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@Delilah7 @daisiesandpeonies @Crossfitgirl

Ingenious coming up with an app and charging people when it only has to guess between two choices. The owner must be rich! I just can’t see how it could be anything other than guess work. @Crossfitgirl sorry to hear your having a bad day. Maybe take a backseat with the house search and leave him to find the properties for a bit? May make him realise a compromise is needed?

@NeverStopExploring I know a lot of people who bought into the theory this app is based on around when to have sex during fertile period to conceive a boy or girl

@Crossfitgirl we've got your back. Sending a back-achey hug from afar. X

@Crossfitgirl like others have said we are here for you. Make sure you spoil yourself today x

@FlapJackered definitely!! I've had the "aching ovaries" too! All it takes is seeing a baby and *bam! Swear I must look like a right weirdo when I coo stupidly over a baby ina supermarket! 😂

Thank you @Patapouf (and everyone else) for your kind words. I'm feeling so much better today 😘 fingers crossed for your BFP this month x

So sorry about your bad day @Crossfitgirl hugs
I know exactly where you are coming from and it's so hard - and definitely not trivial at all. I swear emotions are so much more sensitive/heightened when TTC.
I know how frustrating it is when you think you have DTD on the right time each month - we've been doing exactly that for most of our TTC journey, but so far just been unlucky as I know there is still only a 25% chance of success even with perfectly timed baby dancing.
I'm keeping my fingers crossed you that it's not your AF coming but, as you say, an implantation bleed...wishing you lots of love and luck x

Sorry I've been AWOL ladies have been away this weekend. Like @MrsM2017 I got some pregnancy news on Friday night from a family friend, delighted for her, but it took so much effort to be like "yaaayyy" when I'm soooo jealous it's unreal. Doesn't help when my mum was then joking with her mum about how I'm keeping her waiting for a grandchild... Wanted to scream!
We then went to spend the weekend with some friends of ours and another couple, none of us have kids. We all got absolutely HAMMERED last night which I'm sort of regretting now, my poor head 😂 Really needed a fun night with no baby chat though.
I'm CD 19 and no positive OTK yet. Am convinced something is wrong as Clue says I should be fertile by now. Worried that this cycle will break my 40 day record. We are managing to DTD - even very drunkenly last night - but I have no idea what my body is doing tbh.
@Crossfitgirl sorry you had a rubbish day, we are all here for you to vent. I had so many rows about houses with my husband if it's any consolation, it all felt worth it when we found the perfect place ❤️

@Crossfitgirl - sorry you're having a rubbish day. It can be frustrating when the OHs make things more difficult at a time when you want them to make things easier and be more supportive! My DH is the same, he initiated sex this morning after I have told him i don't think I am fertile atm. I do wonder if it's a bit to do with the pressure of Dtd around ovulation makes them want it less, bloody annoying though!
I haven't had the joy of house hunting with DH yet as he moved in with me a while ago, but I am sure it will be a nightmare when we do as we have such different priorities.

@MrsM2017 - that stat is just not high enough! I feel like if you hit the nail on the head with timing it just before ovulation it should be at least 80% - 25% is just mean!😂

@daisiesandpeonies - when you hear stories on other threads it is often when they went out and got hammered that they actually conceived, so you never know! I am testing that theory this week 😂.
I am with you on the long cycle this time, day 23 and still no sign of ovulation - cervix is low and no cm. bah! Gin it is! 🍸

Ps @Crossfitgirl - maybe it is implantation bleeding? 🤞🏻 have you tested just to make sure?

I also have been given news of a friend who is pregnant with her second child, it does kind of make you feel jealous, but of course I'm happy for her and she doesn't know we're TTC.
I've just told DH that he is to hide the pregnancy tests and only to allow me to have them when AF is late, I'm determined to not test early this cycle! Haha 🙈

Thanks everyone for all your lovely words and support, it helps so much having friends on here who understand, it really means a lot to me that you've all taken the time to respond, it has really made me feel lots better. Im definitely massively hormonal and sensitive today, so Thank you 💕

@delilah7 it's so funny, I always had a low sex drive too and when we first got together and he was the one wanting more! Now the tables have turned!

And yes they always want it at the wrong time, fertile window is long gone! But I guess it's still important to do it just because you want to, as well as for a baby. Just not AS important... 😏

I haven't tested, I'm only 8dpo today, even though AF is due tomorrow, so I'm just going to wait. I only have ICs, so can't do a FRER. The spotting actually seems to have settled down, but I am awaiting the full flow tomorrow. Ill keep you posted if I do decide to test!

I had gin and chocolate earlier (nieces bday party!) and some retail therapy - I'm looking at BBT thermometers - can anyone recommend which brand / link to the one you use? I'd rather buy tried and tested!

Also, I agree with getting hammered. We always have better sex when we're drunk! And it's mainly cos DH lasts a bit longer 😂😂

@daisiesandpeonies don't forget, the apps do just estimate. As soon as I put my ov date into clue, it extended my cycle by another week, despite me being regular since coming off the pill. And it still estimates my ov date a week earlier than my test showed, even though it's meant to update the accuracy when you put that sort of info in. Don't let it get you down, go with what you know, your symptoms, tests etc xxx

@purplestar great idea :-) I didn't have any in the house at all so that I would have to go out and buy one if AF didn't show up on due date, meaning I could only then test the next morning with fmu. I only have some in as I was a day late last cycle, so bought a pack of 3 cheapies from the supermarket.
Even if I use one of those, I'm not sure I trust them so I'd have to go get a clear blue to confirm it anyway! Lol

I think it's so much better to wait and know it's a reliable test xx

crossfit sometimes a good cry really does do wonders

Pleased to hear you are feeling better mrsm!

I’ve been wondering about hormones during the tww, if it is generally accepted that it isn’t possible to experience pregnancy symptoms during this time, are the ‘sypmtoms’ causes by the usual pms hormones? Why would our bodies still produce these if implantation hasn’t occurred? Does that hormone play a role in implantation?

Goodness knows @Patapouf but I'd like to know that too as I've been symptom spotting (after promising myself I wouldn't...!)

Been super tired and been having bubbly feeling one minute in my uterus and then almost like period twinges (but not painful). It's a good 8 or 9 days til AF is due so can be that?!

@Crossfitgirl DH has hidden them now, don't want to waste a test if I don't need to! Haha. I think it's better to wait, I just don't necessarily have the willpower!

Haha I am loving the hiding of pregnancy tests! I have so far managed to hold out but am only 8dpo so that's not really an achievement!

Had weird twingey cramps all day yesterday and feel quite tired but otherwise normal. Going to try and hold out until the weekend if AF doesn't arrive before then.

Also is it just me or does anyone else think there's a slight hint of autumn in the air? I love autumn

Morning ladies.

I might have to come off here for abit, unsure of how I feel. I feel you guys are having such positive experiences and normally post positive things and every time I post it's just negative and not ignored but hard to respond to. 😔 xx

@Delilah7 do whatever you think is best for you and how you feel but please don't think you are being negative. It's totally understandable to be a bit wobbly and don't feel like you have to be cheerful when you feel sad.

Everyone is here for you whatever you decide

@CrystalBlaze I guess I just find it abit hard. I used to be so positive and manage to continue conversations with everyone. Whereas now I feel it's so negative what I post and I understand why people don't respond to that 😂😂

We would miss you if you left! I know sometimes people miss things if they are skim reading trying to catch up when threads move so fast but please don't think it's anything to do with you! I don't think you have been negative in the slightest and even if you were, you'd be more than entitled to!

Dont go x

@delilah7 awh no don't leave! That's what our thread is for - to share the craziness whether it's good or bad, provide that reassurance, advice etc.
I dont mean this in a bad way, but sometimes it's reassuring to hear that things are not smooth for everyone - it makes me feel much more normal knowing everyone else has things going on too, I feel like i can be quite negative about my relationship, and as you have seen my crazy hormonal day, but nobody judges and others have similar experiences, people relate rather than judge and that's what I like about it.
If you feel it's too much maybe take a break from it, but please do come back when youre ready if you do :-)

@CrystalBlaze @Crossfitgirl please don't think I'm doing this for sympathy either - I'm just having one of those meh days. I hate putting other people down and over think things all the time 😂I like that I'm part of a group with cares about the good and bad times. I guess I didn't realise I'd be this scared to move forward after a miscarriage... xx

@Delilah7 We don't think that for one second so stop worrying! This is a safe space for everyone to get support on anything they need and a place to chat about things that might be harder to talk openly about in real life.

One of my very close friends struggled with lots of MC so I understand how very hard it is. Please don't ever feel bad about any of your emotions/feelings.

Like @Crossfitgirl said, everyone is in the same boat in different ways. You will bounce back but it's such a short time since your MC so don't put too much pressure on yourself x

@CrystalBlaze I guess that's what I'm struggling with. I feel I should be positive now as I've stopped bleeding but it hasn't even been two weeks yet. Maybe I need to give myself abit more time mentally to get my head round it and take this month as a DTD when you want to! just don't want to miss any opportunities xx

I think that's sensible @Delilah7. Maybe just keep half an eye on your cycle and time things accordingly

But also you are young, healthy and there's absolutely no reason to worry or think you won't get there in the end. All positive vibes for you lovely

@CrystalBlaze thank you lovely ❤️. Maybe not out so much pressure on myself this month would be a good start. OH is very reassuring at the moment too. It's lovely xx