TTC FIRST BABY THREAD NO.7

[Delilah7]

Another thread ladies ❤️

@Crossfitgirl I would ask the receptionist for a print out, especially if you're not due to see the doctor soon. Then you can google each result (or ask me as I have done all the googling already!) and just work out where you are with it, it might be better than you think x

@purplefig you've caused quite the storm 😂😂😂😂 I read it when you replied - told the lady next to me about it... almost two hours later it's been shared around the office and caused a massive discussion with us women 😂 it's a very good read - I'm so glad it's not just me, i resonated with everything she said. Especially this

“The gendered assumption is that ‘men are the problem solvers because women are too emotional,’" she explains. "But who is really solving the bulk of the world's problems at home and in the office?”

It's so true!!!! My mind is CONSTANTLY ticking and trying to multitask everything, both at work and at home. Honestly it's bloody brilliant 😂😂😂

@Delilah7 I don't know 😭😭 I hope so, it's a nice payrise too so I could actually get started on my kitchen!! Ahh how exciting!! Don't panic yourself before then, enjoy every single second of being pregnant xx

Thankyou @Crossfitgirl ❤️ sorry to hear about your bloods - any chance you can get them done again whilst you're waiting for referral? X

@cupcakesandglitter this made me grin a lot! I think it's one of those concepts that a lot of women perhaps feel intuitively, but up until recently there hasn't really been a phrase / meaningful discussion around it. Since I stumbled across that article a few months back I've shared it with lots of women in my life, and all of them were like: THIS IS A THING!! Anyway, this is far too long for a lunchtime read, but loads of tangible examples here: drive.google.com/file/d/0B0UUYL6kaNeBTDBRbkJkeUtabEk/view?pref=2&pli=1

Ok. I promise I'll stop detailing this thread now

In more relevant news, I just took another test and got briefly excited, but it looks like it was just a dye run.

It's now CD36 with no sign of AF. Welp.

@purplefig I just had a read and oh my goodness, it is bang-on isn't it (well, it is my house anyway). The number of times I get so frustrated at my DH because he doesn't understand the effort I put in all.the.time on things, but then he'll clean the kitchen down or do the bathroom and it seems like they expect a round of applause for things we do all the time!

@EltzBee I think that experience is true of many relationships! And while I totally get the whole whole 'men are from Mars, women are from Venus' rhetoric, I think it has more to do with social conditioning and what is expected, rather than anything innate / biological.

FWIW I have spoken to my DH about this topic at great length and he definitely 'gets' it more now. That's not to say we now split emotional labour perfectly 50:50 but he's definitely aware of the chasm and trying to close it!

@purplefig definitely. I know there are studies that show humans generally (forgetting even the male/female split) do have different ways of thinking -

potentially that could have helped evolutionary wise as if everyone thought the same, you'd be at a disadvantage.

I think to be fair I wouldn't mind doing everything that I do at home if it weren't for the fact that we both work full time, so it's not like I'm at home and that's my job...if that makes sense? I suppose that's where our society and working population has changed but our roles at home haven't so much.

I totally notice how my hormones fluctuation affect how I think, feel and behave though - so I don't think it would be unreasonable to think there are underlying differences to how men and women think or feel about things.

@Crossfitgirl I'm sorry darling 😩 but defo ask for another one as you think your dates were off this month.

Good news about DH though as it's harder to do things to make that better!!

Do you temp and if so what do your charts looks like??

@EltzBee oh yes, I'm sure there are differences, but I think men are totally capable of pulling their weight when it comes to domestic and emotional labour. It's just that historically it has been - for the most part - left to women. I think that's why, like what you said earlier, many men feel the need to be congratulated for completing a task which women would usually do (thanklessly).

And I'm with you, individual set-ups are for families to decide. I just wonder how much is influenced by what is socially expected of women.
It's so ingrained in our culture I don't even think we see it a lot of the time. e.g. A friend of mine went on a rare girl's night out the other day and posted a photo of her DH and kids on social media. Underneath comments were gushing about what a great dad he was for 'babysitting' his kids.

@purplefig oh yes totally agree, I work in a very male dominated industry and have to bite my tongue quite often - when they talk about having to look after their children so their wife/partner etc can go out. But like you just said some women don't help that either when it's reinforced that their hubby is 'babysitting'...! Doh!

@EltzBee yes, the mind boggles!

Thanks @delilah7 and @sullywifey. I do temp and I've had a nice rise past 3 months but this month was a bit all over the place due to stress and not being well I think. I will ask for a repeat if needed. @eltzbee yeah day 1 and day 21 for FSH and progesterone. @purplefig my cycle was dead on 28 days this month, however I think I ovulated cd19 so although it was 7 days before AF, it doesn't fit with the "standard" of ovulating on cd14.

@flapjackered FSH was 6 and progesterone was 19 (at approx 2dpo) what do you reckon?

The doc said FSH was slightly raised for my age but possibly just borderline. I haven't had the progesterone explained but I assume they will at the fertility clinic in Dec.

DH had 59 million per... millimetre (or whatever)? And 49% motile?

Sorry to bring a dampener onto this thread ladies, my mood has suddenly just dropped. One of my boobs is killing me, and my tummy feels weird - guessing I'll be ovulating soon, but it's so upsetting that I feel little things and then immediately it's like a reminder that I'm not pregnant yet. I'd love to get the job, but more than anything in the world right now I want to pregnant. I know my time will come but I'm really struggling to stay positive 😩 sorry 😩

Catching up on all these posts

@Crossfitgirl have they taken a look at your charts and things? X

@cupcakesandglitter me too today! It's crap sometimes.

Oh no @ValidUser don't say that, you were doing so well with your positivity 😩 I just feel like everyone finds it so easy to get pregnant, and when I was waiting to be able to TTC I just knew it wasn't going to happen for me straightaway... and now my body is having a laugh in proving me right. I don't get how to take it easy/relax at all

Congrats @mrsc87
Welcome back @BabySquid. Same cd for us this month. Keep us up to date on your progress.
Happy Birthday @Rachael321
@cupcakesandglitter same for relaxing. Think that's normal though when you want it so much and it's just so consuming.

@cupcakesandglitter @mrsof20118 same here on relaxing! I'm either excited or down about it all. Beginning to get PMS too! Bah

@crossfitgirl the day 21 test needs to be 7 days after you ovulate and not 7 days before your period. As if you have a 11 day lutheal phase then doing it 7 days before period is way too early in the cycle. I had my test done on day 23 last cycle only 4 days after I ovulated and my results came back low progesterone but I honestly think the more I read it’s because it should have been done later x

I second @sunshine1987 on that, @Crossfitgirl

@cupcakesandglitter @ValidUser I'm with you ladies with the lack of positivity at the moment, it's super difficult to keep it up! It's all a rollercoaster. I hope you both feel better tomorrow🤞🏼💕

@Crossfitgirl - do you know what - I reckon it was just that cycle. If you say your temps were all over the place that would explain it. If you normally get a good temp rise I would be surprised if that wasn't due to a decent rise in progesterone. If I were you I would request another blood test pronto and this time just make sure you have had that rise before you go.
I really wouldn't worry about it! Everyone has a whacky cycle once in a while and it just sucks yours was when they were testing.
Progesterone should be above 30 if you have ovulated. FSH I was told should be between 1.7- 7.7 so you're fine there.

Out of interest what was you DH's morphology? Mines was only 5% but he had 200million count so hopefully that is ok.

Also @Crossfitgirl apparently FSH can vary month to month according to google.

@crossfitgirl if you look at my chart I think it shows that on day 23 (4 DPO) my progesterone/temp wasn’t that high but at 7DPO it was at its highest so should have tested then. Can you tell I’ve spent the past week convincing myself my tests were wrong? I hope you’re ok though, I know how you’re feeling xx

@crossfirgirl my FSH was slightly raised too before the Clomid! I ovulated regularly on it but it can thin your lining after a while so had to stop it. They will probably start you on Clomid if you have pcos! Any idea when you’ll be seen?