TTC first baby! Continued...

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@Delilah7 @daisiesandpeonies @Crossfitgirl

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We'd been baby dancing 2 or three times during my fertile week (and whenever we felt like it outside of then) but figured giving SMEP a go this time couldnt hurt (just incase). Although got to say that poor hubby and I are absolutely knackered! 😂
I heard that every other day or at least every third day is good of you can manage it but it's easier said than done lol. Cycle 4 is still early days but wishing you lots of luck 💕

I plan on testing the day AF is due if I can wait that long....although I don't have any tests to hand at home so that might help stop me testing too early!

On another note, had a bit of a weepy evening as my best friend (who I've been confiding all my worries about TTC and the fact that it's not happened) has just told me she's pregnant - not planned at all and she already has two children. Of course I'm happy for her if it's what she wants but she's it sure even if she's going to keep it. Took all my strength not to cry Infront of her 😔
Guess I feel a little upset/jealous/that life is unfair at the moment......
Sorry, rant over - hope everyone else is doing ok? x

Been told I should have posted here:
Morning
Age: 43 (in a fortnight)
TTC #1
1st cycle since my mirena was removed on Friday.

Currently no clue which CD it is as basically had no AF for 10 years (bliss!) so can't 'try' until AF established again.

Have no clue if I ovulated whilst I had the mirena; I didn't spot any EWCM at all in the last 10 years but that could mean anything.

Best of luck to those TTC and baby dust for a fabulous end to the month!

Welcome @AuntieGreek!

@MrsM that is really tough about your

Oops posted too early!! Meant to say 'about your friend'.

She probably feels awful about it too but don't feel like you can't tell her you're upset, I'm sure she would understand

@Crystalblaze same here, I have PCOS so was tracking just for my cycle after coming off the pill - then it made sense to find out when I was ovulating too!

This is (or was) cycle 4, but I have just been to the loo and the spotting has progressed into what is almost definitely my period, it's still brown coloured but a lot heavier and I feel bloated and crampy, AF coming a day early 😭😭😭 I was so certain this was my month too! 😭😭😭

@MrsM2017 it's so hard sometimes to smile and be happy for them isnt it? I have seen not one, not two, but FIVE new babies this week. Went to visit 2 of my close friends who gave birth recently, and 3 work colleagues who all went on mat leave at the same time all came in with their babies last week.
Of course I am happy for all of them, but at the same time, there comes a point where you think internally, "f* you and your babies!!!!"

I am sure your friend will understand you might be upset, she may have even wondered whether to tell you or not - she probably feels awkward knowing you're trying too. My sister can't have children after years of trying, and I will feel terrible when I get to tell her I'm pregnant, but I couldn't not tell her. It makes it worse that your friend wasn't trying, it's absolutely sods law, but don't let it make you feel bad - unfortunately for your friend, her situation is not a happy one if she isn't sure she can keep it.

When your time comes, it will be the happiest news in the world - as pregnancy should be 😊

Try to take some positive pregnancy vibes from her,

Whoops, that last bit was meant to say take some positive vibes from their conception and make them your own!

@MrsM2017 hope you're ok. I had the same thing on this journey and it's hard. Completely normal to feel upset about it x

Thank you @CrystalBlaze @Crossfitgirl and @sunshine1987 💕 that really puts a perspective on things for me, as you say it can be easy for her at all if she's in a position of thinking she can't keep it. I've just texted her to see if she's ok and letting her know I'm here if she needs to talk x

@MrsM2017 I completely understand that. A few days after I miscarried my OHs cousin told us she was 15 weeks pregnant. Like you I was happy for her but I just felt so pained and like life was so unfair. We are all here for you. Also DTD that may times in the fertile week is GREAT. I heard 2/3 times a week is good aswell if that's easier. And then more in fertile week I'd say.

Have you ladies heard of this 'maybe baby' app??? Seems to calculate whether you will have a girl or a boy!! A woman celebrity used it as she always wanted girls and has 3 now!!!

@AuntieGeek welcome lovely.

@Crossfitgirl yes it's unfortunate you have to. I was lucky that it all came out naturally but it is hard seeing a negative test after you had a positive one :(.

@sunshine1987 thank you xx

No?! Never heard of the maybe baby app?! Intriguing....although at this point I'd be happy with boy or girl - just any sticky bean will do 😂🙂

Started that crazy symptom spotting now.....ugh. will I never learn!!!?

MrsM it’s awful isn’t it, one of my oldest friends is pregnant and it’s all she wants to talk about. She has no idea we are TTC so it isn’t that she isn’t being tactful,but it’s tough.

Negative FRER this morning, I know it might be too early really to test as AF is due Thursday so I’m not out of the game this cycle yet. I might use cheapies for the rest of the time between now and then to save money on the FRERs!

@MrsM2017 I wouldn't care either just intrigued me that it worked!!

@Patapouf you're not out till AF arrives 😘😘

I'm hoping to wait until AF is due to test. No guarantees, though!

Hello, here to join as we’re finally ttc #1! We put it on hold for a few reasons but we finally agreed why wait?

@NeverStopExploring welcome! Xx

Thank you glad I found this site as I’m already obsessing with everything baby related!

@Crossfitgirl - so sorry to hear AF turned up. That's rubbish, although at least she turned up early rather than having to test. I hope you're ok?

@MrsM2017 - It is so hard to see people you know get pregnant so easily isn't it. Especially when it is not planned. I actually swear my ovaries ache sometimes just hearing someone is pregnant or if I see a cute baby. 😂

@Delilah7 I am sorry you had to test, that must have been so hard for you.
I haven't heard of that app, sounds intriguing! Like the others I am not to worried about the flavour I just want a baby but I would consider doing that for the next one!

@NeverStopExploring it's very normal to do that. Just try relax. I defo believe the first three months you over obsess about everything. I know I did coming off the pill and then fell the 4th and then miscarried. Xx

@FlapJackered thank you 😘 was pretty testing. But I managed not to cry so I'm proud! Same as me. From a young age I've always been more about the health of the baby than the sex due to my nephew having special needs and complications throughout his life xxx

Sorry to hear you miscarried @Delilah7 I’m usually very laid back to it’s very strange for me to be obsessing and planning etc but I will definatly try and relax though! I’m intrigued by the app your all talking about just to see how it works but like most of you I wouldn’t be fussed boy or girl

Having such a bad day today!

First the beginnings of AF start, so I'm pretty certain I'm OUT for another month.

Then we just went to view a house that I LOVED, and when we got home my husband told me it needed this / that / the other doing to it, and he 'd want a new kitchen and its too expensive for where it is etc etc, he's so bloody picky we've looked at 4 places this weekend and I feel like I'll never find anywhere with him being so fussy and unwilling to compromise!

To add to it, the only reason we're looking for a bigger house is for kids, and we don't even have any yet! and we're not even having anywhere near enough sex, to make a baby anyway, and when DH finally decides to come on to me, its about a week too bloody late and I'm already starting bloody AF!!

I've just had a huge cry in the bathroom.

trivial issues I know, but today sucks :( and feeling so sensitive is just making me even more certain that I'll be full bleeding AF soon then I'll be even more depressed that the last tiny straw i'm clutching onto that this could still be an implantation bleed cos it's still not proper AF, is out the window.

meh

@NeverStopExploring I've looked and you have to pay for it lol. I'm the same I'm normally very organised and planned with like birthdays Christmas etc. Other than that I'm normally so relaxed 😂

@Crossfitgirl oh hun.

I'm so sorry you're having a bad day. Seeing AF ( if it is ) is so gutting. Regards to house, I can understand how stressful that is. My OH is very picky with houses too and before we started trying we moved to the house I loved that he would never go see!! In the end us women are always right, just remember that ;)

Always the way, does he know when you're ovulating? If so he needs to make more of the effort as if not just makes it seem like he doesn't actually wanna try. If you get what I mean??

We are here for you. Xxx

@delilah7 no, I haven't known when I've been ovulating for definite until this month.
I told him on the day I got the positive test, but I initiated that night (he definitely wasn't going to, we were already in bed lights out) then he was away for the weekend. Luckily I'd initiated the night before as well, I proper thought I'd timed it perfectly which is why I think I'm so gutted this time - it's so weird how even when you have sex on the right days, it doesn't happen!

Thanks about the house - that does make me feel better. Also, a house we saw a while back that he didn't like and I did, he has now told me he's coming round to the idea of it.

I just feel so emotional today.

We are on holiday next month (second week of Sept) so I'm gonna talk to him then about more actively trying, and see what he says.

I feel a little better after my cry and rant!

I love you ladies on here - thank you xxx

@Crossfitgirl I never know when I am either but I just tell him we need to do it more this week or however many days... initiating the whole time can be exhausting though.

That's good news then about the house before... they're realise when they're so picky like my OH sometimes they can't just get everything they want.
I understand. Emotions are running extremely high for you and maybe with AF coming, disappointment and probably feeling abit distant from OH with how things have been today.

At the end of the day he can't expect to have a baby on only a few days sex ( however on the right days it might work 😂). And it should be a fun experience. That's what I'm trying to get my head round now. I've got a low sex drive and OH has high, but now the whole we are actually trying to have a baby has settled in I'm more up for it!!

Cry and a rant is good. Just never feel alone, I can speak for all of us that me and all the other ladies are here for you and we love you too xxx