TTC FIRST BABY - THREAD NO.8

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Hi all - apologies if I've missed anyone out on here, I'm half asleep 😂

@FlapJackered @BabySquid @BambiOnIce80 @CookieWaffle @Crossfitgirl @Delilah7 @MrsAW2018 @MrsC87 @MrsR16 @EltzBee @FivexFive @ValidUser @RanchoRelaxo @rj995

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Lovely thought @DayDreamer1707 we can all have a drink and a cosy film and think of each other up and down the country struggling with this and know we aren’t the only ones xx

@FlapJackered the annoying thing is, she's normally fantastic. I've seen her for nearly 8 years on a regular basis and rarely have a problem with her. I can't bear the thought of booking with another one as she knows all my problems and me really well. I see her again on 31/12 but if I get worse I will have to book to see another doctor before then I think. So sorry you're having a tough time, cry as much as you need to... it's quite therapeutic I find. This whole thing is rotten when you want something so badly💔.

@DayDreamer1707 it wasn't the best thing she's ever said to me and she's known me a very, very long time. A tad insensitive maybe. She's normally extremely good though so she may have been having an off day. I'm so relieved I found here to chat with ladies in the same boat as me. It's made such a difference already! Loving your idea for Saturday btw. Me and my DH are having a Christmassy day - doing the decorations, wrapping, writing Christmas cards and watching a Christmas film. I can't wait!

@SophiePie I’m so sorry, that really sucks. How are you doing today?

@FlapJackered and @Bettythecat sorry about your temp drops, that’s so disappointing. Just keep reminding yourself that it will happen for you when the time is right - that seems to help me feel better about it.

@FlapJackered have a lovely Xmas, get plenty of r&r, and come back to us feeling chilled and happy in January xx

@Delilah7 how are you doing lovely? When is your next scan?

I’m on CD9, due to ovulate on CD13 so we’re dtd every 2 days and fingers are crossed for this cycle. I have a fairly positive feeling about it at the moment.

Thank you lovely ladies. Definitely for the wine and veg out idea! I think most of my December is going to run along those lines!

@Bettythecat - sorry I mean that we've been ttc for 9 months but because my cycles have been so long and irregular in the past it's worked out as only 6 cycles. Had lots of tests and nothing apparently wrong so far (apart from slightly irregular cycles). I think they are going to get me to repeat them and then off to the fertility specialist next.
Good luck with the next cycle 🤞🏻🤞🏻

Hi ladies. Sorry I didn't rely last night. Got hyperemisis sickness - which I guess is a good sign but it's horrible!! Hardly been eating anything. Scan today so should hear a heartbeat. Want an update if I do?? I don't like to post and 'boast' about me being pregnant x

God @MrsAW2018 that sounds absolutely awful, please go and see another doctor, depression is no joke xxx

@FlapJackered 😩 have a lovely December and merry Christmas if you're not back before then, enjoy copious amounts of wine 🍷❤️ xx

@Delilah7 of course we do! Let us know how it goes xx

Ah ladies, so much keeps happening here.

@SophiePie I'm so sorry, sending you many hugs xx

@Delilah7 Please do let us know xx

@FlapJackered Have a good break chick, it does wonders. Enjoy the holidays xx

@ValidUser ahh that sounds a bit stressful. Hope you don't have to wait too long for the surgery.

I managed to make it through the first party. On to the next!

@MrsAW2018 I think most of the depression I've had over the years links back to me wanting a baby so much. It consumes your life without you even realising. I was devastated that I still didn't have kids when I got to 30 and my 40th was spent in tears. It's been tough.

I've got through the past horrible 9 months reminding myself of all the good things I do have, making time for myself and appreciating anything and everything. I'm not saying I totally achieved it, but it helped.

12dpo. Longest luteal phase I have ever had so far. Spotting seems to have stopped. Temps are high. I can't cope with this. It's teasing me. I'm just waiting for AF to come properly and laugh in my face.
Should I be getting my hopes up? I have no symptoms at all, but have never had more than 3 days of spotting before a periods and my temps have never gone higher before, they always start to fall mid LP.

I hate this so much.

@flapjackered nooooo don't leave :-( we have been in this together for so long!
A break from mumsnet does help with the relaxing though, so I really hope it helps and you are back with your BFP after christmas :-)
Please tag me when you come back!

@delilah7 yes please send us some updates!! It'll be lovely to hear how you're getting on xxx

@Crossfitgirl I will be back I promise. ❤️
Probably in a few weeks. I just need to take a step back and not get so obsessed this cycle.
Also definitely going to keep an eye over the next few days as your chart looks amazing! Have you tested again? I really really hope it is good news for you!!! X

@CookieWaffle how was it? What excuse did you go for in the end? 😂 thankyou for what you said re depression - I thought it was just me. My depression has hit a new level and I know it's only because of not having a baby. I can completely appreciate it's not a patch on how long you've waited, but I completely understand how it makes you feel. It's so consuming and draining!

@Crossfitgirl so that looks really promising?! Could have been implantation bleeding!! Fingers crossed for you xxxxxx

@Crossfitgirl FX!! Oh I so hope it’s good news for you :)

@crossfitgirl I had no symptoms and still don’t, which is no worrying me something is wrong 🙄 x

@delilah7 let’s us know how it goes, how many weeks are you now? x
@mrsaw2018 hope you’re alright, doesn’t sound like they were being very helpful. Mental health is so hard during TTC xx

Oh @Crossfitgirl keeping my fingers crossed! xx

@cupcakesandglitter depression is such an evil thing. I got really down at one point a while back. I don't think it will ever go away, its just a part of me, but I can recognise it and I know what to do to help me fight it. Crying for no reason? Let it out, then go do something you enjoy. DP didn't really understand at first, but I had to tell him, sometimes I just need to cry so don't get angry just let me do my thing and I'll come back when I'm ready.

No excuses needed luckily, I often drive to stuff so that wasn't unusual. Plus, I was a little peeved with DP last night so there was no way I was getting him to drive me there!

Just got back from the hospital- miscarriage confirmed. Thank you everyone for being so kind, I love you all

@sophiepie I’m so sorry, I hope you’re ok, take time to come to terms with it all and don’t push yourself too quickly. You know where we are if you need us 💜

@SophiePie so sorry and just look after yourself right now. You will soon heal and you will be able to try again. I have unfortunately been in your position so any questions, I like everyone else is more than happy to help in anyway xx

@SophiePie I’m so sorry. I’ve been there and I know just how you are feeling. Don’t be surprised if some days you don’t want to see or speak to anyone and on those days just stay in bed and stick to your guns. My GP signed me off for 2 weeks to just rest and relax - definitely try and pop in to see yours for the same. I don’t think I could have faced work much sooner than I did. I’m so sorry and just take each day as it comes. Xx

@Delilah7 pleeeeease keep us updated!

@SophiePie I'm so sorry. X

Thanks @CookieWaffle - I'm just happy I got checked out.

@Crossfitgirl test test test!!!!

Really sorry to hear that @SophiePie

@SophiePie sending you all the hugs in the world. Can't imagine how you feel. So sorry darling xxx

So sorry @SophiePie xxx

@DuchessofPemberley this was the second time for me when Clear Blue was playing games. And you're right, they aren't cheap. I don't want to play this gamble of whether or not it's going to function anymore.

@FlapJackered I'm sorry, hun. I know the feeling. We'll miss you. But you will get pregnant soon!

@DayDreamer1707 normally once you get a surge you don't need to test but it might happen that you don't ovulate. It's rare though but does happen. This is why temping helps, if it goes up and stays up, you ovulated.

@SophiePie so sorry, hope you're doing ok and your DH is taking care of you.

@Crossfitgirl your chart looks so promising!

@cupcakesandglitter ttc depression certainly sucks. I've been wanting a baby since I was in my early twenties. And now I can't even make it happen. But I must be in some sort of denial as I'm not crying. But seeing other women who are boasting 4-5 kids and pregnant with the 6th and those stupid car stickers, and pregnant everywhere while smoking and drinking, I get sad and angry.

@KatBeCool I have definitely had my positives, suppose I will just have to see the outcome. I hope I have ovulated!