TTC first baby... mega thread!

[Crossfitgirl]

For those of us TTC first baby, a continued thread for August 2018 :-) a place to share our new mummy journeys!

Does anyone here track their bbt? Would any of you mind sharing your charts with us please? And also, when the drop occurs at the end of the cycle, is this after AF starts or before? Sorry, I can't find much info online about what happens at the end of the cycle! Thanks!

@cupcakesandglitter I'm 40 and TTC for the first time, 5th month now. I've been feeling ovulation pains, sore boobs, all sorts of things I never knew happened! They were probably the before I just never noticed them :) xx

@purplestar9 here's an old one. Usually my temp drops just before I notice AF, last month after my bfp I stopped temping so AF was a surprise but when I checked it had gone down.

@CookieWaffle that's so cool!!! Wish I could check results online too xxx

@purplestar9 this is last months, so it dipped that morning and I started bleeding that day and properly the next day. So right before AF came

@CookieWaffle and @sunshine1987 thank you so much, that's so helpful!

I was expecting it to drop today as AF is due today but it stayed about the same and I've been getting some creamy/watery-ish CM today too which is also odd. I'm hoping this is all good signs!

Hi everyone! Hope all doing OK.
Still officially waiting until Sept/Oct to TTC, but have started not preventing it this month. Am on CD14. Been taking OPKs all bank holiday weekend twice a day as haven't got a clue when I ovulate still and want to be tracking it for when it all gets serious. Just got a basal thermometer in the post too to start using, see if that sheds any light at all.

But just wondering how you all go about doing OPKs during work hours. Do you sneak off to the loo with a container to pee in hidden up your sleeve?! Don't know how to do it subtly, also with leaving the stick somewhere for 10 mins!

@CookieWaffle I'm hoping that if I track them all properly then the next TWW I'll know which symptoms are normal for me :)

@Delilah7 you can check the graph on flo! Do you temp? X

@purplestar9 fingers crossed for you! x

@starkid I work from home most of the time so no advice about pee containers (our bathroom is littered with them 🙈) but you don't need to wait 10 minutes. Result normally comes through in a few minutes.

I actually prefer the clear blue ovulation tests though as you can use FMU so you wouldn't need to worry about doing it at work

@starkid I have a little pencil case (😂) at work that I have the pot and OPK's in that I keep in my drawer. Then I pretend I'm going to a meeting and take my pencil case and notepad with me and sit in the loo with my test lol. Else I just take the pencil case, put it back in my drawer and check the test in my drawer 10 minutes later 🤷🏻‍♀️

@cupcakesandglitter I don't Hun unfortunately xxx

@starkid welcome back hunny xx

@sunshine1987 that's genius, I'm going to have to come up with something like that!

@Louegg Oh that'll be useful, could at least use those in morning then the cheapies when I get home and at the weekend.

@delilah7 Hi, thank you :) I've been thinking about you xx

@starkid wwww thank you 😘

Hello everyone! Been less present lately (probably because the tww is over!) but still reading with interest.

Doing SMEP this month, so the sperming begins on Saturday!

@ValidUser, welcome back 👋 I hope you don't put your back out with all the SMEPing 🍀😉

@ValidUser i wish I had your stamina girl. We missed ya! X

I hope you can get to the bottom of what’s going on soon delilah it must be a nightmare to not know what your body is doing.

Welcome back valid and commiserations. SMEP seems fairly low demand in terms of the number of times to BD in one cycle but I have felt a bit stressed out by the pressure and was more than a little bit upset when we couldn’t do it on one of the days we ‘had’ to. I hope you fare better, it will be more fun than a syringe at any rate.

starkid I think the hormone that OPKS detect is stronger later in the day, I check when I get home at 5ish and tend to have a reliable result.

This is today’s OPK, it’s a stronger line than yesterday so I guess I’m going to Ov tomorrow which will be CD15 of a 27-28 day Cycle. AF is due on the 11th so I’m going to have to try really hard not to test 4days before then

Welcome back @ValidUser 😊

How are we all? I'm feeling good today except I've got back ache! AF is due today but no sign as of yet so I'm hoping that's a good sign along with the CM I've had the last couple of days. And my temp hasn't dropped either.
I'm off work this week with DH so we have painted our bedroom today and cleaned the house! Exciting times haha! And even better, bake off starts tonight!! 🍰🥧

@Patapouf thanks Hun! Get cracking ;) xx

Hey thanks for adding me, didn't even realise you had! (I'm useless!!)
I'm 29, married last year, TTC month 4, possible MC last month but I didn't actually test, just a very strange clot to go with a stranger AF! Currently 1dpo!! Very excited for this month, feeling very good and positive🤞🏻
(Just about to read the rest of the thread so sorry if I've missed anything from the weekend!) love and baby dust to all xx

@BabySquid hi darling welcome back ❤️

I haven't had time to catch up but just need a vent 😥
DH was too tired last night to DTD, I got my positive OPK yesterday so thought oh well, I'll ovulate today so just DTD today instead.
Tried this evening and he just said straight out no, he wasn't in the mood.
I have cried all evening since.
I was so happy when he said we could try this month, but it feels like since I told him this week was a good week, we DTD on Sunday then he's just said no since!

I know we won't be able to tomorrow, so that's it for this month. 1 lot of sex 3 days before ovulation.

I told him what had upset me and he seemed to just brush it off saying well I'm stressed and not in the mood, I don't want to do it if I'm not in the mood... I don't want it to feel like a chore.

Well then why did you agree to try? If we only ever had sex when we were in the mood, it'd be back to a handful of times a month!

He's just been a complete and utter arsehole about it now too.

I'm so upset.

@Crossfitgirl I'm so sorry Hun. Men can be complete arseholes when it comes to stuff we want. He knew how important this time in the cycle was so that must make you question things. Does with my OH too. We understand they're stressed but they don't always seem to get it or what we are bothered about. It's so sad to hear how upset you are. Don't go to bed upset or mad it's a horrible way to sleep ( or not sleep in my case ) ! We are here for you and go through the same struggles Hun. It's heartbreaking when they don't want to do it when we know it's most fertile. :( xxx

@delilah7 I just feel like we were on the same page and all of a sudden, he makes out like its just me that wants a baby, he doesnt expect me to give him sex on tap so how is this any different just cos hes not in the mood. Hes completely missed the point, and it makes me feel awful. Im out this month already- I don't even need the tww to tell me that.
I'm probably overreacting but I just don't want to be left like this every month. Just in the hands of when he's in the mood or not - I've definitely had to "try" to get myself in the mood - i mean bloody hell I'm rarely in the mood and most of the time it takes me a while but I can easily be made in the mood- why can't he try a little the same for me - especially when I've literally told him a couple days before it's my fertile week!

I even told him I ovulated today and this is our only chance now til next month. It's pointless cos it ain't gonna happen now anyway. I'm too upset .

Fucking men. Bloody ttc.

They don't realise we've been mentally ttc far longer than they have!

Feel like what's the bloody point in all these tests and temps and shit. Feel like chucking them all in the bloody bin!!