TTC FIRST BABY - THREAD NO.8

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Hi all - apologies if I've missed anyone out on here, I'm half asleep 😂

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That family member that I said I felt envious of after announcing their pregnancy... they're misscarried I feel absolutely guilt ridden that I felt jealous and now they're going through heartache. Now I feel even more guilty at the prospect of getting pregnant before them.
This journey is so emotionally taxing it is unreal

@SullyWifey Anything you can distract yourself with for the next two weeks? It would definitely help! Hoping this is your month

@SenoraSurf That's so sad. I'm so sorry that you're both having to go through a tough time. TTC is something that noone ever thinks will be such a rollercoaster until they start. It's a minefield. But remember that you're human and your emotions on this aren't always going to be so clearcut. Hoping your family member recovers quickly and you both end up with the babies you've been wishing for

@SophiePie well it's my besties baby shower on Saturday so immersing myself in that, and then we prepping the decks for weekend after! In between that I will try and keep sane one day at a time haha xx

@SenoraSurf so sorry to hear that. Don't be to hard on yourself. You were not to know. It's hard when you really want something so don't worry. It's a risk we alll take xxx

Sorry @SenoraSurf 😩 don't beat yourself up over it, you weren't to know. It's a tough time, sending love ❤️ xx

So I had a significant temp drop today, does that mean anything? I took an OPK (this is gonna get expensive!) and got a flashing smiley - after the no smiley yesterday. Is it fluke or do I get busy? So new to the whole BBT thing I've no idea?

@SenoraSurf don't beat yourself up. These things happen, I felt really crap after the MMC, 2days later my sister had an urgent scan and found out her baby was ok at 9w. Ours would have been 11w but stopped growing at 8w. Id pretty much held it together till that point. But boy was I a mess, so jealous that she had something we didn't. I am happy for her, but at the time I thought loads of things that I didn't like, the thought of seeing her with her baby just after ours would have been due was heartbreaking. Thankfully her pg is still healthy, and I'm in a slightly better place than I was. It's completely normal to feel conflicted and a tad jealous too, you can't prevent that and just because their outcome wasn't positive doesn't change the validity of those feelings in the moment. Ttc is such an emotional minefield!

@GemmaJen looks like an Ov temp drop to me... just for comparison these are my temps and it's clear when I ovulated... Cd19. I'd get BDing if I were you 😏😉

@GemmaJen Go for it! How exciting to see you’ve ovulated so soon too :)

@SenoraSurf you're only human and most people would be envious in your place, I would of been and I actual am jealous of some friends who are pregnant. Unfortunately when it comes to pregnancy I have learnt that a lot of it is out of our control. Just try your best to keep going. It will happen again for them and you too 😘

@GemmaJen I would definitely get DTD if I was you, good luck and enjoy 😋

Morning ladies.

@SullyWifey definitely need to distract ourselves through this TWW! FertilityFriend finally confirmed my ovulation today - we were right before it was with spotting the day, woo (we've obv got good at looking at charts...!). Still super spikey they month, and whilst my wake-up time has varied, it's always been right after waking. Ah well! Last months was a lot tidier.

Attached to this so people can have a peep. It looks like we DTD in the fertile week and in the run up to it so fingers crossed. Out of my control now I guess! 5DPO today.

@SenoraSurf like the other ladies said, you're only human. Jealousy is natural, and til you start trying to get pregnant you don't realise how all-consuming it is or what an emotional rollercoaster.

Went out for the day yesterday with a family member, who is lovely, and there were some super cute baby outfits that we saw - she (jokingly) asked DH and I when we were going to have a baby and we ended up telling her that we were trying, but that after nearly 6 months it hadn't happened yet. Was easier to come out and say it than not say anything, if that makes sense.

@GemmaJen like the others said, get BD-ing! Fertility Friend app should pick up on it as an ovulation date about 3 days afterwards if you have a temp increase.

Back to work today after a lush 4-day weekend. Typically I've come down with a bit of a cold too, doh!

Sorry for the essay btw!

@gemmajen I get a slow drop for a few days before ovulation rather than a one day dip, so might be the start of fertile period or just about to ovulate. Either way I’d start getting to it if you hadn’t already 😉

Ladies I’m back from Mauritius, blue as can be as it’s raining and miserable. Halfway through 2WW and know it’s not my month so very chilled, though I’ve missed my chance for my day 21 bloods again but have my doctors appointment tomorrow to discuss my next steps to work out why I’m not “ovulating”. Hope everyone’s well xx

@sunshine1987 hope you had an amazing time. It is super grey and dark here too - worth taking extra vitamin D!

Fingers crossed the doctor can help tomorrow with working out next steps. You never know each month though - especially if cycles are a bit topsy-turvy. Did the Day 21 bloods need to be 7 days after ovulation?

@eltzbee yeah, though my doctor asked for them 7 days before my period which is where I think the problem was. But we’ll see, feeling very positive about it all so it’s all ok 😊

@sunshine1987 ah makes sense, with all our cycles being so different none of us really have a text book 28 day cycle with Ov' bang in the middle do we! :)

Glad you're feeling positive, that's definitely the best way 😊

@sunshine1987 welcome home! Hope you had an amazing time. I am not surprised you're feeling blue, it's bloody miserable today so dark and cold. It's making me want to eat my way through the cupboards!
I hope the docs appointment goes ok.

@EltzBee I am not far behind you, FF just confirmed my ovulation too, so relieved to finally be able to stop smeping. Even though looking at my chart it wasn't actually that many times, it felt like loads!!
When is af due for you now?

@GemmaJen I normally get a few dips before my ov dip but mostly when it is getting close - see my chart below.
I would cover bases as the others have said and get bd-ing!

@FlapJackered ah cool, glad your Ov confirmed too.

FF thinks AF due 31st, but that would be a 14 day luteal phase and my normal is 11 or 12, so I think I'm probably due on the 29th. I need to book some blood tests for between days 2 and 5 so going to have to take an educated guess and change them if needed I guess!

Hi Ladies hope everyone is feeling positive, some advice please.

I have been looking back on an app I used before I had my MMC to track my AF and it worked out that my cycles on average where around 23 days. Obviously some would be shorter or longer. I used the miscarriage as my last cycle to begin TTC this time which then took 30 days but this could just be due to the MC. The longest cycle I recorded was 27 days and the shortest being 21 days, looks like my cycles where pretty rubbish 🙈

Should I go off my past average of around 23 cycle length or start completely fresh. I have begun using ovulation strips too which will hopefully help if they work for me. If I go of my past 23 cycle I should be DTD all this week? What are your thoughts?

Looks like everyone is BD'ing this week so could be good luck 😄😉

@SenoraSurf that’s so sad! You shouldn’t feel guilty though, it’s not your fault and feeling envious when you want something so badly is totally normal

@GemmaJen looks like you’re about to ovulate, get on it!

@EltzBee that’s good that you told your family member that you’re trying, hopefully they’ll avoid tactless comments in the future!

@sunshine1987 welcome home, hope you had a lovely time! This time last year I was on holiday and my Facebook keeps showing me memories of photos I took etc, I really need some sun!

I’m 11dpo now and expecting af on Thursday.

Thank you so much ladies for all your replies. It's the first time I've ever really felt this guilty! AF expected on Friday and have horrid niggley cramps and a wet feeling downstairs so can't help but think she's coming early!

When are you all due to test? X

@SenoraSurf I'm due AF a week today, so don't know if I should test early on Sunday to get it out the way, or wait.
I'm not TOO bothered if this doesn't turn out to be our month as if it was I'd be due 1st August and my bestie gets married on the 10th and I'd hate to go over my due date and miss being her MOH!
On the other hand, I'll still be gutted when I see that neg as we both really want this so badly. 🤯

Hey girls. ohhh, I am SO poorly. Christ, i'm coughing like no ones business so cant sleep and I'm full of cold! Just thinking thank god it wasn't during FW as I am NOT in the mood haha.

@EltzBee oo yay glad its confirmed now!! nearly half way through wait then if you think will be due around 11 DPO! Sorry to hear your poorly too :( Good you said about TTC to family though, I think I will start telling people if they ask again. I just cant be bothered with my awkward responses now a days. Its been nearly a bloody year.

I'm due AF 29th/30th so if i miss it...(please god please) then I will test the Saturday. Dont even want to get my hopes up though. Why is that soo hard by the way?

@sunshine1987 welcome home, was it fab?? It is miserable back here, but at least you can start thinking of Christmas - if you like Christmas of course!

@babySquid I know its hard but try and not test that early. Where possible I try and preach to everyone only test 1st day after your missed period. I know its hard, but there are so many chemicals that happen during that time its not worth the heartache xx

@SullyWifey Fertility Friend just updated and now says AF due 28th (next Wed) which tallies more with what I thought (29th - my luteal phase varies from 11 or 12, I guess it depends on what 'time' I ovulate as to when I start, lol!).

Yeah that's very true, a week tomorrow I'm due on which is nice to think I'm half way through this wait already, nearly..!

My Mum knows we're TTC, and a couple of friends do. When I came off the pill I didn't have a clue what to expect and it's been nice to have someone to talk to about girly stuff, although my friends have been lucky and they got preg straight away! So they're great at sympathising but not for talking about the detail of ttc.

Ah no you're poorly too! At least it's waited til after you've done the deed and ovulated. Fingers crossed it passes soon, not being able to sleep from a cold/virus isn't good. When I woke up I felt so congested, hoping it doesn't stay!

So I think my surge has been and gone so I'm guessing in about 1dpo now so let the wait begin lol I feel the same I dunno what I'm expecting to feel like if I do conceive xx

Wanted to check in and say how are you all? Xo