TTC after recurrent miscarriage - thread 3

[Miami81]

Hi all. Sorry I hadn't realised other thread was full.
Have tagged who I can remember.
Please add people in.
@AnneLovesGilbert @Labmum @Hopefulforourrainbow @zarala

@WishingonaStar77

The last couple of days have been a bit like a period with cramping but today is worst much heavier bleeding and this afternoon the cramping is very frequent and more intense pain. Passing more today for sure.

@funnybunnyfluff i don't know how far gone you were in your pregnancy or how regular your periods were before but sounds like it's progressing so I don't think you'll be still bleeding for 2-3 weeks. More like another week max.
Hope it's over for you soon though so you can move on and start to heal xx

@funnybunnyfluff and @wishingonastar77 so sorry you both find yourselves here. @fluff I've found with all mine that it builds up to a day or so of intense cramping and passing lots of clots, flooding maternity pads and then will gradually ease off so there's no cramping, just more normal period type bleeding. In two of mine my waters have "gone" and I passed the foetus before passing the rest of the clots so it's been quite obvious. Mine all were MMCs at 10-12 weeks where baby stopped growing at 8-9weeks. I've always waited for a normal period after just so I have peace of mind that all is back to normal. Not everyone does though.
Hole up with some box sets and chocolate and be kind to yourself lovely.

@wishingonastar77 are you getting a referral to the recurrent miscarriage clinic? So sorry to hear of your losses.

@Labmum thank you. Yes I have my appointment in October but I've already paid privately for some blood tests to rule out APS and thrombosis.
Only thing that came back was Thrombosis Gene MTHFT variant. I wasn't advised I'd this has any impact on MC but reading up on this there is mixed opinion. I'll discuss with my consultant to see their opinion.
But I have an appointment to start acupuncture next week as I've heard great things about egg quality improvement with this x

@Labmum thank you so much for your information. My cramping in the last hour or so has been constant and the bleeding/clots are getting worst.
I'm just seating on the loo as i feel more comfortable.

Did you find at night it eases off the last two nights been hardly nothing until o get up I'm hoping tonight might be the same.

@funnybunnyfluff it sounds like you're hitting the peak. Try take in plenty of fluids. Hopefully the cramping and bleeding will start to ease so you can try get a decent night's sleep.

@wishingonastar77 I know @AnneLovesGilbert is a fan of acupuncture, it's not something I've tried but it's really common on the TTC boards. Good you've got some test results already, hopefully at you're appointment in October you can discuss it all and make a plan going forward. In the meantime the ladies here are all lovely and "get it" so vent/offload away.

Hello!
I’m catching up on the thread! Sorry to find yourselves on here newscomers, it’s awful.

Massive congratulations @Miami81 @AnneLovesGilbert @Labmum - it’s is so, so lovely reading about your scans and progressing pregnancies! Time seems to be flying by I can’t believe you are all past 12 weeks now, amazing!

@Munchies89 I’m so unbelievably sorry, it’s utterly shit and unfair. I hope that you are being kind to yourself. Thinking of you. @TaysN let us know how you are - have you had any early scans yet?

@Hopefulforarainbow - your holiday sounds amazing, I am very jealous! I chuckled when Anne told you bugger off and enjoy yourself Enjoy the FW coming up

I’m okay here - sorry I’ve gone AWOL - I needed a proper break from everything. It’s been a month since last mc, but feeling like I can take part again. After last month (4th mc for the newcomers) I’ve had 2 counselling sessions (so far) which have been helpful to get everything off my chest. She’s very kind and is helping me see that it’s not my fault. I’m starting to cautiously feel better, but still have up and down days.

The gp has referred me to the rmc at local hospital, but there is a 2-3 month wait list. I have since found out that it is a gyne clinic which covers rmc. The ‘proper’ rmc in my area is Liverpool Women’s but you only get a referral there after testing locally.

It might be a 6 - 9 month long haul but we’ve decided that we are definitely taking a ttc break until the new year, which is probably best as I still have very low moments.

I bought a couple of books on miscarriage, so reading those so I can understand a bit of the language for when we get referred.
I’m finding it depressing reading tbh, so I dip in and out! I never thought it would get to this, but there we are it’s best to embrace it!

I’ll probably remain quiet on the thread and check in every now and again - I’m happy to support anyone who needs it!

You are all an amazing (overused word) group of woman who have been so generous with your knowledge. I love the concept of contributing to research. Too much is still unknown - I’ll keep an eye out in my own area!

Take care ladies xx

Hey that's me home and suffering big time from jet lag! Have zero motivation but have a mountain of washing and no food in the cupboards so need to go shopping and get organised for going back to work. It's such a thought! Had a lovely 2 weeks in the sun. Was so nice to spend time with hubby. Don't know if I've ovulated yet this cycle or not. I guess time will tell!
How are you all doing? Nice to hear from you @curly. Keep in touch. Welcome to the new girls. Sorry you've found yourselves here. I've got a baby shower to go to next weekend. Dreading it but it's a close friend so have to go. She has same due date as I would have had for 2nd mc 😭

Hi girls, hope you're ok, having a lovely holiday with hubby and son. Can I ask can you have a period twice in a month? I'm trying to work out my cycle length and put it in a calculator and it said 23 days. Last night only the tiniest pinprick of light pink was on the tissue like literally 1 or 2 nothing this morning, my boobs are a bit tender, I know this can indicate ovulation, possible preggo or af. Haven't brought any tests with me cause I'm trying to hold off until at least the end of the month. X

LADIES!!!
Had my Fetal Medicine scan today, and they've found the elusive left kidney. It looks to be perfectly healthy too! Booked in for amniocentesis to check baby's growth restriction isn't due to a genetic or chromosomal abnormality as she has quite a few markers for Edwards syndrome, but if that comes back clear, we have a healthy baby :)

Oh my word @Ironytheoppositeofwrinkly absolutely everything crossed for you and your wee girl. You are one tough mama. How long is the next wait?

Popping back in to these threads - I used to post here a lot before I got pregnant with my DD - and just wanted to say how happy I am to see so many of you with good news, especially @AnneLovesGilbert and @Miami81 who I remember from my time here. So pleased - congratulations ladies.

Not sure miami81 they're gonna ring me tomorrow with day and time. I feel fizzy from this roller-coaster ride already :')

@irony I’m so happy to read your update. I know there’s a long way to go but I’m so pleased there’s some hope restored xx

@irony that's wonderful news! Got everything crossed for you!

Amazing news @irony! Will keep everything crossed for you

Hi ladies, new here but have had a quick scan through the thread . . . Wow, what an absolute rollercoaster some of you have been on!

@Irony I have everything crossed for you, utterly amazing!!

I’ve had 3 M/C, 1 at 5+4, 2 at 6+5 and 3 at 9+3. I’ve been incredibly lucky to have had a very healthy DD between M/C’s 1&2. The last M/C was particularly traumatic as it was a MMC after being told that all was well at 7+1 after a scan which showed a healthy HB. Ended up having an ERPC. That was 3 months ago now. I think it could’ve been down to slapped cheek as a couple of weeks later, DD came out in a rash all over her cheeks and arms. Obviously we have no way of knowing though.

I so want to have another baby but I’m so shit scared of falling pregnant again.

Hey @nonnatushouse. I know the shit scared feeling very well! This group has been a great support so hopefully we'll be able to help you get through whatever you decide

Hi @nonnatus house your story sounds very similar to mine. One MC before my DS and two after. Currently 19 weeks. I fell whilst waiting for my RMC referral. Have you been referred for investigations? The ladies here are so supportive so feel free to offload on them. We all get it. Take care and sorry you find yourself here, it's a shitty situation but I'm sure like me your DD gets you through the dark days. I had a little mantra that I would say to him whilst putting him to bed. "If I only get you, you are enough!".

Oh yes, after what we’ve been through and seeing what others have been through, we feel very lucky to have DD.

@Labmum that’s lovely to hear that you’re almos half way! No, I haven’t been referred yet as they say I need to have 3 consecutively to have any investigations.

My doctor said that if I had been in contact with the slapped cheek virus and not already had immunity then that could well be why we miscarried this time, especially after having such a good scan at 7 weeks.

@nonnatushouse I managed to bypass that criteria and be referred. I'm also getting extra monitoring in this pregnancy (before 12 weeks through RMC and after with the recurrent miscarriage obstetric team) so it could be worth pushing them on it. Unfortunately all mine were MMCs between 10-12 weeks where baby stopped developing at 8-9weeks. In the third we had also seen a heartbeat at 7 weeks but given the point where they stopped I suspect that would have been the case in all of my miscarriages if I'd had early scans.

Hi all
@irony that is wonderful news, what a rollercoaster you are on, you and your little one are two strong ladies and I’m keeping everything crossed for your next steps.
@hopeful great to hear you had a lovely holiday and enjoyed time with your hubby, Fingers crossed for ov.
I have my scan tomorrow, should be just under 7 weeks I think and am bricking it, I would quite happily continue not knowing, at least that way I could have hope that all is ok whereas I’m not sure how I’ll cope with bad news. The spotting has stopped although I’m putting that down to the cyclogest and I have been having absolutely terrible nausea and sickness, I’m hardly able to eat or drink which makes work, and life in general, difficult which Is pretty crap but at least when I’m puking it does distract my thoughts from tomorrow!

@MissPMA thinking of you today x

Thanks @nonnatushouse, I’m sorry that you find yourself here, it sounds like you’ve had a rough time and the Mmc must have been incredibly difficult after a positive scan, I’m not surprised you’re shit scared. Do you think you will try asking for referral to the rmc?
The scan showed a healthy bean at 6+5 days, I’m sure anyone seeing us after would have thought from our faces that we’d had bad news, It’s such a strange feeling not to be excited and of course I am happy that we’ve had the best possible outcome but we’re both very nervous about the next few weeks, the midwife was encouraging me to get my booking appointment and 12 week scan booked but there’s no way I’m doing that for a while