TTC after recurrent miscarriage - thread 3

[Miami81]

Hi all. Sorry I hadn't realised other thread was full.
Have tagged who I can remember.
Please add people in.
@AnneLovesGilbert @Labmum @Hopefulforourrainbow @zarala

I’m sorry to hear that FMU, will be thinking of you today xx

@Hopeful I also don’t like buying tests and would rather online it, mainly as recently I seem to be buying them to confirm I’m no longer pregnant and hate the idea of the shop assistant thinking that I’m buying it for an exciting reason

Oh @FuckMyUterus I'm sorry. Hopefully you get seen quickly and are cared for well. We are with you, giving you strength and holding your hand.
I have just been to the loo and gotten pinky peachy cm type discharge. I am constipated so am hoping that is all that is going on. Going out for the day with my sister for distraction. No pain so hopefully all is well.
Why does it have to be this hard for us? Makes me so mad sometimes.

Being monitored, no contractions, and baby's heartbeat is fine. Fetal medicine specialist is not available to scan me, and my partner is at home with my son, so I have refused termination today as I don't want to go through it alone. Going home at 12 if nothing has changed. Thank you so much for the support, it's hugely appreciated.

FMU I’m glad you were seen quickly. I’m sorry there were no real answers for you today. Miami have a nice day out, hopefully no more bleeds.

It's so frustrating how hard this is. Thinking of you all ❤

Thinking of you @FM xx
Hope things have settled down now @Miami x

Thank you. Have been speaking to a bereavement midwife and have made the decision that at the next scan, if baby isn't doing too badly I'm going to try and carry to term and donate his or her heart. Their lungs won't be much use, nor will anything else, but there's got to be a poorly baby out there somewhere that needs a heart.

I'd just love to gain something from this pregnancy other than a bit of dust that's no good to anyone but me and my partner.

Such a beautiful and incredible decision you've made xx

Thank you, I just can't bear the fact that they told me my babys heart is PERFECT, and it'll all be burned away to nothing when it could help someone else's child.

FMU I think that’s an amazing and incredibly brave thing to do xx

FMU what an increadible thing to do xxxx

Ive been away all weekend so have just been catching up. @FMU that's a truly incredible thing to do. You are one strong selfless lady. Huge hugs to you.

Can I ask did they pick it up at the 12 week scan? How did they find it if not from that?

Nothing at 12 week scan, no. They couldn't get baby's nuchal translucency measurements so I had to have a blood test called the quad screening test. This picked up high levels of a particular hormone, which triggered a detailed fetal medicine scan, which picked up all the problems.

@FuckMyUterus that is an incredible thing to even consider doing. I am sure that bereavement midwife will be able to signpost counselling etc that will help with both the practicalities but also the emotional toil involved in continuing your pregnancy for this very selfless reason.

Yeah miami81 that's what I'd imagine would be her role. It'd be so hard, but not as hard as just having to end the pregnancy having gained fuck all from it. That's gonna near on destroy me if the baby isn't in a good enough state to continue the pregnancy.

FMU that's incredibly thoughtful and brave; if you can go ahead with it I really hope it brings comfort to you and your family.

Wow what an incredibly brave, amazing thing to do. Have been thinking of you.
How are you @Miami? Hope the spotting has settled.

FMU I’m in awe of what an amazing and selfless thing you are considering.
@miami I hope everything has settled down and you enjoyed your day out

Hi ladies, I was wondering if I might join you? It sounds like you've all had a really tough time reading through the last few pages. FMU that sounds like such a huge gift to give another family, I hope that you get a chance to do that and that you get to make the decisions that feel right for you.

I've had 2 mmc this year, paid for some private tests which as the doctor said suggest I have 'a bit of an autoimmune profile' that raises my chances of future miscarriages, but not anything clear enough to treat with anything other than aspirin and happy thoughts next time I'm pregnant. So that's really encouraging. I just found out that yet another friend who has been trying for less time than me is pregnant, to nicely complement the pregnant lady I sit next to at work, so I'm about ready to tear my hair out. Sorry for coming on here and ranting.

Bled torrentially overnight. Waiting for epau to open. Passed something massive though so sure it’s over.

Oh @bean! Keeping everything crossed for you and thinking of you xx

There’s just no way it can be ok. It’s so heavy.

It's so shit 😢 I'm sorry hun. It's just not fair xx

Oh @beanhunter thinking of you and hoping you can get to EPU and get some answers.

@bean thinking of you.
Hi @oddsbobbins rant away! That's what we're here for