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TTC first baby... mega thread!

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Crossfitgirl · 25/08/2018 10:13

For those of us TTC first baby, a continued thread for August 2018 :-) a place to share our new mummy journeys!

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FlapJackered · 26/08/2018 16:14

In fact scrap that last comment - pretty sure it's an evap. I think it's grey.
Omg I am like a crazy lady! Need to reign it in and find another hobby other than poas 😂😂😂

purplestar9 · 26/08/2018 16:20

@ttcat32 thank you! The cramps have stopped now and no sign of AF so there's still hope! I'm 12DPO, so not long left for me to wait now!!

No don't leave us! We want to hear all about your journey!

I'm sorry I've not caught up with everyone, been at my sisters all day (felt her baby kick for the first time too which was cool! She's only got 6 weeks to go!) will catch up with everyone properly later! Hope everyone is good!

purplestar9 · 26/08/2018 16:42

@MrsReader congratulations! Loving this positive thread today!!

Welcome @babyxbee @Stormcloud0313 and @jq28 hope you're all well!

@FlapJackered I've heard of many people not getting their BFPs till a week after AF was due so you're definitely not out yet!

@Delilah7 not caught up with you for a while, how are you?

MrsT36 · 26/08/2018 16:47

Hi everyone,
This is my first time posting though I’ve read through lots of your posts today!!
Thought I’d say hi 👋🏼 And introduce myself;
I’m 30
TTC #1
Off the pill for 13 months
Cycle 1 trying this time (tried 4 cycles last year)
Cycle day 18
2 days P.O.
DH and I are back on trying after a break because last year the stress all got a bit much. It’s been so uplifting reading all your lovely posts and seeing all your BFP and happy news and join in with my TWW to keep sane!!! Xx

Delilah7 · 26/08/2018 16:55

@cupcakesandglitter me too. Feeling deflated. Went round OHs families and the baby talk started. Got home and cried :(

@CrystalBlaze if I'm honest no idea it's either 12th 13th or 14th. 😂😂😂 flo has changed a few times since I've added a few things.

@FlapJackered no cramps at all :( feeling ok. But up and down.

@ttcat32 thank you so much. Really means a lot xxx

@purplestar9 I'm ok how are you? Xxx

CrystalBlaze · 26/08/2018 17:04

Ah I'm sorry @Delilah7 that sounds rough. Are they all aware what you've been through or not?

@Flapjackered I blame myself for that one Wink Bad influence but also it wasn't fmu so you should do another one tomorrow

@Chaos sorry you're feeling crap! In what way are you suffering?

MrsReader · 26/08/2018 17:04

@chaosmoon he went to work about 30 mins after i told him, so I've no idea what he is thinking now haha. I'm out tonight so won't see him till much later. Probably best that way so he has time to get his head around it- I get the impression he was hoping we wouldn't be lucky first try 😬

MrsReader · 26/08/2018 17:05

@Delilah7 hugs for you, I really believe you will get that BFN very soon. Take care of yourself xx

CrystalBlaze · 26/08/2018 17:07

@MrsR my DP was blindsided and shocked for about a week and said he just didn't know how to process it but now he is more excited than me. We have a bit longer to come to get our heads round the idea with the 2ww but for them its a bit more of a shock maybe?

cupcakesandglitter · 26/08/2018 17:13

Oh @Delilah7 I'm so with you, it's so hard 😩 all we can do is try to keep our heads up. It'll happen when it's our time x

purplestar9 · 26/08/2018 17:14

@Delilah7 yeah I'm good thank you :) just waiting for AF. Due on Tuesday but been having cramps and back ache today which makes me think it's on it's way. But I usually get cramps and actual AF at the same time, not a couple of days before... who knows!!
I'm off work for the next week with DH so I'm either going to be distracted or not busy enough to distract me! But I can't test, DH his the tests! 🙈

Delilah7 · 26/08/2018 17:18

@CrystalBlaze no so I can't really say anything but it's just hard. I'm not jealous I just wish I could of said ' aww I'm 8 weeks today ' which I would of been :(

@MrsReader thank you I hope so xxx

@cupcakesandglitter yep it will, just hate the waiting game xxx

@purplestar9 good idea hiding the tests I'm going to have some gin!!! And try enjoy myself 😂 xxx

MrsReader · 26/08/2018 17:26

@CrystalBlaze yeah that's very true. He doesn't like change and takes time to adjust to things so I'll have to lay off the baby talk for a while! 😩

FlapJackered · 26/08/2018 17:42

@purplestar9 @Delilah7
I wish I had hidden the tests! 😂 next cycle I am getting DH to hide them all!

Delilah7 · 26/08/2018 17:47

@FlapJackered I know I'm defo not in this month so I just want my period to hurrrrrry up!!!! 😂

Crossfitgirl · 26/08/2018 17:49

Congratulations @mrsreader !! So happy on this thread right now! I'm glad you're sticking around :-)

@crystalblaze does 5+2 mean 5 weeks 2 days? Glad you are doing well!

@flapjackered my hopes are up for you now too! Specially with the temp rise! Keep us informed! When will you test again?
@neverstopexploring if you don't mind sharing I'm sure all the ladies on here would love to hear what the contraception nurse said - sounds like you got a good one!

Welcome newbies :-)
My DH keeps telling me off for being on my phone, and since I'm only 2 or 3 days away from ovulation I better get DTD so...
Check in with you all maybe after the bank holiday - less screen time more baby dancing!!

Xxxxx

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RobynC19 · 26/08/2018 18:28

TTC baby 1
Cycle 2
Age 26

Had one 75 cycle after coming off the pill now in my second cycle, cd 23 hoping for a bfp or at least a regular cycle this month

FlapJackered · 26/08/2018 18:40

@Crossfitgirl tomorrow of course! 😂 🙈 I really don't think it's going to be my cycle though. All that Italian food, wine and prosecco can't have resulted in a bfp.

ChaosMoon · 26/08/2018 18:40

@CrystalBlaze I'm lucky enough not to have been sick but con m constantly feel like I'm about to be. I'm spending most of the day with my head between my legs paying I won't vomit. The cramping is slightly better than it was, but that asking with the nausea gets arose as the day progresses, so by mid-afternoon I'm fit for nothing. But, I had a scan yesterday. (I'm 7 and 1, but following up on a scare a couple of weeks ago) We saw little more than I smudge with a heartbeat but my god did I get exited about that heart beat. Definitely makes it worth it. 😍

@MrsReader it's a shame that his reaction isn't the same as yours because of course you want to share that too. But it is totally natural and really doesn't mean a lot. He'll get there.

@FlapJackered @purplestar9 excited for both.

@Delilah7 that must have been really hard. Proud of you for getting through it. I hope you're spoiling yourself tonight.

Hugs and baby dust all round.

mrsof20118 · 26/08/2018 18:43

@jq28 same here! Still no sign of it yet! X

CrystalBlaze · 26/08/2018 19:01

That's so lovely @Chaos! And something tangible to make your feeling rotten all worth it.

Yes @Crossfitgirl 5 weeks two days Smile

NeverStopExploring · 26/08/2018 19:03

The summary of the information the nurse gave me is below (sorry if it’s long it’s 12 pages here!]

Folic acid should be taken ideally at least 1 month before ttc even if you have a good diet. It can also be found in spinach, broccoli, sprouts, green beans and potatoes. It says that if you have a higher risk of having a child with a spinal cord problem you may need a higher does. It does include in the list BMI of 30+, sickle cell anemia, medication for epilepsy, coeliac disease or diabetes so if in doubt speak to your gp!

Vit D - needed for growth. Recommended for all pregnant women and breastfeeding women. Oily fish, eggs, meat and some fortified margarine and breakfast cereal have vit d.

Alcohol, smoking and drugs is a pretty standard no, no and no where possible

Overweight and obesity - encourage to lose weight as can be higher risk and the ideal BMI is 18.5- 24.9 in preparation

Healthy balance diet - same guidance as nhs would give everyone. One third of most meals should be starch based such as bread, cereals, rice, pasta, potatoes but opt for wholewheat where possible. Eat fruit and vegetables and some protein each day fr9m sources such as pulses, chicken, fish. Try to include foods with plenty of iron, calcium, folic acid as the baby will need nutrients from day 1.

Iron- found in red meat, pulses, dried fruit, green veg, fortified cereal
Calcium- milk, cheese, yoghurt (low fat usually has the same amount of calcium as regular)

Supplements- recommended folic acid and vit d as mentioned before but also consider iodine. It helps the development of the brain of the fetus. You need more than usual when pregnant and can come from milk, yoghurt, eggs and fish. Some salt also contains iodine but go careful with quantities of salt. So one worth considering if you don’t think you get enough from your diet.

Fish - in general is good for protein and nutrients. Aim to eat 2 portions per week (this I struggle with!) but be careful which fish as some have high mercury. Bad fish includes shark, marlin or swordfish and tuna should be limited to 3/4 tins a week 140g per can or two fresh tuna steaks 140g cooked or 170g raw. Do not eat raw fish or uncooked shellfish. You should have more than 2 portions of the following as they can contain chemicals from pollution ; oily fish including mackerel, sardines, salmon, trout and fresh tuna. Sea bream, sea bass, turbot, halibut, rock salmon or brown crab meat.

Avoid lots of vit A as large amounts can harm an unborn baby. Liver including liver pate and cod liver oil suppliments and any suppliments with vit A should be avoided.

listeria can cause miscarriage, still birth and infections so avoid undercooked meat and eggs (yolk should be solid and be cautious with mayo and mousse etc which may have raw egg), module ripened cheese such as camembert, Brie and blue Veined cheese (hard cheese and processed cottage cheese are safe), pates including veggie ones, raw or smoked fish, unpasteurised milk (goats cheese and milk is usually unpasteurised)

Caffeine - limit this to a maximum of 300mg a day (tragically this can be found in chocolate Sad )a rough guide says one mug instant coffee has 100 mg, brewed 140mg, tea 75 mg, 50g plain choc 50mg (milk choc has about half hooray) one can cola or energy drink 40mg

Stay clear of lambing season and cat poo if you suspect your pregnant and wash your hands after touching your feline friends

There is a bit about prescriptions but the overall advice is talk to your go before ttc.

The other recommendations are wear gloves when gardening to avoid some of the nasty germs that wouldn’t usually harm you but could a fetus. Wash salads and veg in case of contact with any cats, be extra vigilant on food poisoning, consider chicken pox vaccine if you haven’t had chicken pox before and consider hep b if you feel your at any risk. It recommends having your smear done before ttc if your due one as you can’t have one for 3 months after baby is born. See a doctor if you are in medication and consider your work environment. Gentle excercise is encouraged but if your planning a marathon or weight lifting speak to a professional! I hope some of this is useful. I was encouraged to change my diet accordingly so it became the norm before ttc and I have got better with the exception of fish which I’m not so keen on!

Littlemisssunshine86 · 26/08/2018 19:14

Congratulations everyone that have positive tests

cupcakesandglitter · 26/08/2018 19:34

@NeverStopExploring that's so helpful, thankyou! I've been eating more fish, just didn't know what is/isn't safe!

I've been forgetting to take folic acid everyday. Do you think I'd still be okay? Makes an alarm to remind me to take it every day!

NeverStopExploring · 26/08/2018 19:47

@cupcakesandglitter I’m glad it’s helpful. I found it really informative. Excercise I think depends on how active you are before pregnancy as well. I am not overly active so was advised get as in shape as possible and maintain steady excercise throughout as it’s suppose to make labour easier. Not convinced but going to start swimming regardless! It really made me think about my lifestyle!