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@Delilah7 @daisiesandpeonies @Crossfitgirl

@MrsR16 good luck! You're nearly in the TWW with us :)

@Crossfitgirl let us know how you get on with temping. That's such a great idea, I love it! Might try it myself!

Me and DH also don't really have a high sex drive so the every other day during fertile period is exhausting but to be honest we both do enjoy it! TMI question now... I seem to have a mix of EWCM and creamy CM today, any idea what this means? Or is it just sort of the switch from being fertile to not? If that makes sense?

@Crossfitgirl I'm gonna stick with tracking for now and see how that works out!

Howdy cowgirls and Hello newcomers!!

Af has arrived today, a day early and I’m feeling rather desolate. I’m not just feeling sorry for myself, convincing myself I’m infertile etc etc I’m now also worrying about having a shorter luteal phase. I have never had a cycle shorter than 28 days and I’m going to try and attribute this 27 day cycle to stress or maybe blame pregnacare conception vitamins!

I had to sit through a baby shower today and it was really difficult not to cry.

I’m sorry you’re in the same AF boat chapman, it really does feel shitty.

Might have to give the visualisation a go crossfit I’m not sure my idle daydreaming will cut it.

I’m going to have a bath and a nice glass of wine, and treat myself to some preseed and a clear blue ovulation test thingy ready for cycle three.

@Patapouf baby shower must of been hard. Thinking of you Hun have that wine and we are here when you want a pick me up 💕

@cupcakesandglitter have fun our little sex kitten 😂😂😂😂

@Patapouf please don't be too hard on yourself, I know it's easier said than done but we are all here for you. Enjoy your glass of wine and perhaps also add a cowboy hat to this evenings shopping ready for next month 😉🍷x

@Crossfitgirl have you got a link for the visualisation thingy? I think it might help me, I really don't believe it will happen atm so perhaps it will help.
I've started to get big red acne flaring up today, it's like clockwork at this point in my cycle. I think I can declare myself out now - the progesterone is certainly here!😭
@Patapouf I'm so sorry, it's really disappointing and difficult to stay feeling cheerful, you can always vent here to us. Just try to enjoy the next few days (if you can enjoy af!) without the pressure and unknown worry, have some wine like @ttcat32 said and pamper yourself so you feel beautiful and ready for lots of TTC!
@Delilah7 @cupcakesandglitter I'm clutching my pearls here 🤣🤣 You two!!! I think if I tried to be that direct with my husband he'd die of shock and/or run and hide under the stairs 🙈

@daisiesandpeonies it's because I think I'm fertile his sex days are numbered now I'm not 😂😂😂

Ladies can I ask you opinion on these?

Did both at the same time because ... well I actually don't know... maybe to compare them?! Anyways CD 21 here, no change to CM so I'm clutching at sticks! I only managed maybe a 2 hour hold before hand. Why can't I just f&&king ovulate already!

I hate baby showers!!!! Come to my house and bring me a present for my baby!!
I tell you what, after all the baby showers I've been to, I better get a bloody good one of my own, and I better get my money's worth for the bloody hundreds of pounds I must have spent on everyones babies up to now!! Hahaha!
Tbh I find it worse when there is an actual baby. After the 2 newborns I've been to see this week, its sooooo hard to think I don't have one yet.

@patapouf I have a short luteal phase, I've ovulated on day 17 / 18 of a 25 / 26 day cycle, so like 8 days for me. I found a really good thread about lots of women who have conceived with 7-9 day LPs and apparently there's no evidence it's even an issue, which is why some doctors don't even believe it needs treatment. I'll try find the link and post it on here, but it reassured me lots.

I've heard stress can be a factor and can make you ovulate later, so I'm hoping to try chill a bit this month . Not easy as our house is up on the market and we are hunting for our forever home!

@daisiesandpeonies I will find some info and link it :-) have you heard of fertility yoga? Find yoga yin on YouTube, I saw it on another thread and I'm gonna try it at some point too. I get easily stressed and I think that's a big factor with sex drive, this ttc is hard!

@Delilah7 you had me at cowgirl, but the lube bit was the best thing I've read all day. Girl after my own heart lol

@patapouf have a read of this :-)

www.madeformums.com/forum/pregnancy/for-those-that-are-pregnant---short-luteal-phase/50400.html

@ttcat32 well they look like they're getting darker so does that mean you're nearly going to ovulate? I've never used them so I'm not sure.

@sunshine1987 honestly darling I'm little down there a baby's going to ruin my little peach 😂😂😂

@Delilah7 I'll keep your bits in my prayers when the time comes

I'm back 😏

@Patapouf aww I bet it was difficult - I remember when I found out my SIL was pregnant. I was so happy but it broke my heart and still does Enjoy your glass of wine and think positive for your next cycle, it'll be you in no time xx

@ttcat32 sorry I have no idea... your line is supposed to be darker than test, but the only time I got a result was when they looked like that too, which is why I stopped 😂

@Crossfitgirl I saw that too - I'd also be interested in a link for the visualisation too please!! I think I've convinced myself that it just won't happen every month so I'm putting myself off xx

@daisiesandpeonies have a read of this, it focuses more on pregnancy but also says it's really important for preconception too.
I work in a team with specialist psychologists who use visualisation as some of their treatments in helping people take control of their situations, and it's also used in sport - i used to do gymnastics and we were told to do it for competition preparation. it's proven to work for lots of aspects of life. Maybe it'll help xx

awaremeditationapp.com/the-importance-of-visualization-during-pregnancy-prenatal-mindfulness/

@sunshine1987 THANK YOU. My OH doesn't appreciate what I'll have to go through! ❤️

@ttcat32 I reckon they're near on positive! It's so difficult to catch the surge sometimes so I would go with it tonight and retest tomorrow to see. If it's gone completely white again you know today was the one

@ttcat32 how long have you had 2 lines on the test for? My first month doing those, I never got a positive at all but I did get faint lines around the same time as hormoney symptoms, around cd17. They got stronger over a day or two, then I didn't test on the day I think I ovulated because I was at a wedding, but I'm certain that's when I did, as my body was so symptomatic. The lines then disappeared the next day.

I then did them again this month, and the same happened - i got the faintest of faint lines for a day or 2, then I only got one test that was a teeeeny bit darker than the control, then later the same day, the 2nd line had reduced back down to being the same as the test line.

I think you can easily miss the window with the timing of the test, or your surge isn't very strong and the test just picks up What LH it can.

My positive looked like this pic - does that help? I can post you pics of the other ones I did that I kept getting that were negative to compare?

@Crossfitgirl same! I'm the last one out of my female friends/ family without 👶 if I don't get a BFP I'll just throw myself a party and make them buy me stuff for being awesome!

@cupcakesandglitter @Delilah7 Thanks! I don't know either😂 don't think these are the way forward, might go to Tesco any the clear blue ones before I wear my DH out! Looks like it will be another late night for him!

#prayforseabiscuit #prayfor*@Delilah7*speach

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@ttcat32 keep going darling as I said it's coming for sure that's nearly positive.

PRAYFORTHEPEACH 🍑😂😂😂😂😂

@ttcat32 these pics are of my tests either side of my positive.
The one with hardly any line at all was taken at around 7pm the night before.
Then I got the positive one at 1pm the next day.
Then the darker of these two pics was taken just a few hours later at 8pm and you can see how much lighter it is again after the positive one.

Does that help?

@sunshine1987 thanks, I'll give it another try later tonight and see if any darker 🤞

@Crossfitgirl Thanks that's really helpful! I've only had the lines yesterday and today and no other symptoms of ov so maybe still a few days. Maybe a little bit crampy ( although maybe wishful thinking) xx

You guys are making my day! Makes me realise that even if nothing goes to plan like I want it to then it'll be alright cos you ladies will be there!

@Crossfitgirl - I think we crossed over posting! Thanks so much, it's really helpful to see someone else's! X