TTC FIRST BABY THREAD NO.7

[Delilah7]

Another thread ladies ❤️

@KatBeCool yes girl! It's happening I tell youu!!! Hahah I love you thanked him. Also lunch time baby dancing?!!! You lucky thing!!

I must say last month was a struggle keeping it up and it wasn't much at all in the end. Hard to keep it sexy when you literally want to BD for the end result 😂

Don't get me wrong ladies I still love the cuddle time, but please remember in nearly a year in haha! Trying to keep him enthusiastic here! 😂xx

Oh gosh I miss a couple days and it's been busy!

Cycle Day 7 here so approaching the fertile window. This sounds bad but at the moment I just can't face doing the deed I don't know if it's just the pressure or what.

Temp was really low this morning dropped .3 of a degree and feel like I'm fighting a cold.

@EltzBee doesn't sound bad at all. Iv a hard bloody rollercoaster that you need the right energy for. Just don't force it honey if your not feeling it. I had that a couple of months back, but then the next month on felt ready again! Might be good to take a step back anyways. I'm CD7 too, of a 31 day cycle so end of the week will be my fw.

Be kind to yourself, relax and I hope you don't get a cold xx

Hi all, Just checking in to the new thread, I’m 31, CD11, cycle 13. Just bought digital ovulation tests for the first time today. Has anyone else used them? I was sick of squinting at OPKs every month!!

@SullyWifey thanks, glad I'm not the only one! My average cycle is 26 days, although last month just gone was 30 days. Hope I get my 'mojo' back in a couple days, my fertile window is due to begin in 2 or 3 days. Good to have a cycle buddy :)

I thought my period had started to regulate after stopping the pill in july but looks like I'm missing one this month :( I had positive opk on the 17th of October but still no period and I'm definitely not pregnant as we have been using protection.
I wish my body wasn't so messed up.

To top it off I keep getting pains during sex. I'm too embarrassed to go to the doctors.

@EssJayyCee ohh absolutely go to the doctor! They've seen many things and nothing is embarrassing. That's what doctors are there for. Not like you're announcing it at the office party. Pains during sex can be due to so many things and it's best to check them out whether you're trying to get pregnant or not. Plus the missing period too. Please see a doctor.

@EssJayyCee definitely agree with @KatBeCool - go to the Doctor! That is what they are there for, and lets be honest, they've seen and heard it all before, after all. At the least they can put your mind at rest, or help get things sorted :)

Having a dilemma here - sorry to go off topic. A friend of DH's and his fiancee have invited us to their wedding next July. They've not done Save the Dates, just a flat invite with an RSVP deadline of December this year (which seems stupidly early to me for a wedding in July).

I don't know them well (only met them two or three times) and they aren't people I would choose to hang out with.

Reality is I could do without going as for me it'll be a stressful social sitution that I will hate every second - but my DH does want to go. If I was pregnant I'd happily blame that to get out of it but we're still TTC (of course if we get preg in next month or two I could argue we can't go as due date etc etc)..lol

The food for the day has to be ordered and as a veggie who cannot eat mushrooms (will be sick if I tried), there is no option - their option is mushroom risotto with parmesan...which isn't even suitable for veggies.

I know I sound so grumpy and wrong but do we just RSVP yes, mention a dietary requirement and if we do get lucky, to know we would be pulling out closer to the time?

We got married this year and I know how difficult planning was and stressful - but equally I did cater for everyone and did save-the-dates so RSVP deadline was 2/3 months before wedding, not 7/8!

On a tangent to normal thread so apologies, just thought maybe some of you ladies would have some thoughts (even if it's to say what i think we'll have to do which is RSVP yes and see what happens closer to the time.)

@EltzBee I'd maybe speak to them about meal options and see what they recommend - if they can cater for you, fab, if they can't you have your easy option 😊 I suppose because it's so far in advance, if you were to cancel in say December I don't see why it'd be a big issue, it's leaving enough notice. The only thing that pissed us off with our wedding was people just never actually responding! (And then never turned up) so RSVPing is better I think xx

@PastaSauceHoarder hello! Welcome to our lovely group 😊😊 x

@cupcakesandglitter yeah think will get DH to ask the question since it's his friend. The RSVP is December so I'm thinking we wait til then to RSVP properly and if we do have to cancel if we do get lucky in our ttc, we'll just have to cancel (oh the shame..). It's more I'd happily RSVP 'no' anyway, so I'm a reluctant guest at the best time! lol

Thankfully all our guests turned up, I send a few reminders for RSVP's the week before the deadline.

The one that annoyed us a tad was DH's Uncle and Aunt, who RSVP'd on our wedding website 'No' and have ignored us since. Apparently they were in a strop because their grown up children (nearly 20 and 16/17) weren't invited. We only had 44 guests and hadn't seen their children in years. Their loss - we extended the invite to be able to extend the invite to my aunts partner and a close friends partner. Weddings are a pain for everyone I think!

@eltzbee sounds like no fun at all for you - id ask for a mushroom free veggie meal (make up an allergy to mushrooms) and if they can't cater, I wouldn't go! For me, I was so much more annoyed at the people that rsvpd yes and pulled out at the last minute than the ones who just said no to start, there's nothing worse than a flake! Haha. I also hated having people there thst clearly didn't want to be there as there's nothing worse than someone not having fun/ wanting to leave early on their special day. So if you do go... be prepared to actually try to enjoy it or I just wouldn't bother. And it may be just to do with payment or the caterers needing numbers by a certain date, or maybe they need numbers first to work out remaining budget for something else, who knows. Weddings are such a nightmare to organise aren't they? Lol

But yeah these days I don't waste time doing things I know I won't enjoy, nor do I spend my precious time with people I don't know / give a shit about / like!

BUT if they are DH good friend then you kinda have a duty to go as his plus one. I guess for me it woukd depend how upset would he be if he couldn't go? If the answer is he'd get over it- then just don't go!!
If he's very much wanting to go then maybe just suck it up and go.

Sorry that didn't really give you an answer lol I'm not much help!

Just read that back and I hope it didn't sound off, I was Just typing as I thought lol and i know I would not want to go either if I was in your shoes! I went to one recently where it was all my DHs mates ( some of which I didn't really like) and I didn't really know the couple and I was totally dreading it, however I ended up having a fab time! Got super drunk haha!

You just never know!

Hi @cardi86 welcome :-) I'm almost 31 too, how long have you been trying? Lots of us have used the digitals on here, they can be very good! Xx

@Delilah7 that is so lovely you told your GDad, such happy news! 😍

@ValidUser loving the positive vibes.
🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 for you!!

@EltzBee you're not alone cycle buddy. I found it tough last cycle. I am cd7 too but I don't normally ovulate until cd17-25. Such a longggg wait!
I agree with the others, I would wait until December then say yes but fake an allergy to mushrooms (I have done that my whole life, only told my DH 4 years into our relationship that I just didn't like them!)
I love weddings though so would probably be more keen.

Not seeing much yet. But it WILL be my month!

Good Morning All
Aww love your grandads response @Delilah7
I'm on CD25 and have had dull cramps since yesterday. No sign of AF. Just want these next few days to pass to see if AF does arrive!
Keeping my fingers crossed for you @ValidUser 🤞😘

Thanks @Crossfitgirl and @FlapJackered will get DH to do that. Not filled with confidence as the menu has parmesan on that so the don't actually even have a veggie option or their venue is incompetent..Lol.

Temperature all over the place at the moment and skin a horrendous breakout. I miss the pill!

@Flap oh gosh you do have a long wait til O! FF thinks my green week starts tomorrow so I'm gonna have to try and get my mojo back

Hope all my lovely ladies are ok. X x

Lol @validuser you’re making me giggle, love your positivity this month. It IS your month, though won’t be your bank balances at this rate lol x

Have a stomach ache today, along with sore boobs and feeling sad... think I know what this means :( pretty sure I'm out

Question - have any of you ladies had your flu jab for this season? I caught flu 3 years ago and was really poorly so now get it every year - I know it is highly recommended when pregnant but can’t seem to find any information about getting the jab when trying?

@EltzBee weddings are painful at times! I would RSVP and just note your dietary requirements - you can always cancel if you do become pregnant. We had 2 guests drop out of our wedding 2 weeks beforehand - so as long as you give a bit more notice than that you’re on to a winner :)

@mrseg don’t know for sure but can’t imagine it would be an issue if you can have it during pregnancy x