myself for the next few days and then get back onto the process.

I hope the signs continue to be good and will keep having positive thoughts for you all.

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So sorry AF got you @sal1987 wishing you loads of luck for the next cycle!

@sal1987 so sorry 😞 this just isn't your month. When it's the right time it will happen 😊

So ladies a bit of advice? Me and hubby dtd earlier, and when I went to the toilet after and wiped there was some pink. Not alot....but I don't know what to think. It could be af coming, I feel a bit crampy now. A bit early for implantation isn't it at 8dpo? Confused! x

Thanks for the warm welcome guys. I hope we'll all be announcing BFP's soon! After a bit of a fight with DP last night and a crappy night's sleep, I'm determined to move forward- AF will be finishing in next day or so, I've started temping and plan to use cheapie OPK's to pinpoint my OV day and start to get a bit more info on my LP. And also hopefully get pregnant- as an added bonus and that.

@Noseringgirl @LochNessMumster87 it's really helpful to know that you both can relate as I felt terrible yesterday and then annoyed at myself for feeling terrible and taking someone else's positive news in such a bad way. When others tell you about similar experiences, you're just able to take a step back and view yourself a bit more compassionately. Thank you both.

@LondonKez Yes, I've read varying reports about what LP should look like but 10 days should be okay. Thing is, mine is potentially shorter than that because I'm not entirely sure when I ovulate- hoping to get more clarity on that this cycle. Thank you for the reassurance though.

@sal1987 Sorry to hear that things have hit you hard, this whole business really is such a roller coaster. You definitely have the right idea about treating yourself kindly. The next cycle is just around the corner, good luck!

@LochNessMumster87 I read that implantation bleeding could be anytime between 6pdo and 12dpo so definitely very possible! Colour is a good sign too. When is AF due? Fingers crossed for you.

Can I join? TTC 1st baby, have PCOS and it sucks . Currently in my 2ww and my emotions are all over the place! I keep crying- unlike me and cramps. So frustrating the joys of TTC. X