TTC after recurrent miscarriage - thread 3

[Miami81]

Hi all. Sorry I hadn't realised other thread was full.
Have tagged who I can remember.
Please add people in.
@AnneLovesGilbert @Labmum @Hopefulforourrainbow @zarala

@MissPMA, no one can blame you for being cautious but so far so positive and you must cling to that!

I think it’s pretty rare to have a positive scan with a healthy HB and then for it to go tits up.

That's fab news @misspma. Hubby and I haven't been feeling well this week which isn't good for fertile week. Hoping I've ovulated already as there was a lot of holiday sex! Haven't been tracking at all this cycle which is stressing me out a bit! So used to peeing on sticks and putting every detail in my ovia app!

Glad you've had a good scan @MissPMA though I understand that you're still worried, sending you lots of hopeful thoughts over the next few weeks. Welcome back hopeful, I'm so glad you had a fun holiday and a break from recording everything, and fingers crossed the rest and relaxation will do the trick!

I'm sorry to see some new faces on here, but welcome, this is such a supportive group to be part of.

I've taken a bit of time out to try to clear my head, getting my rmc referral through sent me to quite a dark place but I think I'm starting to come through it. I don't have the appointment until late November, then follow up bloods and a meeting with a consultant at the end of January. It feels like ages to wait to TTC, but the tiny sane bit left of my brain knows that I really do need to take a break as I don't think DH or I could cope with another miscarriage in the next few months.

I think the break has done us good emotionally and physically. I have a follow up appointment next week though not expecting much to come from it!

Well, I’m a day late. Probably another horrible trick of Mother Nature.

We went to pick DSD up earlier and I was feeling pretty nauseous, have been a bit recently but that certainly isn’t unusual for me, especially at this time of month. Anyway I was sat there feeling like I was going to vom anda rainbow appeared. Like to think I I as a sign that we’d get our rainbow soon, absolute load of superstitious bull shit of course but god LOVES a trier!

🤞I'd be thinking the same!

What a f*ing day! Baby shower this afternoon which I had psyched myself up for and had a good laugh. Two baby bombs which came out of the blue and you know what pisses me off more? People thinking they have to tiptoe around me and make a big deal of telling me. I get that they're trying not to hurt my feelings but omg it's so much worse this way! Having a large glass of vino. Would have been a bottle but unfortunately I'm working tomorrow! Hope you're all well and having a nice weekend.

@hopeful that's rubbish, I'm sorry about the baby bombs. I wonder why they felt the need to announce at someone else's baby shower? Nicer to let the Mum To Be have her moment (although I personally hate baby showers!).
I prefer to be told that information by text so I can compose a nice reply and cry in peace over some chocolate rather than have to worry about what my face is saying as well as my mouth! Enjoy that wine lovely.

They didn't announce at baby shower. One told me en route to baby shower and the other sent me a text while there. I'd much rather find out like everyone else though and for them not to make a big deal out of it. I'm not a fan of baby showers either though one of my best friends so had to go.

Ahh @Hopeful, that’s a bit shit and I also agree with above poster regarding the hijacking of the baby shower (plus the fact that I too dislike them). Babies nowadays have a gender reveal party, baby shower, so there’s a gift, their actual birth, there’s another gift and then to top it all off, they have a bloody christening a couple of months later which sets you back an outfit and yet ANOTHER gift! All so showy and not the reason we have babies!!

Well, 2 days late now. Awful period pains though so I’m pretty certain that the witch is on her way anyway, we’ll see. Certainly not testing until I’m a week or two late because I’ll end up obsessing over that too!

It's not over until she arrives!
Haha I know. So many bloody celebrations!
Sorry I didn't word my post well. Was 3 separate things today! 1st announcement en route to baby shower, baby shower and then a text from another friend. All just on the same day!

Oh that sounds crap @hopeful and all in one day too. I’m also not a fan of baby showers either so I’m sorry you had all that going on.
Good to hear from you @oddsbobbins, glad to hear you are coming through the other side. For what it’s worth I think you’re being very sensible and strong having a break, I felt that the only thing that would help me feel better was getting pregnant again but having careened blindly from pregnancy to pregnancy I’ve never given myself time to get back to being me, or just enjoy time with my hubby. Must be such a mixture of emotions getting your appointment through but it’s a very important step towards getting that rainbow.
Oh boo @nonnathouse that’s annoying you think af is on the way, you’re not out of it yet though, I’m impressed you’ve not tested!

@MissPMA, I’m impressed too! I was the OP of the thread where I was obsessively testing a few months ago. Have namechanged since then though.

Still no AF. Feeling verrryyy apprehensive about what’s to come. I don’t feel I’m ready for another pregnancy just yet, will be surprised if it’s happened so quickly after the ERPC as it took us 2.5 years to conceive that baby. Very crampy at the moment. Having a few other symptoms but I think it’s just my mind on overdrive.
Gosh I’m so messed up about this whole thing, I want to be and I don’t at the same time.
I wish we could just bypass the first trimester!!

Hello, can I join you ladies?
I'm 31 and have had 2 miscarriages one in January and one in June. No children currently. Partner and I are on 3rd cycle of ttc and between still getting over the grief of what happened, worrying there's something wrong with me and the usual mental ness that accompanies ttc I thought I'd look to some people who understand?
Would really welcome some words of wisdom.xx

Hi @elderflower. Sorry you've found yourself here. Its a lovely supportive group, hope we can help you.

@moonpeace your story sounds very similar to mine.
I too conceived very quickly with my DD and had a super smooth, ‘textbook’ pregnancy and also a healthy early scan (also due to spotting) at 7 weeks then a MC at 9+3.

If you get the chance to have a flick through on here there are some amazingly positive stories which give us all hope. And if it rests your mind a bit, I think many women have chemical pregnancies but just don’t realise and put it down to their period being a wee bit late (so stats are lower than they actually are)
I’m currently 3 days late and very nauseous and instead of being overjoyed at the concept of being pregnant I’m terrified. I didn’t think it would happen so quickly after my M/C and ERPC in June. It took us 2.5 years to conceive that baby. We think it was down to slapped cheek but will never know for sure.

I’m 25 so still pretty young but my partner is 39, I don’t know if that makes a difference or not!

@elderflower and @moonpeace I'm sorry you both find yourselves here.

@moonpeace I totally understand seeing the potential age gap get bigger and the sadness and pressure that can put on you. Have you been referred to the recurrent miscarriage team? Here if you are over 35 they will refer you after 2. Take care lovely, through the pain of the losses I just hung onto how precious my DS was and hugged him a little tighter saying to myself a little mantra "if I only get you, you are enough"!.

Hi I hope this is ok - i posted this as a thread on the main page but figured here might get some responses...

I'm currently having my 5th Miscarriage and its shit.

I had 3 in the space of a year back in 13/14 and was prescribed Cyclogest and low dose Aspirin by my consultant which resulted in me having my DS who is now 3.5. I had another MC when he was 6months old and that was on the progesterone and i've just had another at 6 weeks, again, on the progesterone.

I'm just so sick of it. The emotional rollercoaster. The lack of positivity now RE the progesterone which I once thought was my lucky charm now just seems like a massive joke but I wouldnt even consider not using it now JUST in case.

Its a huge headfuck.

Is anyone else in this position / has been in it?? I am going to ask my GP to refer me back to the consultant but of course I cant get an appt for a month. sigh.

I want to start TTC again straight away. Am i mad? Is there any hope for us? Am i being stupid to think I can do this however many times again?

This is a bit of a brain dump, sorry. I just want to speak to people who've been there / had success. What else can i try?

Hi can I join? Ive just lost another baby this weekend :-( actually a bit relieved as they thought it was ectopic. Had a nightmare trying to get a sick note, hospital said they wouldn't do one for my 'situation' whatever the hell that means! Maybe because I was only six weeks they think I should just crack on. Still don't really know what's going on. I lost another baby at 13 weeks in may so had a lot of hopes pinned on this one. It seems to only take us a month to conceive but holding onto the baby is another thing :-(

Once more, unto the beach, dear ladies. I tested today and I’m pregnant. So scared.

Hi.

May I join? Currently experiencing my second MMC this year. Despite the heartache and agony I desperately want to be a mom.

I'm 39
TTC#1
MMC 1 discovered March 2018 (should've been 9 weeks, Bean measured 6 at 3.1mm) took months to resolve-finally stopped bleeding in June.
MMC 2 discovered last week. Should've been 8+6, but again my Bow was just 6 weeks-got a day further than Bean-measured 4.2mm.

I'm currently waiting for the inevitable to happen. Hoping my useless body will be kinder this time and let go before I have to go back for the confirmation scan a week tomorrow and medical management.

I know I don't fit the technical definition of recurrent yet, but I can't bear the thought of going through this again. I need answers, even if it's ruling stuff out.

Has anyone been referred after two miscarriages? I'm hoping my age may help me in that. What tests has everyone had? I've been looking at sticky blood/thrombophilia tests, hormone and egg reserve, genetic...there's just so many.

One of my biggest regrets is not taking baby aspirin this time. I felt in my gut last time it was blood issue (family history) but trusted medics that it was "bad luck" and followed their advice not to take it...are any of you guys taking it?

Wow congrats @nonnatushouse. Will keep everything crossed for you and remember we're here for you. I conceived fairly quickly after my cycle got back on track after mmc. I mc again but had shingles so blame that.

Wow lots of new people! Sorry you've all found yourselves here too. We will help in any way we can. If you're in UK, 39 and have had 2 mc you should be eligible for referral.