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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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BambiOnIce80 · 23/10/2018 12:42

We're very close to maxing-out our previous thread, so time to start afresh 🙂

To borrow the intro from @Blondcat (our old threads founder):

A wonderful bunch of ladies supporting each other through the ttc journey when trying for a first baby after 35.

Good luck all!! 🍀🤞🏻🍀🤞🏻

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PixieN · 10/11/2018 21:30

@CNizzle glad your dad is settled 💕 Arrrgghh to the children question. People just don’t think! Maybe it would do them good if they were pulled up on their lack of sensitivity Hmm

@BambiOnIce I don’t think I’d get on with a mindfulness app either. It’s making me feel stressed just thinking about it lol. Maybe I need to try running again. I was my lowest weight when I was running. I just find it hard to get motivated to actually do it!

BambiOnIce80 · 11/11/2018 16:13

Glad you're back home @CNizzle (although not glad you're having to go back to work! Got that feeling myself today 😏).

Despite my best efforts @PixieN I didn't make it out for a run today 😬 So much for my de-stressing plan! The pulling power of the combination of onesie/sofa/netflix was far too strong 🙄

Even though I'm particularly enjoying season 2 of The Sinner, it's still not enough to keep my inner symptom spotting psycho at bay today 😕 @QuantumGirl, I should have taken a leaf out of your book and immersed my self in DIY instead (I hope it's going well, by the way?🔨). She's taken it pretty easy on me for the last couple of cycles, but she's doing a real number on me this time! 😣 My progesterone must be at its zenith because my boobs have been particularly tender for the last few days 😒 And I've had a particularly itchy left nipple on and off since yesterday - what the hell's all that about?! Stupid little mild crampy twinges and tightening that would undoubtedly not draw my attention at all on CD7 but is given huge significance on CD22! Urghhh!!! Doing my own head in!!! 😭 Roll on this time next week when AF should arrive and put me out of my misery!!

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terriwrist · 11/11/2018 17:06

@BambiOnIce80 Do you know how long your luteal phase is? It's taken me 3 cycles to get the hang of temping.... even so am not 100 % sure I definitely ovulated the day I think I did... I think I'm CD24/DPO13.

Wish I'd started temping much earlier... before TTC.

Peanut35 · 11/11/2018 17:39

10dpo bfn 😭 feeling nautious and a bit gaggy but think i generally do when im ovulating and due on i dont think my body responds well to hormone surges 😂 i was sick every morning for 9 months till the day i gave birth to both of my children....thinking this isn't my month not gonna do anymore tests and just wait for aunt flo now x

BambiOnIce80 · 11/11/2018 17:58

@terriwrist I have a 13/14 day luteal phase, generally. I've never temped before and I don't dare to start - I know I'd just get obsessed with it/the data 🙄 Think I might go back to the OPK's for one cycle next month though, just to check in that I'm still ovulating when I think I am 🤔

Sorry for the BFN @Peanut35 😔 10dpo could still be too early though... you're not out until AF arrives 🍀

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MrsRRC · 11/11/2018 18:00

@Cnizzle @BambiOnIce80 @Kescilly @PixieN @LeonieKate thanks girls, hope I haven’t missed anyone.

The family situation is about as sorted as it’s ever going to be - my husbands parents are splitting up, they were married 40 years, he had an affair. My husband is not handling it well. It never rains eh?

I ended up telling my Mum and Sister about the CP and they have been amazing. My Mum is a bit scatty most of the time but she knew just what to say, she had multiple miscarriages before me and between me and my sister. My sister told me interestingly, she was the only one out of her group of 7 Mum friends that didn’t suffer a loss at all that she was very lucky to be in the minority.

I really copped it health wise, I had a mild UTI after the bleeding and cramping stopped, then blinding headaches for a week and just to top it, some sort of eye infection. By last weekend I felt like I was ready for the bloody glue factory and still can’t believe how grotty I felt considering how early on it happened.

Anyway, I’m feeling much better. I’m back to tracking my ovulation on cbfm and I still haven’t ovulated, although I feel like it will happen in the next couple of days which will make it about 5 days late.

I work in HR and a lady came to see me because she’s 10 weeks along and is suffering with horrible morning sickness, she doesn’t want her boss to know why she’s off sick because she lost her last one and she’s paranoid it will happen again. I had a hard time with that this week, it’s the first time anyone has come to talk to me about something like that, and what are the chances it would happen so soon after my own early loss!

@CNizzle before I even ever wanted kids I used to get annoyed with people asking about whether I wanted them or why I didn’t have them. My heart goes out to you, it’s hard to know what to say, isn’t it? Xx

terriwrist · 11/11/2018 18:08

@BambiOnIce80 this month I've done both the advanced CB ovulation test plus temping. I am a bit obsessed with graphs at the moment :) ... however (despite not being a morning person) I've begun to look forward to waking up every morning and taking my temperature. Grin

terriwrist · 11/11/2018 18:10

Sorry to hear about your family situation @MrsRRC.

MrsRRC · 11/11/2018 18:19

Thanks @terriwrist

How are you finding using CBFM?

Fertility tracking is all new to me and I find the CBFM quite useful, but can see how charting might be more appealing to the amateur (professional?) statisticians amongst us 😁

Peanut35 · 11/11/2018 18:21

Ive missed so much just catching up went away for the weekend. Not sure how to tag people etc sorry I'm still new to all this x

terriwrist · 11/11/2018 18:48

@MrsRRC - is CBFM and CB advanced ovulation test the same thing? I have a feeling FertilityFriend refers to the two interchangeably. The label on the package I have is CB advanced ovulation test. I got the solid smiley which indicates peak fertility.... and my temperature went up by half a degree Celsius the next day. I think fertility friend recommends using two methods together... one to detect ovulation is coming (in my case I chose CB advanced ov test) and the second to confirm ovulation actually happened (I've chosen temping as a way to confirm). Am planning to continue both the CB test and temping. In fact temping I've read is useful even in pregnancy as your temperatures should remain high once you get pregnant and a temperature drop might indicate an upcoming miscarriage. There's a 150 page PDF document that I downloaded for free from Fertility Friend... found it quite a good read actually! I'm also very new to all this...!

@Peanut35 I just append an '@' followed by the username of whoever I am tagging.

BambiOnIce80 · 11/11/2018 19:00

@MrsRRC it really sounds like you've had a hell of a time of it recently 💐 I have a job where the topic of pregnancy is never far away in the working day. It gets to me sometimes not being able to get away from it...

@terriwrist, I can't survive without a lay-in at the weekend and get up crazy early in the week, so temping is definitely a lost cause for me 😂 I salute your dedication 🙌

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Carley321 · 11/11/2018 19:20

Ok I am kind of new but in ttc terms extremely new, because it all confuses me.

So having a solid smiley indicates high fertility. So how can someone not ovulate afterwards, and if they don’t are there any indications?

terriwrist · 11/11/2018 20:07

@BambiOnIce80 LOL - fair enough.

@Carley321 From what I've read a solid smiley indicates that the test has detected a surge in luteinizing hormone (LH). I'm quoting the PDF doc from FertilityFriend... all these tests do is "tell you ovulation is approaching and that you may be in a fertile phase. These signs are very helpful for timing intercourse. To definitively know that you have ovulated, you also need to track your basal temperature. A thermal shift and sustained high temperatures (I think a minimum of three days) indicates ovulation happened on the last day of the lower temperatures. This is the only sign that you can observe on your own that can confirm ovulation actually happened."

I may be wrong but what I take from that is... its possible to have a surge in LH and still not ovulate that cycle.

Carley321 · 11/11/2018 21:15

@terriwrist thank you for the info. I feel quite concerned now. I am very irregular and only had a solid positive once so the fact that that one time may not have even been ovulation is quite worrying 🙁. This journey is all very stressful.

CNizzle · 11/11/2018 21:34

You ate quite right @MrsRRC temping appeals to my inner geek! I love a chart and graph Grin
I use fertility friend to track bbt etc. Their "course" in all things ttc is a pretty useful read/watch actually. It was a good starting point to understanding the hormones.
As im a total nerd I was also using Glow app alongside FF, but recently gone back to Clue as i think its fertile week/AF predictions are better than Glow, although its not so good at BBT.
As @terriwrist says, its possible to have a LH surge (pos OPK) but not actually ovulate. One month i was using CBA sticks and it gave me peak fertility, but a cheap opk wasnt quite positive at the same time & no corresponding rise in bbt, a few days later, after a neg on a cheapie, I got a blazing positive followed by a rise in bbt. Looks like my body geared up to ovulate, but didnt manage, so gave it a second bash! I ovulated later that month, but i could have missed FW had i not been using a million methods more than one method of tracking. Needless to say, it was a BFN anyway, but who knows...

terriwrist · 11/11/2018 22:13

@CNizzle That's really interesting to know that the rise in BBT that month helped confirm the actual FW for you.

@Carley321 don't stress... more than likely you did ovulate. The BBT would have just confirmed it. Its another piece in the puzzle.

Peanut35 · 12/11/2018 05:33

Please tell me im not imagining this? Never had a faulty one with a line like this im praying 🙏

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Peanut35 · 12/11/2018 06:16

Ive taken so mamy pics inverted them the line is strong and pink in person i just cant seem to get a good picture of it x what do you think?

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Peanut35 · 12/11/2018 06:50

Its defiantly a bfp its got darker and pinker in person wish i had a better camera 😔

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Carley321 · 12/11/2018 07:04

@terriwrist @CNizzle thanks ladies. Looks like I need to up my game next month then 🤨.

@Peanut35 my eyesight isn’t great, first thing especially lol. But I can see the second lightly ever so slightly in your last pic 🤞🤞🤞 that is a bfp for you. Amazing news.

Peanut35 · 12/11/2018 07:08

@carley321 its so frustrating in person the line is solid and pink and not one picture will show it well 🤦🏻 making me doubt it frer 2 days ago had nothing though and never had a false positive on frer yet so keeping everything crossed will get some more tests today i think. X thank you x

Peanut35 · 12/11/2018 07:12

These are much better its definately pink although not sure you can see the colour in the pics x

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BambiOnIce80 · 12/11/2018 07:34

Crikey @Peanut35, you've had a very busy morning! 😂 Congratulations!! 🎉😊🎉😊

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Peanut35 · 12/11/2018 07:40

@BambieOnIce80 we're an early rising house i drop my partner to train station every morning as he commutes to work so i saved my morning wee from 4.30 am and did it when i got home....usually I'd go back to sleep for an hour but i couldnt this morning 😂... feel periody though I'm just praying it doesn't come due af in 3 days think im 11dpo today x