TTC after recurrent miscarriage - thread 3

[Miami81]

Hi all. Sorry I hadn't realised other thread was full.
Have tagged who I can remember.
Please add people in.
@AnneLovesGilbert @Labmum @Hopefulforourrainbow @zarala

Ladies can I join in please? I am currently 17 weeks pregnant, however baby has lots and lots of issues, so I won't be pregnant for very much longer unfortunately and need a place to chat where my words won't upset anyone else :(

Oh @fuckmyuterus I'm so sorry!!
I hope we can give you as much support as possible.
What is wrong with baby? Tell us as much or as little as you want xx

Hello @fuckmyuterus and welcome. Please chat away. I hope we can help support you xx

Thank you.
Baby (don't know if it's a boy or a girl yet) has barely a trickle of fluid around them, which is causing severe growth restriction, and compression of the head/brain.
Baby also has possibly no bladder, possibly an incomplete stomach, and definitely no left kidney. Right kidney consists of just cysts and therefore has no function. On top of this, they suspect downs syndrome too. I have a rescan in 2 weeks to confirm all this (to cover the hospitals arse) and then I have to have a termination. I'm just so angry, upset and confused all in one, and it's leaving me emotionally exhausted.

Oh hun I am so so sorry you are going through this and can't even imagine how you are feeling. Did they pick any of this up at previous scans?
I hope you have a supportive network around you. Is this your first or do you have any other little ones?xx

Oh god how awful. So sorry to hear you're going through this. Can they not scan you sooner than 2 weeks?

Yes, I have a 7yr old son already, they'd picked up small issues at a previous scan but nothing major.

No, they need to wait 2 weeks apparently which is really really shit.

That's really shit they're making you wait so long. Such a horrible and worrying time for you all 💔

FMU I’m so sorry you are going through all this, and hope you are surrounded by supportive people right now. Have you been in touch with ARC?

Oh FuckMyUterus I can’t believe it. We’ve been following each other around these boards for years and I can’t believe this is happening to you.

When did you find out?

We’re all here for you, please rant and rave and share anything you want my love. I don’t know what to say but I’m listening anytime x

I've not been in touch with anyone really. I'll look them up when my head stops spinning and reeling.
anne I know :( found out on Wednesday, 3 months to the day from my BFP. How are you, how's your pregnancy going?

@fuckmyuterus I’m so sorry that you find yourself here and what a completely shit time this is for you, I can’t begin to imagine how you’re feeling but feel free to say whatever you want here if it helps you.
@munchies that’s positive that the cramps have gone, 9 days must feel like a long time away at the moment. My appointment is on Thursday, I’ve stepped away from google now and trying not overanalyse everything. I think my hubby will be ok with a break, he’s always said it’s my body and he’ll support any decision I make, he’s had an incredibly difficult year and is dealing with ptsd after experiencing something quite horrific so I think that having a break could be good for both of us, at least until our rmc appointment which should be in a couple of months.

Alright thank you FMU. I’m so so sorry for what you’re going through

Anyway you can get your repeat scan before 2 weeks?

Thank you anne it's so shit, but just one of those things I suppose. God hate that phrase but it's true.

The repeat scan needs to be a couple of weeks away so that hopefully baby is a little bigger so they can 100% confirm their findings.

Can you get some time off work to just focus on doing anything and everything to look after and distract yourself? I wish there was anything any of us could say to help. Please keep talking, we’re all here for you x

I'm not working at the moment as I got let go shortly after I told work I was pregnant. Although maybe it was a blessing in disguise as I couldn't work at the moment, I'm all over the place.

Hi @Munchies89 no worries 🙂 it's nice to chat to you girls. Xx

Hey there - can I join please?

I've started ttc #2 again following a bit of a break.

I have a 4 year old DD but had 2 mc's prior to her and a third when she was 2 - all within the 5/6 week window.

Been trying on and off for about a year and a half with no luck which is dishearting as previously I always conceived first time but just couldn't stay pregnant, this time, I can't seem to get pregnant.

I'm trying to not get too fixed on it this time - tried using OPK sticks etc last time and it did become a bit of a fixation so just trying to relax, track my cycles using the app and dtd on the right days. Been taking vitamin B tablets as I read somewhere that can help although they were never able to get to the bottom of the cause of my mc's with nothing showing up in the tests - I was told I'd just been unlucky.

I'm 37 later this year and I've had to start thinking about my hard deadline - I have no issue with women in their 40's having kids but I found it knackering at 33 never mind in my 40's!

Lovely to see some positive stories on here :)

Hi @jingle bells I think most of us here have been told we're unlucky! Surely it's about time our luck changed! Sorry you've found yourself here too x

Good morning ladies. Hope you're all doing ok. I'm still having that strange spotting. That's 7 days of it now. Pinky/brown colour accompanied by AF type cramps and occasional sore boobs. I usually get sore boobs before AF. AF due tomorrow-Thurs ish though a couple of months ago was 5 days late. Really hoping it starts before we go away on Saturday. I've had spotting before but usually when I ovulate and have had implantation bleeding before but it wasn't like this either. Worrying won't be helping I know! The thought of being pregnant on holiday terrifies me especially after last one being ectopic.

That sounds strange @hopeful, have you tested? Fingers crossed AF is about to make herself known. Since yesterday I’ve also been spotting although I’m not due on until Friday or Saturday, I wondered if I could be implantation bleeding but when I’ve had that before it’s been a tiny speck of blood when I’ve wiped whereas this is more. All very confusing!

It's all very strange. I tested with a cb digital yesterday and it was negative. I've bought a FRER online but it's not due to arrive til Thurs. I should maybe just stop and get one on my wa home from work tonight. I hate buying them in shops in case someone sees me 🙊 I've never wanted my period to start so much in my life before lol. Seems strange when wanting a baby so much. Just not this month! Hope you get your bfp!

Well I've woken this morning to sharp pains in my stomach, and when I went to the toilet, my plug has come away, so going to get dressed and go into triage at the maternity unit :(

Think of you FMU xx

I keep meaning to post and hopefully join you all on this thread, but haven't quite worked out what I'm saying yet... But I've been reading everything in the last week or so, and I really just wanted to say I'm so sorry FMU. This must be so horribly hard. I know there's not really anything anyone
can say, but I'm thinking of you and I'm sure lots of others are too. Hope you're well looked after today xx